The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

Can You Affair-Proof Your Marriage?

Is it actually possible to affair-proof your marriage?

We know better than most that no marriage is completely immune to temptation or failure. After all, Adam and Eve lived in a perfect world and still found a way to mess things up. But we also believe there are things we can do to protect our marriages and make it much harder for the enemy to gain a foothold.

In this episode, we talk about some...

This week we're sharing one of the most meaningful nights of our lives.

As we celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary, we got a surprise when we walked into a room filled with the people God has used to help write our story. Some were there on our wedding day. Others came into our lives after Heather's affair fifteen years ago. All of them have played a part in reminding us that redemption was never something we were meant to walk ...

This week marks our 30th wedding anniversary, and as we look back, we realize something that still amazes us: we've now spent exactly half of our marriage before Heather's confession…and half of it after.

In this episode, we reflect on those two very different seasons of our marriage and why the last 15 years have been so different from the first. We talk about how our relationship changed when we stopped expecting each othe...

Last week we began a conversation about restoring intimacy after betrayal. This week we're taking it a step further by talking about one of the hardest parts of healing: the mental images, triggers, and memories that can make the marriage bed feel anything but safe.

We know this struggle because we've lived it. In this episode, we share what helped us navigate those difficult moment...

This week we’re answering a question that we’ve never addressed quite like this before, and we know it’s one that many couples quietly wrestle with after infidelity.

What happens when something that was once a normal and enjoyable part of your physical relationship suddenly becomes a reminder of betrayal? Is it possible for the marriage bed to be fully redeemed, or will certain things always feel damaged?

In this ...

This week, we're answering a question we hear often: "What exactly do you offer, and where should I start?"

Whether your marriage is in the middle of a crisis, you're rebuilding after betrayal, or you simply want to strengthen an already healthy relationship, we've tried to create resources that meet you wherever you are. In this episode, we walk through the Resource Menu currently available on our website and explain what each par...

This week in our Summer Shorts series, we're answering a listener question that took us back to one of the hardest seasons of our lives: What were some of the small things people did that made the biggest difference while we were walking through our marriage crisis?

When everything around us felt cold and uncertain, God placed "redbirds" in our path—people who simply showed up. They didn't always have the perfect words. They ...

In this week’s Summer Short, we tackle a question that comes up more often than people realize after infidelity: What do we do with the things that now carry painful memories? Wedding rings, anniversaries, favorite restaurants, vacation spots, and even everyday places can suddenly feel connected to some of the hardest moments in a marriage.

We share our thoughts on whether couples should keep their original wedding rings as a...

This week, we're continuing our Summer Shorts series by answering one of the questions we hear most often: Should we tell our children about marital struggles, broken trust, or even infidelity?

We share our own experience of walking through those conversations with our boys after Heather's affair and how those discussions changed as they grew older. When they were young, we focused on what they needed to know. As they matured, we w...

This week, we tackle a listener question that sparked a really honest conversation in our own marriage: How do you pursue your spouse without making them feel like your pursuit is only about sex?

We share openly about the different ways we experience pursuit, the challenges that can come with mismatched desires, and how easy it is to misread each other's intentions. What one spouse ...

This week we're celebrating a huge milestone—250 episodes of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast!

To mark the occasion, we're answering a question about one of the most practical tools we've ever shared: the Heart Talk. What do you do when you're trying to open up, but your spouse gets defensive, starts explaining themselves, or turns the conversation back to their own feelings?

This week in our Summer Shorts series, we’re answering a hard but honest question that so many couples wrestle with after betrayal: “Once a cheater, always a cheater?”

We talk openly about the labels people place on you after failure and how easy it is to believe your worst moment will define the rest of your life. For us, this conversation isn’t just theoret...

This week’s episode is a special one for us. We just walked through one of the most meaningful weeks of our lives as we celebrated our son Luke’s wedding, and we are incredibly grateful for all of the prayers, encouragement, and kind messages so many of you have sent our family.

During the wedding weekend, someone asked us about a part of the ceremony where Rusty talked about the difference between a contract and a cove...

In this week’s Summer Shorts episode, we answer a powerful question from one of our listeners: what would Heather have done if the roles had been reversed and Rusty had been the one who was unfaithful?

It leads to a really honest conversation about who Heather was spiritually fifteen years ago compared to who she is today, and the difference between simply knowing about God an...

In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, we found ourselves feeling a little nostalgic. With our oldest son’s wedding just days away and a Chicago concert on the calendar, it got us thinking back to when we first started dating and how much things have changed since the 80s and 90s.

We started remembering what dating used to look like—waiting by the phone for a call, long conversations on a corded line, making ...

We are in one of those seasons where life feels full in every possible way. From weddings and college transitions to demanding work schedules and hosting a team full of athletes for the summer, it is a lot. And if we are honest, it can feel overwhelming at times.

In this episode, we are pulling back the curtain and inviting you into the real life messiness of what we are navigating right now. Not from a place of having it all figur...

We used to believe that if we prayed hard enough, stayed hopeful enough, and just waited long enough… our marriage would eventually get better.

But what we’ve learned—both personally and walking with other couples—is that real change doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you’re willing to step into it.

In this episode, we talk about the tension so many couples feel: wanting something diffe...

We open up about how that played out in our marriage—how selfishness drove decisions that caused real hurt, and how easy it would have been to stay stuck there. Heather shares honestly about what was going on beneath the surface, and Rusty talks about the temptation on the other side to hold onto pain, bitterness, and self-pity. What we’ve learned is that selfishness doesn’t just show up in big moments like infide...

Resurrection is not just something we celebrate at Easter. It is something we can experience in our marriages.

We know what it feels like to be stuck. We know what it feels like for things to seem lifeless, distant, or even beyond repair. But what we have learned is that what feels impossible to us is not impossible for God. If He can roll away a stone, He can move what feels stuck in your marriage. What looks dead may not be finis...