She Finds Joy

Vaughn Rush is a liberated, black, gay man who served as a behavioral specialist in the Army serving in Iraq. He’s also an entertainer and go-go dancer who travels the world performing. I met Vaughn in Stowe, Vermont, while he was vacationing, and I was on a sabbatical writing my book. We instantly connected over having real conversations and sharing our most authentic truths. 

In this episode, Vaughn opens up about his bipolar dis...

In our everyday lives, we spend a great deal of time telling ourselves that we aren't good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or thin enough. Our minds tell us we don't deserve the things we want. Our desires will never come true; even if they do, they will disappoint us. It’s called the inner critic―that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate And it affects us in very powerful ways.

 

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We all struggle with the fear of not being enough. We are good at faking it. We go through the world smiling, acting as if we are okay when in reality, we might be inwardly struggling. Perfectionism is striving for flawlessness by setting unrealistically high standards for ourselves.

We use perfectionism as a shield to avoid rejection, shame, criticism, and failure. We try to be the perfect worker, spouse, parent, follow the rules...

Shame is a powerful emotion and happens to all of us. It involves looking inwardly in a harsh way with a critical eye while we beat ourselves up even for the smallest mistakes.

We are so overly critical of ourselves, and then we hide or bury our feelings of shame when we need to learn to release them with people who have earned the right to hear our stories.

Through sharing our stories, we free ourselves from some of the pain we ...

Are you afraid of making decisions? Asking your boss for a raise? Launching your own business? Asking for what you want in your relationship? What prevents us from taking the actions we need in our lives to get to the next level? FEAR!

Fear is one of the greatest obstacles to our success because with fear comes uncomfortableness and many people wait for uncomfortableness to leave before they act. In this episode, I’m going to teac...

Ep 80| How Gratitude Increases Happiness

 

Dr. Masuro Emoto discovered that molecules in water are affected by our thoughts, words, and feelings. Humans are made up of 70% of water, which means the words we expose ourselves and others to have an impact on them.

He discovered that crystals formed in frozen water with positive words written on them formed brilliant, clear, snowflake patterns while negative words directed toward wate...

Is it possible to create more happiness in our life? Should we be interested in happiness, or is that silly?

I feel like we all want to be happier, but we are a bit afraid to admit it because it makes us feel like something is wrong in our lives. But creating intentional happiness habits in our lives improves every area of our lives. But are we focusing on the wrong things?

Yes, we are much of the time, but I’m about to give you ...

Ep 78| How to get through hard things.

 

Don’t take anything personally. That’s the second agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements.” He states, “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”

I’ve been criticized many times in my life. Many times it absolutely consumed me. But in this episode, I hope to share some insight I’ve lear...

Burnout is a kind of exhaustion that seeps into every aspect of your life. Even though I travel around the country teaching teachers, business people, and more about how to overcome burnout, I can tell you that I, too, have been experiencing it lately. For me, burnout looks like:  

• The inability to shut work off, even when I should be enjoying time off 
• An incessant need...

As a coach, I’ve seen that women don’t invest in themselves enough. Whether it’s time, money, a new pair of workout shoes, or a household nick-nack, women always have a reason why they are not allowed to invest in themselves. As women, we are trained and shown by the other women in our life that we are to take care of everyone else BEFORE we are allowed to honor our own needs. We spend a LOT of time investing in other people – our ...

Sandy Forster is the money mindset mentor for women worldwide who are ready to experience more abundance and freedom in their life. Sandy went from welfare to millionaire, been featured in Oprah’s Aussie Secret, and loves inspiring and empowering women to break through their blocks, manifest more money, and create a life they’re truly passionate about.

Sandy went from having over $100,000 in debt to creating an income of $150,000 t...

Wow! My interview with my 1992 high school classmate, Angie Carlson, was heartwarming, inspiring, and thought-provoking. Shortly after giving birth to her son, Angie was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS) 30 years ago. This disease has left her using a walker, sometimes a wheelchair, and the smallest of tasks takes a monumental effort.  

 

It’s easy to look at Angie’s everyday life and the obstacles she deals with, but she choo...

In this interview, I talk with Dr. Melissa Hankins, a 17-year Harvard-trained psychiatrist and certified executive coach. We had a very open conversation about what trauma is, how it affects our lives, and what we can do to heal ourselves. 

We have all experienced some form of trauma, and many times that trauma plays out in our adult lives. It might affect how we react to our spouse, how we parent our children, and how we navigate ...

When we are uncomfortable setting boundaries, it's easy to fall into patterns like people-pleasing to make sure everyone else is happy.  However, this becomes the breeding ground for resentment and anger in our lives.

Many of us suffer from our people-pleasing ways. We do it for several reasons: To be accepted and belong, to receive love, and to find validations. We worry that people may not like us, creating a life of self-abandon...

Gay Hendricks wrote this amazing book called “The Big Leap”. In it, he explains that as humans we all have what he calls an “Upper Limit Problem.”

Basically, we have an internal thermostat in our body that says, “I have limited tolerance, for feeling good in my life, I have limited tolerance for how much happiness, I am willing to let myself feel how much love, I'm willing to let myself feel how much success, I'm willing to let mys...

Kim reflects on a lesson she took to heart this past year, and she reflected on year 48 of her life and what is taught her, how she grew, and the work she’s done on herself.  She worked on Radical Acceptance, which means that she is working on releasing bitterness and resentment over things she couldn’t and can’t control. 

It wasn’t easy work, but once she quit resisting the way certain things or people were in her life, she experi...

A mindset is simply a set of thoughts and beliefs that shape how you make sense of the world and yourself. It influences how you think, feel, and behave.  Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck says, “Your beliefs play a pivotal role in what you want and whether you can achieve it. It has a significant role in determining your achievement and success.

In this episode, Kim dives into why change is hard and goals keep getting left in the ...

From an early age, we are taught to color inside the lines, and any color that strays outside the lines is considered a mistake to be avoided. We are supposed to do everything right, which carries over into adulthood.  Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. Imperfection, however, frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

 

It’s not easy to let g...

Rosanna Berardi is the Managing Partner of Berardi Immigration Law and the CEO of High WireWoman, where she helps working women create a blueprint to living their lives in a simpler way and take back their most precious commodity: their time.

After saying goodbye to a lucrative corporate gig—and a promising career as an immigration lawyer for the U.S. government—she built a successful, multi-million dollar corporate immigration law...