Still Becoming One
We deeply desired a marriage based on God's design: two people coming together as "one flesh," but we had no idea how to do it. We tried and fell flat many times, going through many dark seasons. We wondered when the oneness was supposed to begin. Renewing grace and love in our marriage wasn't an easy process, but now, more than 20 years later, our marriage is thriving, and Brad is a licensed counselor, and Kate is a relationship coach. We work with couples and individuals who want to discover what building a one-flesh marriage means, helping them uncover and understand their stories and the unique challenges that keep them stuck. We invite you to journey with us as we are Still Becoming One.
Episodes
Life has a way of surprising us with transitions we weren't quite expecting. This week, Brad and Kate share the sudden shift into empty-nest parenthood that has happened, which they had not anticipated. As their four children all simultaneously launched into new adventures, Brad and Kate found themselves abruptly facing a quiet house filled with possibility and questions.
Throughout their discussion emer...
What happens when past wounds collide in marriage? Steve and Lisa Call, co-authors with Dan Allender of The Deep-Rooted Marriage, founders of Reconnect Institute, and married for over 35 years, reveal how childhood stories unconsciously shape our most intimate relationships. Through vulnerable personal examples, Steve shares how his response of "I'm fine" masks deeper feelings of abandonment stemming fr...
What happens when one partner has a career that demands everything? Whether it's an 80-hour workweek, constant travel, or shift work that throws off your entire family rhythm, demanding careers create unique challenges for relationships.
Brad and Kate tackle this reality head-on, acknowledging the struggles couples face when balancing intense professional demands with maintaining connection. Through thei...
Brad and Kate explore how married couples can drift into feeling like roommates or business partners when they neglect emotional connection and intimacy. They discuss how busyness, misinterpreting intentions, and focusing solely on logistics create distance in relationships. Then offer some practical tools, including their own book of questions, as a path back toward intimacy.
You can find the Questions for C...
Brad and Kate explore how couples can maintain connection during inevitable busy seasons when marriage can't be the top priority. They share personal examples from their May celebrations of their children's graduations and how they've learned to navigate similar challenging periods.
Brad and Kate Aldrich explore how seemingly healthy self-care activities might actually be "imitation self-care" that creates distance rather than true rejuvenation in marriage relationships.
• Imitation self-care activities mimic real self-care but leave us feeling worse afterward
• Binge-watching shows and mindless scrolling often become ways to avoid connection
• The content we're dr...
What happens when the very strategies we develop to care for ourselves actually pull us away from our partners? In this eye-opening exploration of "imitation self-care," we dive into the complex ways our coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as healthy practices while undermining our relationships. Imitation self-care is challenging to identify because it often contains elements of genuine care. Exercise...
We examine the complexities of troubled marriages, challenging the idea that couples should "stick it out no matter what" while offering guidance on when to fight for your relationship and when boundaries might be necessary.
• Understanding the difference between pursuing happiness versus finding fulfillment and contentment in marriage
• Why staying together "just for the kids" often c...
Special guest Adam Young joins us to discuss his new book, Make Sense of Your Story.
What if the relationship patterns you can't seem to break are rooted in stories you've never fully understood? Adam Young, therapist and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, joins us to explore how our earliest experiences continue to shape our most intimate relationships—and what we can do about it.
Whether you&...
Brad and Kate Aldrich challenge the common belief that marriage problems stem from choosing the wrong person, revealing how our personal stories shape relationship patterns regardless of who we marry.
We explore the dynamic when husbands experience higher sexual desire than their wives, examining how both partners often feel broken or inadequate when confronting these differences.
• Sexual desire disparity affects approximately 80% of marriages with the husband having a higher desire
• Both partners suffer—husbands feeling rejected and wives feeling inadequate or broken
• Harmful messaging from pur...
Brad and Kate welcome J Parker, author of "The Higher Desire Wife," to discuss the often overlooked reality of wives who desire more sexual intimacy than their husbands and how couples can navigate this sensitive dynamic with understanding and compassion.
• Sexual desire fluctuates throughout marriage, with partners' drives shifting multiple times over the years
• Numerous factors affect ma...
Relationship conflict is inevitable, but the key to healthy relationships lies in effective repair—acknowledging impact and taking responsibility rather than just saying, "sorry you were hurt."
• Conflict in relationships is normal, but repair is essential for rebuilding connection
• There's a critical difference between "I'm sorry you were hurt" and "I'm sorry I hu...
Can a healthy marriage include moments where one partner "takes one for the team" sexually? This candid conversation tackles the sensitive reality of differing desire levels and how couples navigate intimacy when interest isn't mutual.
We explore this often used metaphor and unpack how this dynamic typically unfolds - often with one partner silently sacrificing while harboring resentment, and t...
What defines family in today's complex world? We dive into the often misleading notion that blood is thicker than water, encouraging listeners to reflect on the diverse definitions of family.
We can seek to maintain loyalty to family while navigating the complexities of emotional needs in life. However, there's more to "family" than biological ties. We explore how a chosen family can some...
Welcome to Season 4 of Still Becoming One. We are excited to continue our own journey of growth and to bring all of you along with us.
So What happens when high school sweethearts get married and realize they need to seriously address their struggles? That was our journey that eventually led to the creation of the Still Becoming One podcast. With roots that trace back to our One Flesh Marriage blog.
In this e...
We hear it all the time: "My wife's not meeting my needs" or "My husband isn't meeting my needs!" What do we do about this? Of course, we want our spouse to meet our physical, emotional, sexual, and other needs. Yet, is it their responsibility to do so?
The struggle to juggle demanding jobs and family commitments makes this a very common feeling. We explore the emotional tug-of-...
How do you keep the peace at Thanksgiving dinner when political differences arise? As we approach the pivotal 2024 election, we dive into the divisive topic of how to engage in compassionate and understanding discussions, even when opinions clash.
Family dynamics during politically charged times can be tricky to navigate. We've seen too many families torn apart by the enmity and contempt of rival politic...
Fawn and Keith Weaver take us on an unforgettable journey through their love story to becoming the CEO of the most-awarded American whiskey for 5 years running. Celebrating over twenty years of marriage, they share how their partnership was built on a foundation of deep connection, mutual respect, and connection with the Lord. Fawn's book, "Love and Whiskey," weaves their personal narrative with the ric...
You've been stuck feeling like roommates and don't know how to ask for more sexual intimacy. OR maybe your spouse is the one asking but in ALL the wrong ways. This episode promises to equip you with the tools to understand and navigate sexual frequency concerns that both partners often experience. Tune in as we share candid insights and anecdotes about setting realistic expectations, fostering open communica...
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