Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; motherhood, toddler tantrum, behavior, conscious parenting, gentle parenting, pediatric occupational therapy
Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel guilty after losing your cool 15 minutes into a tantrum and wonder if you’re doing this whole motherhood thing right? Are you wishing there was something that would just work consistently to get your child to listen? Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist and momma to 2 energetic boys and I’m so grateful you are here! I remember what it felt like to struggle with my son’s aggressive behavior. I felt alone. I felt like no one else I knew was going through the same things or could understand what I was going through. And I had no idea what to do. I tried everything I could think of but nothing really seemed to work or that stuck anyway. Feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted, like I was at the end of my rope, I found Hand in Hand parenting and I completely fell in love with the approach. It was everything I had ever dreamed motherhood would be about; training my child in a way that actually felt good and didn’t require rewards and punishments to obey and respect my authority. Plus, it focused on what the child’s behavior actually meant! Resolving things at a root cause level. What could be better than that?? Needless to say, I was hooked and after implementing the different connection focused strategies I saw more transformation than I ever thought possible. But not just in my son’s behavior, in my ability to remain calm through it all and my confidence in the approach I had chosen. No more comparison or worry of judgment. I knew this was the right path. I wanted to make sure other moms out there who were struggling just like I was, had access to this information so I completed a professionals intensive training in Hand in Hand parenting and started sharing it. Inside this podcast you will find tips, strategies, and perspective shifts to manage your child’s behavior as well as your triggers, and a constant shove outside the mainstream recommendations to utilize manipulation to change your child’s behavior. We are going to dive deep into how to implement CONNECTION, a vital necessity that the world wants to make us believe our children don’t actually need. This is the game-changing, missing link and I’m going to give you tangible steps on how to incorporate it into your daily routines and in those extra challenging moments so your home doesn’t feel like a stressful and chaotic place but rather one where feelings are welcomed, behavior is understood as communication, and joy abounds. So get comfy, I know you need a minute to take a rest after all you’ve been doing today, and join me as we jump into managing behaviors through connection! XO Kaili The Motherhood CONNECTION monthly membership: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz/
Episodes
It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is.
It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregiver...
One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.
Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effecti...
If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it.
If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspec...
Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home?
That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference.
We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much pea...
Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.
I. Hear. That.!!!
Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!
If this episode, or any episode you've prev...
Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes!
But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagreements!
If you have found this e...
There is so much out there when it comes to how you "should" respond to your child's behavior or the "right" thing to say for xyz situation. But who can remember all of that?
Plus, what if said account or expert never told you what to do for the specific situation you are dealing with? Let the panic set in!
No, don't do that.
Instead, listen in today as I share one piece of advice that will transcend all behaviors and situati...
One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle.
Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through the 4 things I have done (and still...
I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st!
Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well, they all are, but this one I think ...
Happy New Year!
Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood...
*how do you feel like you're managing your triggers?
*are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood?
*is your child struggling with behavior or attitude?
*do you feel like y...
Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards?
Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering?
Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired?
Today, I talk through 3 strategies, tips, and ...
Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues!
We cover:
-strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming
-tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep
-holiday food
-navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays
**and MORE!
Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/
Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper?
Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely?
Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...with safety and connection.
Tune in a...
Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf??
What am I saying? Of course you have!
Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search?
Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further.
Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this year!
If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too!
Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: kjzeiher@gmail.com
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? h...
Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.
But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of ...
If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes.
If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode.
It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND it's fun! It builds connection, he...
Do you struggle to bring your child out in public because he/she runs from you?
Do you get frustrated and try to utilize manipulation strategies (consequences/threats, bribes) to get the behavior you want and find it doesn't work? Or not consistently anyway?
Have you or have you thought about buying a "leash" for your child because you just need to be sure your child is safe while you are out in a parking lot or public space?
If y...
Tune in today as I answer your questions!
We chat about:
*when the calming strategies don't seem to be helping
*how to support a child through big feelings when you have other children around
*what to do when a child is melting down everyday after daycare
*aggressive behaviors
*a child who is overly attached to one parent over the other
If you have a question you'd like answered, email it to me at kjzeiher@gmail.com
Aggressio...
If you like birth stories, tune in today as I share our 3rd child (and first girl), Luella's brith story!
In case you missed them, here are the birth stories of my boys:
Myles' Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704
Huxton's Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id...
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