Happier Marriage

Ever wondered what it takes to make a marriage last with divorce rates soaring and fairy tales often falling apart or falling short?

It's a question many of us ponder. I remember when I first got married in 1985. It's a very long time, right? I had some questions.

There were some uncertainties. We were young and just getting into life, not fully aware of what life had to offer because we were both at a p...

Ever feel like your home is always filled with tension, like a battlefield instead of a peaceful sanctuary?

Do little things seem to snowball into big issues, making every day a challenge?

If you've ever felt this way, you're not alone.

In this episode, we're diving into how to make your marriage more peaceful with three proven practices. Whether you've tried some of these before or not, stick a...

Marriage is undeniably wonderful, but let's face it, it can get a bit complicated at times, can't it?

Have you ever thought about what are some of the distinguishing factors that set successful and flourishing marriages apart from the rest?

What are the secrets to constructing a love that endures through time and how can one nurture it?

Discovering the keys to building a relationship that not o...

Do you feel that sometimes, you and your spouse are two roommates, or do you feel like you're like two ships passing in the night, but never connecting? 

Or maybe,  you feel like your relationship is one where you wonder what's happening ... what's happening to our marriage? 

And you feel lonely wondering whether your spouse still loves and cares for you ...

Imagine that you're having these inte...

Feeling like you and your spouse are operating on entirely different wavelengths is a common experience shared by many couples.

When partners struggle to effectively communicate, it can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and ultimately unhappiness in the relationship.

It's important to acknowledge that many couples experience these challenges, and you're not alone if you're facing them in you...

What's it like for you when you feel like your husband or wife is not willing to deal with an issue? It's almost as if you're left to pretend that everything is ok, right?

That can be incredibly frustrating. I know because I've been guilty of that myself in my own relationship, my own marriage, where I find that in my mind, it's easier to just do the avoidance dance.

Because of what I perc...

Have you ever come across those signs or lists indicating that your marriage is doomed, or worse, already over? It can be quite disheartening, don't you think?

When experts point out these indicators, essentially telling you to accept the reality and move on, it can feel like a harsh reality check.

It begs the question: What more evidence do you need to acknowledge that it's truly over?

You ma...

Creating an emotionally safe space takes work and requires skills that you might not be currently using. However, it is something that is desperately needed.

Imagine a world where you feel safe and comfy in your marriage. It's like sailing a boat smoothly on calm waters, feeling happy and secure. 

But what if your boat gets stuck and you feel scared and unsure? 

That's where emotional safety com...

Ever feel like you're bending over backward just to keep the peace at home?

Yeah, we've all been there!  Maybe you call it "people-pleasing" and sometimes it can feel like the only way to avoid a fight.

While it's totally normal to want things to be calm and happy, listen up: constant people-pleasing can actually hurt your relationship in the long run.

Here's the thing: imagi...

Imagine this.

You've attended countless workshops, read numerous books, and practiced countless communication techniques, right?

All in the hopes of improving your marriage.

Yet, despite all of your efforts, you still find yourself stuck in the same frustrating cycle that you know of misunderstandings and arguments.

This might sound familiar, right? But If you can relate to or have experi...

Do most of your conversations with your spouse end up in a fight?

Have you ever wished,  that you could sit down with your spouse and just talk about what's bothering you, causing you sleepless nights, anxiety, and sadness without feeling fearful of ending up arguing more, or being gaslighted? Or for that matter, making matters worse.

Of course, having this conversation is one that could potentially lead to ...

It's indeed crucial for couples to have meaningful conversations, regardless of how busy life gets and the responsibilities they may have. 

If couples find it challenging to make time for even short conversations, it can indeed be difficult to engage in deeper discussions.

Most of the time, drama interferes with deeper and more difficult conversations. There are pros and cons of course. But at the end of the ...

Feeling neglected when your spouse is overly focused on work is a common struggle. It can leave you questioning the place of your marriage in their priorities.

Have you been in this kind of situation?

Maybe you felt a sinking feeling in your stomach when I mentioned this because you can relate. It's like his job has taken over, leaving you feeling sidelined as just the spouse.

This can lead to hurt,...

When you attempt to keep the spark alive when your husband is busy building the business can be challenging. No need to convince you. You know that.

In addition to prioritizing the family's well-being, some husbands are also striving to build the "family" business.

Can you identify with this?

Challenges between you and your husband can arise despite your shared goals and efforts to keep yo...

In trying to revitalize your marriage, it is not uncommon that the advice given is to seek therapy.

Therapy does have its place and for the most part, has proven useful for many people.

It can reignite the spark in your marriage and other relationships so I want to emphasize that suggesting the possibility of doing that very thing without therapy doesn't diminish its value. 

It's about finding a...

A life of alignment of faith, family, and impact is something that many people aspire toward but not many have done so successfully as you'll hear in this episode.

Having a good example to imitate can serve as a valuable guide and source of inspiration in various aspects of life. 

No doubt, the first factor that comes to mind as having a significant impact on your life is your family. The way you are making them a prio...

In tough times, it might feel like your home is a bit like a war zone. The tensions and interactions with your husband could be making things challenging. And maybe as you're listening to this, your home feels like that.

Take a brief pause for a moment.

If you take a closer look at why things might feel this way, what recurring theme or issue stands out to you? Identify the main factor that keeps making the s...

“Success leaves clue”.

Have you heard that before?

A common perception is that success requires constant hustle, perpetual motion, and an unrelenting pace.

There's often pressure to keep pushing oneself beyond limits, and the fear of falling behind if not continuously engaged in action.

This perspective can indeed be exhausting and can lead to burnout or a feeling of inadequacy if one cann...

It's a new year, which means it's important for us to stay on track towards maintaining a happier marriage.

Reflecting on 2023, how was it for you and your family? How were the experiences, challenges, and memorable moments that shaped your year?

I hope you can reminisce about the joyful and memorable moments spent with your family. There might have been areas where you and your family wished for improv...