LIZ MARIE GALVAN: The queen of cozy is back again on Get Real to offer even more tips to living your coziest life!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Adam Adam carryl Lone. She's a queen of talking.

Speaker 2 (00:13):
If you sow, you know, she's getting really not afraid
to feel.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
As episode soul.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Just let it flow. No one can do we quiet
cary Lone is sounding Caroline. I am back with the one,
the only, the Queen of Cozy, best selling author Liz
Marie Galvon. I'm so happy to have you here. We've
already done a part one for your first best selling book,

(00:40):
and now we're here to talk about your next best
selling book. I don't know if it's best selling yet,
but it's sure Lee will be create your own cozy.
I mean, you are the Queen of Cozy. It's so
so so great to have you here. And what the
first book was called one hundred Ways?

Speaker 1 (00:54):
What was it?

Speaker 2 (00:54):
One hundred Ways to be Cozy? Yes, yep, oh you
I don't even know how to be so cozy. I
love this because coziness is not just. And this is
a quote that you said, I'll go ahead and start
with this. Cozy is more than how a room looks
or what's in it. It's how the room functions, how
it triggers each of your five senses, how it comes
together in a way that is comforting and peaceful to you,

(01:17):
and I love this. We talked about this on our
podcast Part one. You said coziness has helped me navigate
hard seasons and more fully enjoy the good ones. So
I wrote this book to help others find their own cozy,
their own style, to create a haven that refuels the body, mind,
and spirit. Now I feel all of that.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
I love the way you read that with so much energy.
It's so I love hearing from you. And first of all,
thank you so much for having me back. I love
talking about Cozy with you. It's just really exciting to
be here. So thank you.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
I'm so excited to be with you. You are one
of my favorite people to follow on Instagram because you
make me feel good. I've gotten in a season of
where I'm very aware of like like you're talking about
my triggers, and I even feel like my Instagram I've
done a lot of like curating of my Instagram feed
to make sure that what I'm looking at is good

(02:09):
for my brain. And it has nothing to do with
like the person, you know, because everyone is just putting
themselves out there. I mean it has to do with
the person. Like people can be a great people, but
I don't necessarily need to follow them because it doesn't
trigger my senses in the correct way. But your Instagram
feed makes me feel so calm and so peaceful, and
it's so beautiful and it is so cozy, and it

(02:30):
is so much more than just cozy. It's like a lifestyle.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Thank you. And yeah, that's what the new book is
about too. It's you know, we've talked about in the
first two books, we've talked about how to make your
home cozy with one hundred tips each, and this one
is like, Okay, let's find my own version of cozy,
because everyone's version is different, and let's implement this into
every part of our life. And so hearing you say

(02:54):
that is amazing. And I talk about that often about
how we should only be following people that bring inspiration
or joy. If they are giving us feelings of you know,
relacking something or we're not cozy, we should unfollow. And really,
and that's just part of your lifestyle. We all scroll,

(03:15):
and so that would be implementing cozy into your scroll.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
Okay, so talk to me about on the bigger scale,
about creat your own cozy. How this is a lifestyle thing,
and where did co how did you start getting all cozy? Like,
when did the cozy happen for you? And when did
it become so much bigger than just making your room comfy.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
It's so funny how this came about. I feel like
it was my lifestyle simply because I had been going
through a lot of things, from deployments and being a
military wife and being alone for seven months out of
the year, and during that time also starting our infertility

(03:53):
journey unknowingly and our miscarriage journey.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
We had a lot.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, we've lost twelve babies, you know, And so I
think naturally you go one or two ways. You either
become a mess and or you look within and you're like,
I need to create a cozy life that really is
like a big hug during these hard times. And I

(04:18):
didn't realize I was doing this until the publisher they
reached out, and I was like, no way, I'm gonna
I'm not an author, I'm not going to write a book.
But they wrote this email saying like you are this
queen of cozy and we would love to hear from
you in book form, And I was like, wait, you.

Speaker 2 (04:35):
Not pursue writing a book? A book pursuit writing.

Speaker 1 (04:38):
You yes, and I realized yes, and I realized now
now becoming an author, I look around me and I
realize now what a privilege that was. I would have
never pursued it. I never I still don't feel good
enough to be an author, but I'm very thankful they
reached out because I get to share in book form,

(05:00):
which I think is cozy, these tips on creating your
own cozy. And that's from an imperfect person. I'm coming
at you. Our house is always under construction. I'm kind
of a mess, you know, And so I'm coming at you,
not preaching at you. I'm just saying I think that
you would like this life.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
Well, we've already discovered we're both fours on the Enneagram, Yes, witch,
have you. I've done a lot of work on my
fourness in the past few years since I've talked to you, Like,
I hired a life coach, and I like have done
some intensive therapy because I'm like, I also have had
not as many miscarriages you, but four miscarriages. And that's sorry.
The last I just had two back to back after

(05:41):
Sunny and that one like took me down again. And
I'm just like, oh my gosh, but I feel like
being a four being emotional an emotional wreck. Like I
just live in my feelings so deeply, and I feel
I'm so happy that you have found your outlet to
put this in because there is a place to share
it and there is a place to heal it. And
it's you just have to find it and you can't

(06:03):
stay stuck in it. But like, I have a tendency
to get really stuck. But I just turned forty and
I'm like, I just can't do that anymore. I just
can't get stuck. And these all these like just wells
of sadness. It's just not I don't like it. It's
not inspiring, and I've got to figure out what to
do with myself to make it productive. And I feel
like that's what you have done so well. Have you

(06:23):
had more miscarriages since adopting cope?

Speaker 1 (06:26):
Yes? And that you you went back, you did you tried?

Speaker 2 (06:29):
Oh gosh, Liz.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
Yes, I know. And it's that's as you know. I
feel like after you become a mom, it doesn't get easier.
You know. I always thought maybe it would be easier,
but it doesn't. You see these like precious little faces,
and and and I'm glad that you brought up being
a four because again I'm coming at it as this

(06:51):
imperfect person and so I I say, I get stuck too,
you know. And we've since measures that we won't be
getting pregnant anymore, and that was I'm very at peace
with that decision. But that's again helping create that lifestyle

(07:12):
that you know feels like a beigcog. You know, I
don't have that fear anymore. But now I'm kind of
you know, we want to enter the adoption space again
and not getting stuck on those hard feelings of will
it ever happen? You know, will it be as good
as the first time? You know, not getting stuck there either.

Speaker 2 (07:34):
So it's crazy. I mean, yeah, the journey to motherhood
is crazy. Some people it happens super easy, and then
others like you and me, it takes years. I mean,
to have multiple miscarriages like that, that's years of your life.
I mean, that's years of being in this awful cycle.
That's just like the emotional highs and lows, and I

(07:57):
know there's a bigger message, Like I know the empathy
gained from it, and you know it led you to adoption.
It's all can be wonderful, but when you're in the
middle of it, it's just oh.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Well, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:09):
Well.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
I feel like as women too, we don't give ourselves
time to breathe or be like that was very traumatic
and heal. We just get right back into the grind
and we you know, we keep going and we need
to take time to you know, we can sit there
and think about it and be sad and you know,
get it out, because I feel like with me, at

(08:31):
least the next day, you know, I could be laboring,
and because you don't get that, you know, baby, at
the end, we make ourselves get right back into it,
act like nothing happened. And that's part of you know,
even with deployments and all of that, all that that's
very traumatic and we need to be able to sit

(08:52):
there and be sad, you know, let it out, and
then we can move on from there. But I feel
like as women we don't always do that well.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
And especially someone like yourself, like I truly believe every
single person has trauma in their life, and it's like
we've been just like you said, we've been programmed to
just push through, to not really feel it or just
kind of feel it and then just move on and
get onto the next thing. But all that stuff gets
stored in your body. I am like a firm believer
because I've done a lot of yoga and a lot
of therapy and actually have a miracle medium. Her name

(09:24):
is Gabby. She's a medium and she's like helped me
clear a tons of blocks. But I'm like, all of
those traumas just get locked up in there. And I
love that you have turned your career into a way
to heal. I just think that that is so amazing
because we all have this bigger purpose and everything works
towards the bigger purpose. And that's what I really love

(09:46):
to showcase on this podcast is how, like truly, you
can have something happened to you like this traumatic, like
you didn't even mean to write a book, and you
started cozy because you're comforting yourself, but then it turns
into something bigger and your life is something bigger and
what you love become something bigger. And I just think
that that is spirituality in human form being played out.

(10:06):
I feel like that's how we share it, and it
can be your job. And I feel like if everyone
could tap in to what was filling up their heart
or how they were healing and figure out how to
make it a job, which I think you can. It's
just kind of you got to get creative. I feel
like the world would be healing in a much better way.

Speaker 1 (10:24):
You're so right, and like we all shove ourselves into
these boxes that we think that we need to conform to.
But what if we all looked within or got shoved
our mind? Was definitely like a meant to be a
God moment coming to the book, you know what I mean.
I would have never pursued it because I you know again,
I didn't think that I was worthy of that. But

(10:45):
if we all looked within, or sometimes I think too,
I'm really bad at giving someone a compliment. If more
people maybe had said to me, or maybe I had
said a compliment to someone else, they would discover what
they're good at. And you know, since that publisher said, hey,
you're the Queen of Cozy, you know, then I discovered,

(11:07):
oh wait, I am good at that. So I feel
like I have been trying to get better at complimenting
people at what they're good at or what they do
well or how they make me feel. And maybe that
could help people discover you know what they're good at,
so great.

Speaker 2 (11:22):
So tell me what has transformed in your life since
you leaned into cozy.

Speaker 1 (11:28):
You know, definitely knowing what I am good at, you know,
in those low times, you know, losing babies, you know,
just even on bad days, it definitely drives me to
share more, share more tips, and share more helpful things
with other people. I think looking within and putting that

(11:51):
light in, that gift out in the world helps me heal,
if that makes sense, and giving always helps me, you know.
So since I believe twenty twenty was the last time
maybe that we had spoken, maybe it was after that,
but I remember putting a book out and I was like,
what's the point of putting a book out when the

(12:12):
world is shut down and everyone's going through this, Like
it felt so shallow. And then I realized after again
people complimenting me and like, you know, coming at me
with like words of affirmation, saying this is the time
that people need this, like they need to create a
cozy environment that nurtures them and their family. Since then,

(12:33):
it's I feel like it's just been NonStop bad news
and as a four each headline just like weighs me
down so much, which makes me kind of want to
come back with Listen, this is how to make your
home feel like it can nurture you and your family
and bring you guys closer, because that's what's important. So

(12:53):
I think definitely, you know, since we have spoken, it's
just been one kind of bad thing in the world
yeah after another, and it's made me kind of go, Okay,
let's do this, like this is important.

Speaker 2 (13:05):
Man. I totally feel you like I used to feel
like I wanted to try to like, just like we were
talking about earlier press On, I th like things weren't bad,
just keep moving forward. But I'm like, we can't not
acknowledge all these awful things that are happening all the time,
Like has it always been this bad or is it
just like social media makes it sound like there's a
new bad, traumatic thing literally like every day.

Speaker 1 (13:28):
And I think that same thing.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
Yeah, I get what you're saying. We're in the beginning
and I feel like I'm having this revelation as well,
and I think everyone listening should think about this for themselves.
I had that same feel feeling where it's like, oh,
I don't want to just do something shallow or just
like you know, I'm sitting just trying to put something
out that having a conversation about you know, all these

(13:51):
different things that people are expressing from their artistic creativity
or whatever and sharing with the world. But honestly, that
is how that is how we healed world, because I
truly believe that God gifted everyone with a talent with
some sort of calling that they feel inclined to do
something that they feel called to do. Like you've always
felt called to make your space this cozy, especially when

(14:12):
you're in a season of feeling like lost or sad
or heartbroken. Leaning into cozy makes you feel better, and
like you know how to do it. You have these
gifts to like present it and create it and teach
people how and it's not superficial and it's not too light,
and it's like the top soil. It's like, really, those
are the things that we need. We need to lean
into the gifts that we've been given like you've done,

(14:34):
and share them and start putting the light out there
instead of just letting the dark consume us. And it's
almost like it's our job as humans to figure out
what lights us up and share that because that's how
We're going to make the light brighter in the world
instead of just letting the darkness and all the negativity
constantly flood our feet. That's why I was saying, like
with your feed, I love your feed because it's light.

(14:56):
It makes me feel good, like you're putting light into
the world.

Speaker 1 (15:00):
Thank you, And I feel you just reminded me of
something that's happened since twenty twenty. I believe with me
as well. I feel like everyone was just like yelling
and like telling everyone to fit in this box, share
this and share that, and you have to be a
certain person. But I feel and I hope everyone listening
to realizes that we all have different gifts and late

(15:24):
since becoming parents, my husband and I say this all
the time, and it's a saying, I'm sure everyone, but
you don't judge a fish on his ability to climb
a tree. And we say that about our son all
the time because I feel like, you know, oftentimes kids
are like the milestones and they're put in these boxes
and how they should be. But he's a fish, and
so I judge him on how to climb a tree.

(15:46):
And I feel like that's with us too. It's like
everyone expects me. I get it in my DMS all
the time, like why aren't you reporting on the news,
And it's like that is not my talent. And I
feel like if we all looked within and put our
gifts out there in the way that you know we
were meant to do, it would all fit like a puzzle.

(16:07):
Agree That's that's where world pieces and we just need
to do that. So yeah, I feel like you're saying
that way.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
I finally have gotten to that conclusion where it's like, oh,
I literally feel the same way. I feel like we
are all a different puzzle piece. And if everyone listens
to your heart and feels in your heart. And I
did this whole like exercise with some of my followers
about like trying to find your calling. But it's like

(16:34):
what lights you up inside? What even makes you jealous
When you see someone out there and you get a
little jealous, Like that's an indicator that like that person's
doing what you love and that's like a sign not
to be scared of. But like you need to be
in that space, You need to be moving towards that field,
like you need to be putting yourself out there in
that way, Like this is not an accident. We all

(16:55):
came here with a different spark to shine, and it's
literally like you're saying, if we could all just tap
into that. You know it's there because you know when
you're not doing it, Like I know when I've turned
my back on what my heart's telling me to do,
or when I turn my back on when i know
I'm like actually good at or what i want to
the field I want to be in to go just
get a safe, normal life to try to you know,

(17:16):
keep get yourself all boxed in and protected. But you're
not doing what you came here to do. You feel that,
and people feel that, and they and they feel like
they can't do it. Like I feel like a lot
of people feel like they are not the chosen ones,
that they don't get to live the life that they
know they're supposed to do. And how do you feel
about that? Because I agree with you about the puzzle piece.
Everyone has their own piece and they are the chosen one.

(17:38):
But how do you get the bravery to do it
and lean into it and actually make it a part
of your life and your big tapestry of your life?

Speaker 1 (17:46):
Yeah, and that's just it. Maybe before social media, you know,
I we were on the brink of like before social media,
but not at the age that we're at. It was
maybe we feel embarrassed, maybe someone And I feel like
as an author and an adoptive mom, I felt the
same about both. I felt like I wasn't good enough.

(18:07):
I felt like those people were special, and I put
them on a pedestal. And then when I get thrust
it into it, because both happened kind of on accident
and we were shoved into it, and I realized I'm
in that bubble now and I'm looking around, I'm like, oh,
I'm not more special than anyone else. I am not different.

(18:28):
It was just meant to be, like this is my thing,
and this is just I always set those people apart.
And so if anyone's listening and you've always wanted to
write a book, or you are thinking about adopting or
all of those other things, they are not any different
than you. They are the same. Some people, you know,

(18:51):
we're accidentally got thrust it into these things, and some
people pursued it and did it because it was their
heart's desire. But I promise you you can do it.
And they're not different. And I think that's exactly it.
And I think social media too. You know, when you
follow someone and I see it often when and you
really look up to them, you feel like you need

(19:11):
to take every step they took. You need to be
exactly like them. And it's hard when you're scrolling to
not you know, feel like it's all the right answers
as you scroll design home, the way someone acts, the
way they dress. We don't need another of them, We
need you. What do you love? And maybe you need
to disconnect off social media for a while to discover this.

(19:34):
But what do you love? What do you really want
to do? What makes you tick? And I love how
you said, like what makes you jealous? Because that feeling
is often overlooked. You're like, oh, I shouldn't be jealous. Yeah,
yeah it is, and so and I think anxiety is too.
I think it's what makes you anxious. I have something

(19:54):
that I'm very anxious about right now. But it's like,
is that excitement? Is it like something coming to fruition
that you wanted and separating that anxiety And if it
doesn't make you anxious, is it just mundane? And you're
doing it because everyone else does, like really looking at
that feeling of anxiety, you know, is that something happening

(20:15):
in your life and opening up Obviously anxiety, you know,
we need to manage it and we need to work
through it. But looking at that feeling and really dissecting
why you.

Speaker 2 (20:26):
Feel like that, I love that you are such an
example because you are someone who life has not gone
as planned? How had you planned your life?

Speaker 1 (20:39):
Oh so differently? And I'm so glad that I am
not the planner of my life. I really have Oh
I would have had, you know, I love that baby
at twenty four, and I would have I don't even know.
I wouldn't be out a farm, I would I would
be somewhere totally different, you know, I would be like

(21:01):
living downtown and you know, working at a non creative job.
I think I didn't think a creative job would provide
you know, So.

Speaker 2 (21:10):
You're kind of suffering in your journey led you to
your creativity and this job. You would have never become
the Queen of Cozy, never written ever if you didn't
have to lean into this deep gut wrenching pain of
losing so many babies, like literally, you would have never
gotten here. And that's where like suffering, it's it's awful
when you're in it, but there is always a redemptive

(21:32):
side to it if you keep moving through it and
working through it.

Speaker 1 (21:35):
Right, Yeah, And something so wild. And when I say this,
I don't have the words because I am not a philosopher,
but it is wild for me to look at every
time that we've had a loss, something big has happened
in our life adjacent to it. So, you know, we
lost a baby, our store opened, we lost a baby,

(21:57):
the farm came up, we lost a baby. The book
it's like, it's like this guiding northern light that I'm
just like following, and I'm like, Okay, I guess we
are where we're supposed to be going, you know. And
it's an I don't mean to say that lightly either,
you know, Like, and again I don't know how to
say it, but it is wild to feel like you're
on the right path when bad things are happening. You know.

Speaker 2 (22:20):
And obviously you've gotten a happy ending, you have cope,
you're an amazing mother, but you also had dreams die
multiple times literally, And like, I get that feeling so much.
How do you go on when you know, especially now
you have decided you're not going to try to have

(22:40):
babies naturally, Like you're not going to try to birth,
You're going to go back to adoption. How do you
accept a dream that's not going to come true? You
have another dream that's come true, but a big dream
that you've tried so hard for and you've really put
yourself through it emotionally, physically, spiritually, the whole bit, your

(23:03):
whole family has and it's not going to happen, you know,
like you've just you've accepted that. So and I'm kind
of at that spot as well. I'm like, we we
might just not We really really might not have another kid,
And but like, how do you accept it when that
dream is just it's over.

Speaker 1 (23:22):
I used to hate when people would say like they
felt like they got a calling from God, because I
was like, what does that mean? Like, you know, I
felt like a voice from a cloud For me, I
just like looking within and I feel like as afore
it's like easy to like, you know, we get emotional,
we feel it for every decision. I just feel an

(23:44):
overwhelming amount of peace eventually, like it doesn't I'm not
saying that it like washes over me. But even with adoption,
that one was like the biggest one where it's like
a release from my chest and my shoulders came and
I was like this, I felt so at peace with
that decision to adopt, and again with the decision to

(24:07):
you know, make that final call of like, I feel
so at peace with it, and so I just know
that it's right that Yes, I feel like That's how
I know peace.

Speaker 2 (24:19):
Right when it feels easy, Not when it's easy, but
the decision feels easy.

Speaker 1 (24:23):
Yeah, when the other decision, when you think about it, okay,
one two, when you don't feel at peace about the
second one, that one's making you. Oh, okay, you know
what I mean. I just feel so at peace and
I want to say eventually it doesn't. When I heard
people say a calling from God, I was like, I
need him to like come. You know what I mean.
It's like working through that and feeling peaceful. I love that.

(24:46):
I love that. Yeah, And it's probably different for everybody,
you know what I mean. It's like we all maybe
get a different different feeling or you know, we would
describe it differently, but peace.

Speaker 2 (25:00):
I love that. Okay. And you have a lot of
tips and create your own cozy for self care and
self love, which I love, and I'm all about a
good tip, Like I think we need it more than ever,
especially someone like yourself who has been through it. You
have a story to tell. You could have given up
in the middle. You could have like, you could have
been angry, you could have been depressed. I mean not
that you haven't felt all those but you could have
stayed there and nobody would have blamed you. So why

(25:23):
do you value routines? And you eating well is really
important to you, and prioritizing exercise, spending time with your
family and doing nature and resting, like that's all really
important to you. How do you prioritize all that? And
what is the difference that it makes?

Speaker 1 (25:38):
And you asked earlier in the tips, what's yeah, what's
the uh? What's changed since we've talked last, And one
of the things is that I have lost forty pounds
because when I became a mom, I definitely let go
of routines and I didn't put myself first. I did

(25:59):
not prioritize health, which it's funny looking back, it's like
you want to be healthy for them though, like that's
like the best thing you could give them mentally and physically.
Not that I'm pique you know, physical and mental health now.
But I'm putting that effort in and that's exactly it.
Those routines I feel like as a mom now, but anybody,

(26:19):
I feel like that's a little gift you give yourself
daily and you say, you know, there's no joke. And
a lot of it was I think carrying trauma and
it was inflammation, and I just you know, I started
to go to therapy and I realized, you know, going

(26:39):
to a doctor for all of my mental health, just
that like my normal practitioner wasn't cutting it and having
someone say, Hi, this is what's going on in your
brain and you know, let's work through that, and it's
been great. I realized I was looking to food for

(27:00):
a lot of like coping mechanisms and also you know,
dope at me in so food was very you know,
it was coping for me. And so working through that
and letting go of that. And in this book it
felt uncomfortable to talk about before because again, self care

(27:21):
is different for all of us. Health is different for
all of us. But in the book, it's asking you
questions and it's telling you that you are worthy of
asking those and making time for yourself and That's what
I've realized since talking to you, and it's worked and
I feel really good.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
Okay, So you were saying, do you do affirmations? I
think I interrupted. You said, I am worthy? You're about
to like, yes, and yet you do that to start
your day.

Speaker 3 (27:50):
Yes, and being confident less affirmation, being confident like knowing
you're worthy, Like that one took me a long.

Speaker 2 (27:57):
I just got that one.

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Like recently, I repeat to my husband because we are
the same when we get in uncomfortable situations, like we
feel like we're in the way, specifically, just like it
happened the other day we were out of market. We
had to go pick up a piece of furniture and
someone got behind us and we are like in the
way we had just pulled up. We're efficiently putting in.

(28:20):
It's not like we're like, you know, lollygagging. And I
whispered to him, you are allowed to take up space
because he would have moved his truck and we would
have been there until nine pm to let everyone else go.
And because we are the same, and it's like saying
that I am allowed to take up space, I am
allowed to yes, And it's something I mean, we're both,

(28:42):
you know, mid disrespectful.

Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yes, you're just doing You're just there doing what everyone
else is doing and being respectful and doing it efficiently. Yeah,
you're not taking space, but why is that our natural like.

Speaker 1 (28:56):
Go to Yes, and it's you know, you want to
be pulled everywhere you go, so obviously every situation is different.
But also that you are worthy of time in the morning,
You're worthy of going to the gym. You are allowed
to be a full human and take care of your
other humans. You know. It's just like I'm allowed to

(29:17):
use this weight bench, you know when I started at
the gym. I'm still very nervous at the gym and
I've not been going lately, but I am allowed. Like
if someone says, are you using those dumbbells? Yes, and
at the beginning I would say, just they have them, Yep,
you are allowed to exist, and so less affirmations, which

(29:37):
you know, I probably should say more, but also starting
the morning with a gratitude list. Mornings are hard for me.
I get very anxious of what I have to do
for the day and just being like, I'm really thankful
that I'm here and I get to do these things,
like that's been working really well for me. And so
that's kind of what we talk about in the book,
like what works for you, Like maybe you're a per

(30:00):
and that walks around with a gratitude list twenty four
to seven. You don't have to work on that. So
those affirmations like I am worthy, I am you know, beautiful,
and I am talented, and you know, if you're an artist,
saying I am an artist, even if your art looks
different than everyone else's, you know, saying those things and
being confident in them.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
I love that and I feel like too, when you
are in alignment, like how you are when you are
truly doing what you love and you are enjoy and
you are inflow, and then you are sharing that with
the world, it doesn't even matter how it appears, because
you are doing something from your higher calling, you know.

(30:42):
And I really had to get clear about that because
I'm like, oh my gosh, what if I'm not the
best interviewer in the world. I mean, of course I'm not,
but I'm the best interviewer for me in the world.
And I'm listening to my heart and I'm sharing a
conversation with you that matters to me and with everyone else.
And so like, if it matters to me and resonates
me and I'm doing it for my higher self connecting

(31:03):
with you in a higher space, then it's like it
doesn't have to be perfect, you know. And I feel
like that's what everybody gets lost in is it's like
you think, if it's not perfect, or like you said,
if it doesn't match someone else's, or if your journey
is not like theirs, But that's really not it. It's like,
are you in alignment and are you working hard to
stay in alignment and to better yourself in your alignment?

(31:23):
And then share that, And that's that's as good as
you can.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
Do, I think, And I think I listen to imperfect,
flawed people better than I listened to someone that's coming
with perfection. Like that forced perfection. I can't relate to that.
And I tried that for a very long time because again,
I thought I had to fit in this box of
like a robot author, you know, like you know, I

(31:49):
remember someone saying something about being an author but like misspelling,
and I was like, I'm not the editor, I'm just
the author. And so like I felt like I had
to be perfect, and I feel like people will listen
more if I am flawed, and like I am, you know,
I show those flaws. I should say, if I'm flawed,
we all are. And I think you know, coming at

(32:11):
it without force perfection and just speaking from the heart
is way more palatable for people than preaching from perfection.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
Agreed. You say one of your number one things for
Cozy is safety, to feel safe, and I love that
because I relate to you so much. I don't know
if it's just because we're both the four, but like,
I feel that so much. I'm always looking to feel safe.
And everywhere I go in my home and like my car,
and like when I walk into rooms, like I immediately

(32:42):
get a feeling if I feel safe or not safe,
Like it's all about safety. And I feel that way
with the way I have my house, Like this is
my favorite house in the world because I feel safe.
And that's what I always told my husband was, like,
I don't think we can move from this house ever,
because I actually just feel so safe here. Whether that's
a figment of my imagination or truth, it doesn't matter,
because I actually feel that way. So talk to me

(33:03):
about safety and why that is. Like you're number one
guiding light, and what does that mean to you.

Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah, when people would say the Queen of cozy before,
I would think pillows and throws, and like that's kind
of where I started to talk about it because I
thought that's what it was. But really, looking within it,
I mean, it really is your whole lifestyle and we
spend most of our time at home in bed, and
we should feel safe. I think for me, there's these

(33:30):
pillars and one of them, these pillars to cozy, and
one of them is safety. And I think looking within,
when my husband was deployed seven months out of the year,
I had to feel safe and I had to take
measures to feel that way. And I think we often think,
you know, oh, like I don't nothing's ever happened. I

(33:52):
don't need to do that. I don't need to get
the security system. I don't need to do these steps
to feel safe or to be safe. But I think
doing it prior and like when you do those things,
this wash of cozy. I know, for us, like in
our home now, getting all new like windows and doors
like that was such a comforting feeling and no one

(34:14):
else could see that really, but for me it was
like I felt safe, so I felt cozier like now,
that throw blanket and that pillow looked so much better
and felt so much better to me because of that
safety and moving here. You know, I don't talk about
it much, but at our last house we had a
peeping tom situation and it yes, and admittedly this person

(34:39):
he was like peeping on you. Yes, and he had
confessed to doing it for a very long time, and
it's did you know he was doing this? I we
short story. We were laying in bed one night or no,
it was the week prior. I'm so sorry. We were
up until four am, as we do. We used to

(34:59):
do d y projects through the night before becoming parents,
Like that was our wild party, you know. I opened
the door to shake out a rug, saw a man
under the street light and I was like, maybe he's
just out for a walk, like we were in a neighborhood.
Husband said, I was, you know, probably just being crazy,
you know. So we looked out a window and know
he was staring at the house, but again we just

(35:21):
thought it was nothing. Fast forward a week later, we're
laying in bed. We get a ring at our doorbell.
It's like two am. We look at our ring doorbell.
We have the camera doorbell and it's a man holding
another man, and we didn't we couldn't understand what we
were looking at. We said, what do you want? It
ended up being our neighbor holding this other guy up

(35:44):
and saying, I just caught this guy like looking into
your window. Come to find out, you know, my husband
goes down there. We call the police. Come to find out.
My husband and I had met up earlier at our
shop and we had left his car there. So this
man had been watching us and thought my husband was gone,
and so he would watch the house while he was gone,
and since his car wasn't there because we had met

(36:06):
up somewhere earlier and only driven my car back, he
thought I was home alone, was looking into like our
windows and we think trying to probably get in that night.
And so that kidding me right now, no, and that
totally broke me. That was you. I always thought, like
when people would say, oh, peeping Tom, I was like, okay, sorry,

(36:28):
Like that's sorry for your luck. When you go through
it like and I'm sure maybe many people listening have
or like when you've been robbed, like your whole safety,
everything gets ripped from you, everything you're you feel so
violated and it ended up being the neighbor.

Speaker 3 (36:47):
Across the street and across the street. Yeah, he just
isn't obsessed with you.

Speaker 1 (36:52):
No, we think it was like a crime of opportunity,
Like I'd like to think that more, like you know,
we all, I mean, I did it. I would walk
around with the lights on and the curtains open, like
I wasn't. I didn't think anything of it.

Speaker 2 (37:06):
You know, was he trying to rob you or was
he trying to We don't know.

Speaker 1 (37:10):
He's he said that he had been doing it for
a while and that he was looking you know, he
confessed everything. And where we live, I don't know how
it is everywhere else. They really don't get punished much.
They don't the loose again, Yeah, they are are where
we lived at the time, and I think maybe everywhere

(37:31):
they don't. You don't really get punished for that, even
confessing unless the cop like physically like catches you themselves.
I don't think much happens, and I've I've wanted to
change it's but I do feel naked, very like like
I don't want to approach it, but I would love
to help change those laws because you really it strips

(37:54):
everything from you. You you feel very unsafe and so
moving here was you know, a little hard because it
was like a new place. What if it happens again
kind of thing.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
Well, and that's the thing to Yeah, do you feel
I've struggled with this, like putting my life on social
media and like because if you put your house on
social media, your family like and like you had this
experience with this guy. Do you feel nervous? Like is
that like I always yeah, I know that's the thing
with social media. I'm like I've scaled back so much
because I'm nervous.

Speaker 1 (38:25):
I'm the weirdos out there. I I've come to the
we don't I don't share much. But at the same time,
it can anyone can do anything. That's what I've learned,
Like you have to. You know, we've taken a lot
of measures, you know, like a lot of measures to
add safety to our home and to our family. And

(38:48):
you can do what you can do, you know. I
and almost like being at peace like with that too.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
Like doing it all that you can do.

Speaker 1 (38:57):
Yes, and not sitting in that as well.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
It's true because you were totally violated, and that fear
is heightened to the biggest degree it could be. But
yet what are you going to do. Are you going
to stay in that like freaked out, intense feeling or
are you going to let yourself have joy and live
your life. You almost have to accept the viole except
do you except that you are violated? And then do

(39:22):
how do you move past that violation and have peace again?

Speaker 1 (39:25):
For me, it's everything, even like just forgiving people that
have like wronged you is saying that we are all
flawed humans and we all sin, and sin is in
the world and we're here, Like it's never going to
be a utopia. It's never going to be perfect. If
I live in fear every day, Like what kind of

(39:47):
life is that? Not saying that I don't have fear
every day? You know, I'm like a nervous for walking
around in a crazy world, you.

Speaker 2 (39:56):
Know, I mean hard out there, especially when your show
your life to people, you know, because like you love
to show it, but you're also.

Speaker 1 (40:04):
Like, ah, yeah, that's exact, and I have scaled back
a lot I have, you know, even like sharing our
animals and everything. You know, everyone has these opinions and
it's just like you kind of know like what to
share or what you're going to listen to you know,

(40:24):
putting anything out in the world, you're going to hear
something about it or you know what I mean. It's
like it's accepting what you want to put out there.
And I would never blame like, let's say this happened
to someone that shares everything online. I'm not going to
sit there and blame them, as we all shouldn't. And
it's like your fault, you know, we should blame the

(40:47):
person who did it. Yeah, And oftentimes I see people
like blaming the victim. It's like, you know, let's step
back and realize, you know who we should be blamed here.
And I'm also not going to blame myself. Again, I
don't think mine was social media related. I think it
was like an opportunity, But if it had, I wouldn't

(41:10):
blame myself either. I'm not going to blame myself or
having big curtains open, you know, like it's not my fault,
even though sometimes you want to blame yourself, you know.
But at the same time, I think everyone safety there's
like these it's like a cozy pyramid of sorts and
it's like safety, you know, and functionality, and then at

(41:32):
the top you have like throat pillows and blankets, you
know what I mean. But there's this foundation we should
lay first.

Speaker 2 (41:44):
I love that. I think that is so so crucial,
like making yourself actually feel safe first, and then you
can enjoy the cozy. It's all a part of it.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
And I think saying that word, I say it so
much like if people like did that drinking game where
like they took a drink every time I said cozy,
you know the world would not be good. Plains and
also people definitely, you know, it can be an annoying word.
It can seem very like fluffy and frivolous. And but
I do think if we looked at that word differently,

(42:15):
like it was it had all this weight to it,
I think people would look at it differently.

Speaker 2 (42:22):
So you talk a lot about sticking to a budget
that with being cozy, because some people are like, Okay, well,
good for you. You can buy all this stuff and
you know, great, you can do all these things and
make yourself feel safe. But what about me. I don't
have the means, I don't have the money, I don't
have the ability to do that. So what about doing
all this on a budget.

Speaker 1 (42:40):
I always look at my mom when I think of
that question, or like I think of what cozy is
to me. Everyone always says, did you get this from
your mom? Absolutely not. She has had the same sofa
for over forty years. She doesn't decorate, She doesn't cozy
to her is the opposite of what it is for me.

Speaker 2 (43:00):
And that's how you say it's so important to know
your cozy.

Speaker 1 (43:03):
Yes, and spending money on home decor would not be
cozy to her and so stressful. Yeah, she has the
budget but doesn't want to. So someone that doesn't want
to spend the money on things or doesn't have the
money can still create cozy. I want to put it
out there too that I've written three books on cozy

(43:23):
with a house that is all torn up, some walls
are ripped out, and so I think I'm coming. I
want to just am coming at this with very flawed
and imperfection that you, in every season of your life
you can create cozy. I definitely think. I think that
social media feels like tap the sticker for a pillow,

(43:44):
like I do that every single day. I'm sharing sources
that cost money. I don't want you to buy these
things if you don't have the budget for it, if
you don't want to buy them, or if you don't
like them. I think we need to look at social
media and and you know, what others are doing in
a very different way. We can appreciate it, and we

(44:05):
can scroll on. We don't need to emulate someone's life
their budget. Everyone's life is different.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
And if you don't resonate with it, if someone's following
your stories or your feet and if they see something like,
oh my gosh, I gotta get that because Liz has it,
it's like no, if it does, don't resonate with you.
If it's not like a yes, if it's not a
hell yes in your soul, then you're just you're just
trying to take some of the guesswork out for people.
You're trying to make it easier to say, like, if
this clicks with you, here it is, don't have to

(44:31):
go figure it out for yourself. Let me share with you.
I've already found it. But if it doesn't, then move
on exactly.

Speaker 1 (44:37):
And I think too, like I can't give a disclaimer
every single day, and neither can anyone else sharing online.
I think we have to go into social media with
discernment if we're not in a good headspace don't go
on social media, and you know, if you don't have
the budget, or if someone's like tempting you, that's an
unfollow you know what I mean, or like it just
hide for a while. It's you really have to curate

(45:02):
everything in your life to make yourself cozy, and social
media is one of them. And your budget. Knowing your
budget in your season, every season is going to look different.
You know, do you have a lot of like home
renovations going on right now, Maybe we don't need to
be spending money on certain things, you know what I mean?

(45:23):
And knowing that everyone's budget is differently and where everyone
wants to spend their money. I used to it really
bothered me for a while when I saw someone would
judge someone else, not necessarily me, but they would say
that's too expensive or and it's like for you, yes,
but you chose to spend that same amount of money

(45:45):
on something maybe I think is too expensive. I think
we need to know that everyone's wants and needs and
budgets and definitions of cozy are so different. And that's
one way to look at it is going, Oh, they
wanted to spend sixty dollars on a pillow, I would
rather spend sixty dollars on a pair of shoes, you

(46:06):
know what I mean. And those people are not going
to agree where to spend the money, and thankfully they
have different bank accounts so they don't have to. But
I think it's just really looking at it like that
and being less judgement at all.

Speaker 2 (46:19):
Because it's like you said, it's like what makes you
feel good, what makes you happy? What makes you feel safe?
Like identifying those what makes you feel safe, like you said,
windows and doors. So if you have a budget and
you got to get the safety done first, look around
where you're living. What can you do and make yourself
feel safe first? Like it's I love that. It's like
you got to build the foundation first, So get your
safety knocked out, do the spend your money to make

(46:41):
yourself feel safe, and then what would make you feel
more cozy? And that's where like following someone like you
is a really you can get great tips like you
show so many great tips, so many DIY tips that
you can do tell me about like holiday decoors, because
I always struggle with that. I get overwhelmed. Like I've
seen you like put like thirty thousand pumpkins in a bookshelf,

(47:01):
and like you take out all the shelves and then
like you line them with pumpkins. I'm like, oh m gee,
you have so much energy and you're so creative, and
that took so much effort for like a holiday that
lasts a month. I'm like, if it's not gonna last
me for like a year, I don't know if I
can go to all that effort. But you do it
all the time. You're constantly moving and rearranging and lifting
and putting stuff up, and like you were like working
your body twenty four to seven and constantly just reshaping

(47:25):
and reimagining your rooms. What do you want to do
for someone like me who is not super I'm not
going to spend a ton of energy on holiday to Coors,
but I would love to make my house feel festive.
But I'm not gonna. I'm just I'm not gonna. If
you're at a tid, I'm gonna be at like a
point five. How I How do I do?

Speaker 1 (47:47):
I love that you said that. I love that you
said that, and I love that we're so different in
that because this is such a great example of that
was the first thing that I would ask you. I
would say what level do you want to be at?
You know, oh kind of yeah, what kind of storage
do you have? How much time do you want to
spend on this? And so if you're following me, I
love that you go into social media with discernment because

(48:10):
you said I love watching her do that, but I
know I don't need to. I know how much.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
Energy that's taking, and I'm like, I love it and
I love to see it, but I'm like, no way,
no way, my spending that much energy. I wish my
house would look like that, but I'm not. I know that.
I that's not cozy for me to spin that energy.

Speaker 1 (48:26):
I know that about myself.

Speaker 2 (48:27):
So yes, you've got to know that.

Speaker 1 (48:30):
Yeah, and I will say I have been doing this
since I was a little girl. I don't know if
anyone remembers creative memories. I would rearrange my room and
stap a photo I'm disposable, and then I would go
get it printed or whatever developed, and then I'd put
it in a creative memories thing like I had a blog.
Before a blog, I loved rearranging things. It is in

(48:50):
my bones and so you're always going to see me
do it. But please don't feel like you need to.
And I also struggle with severe ADHD, and so putting
pumpkins on a shop health is you know, the dophamine
for the day, but you know what you need. It's
what it's it's the way that I do it, but
I for someone like you, it's what can I bring

(49:11):
in that is just like so low maintenance and its.

Speaker 2 (49:16):
It's like a statement that makes you feel the way
I want to feel about the holidays. But it's low maintenance.

Speaker 1 (49:21):
It's just like we have some pillow covers in a
drawer that are my winter pillow covers. I take those out,
I put them on the pillows. I have this these
velvet pillows. Now, we don't switch out the pillow inserts.
We just do the covers and so it's very minimal storage.
We either get real or faux branches and we put

(49:41):
them in a vase on the coffee table and they again,
what what do you want to be like? Super low maintenance,
their faux they're little to store we put them in,
they're big, they're beautiful, and that's it. We're just switching
out like a couple things and it takes us twenty minutes,
you know what I mean? And good we feel cozy.
Maybe we have like a cozier throw for the winner

(50:03):
we put on the sofa, and you know, when people
send us holiday cards, maybe we have like a cute
like little display and it makes us feel warm and
cozy and loved every time we walk in our home
to see those holiday cards. But we don't need to
be like on the cover of Country Living for every holiday,
and even for me, I will say, there are years

(50:26):
where I hardly do anything.

Speaker 2 (50:29):
I don't believe it. I don't believe it.

Speaker 1 (50:31):
There are, I promise you I and you know, and honestly,
like this year is one of them because my house
is ripped up and I kind of, you know, maybe
I'll do for me it's low maintenance. So it's like
I only do one corner of the house, like I
do one area where I would have done eight rooms before,
because you know, I've got a toddler running around and

(50:51):
I would rather go jump on the tramp with him
right now than you know, put thirty thousand pumpkins on
the wall, you know.

Speaker 2 (51:00):
So which I will say when that I have to say, epic.

Speaker 1 (51:03):
I love it, but yeah, it's and I love that
you're so self aware. I think we should all be
more self aware of what we really want in each season.
It can change. Next year, you could get this bug
and you could be like, I really want to recreate
you know, candy Land in my home for Christmas, Like

(51:24):
it can happen, you know. And I just feel like
accepting each season and that we change is really healthy.

Speaker 2 (51:32):
I totally agree. And I feel like I've realized I
am someone who I don't like to. I don't like
to do things with my body. I know that sounds
really weird, Like I get really tired physically fast. Like
I love to go to hard, intense yoga class. I
love to do a thought provoking interview. I love to

(51:52):
do anything with conversation, anything communicating with people. But when
it comes to like moving things physically around and creating
a vision and like using my body to create this vision,
to move stuff up and down, like I can get
in a zone if I need to get in a zone.
But I don't love to do that, at least not
right now. And I've realized that about myself, and I'm like,

(52:13):
am I lazy? But I'm like, I don't feel like
I'm lazy. I just don't like to. Maybe I'm just
not inspired by it. If I'm inspired, I can do it.
But it's like it's it takes a lot to get
me there.

Speaker 1 (52:24):
Yeah, and you don't love it. And it's kind of
like I think your cozy routine is going to yoga
and someone else is like that sounds terrible, and you
know what I mean. So it's like you have your
own version of that and I do get it a
lot because I people will be so amazed that I
can move something. But I think it's like that desire,

(52:45):
like I will move a very heavy piece of furniture
by myself because I really want to do it, you
know what I mean. I think if we really want
to do something, there you have your answer. You cozy
to you is not rearranging a room and doing all
this decorating, And you have your answer because you're body
like physically won't let you do that. You know what
I mean. It's like listening to your heart again. I

(53:06):
think that you got your answer because you're so beautifully
self aware.

Speaker 2 (53:10):
Well, I think that's been a really too. Like we've
been talking this whole interview, is not comparing yourself to others,
like knowing where do you thrive? Where do you don't
thrive and don't making yourself. Don't make yourself do something
that you really like your body's rejecting. Okay, we do
want to talk to you about this cute little goat
that you all have, because that was another story that
was started off really sad and ended up really sweet.
And I just you really have a way of doing

(53:32):
that in your life. List is turning these sad moments
into something so beautiful. Because tell me about this goat
and how it's changed your life and coaxed life.

Speaker 1 (53:40):
Yeah, so I'm telling you anytime something bad happens. See,
that's a great example of something.

Speaker 2 (53:46):
You're like, you always make it creaky.

Speaker 1 (53:49):
Yeah. So they're Icelandic sheep, but they look they Everyone says, goat.
You're not alone even close people to us, because they
do look like goats, especially when they're sheared. But so,
we lost a mom the day after she had this
very traumatic birth. It really had nothing to do with

(54:12):
the birth, actually, but we lost her. No, it was
actually like a day later, I believe. And it's a
common infection that sheep get. And the interesting thing about
sheep is that they die very quickly, quote unquote. What
happens is sheep are prey to everything, and so they

(54:33):
hide illness until the very last minute. So if you
see a sheep sick, they're going like you have very
limited time because they've hidden it for so long, Like
they knew they were sick. But they're prey. They can't
be weak. So we noticed it and we gave her,
you know, the proper medication. You know, we've had this before.
And the next morning she was curled around her baby

(54:56):
and she was no longer with us. So it's like
in her dying moments. Gives me the chills. She like
protected her baby and kept her warm through the night.
So sad. I am very glad. I wasn't the one
to discover this. I think I'd be wrecked for a
very long time. But even hearing that from a husband
was you know, so I automatically go into like mother mode.

(55:20):
We've done this before. We've had a bottle fed lamb.
It is very intensive. It is every four hours around
the clock feeding, and we put our Great Pyrenees out
in the barn, which so the she sleeps with her
at night, and it's so sweet. Even our Shitsu actually
has been sleeping in the barn with her. I should
show this. I don't show everything, but yeah, I should

(55:43):
show this. And so our son the last time we
had a bottle fed lamb, he was not here with us,
and so our son, who's four, has been feeding this lamb.
And I only show like good moments with him. I
don't really share him like everyone's always like he's so happy,
he never cries. I'm like, I would never share that
on the internet, but so he does complain about barn

(56:03):
chores and I want to be not all the time,
but he does. He was like, I don't want to feed.
I want to keep playing, and I'm like, we've got
to feed. And so but when we go out there,
like their connection is so cute. And I shared this
on the internet the first time I like saw their connection.
He had brought the lamb inside our house without any

(56:25):
of us knowing, and he ran to the stairs. I
was upstairs. I was having a horrible morning because you know,
I just lost be a Trix, my sheep that I
love so much, and he ran to the stairs. He goes,
I forget the exact quote, but he's like, mom, I
get to be a big brother. And it was like
so sweet because he's been wanting a baby brother or

(56:46):
sister so bad, and so it's it's been really sweet.
And the lamb is so healthy and getting so big.
You know, it's touch and go. You don't know if
they're going to make it without the mom, but yeah,
it's it's been a beautiful, full thing. It's been very
healing because I always call myself like a faux farmer
because like, I kiss all my animals, you know, I

(57:08):
talk to them, I do. I love them. And it's
very weird too because we do live on a farm,
so sometimes we have to make hard decisions. Like I
didn't share this on the internet, but like in the
beginning of the year, we actually got rid of all
of our males. You know, you sell sheep off and
you know, you do things. You got to make hard decisions,
and so I'm like, well, why don't I cry then?

(57:29):
You know, but it's just I You've got to make
good decisions for your flock, and you can't have four
thousand sheep on a very tiny farm. You know, they
keep reproducing. So you know, I cry over Beatrix and
I you know, I know you.

Speaker 2 (57:44):
Mean, but then it's like you have like the separation
with like selling the I.

Speaker 1 (57:48):
Know, Yeah, I know, I know, And so it's hard.
It's weird.

Speaker 2 (57:58):
Life.

Speaker 1 (57:58):
Life is weird.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
And that's why I really like, really admire how you're
navigating it because you are really going through hard things.
You're suffering, you are really suffering, but you are also
really comforting yourself with cozy and you're really sharing how
to comfort yourself and to turn hard things into something
that can be cozy and beautiful. And isn't that, I

(58:21):
guess the goal Because all of us are going through
really hard things. All of us have had some really
bad trauma. All of us have had some stuff that
is so painful we feel like we're going to die.
But you can either make a choice and stay there.
Like you've said throughout this interview, you can make a
choice and you can stay there. And it doesn't mean
you can't feel it, because you need to feel it.
You need to go all the way through the feelings.

(58:42):
But then you have to make this decision like am
I going to be happy? Am I going to let
myself be comforted? Am I going to let myself have joy? Again?
You have to make those choices and you have to
figure out how you can get to those choices. And
I feel like you are a bridge from pain to
I mean pain to cozy leads to the joy. Like

(59:02):
allowing yourself to have this pain and get really cozy
and safe allows you to get to the joy you're
showing us away and the cozy is the bridge.

Speaker 1 (59:12):
Yeah. And you know we had said earlier to give
yourself like that confidence, you know, and give yourself permission,
And I feel like it's the same in this, Like
you can give yourself permission to know that something was
traumatic for you. I often think that we compare our
traumas and we say like, oh, well, Liz had twelve

(59:33):
miscarriages and I only had one, so I'm not allowed
to like sit in this and I you know she's
going on. You know what you see on the internet.
You know she's going on just fine. And I think
that you're a lot give yourself confidence and permission to
sit in those feelings and heal from them and you know,
go on in the way you need to. We all

(59:54):
deal with things differently, you know, some people want to
share every detail and some people want like lock it in.
But I do think that having that confidence and that
happened to me that was very hard and I need
to heal because I think with the news inundating us
every day as well, we feel like, oh, well, this

(01:00:15):
is going on in the world, so mine isn't that bad,
and then we don't heal because it is traumatic. So
I think giving yourself permission to be cozy and to
heal and sit in that is what we need to
do too.

Speaker 2 (01:00:30):
What do you want people to take away from this
book so much?

Speaker 1 (01:00:35):
I think number one and the umbrella of it is
to create your own cozy. It's the title of the book,
sit in what resonates with you. I think we can
all have a very beautiful life and be vessels for
other people if we would just do what makes us
tick in our homes and our lives and everywhere. And

(01:00:58):
like I said, the other two books are How to
Make Your Home Cozy, and it's very approachable, but this
one is like what is cozy to you?

Speaker 2 (01:01:06):
This is a little more inner work.

Speaker 1 (01:01:08):
Yeah, And it's an interactive book. You can write in it.
There are places to journal and write, there are places
to write a letter to your past self. And we
ask some hard questions in it, and it's like, you know,
we're asking these questions of like what don't you like
about your home? And what don't you like about your
life right now? Like what would you change? And it's
like that's kind of hard to ask, you know, because

(01:01:30):
it's usually like rainbows and butterflies, like you know, when
we hear it, block.

Speaker 2 (01:01:35):
It or let's like block it at it, like let's.

Speaker 1 (01:01:38):
Yeah, or you're not allowed to complain about things, like
you should be thankful. You can be grateful for your
life and still want to change things, Like you can
be grateful for your home and still want to change things.
I don't want to give a disclaimer everywhere on social media,
but oftentimes they'll be like, oh, these renovations are killing me.
I'm so grateful for them. I'm grateful for the opportunity

(01:02:00):
and all of that. But you know, it wears on
you and you're allowed to feel like that. And so
this book has checklists monthly checklist of how to keep
your house maintained and cozy, like you know, like the
ugly things like changing out filters and but it's very
it's a very interactive book. Another thing that's different about

(01:02:20):
it is there are a lot of photographs that we took,
still like the other books, but also illustrations, and I
think that's really fun because I wanted you to be
able to picture yourself in this book, like this is
about you. This is you finding what makes you tick
and what Cozy is to you.

Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
I just love your heart so much, Liz. You are
truly I can feel your kind, gentle spirit. You know
you've been through so much. Like you said, you've always
like been looking for your worth and not wanting to
take up space, and you're just such like a Oh,
I don't want to bother you, and like you're such
like a kind hearing person, but like to talk to

(01:02:59):
you and see how you have come into your taking
up space and claiming what you love, having the confidence
to love it. Sharing the hard things that broke you
to your took you to your knees, but then how
leaning into Cozy has led you to joy and a
whole new rebirth. It's really You're such an inspiration and

(01:03:21):
your such a genuine heart. I'm so thankful to know
you and to get to talk to you. And it's
such an honor that you share this with the world
and you put yourself out there because I know that
wasn't necessarily your first inkling to do but you have
so much love to give, and you have so much
you're so you're a healer, Like you really are helping
people heal, and you're healing yourself and you're sharing that

(01:03:44):
healing through your cozy and it's amazing. And that's what
the world needs, is everyone to lean into how they
are healing themselves and what is lighting them up and
share it. And you do such a great job of that,
and I'm just so honored to have you on again.
I always wrap up with leave your life, and you've
already said so many inspirational things, but what do you
want people to know?

Speaker 1 (01:04:03):
So many things, but this one's hard. I feel like
we've kind of said it all and picking one is hard.
But I guess you know what you just said too
is thank you for those words. Thank you so much
for I always you always breathe so much life into me,
like listening to you is healing, and you always like
build my confidence, and so thank you. And I hope

(01:04:26):
everyone feels empowered listening to you as I do. But
I feel like in this world of social media and scrolling,
I would love for everyone to feel worthy and feel
like they can take up space with what they love

(01:04:46):
in this world, and I feel like that's what the
world needs right now. They need kindness, and they need
your approach and your art and your light. I feel
like we're all conforming into one person, and we're all
looking the same and acting the same, and I just
feel like that causes a lot of friction. So I

(01:05:09):
feel if you're feeling a little self conscious or embarrassed
to put yourself out there. I'm not saying everyone needs
to be on the internet, but to that person that's
feeling like that right now, the world needs you and
that was proven to me, and so I feel like
I owe it to you to say the world needs
your light, they need your art, and you can do

(01:05:31):
big things.

Speaker 2 (01:05:33):
And you every person holds a puzzle piece, like you
said earlier, I do without your piece, the puzzle is
not complete. And I feel truly like God made no
mistakes and whatever is on your heart is no mistake,
just like you're saying. And I could not agree with you. Moralism,
And thank you for shouting this message from the rooftop
and showing people how to go from those really hard,

(01:05:56):
just soul crushing moments and how to like cozy up
and heal and come into something new. Thank you for
showing that, for being that bridge, because it is so
needed more than ever. We all need to learn how
to be cozy within ourselves and within our souls and
within our spaces. Because if you feel safe and cozy,
then you're gonna feel so much better presenting yourself to

(01:06:17):
the world and sharing your gifts. So thank you Liz
so much for coming on here, sharing your heart and
writing this book. You are such an angel and I
just love getting to talk to you in the book.
Is it out once? It come out November seventh, so
preorderize now.

Speaker 1 (01:06:33):
I'm very excited for everyone to get this in their hands.
I was excited about the other ones, but this one
is I'm overwhelmingly excited, like giddy, can't sleep. Everyone is
going to love this, and I hope it lands in
the right hands, like everyone that needs this message. I'm
really excited for them.

Speaker 2 (01:06:52):
I love it because this one's like all the way
to the soul for you.

Speaker 1 (01:06:55):
It is, it's and it's the final in the Cozy
White Cottage series. So there's three books, true completes the trilogy. Yep,
this is the finale, and so I think that's why
I'm so excited because this is where we bring everything
together in this book, and it's very interactive, Like I said,
so I'm excited to like have that opportunity to walk

(01:07:15):
with everybody and interact with everyone as they experience it.
So thank you for giving me this time and platform
and conversation to talk about it. So thank you, Liz Mariegalvon.

Speaker 2 (01:07:26):
You're amazing. Thank you so much for joining me. As always,
I cannot wait for the world to get this book
and just get all of this love coming from your heart.
And I hope that they feel it just the way
you put it out there. I know they will. You're awesome.
I appreciate you.

Speaker 1 (01:07:40):
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (01:07:40):
Bye. Oh wait, where can I find you?

Speaker 1 (01:07:43):
They can find the book, I guess social media wise.
I'm at lis Mariegalvon Liz marieblog dot com and the
book you can pre order now on Amazon.

Speaker 2 (01:07:54):
Okay, thank you so much, Pilot.

Speaker 1 (01:07:57):
Thank you. Bye.

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