Episode 230: The Reason Why Jonny Depp And amber Heard Are The Tip Of The Iceberg. Personality Disorder Part 2

The reason why Depp and Heard are the tip of the ice-berg Personality DIsorder Part 2


Personality disorders ie those whoes behavior is by nature consistently anti-tribal are this way due to a combination of nature  (genetics) and nuture. They can be born this way or they can be affected by trauma of different types. For borderlines and psychopaths sexual trauma is especially important. Anything that fractures or does not affirm self esteem either acutely or chronically risks going onto also affect socialisation and both together will then create an individual who's behavior purely due to who they are is tribe incompatible aka personality disorder. The specific way in which anti tribal behavior reduces internal anxiety defines the type of personality disorder.

Interestingly the American Psychiatric Association talks about oversly sensitive overly reactive children  being a risk factor for developing personality disorder and I think this may refer in some cases to genetically overanxious children but more importantly , becausethis is somethign easily addressed it is referring to is ADHD. Parents often cannot cope and often dread dealing with their own children when they have ADHD and this not helped by an increasingly avoidant educational system who need to be strong armed by assertive parents who have read all the rules and guildelines into providing any useful support. The problem is that kids with ADHD are constantly chastised and scolded and have difficulty learning normal socialisation (without making serious compromises such as taking on the role of the charming misichieve maker who people are entertained by) and also get used to failure as schools often reject them or do not give them adequate learning support. Its important for parents to undersatnd they are getting angry with the ADHD not their kid . However it is the child's self esteem and self pereception that is being damaged . This is the most persuasive argument for discussing medication with parents who understandably do not want their children on tablets but equally do not want to harm the fundamental rewquirments for success in life ie self esteem and socialisation ie tribal living and how well you can do within the tribe.

Recently I had to write a report for a 15 year old who had been put by one of the UK's great public schools in the North on a behavioral contract. But he had ADHD. He could not stick to it and was expelled. The school have now lost aginst the parents during formal proceedings and rightly so. The damage to self esteem was incalculable. This directly through discrimination and inderectly through neglect of duty abuse of the child. This is the case if parents and professionals do not properly manage ADHD.

The commonest personaltiy disorder is Obsessive Compulsive characterised by individuals being socially awkward and often withdrawn, liable to routine and ritual and perfectionism and hard work. This is likely to be a misclassifaction or at least a duplicate classifcation for more functional Aspergers Spectrum disorder. Even more simply we are all on the emotion/autistic spectrum with females generally shifted left of centre to the more emotional end and males generally shifted right of centre towards the autistic end. The main mediator is the level of exposure to intrauterine testosterone. It means that a female with Aspergers tendencies is even more of an outlier than a male with Aspergers tendencies as the general female poplulation lies more the left than males. Indeed a right shifted narcissit female is especially toxic to the tribe often exactly because they can fly under the radar but they have most access to and responsiblity for raising chiildren and someone who is self serving and likely to be critical and controlling and unable to teach proper attachement and socilaistion to the kids is going to be very damaging to those kids. Furthermore females tend to be the social centres of tribes