December 17, 2019 • 13 mins
BLACK AMERICAN MEN VS. AFRICAN MEN. WHY I LOVE DATING AFRICAN MEN.
Many friends, family, and peers have often asked me why do I date African men? I didn't know the answer at the time, but after much thought, I have the answer.
Read my write-up very carefully. I am not putting down my black American brothers, in fact, I have dated a few in my lifetime.
However, my initial
preference is African men but I have no problem dating races like Caucasian, Asian and Spanish and black as long as they have a good heart and no drama. In this post, I list the reasons why I love dating African men.
The approach is da truth
As I started attending African churches from a young age, African men began approaching me. I noticed their approach was very different from black American men. Almost all of the African men have addressed me very respectfully and it blew my mind. Many black men who try to talk to me come off very sexual and disrespectful. I had several men talk about sex within the first few conversations with me and I called them out on it and cut them loose. The African men I have dated always were encouraging, very educated and calm.
So sweet and kind
The African men I have dated were so sweet and kind. Some were very thoughtful and just was there for me in a variety of ways. The two black men that I have dated were also nice in their own way but not really thoughtful. African brothas have that swag smoke and it is sooo addicting.
Appearance
The African men that I was in a relationship with knew how to dress and smell good. They took pride in their appearance and looked their best. This is something that I didn't see in the two black men that I dated. It was my fault for choosing them to date. Now, there are black men and African men that don't take pride in how they look but I haven't seen many African men that don't and this is my experience.
Cultural
I absolutely enjoy exploring the culture of the guy I am dating. It is so intriguing and brings something new to talk about with him. I love when an African man can cook and show me different dishes that are so delicious. This also makes dating an African guy addicting. I also love to learn about the different dances and history and these men know their stuff. I already know a lot about the American culture so it's nothing to really talk about with a black American man unless we are chatting about boring politics.
Overview. Now these are my reasons for dating an African man and I say, a man is a man no matter the race or culture. There are some quality black men out there just like there are African men and there are horrible African men out there just like there are black American men. I have even had some issues down throughout the years in my dating & relationship experience with a few African men, so I am not trying to say that they are 100% better than black American men because that would be biased.
Now, ladies understand this. When you are dating a handsome African man that approached you well, is sweet and kind and looks great...you still gotta do the work. What do I mean? Peel back the "oh he's so cute, sweet and loving and looks awesome" and get to the core of the man. Who is this man? What is his motive for approaching me? Is he looking for genuine love or another sister to play games with?
If you get hooked on the swag smoke, you can end up with a dangerous or narcissistic man who looks fabulous on the outside but has so many issues on the inside. You will find yourself ignoring red flags and settling just because he looks and smells good. Open your eyes with books from G.L Lambert, Bruce Bryans and Sherry Argov and of course me once my book comes out. Be safe and have fun!!
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Many friends, family, and peers have often asked me why do I date African men? I didn't know the answer at the time, but after much thought, I have the answer.
Read my write-up very carefully. I am not putting down my black American brothers, in fact, I have dated a few in my lifetime.
However, my initial
preference is African men but I have no problem dating races like Caucasian, Asian and Spanish and black as long as they have a good heart and no drama. In this post, I list the reasons why I love dating African men.
The approach is da truth
As I started attending African churches from a young age, African men began approaching me. I noticed their approach was very different from black American men. Almost all of the African men have addressed me very respectfully and it blew my mind. Many black men who try to talk to me come off very sexual and disrespectful. I had several men talk about sex within the first few conversations with me and I called them out on it and cut them loose. The African men I have dated always were encouraging, very educated and calm.
So sweet and kind
The African men I have dated were so sweet and kind. Some were very thoughtful and just was there for me in a variety of ways. The two black men that I have dated were also nice in their own way but not really thoughtful. African brothas have that swag smoke and it is sooo addicting.
Appearance
The African men that I was in a relationship with knew how to dress and smell good. They took pride in their appearance and looked their best. This is something that I didn't see in the two black men that I dated. It was my fault for choosing them to date. Now, there are black men and African men that don't take pride in how they look but I haven't seen many African men that don't and this is my experience.
Cultural
I absolutely enjoy exploring the culture of the guy I am dating. It is so intriguing and brings something new to talk about with him. I love when an African man can cook and show me different dishes that are so delicious. This also makes dating an African guy addicting. I also love to learn about the different dances and history and these men know their stuff. I already know a lot about the American culture so it's nothing to really talk about with a black American man unless we are chatting about boring politics.
Overview. Now these are my reasons for dating an African man and I say, a man is a man no matter the race or culture. There are some quality black men out there just like there are African men and there are horrible African men out there just like there are black American men. I have even had some issues down throughout the years in my dating & relationship experience with a few African men, so I am not trying to say that they are 100% better than black American men because that would be biased.
Now, ladies understand this. When you are dating a handsome African man that approached you well, is sweet and kind and looks great...you still gotta do the work. What do I mean? Peel back the "oh he's so cute, sweet and loving and looks awesome" and get to the core of the man. Who is this man? What is his motive for approaching me? Is he looking for genuine love or another sister to play games with?
If you get hooked on the swag smoke, you can end up with a dangerous or narcissistic man who looks fabulous on the outside but has so many issues on the inside. You will find yourself ignoring red flags and settling just because he looks and smells good. Open your eyes with books from G.L Lambert, Bruce Bryans and Sherry Argov and of course me once my book comes out. Be safe and have fun!!
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