The Other Side of the Struggle (Healing from Betrayal Trauma)
Healing from betrayal trauma is no small feat! It takes a lot of work, time, and focus in order to do it. That's all great, but then there's the "HOW?" In this podcast, we will talk about Betrayal Trauma, my past with it, how I healed from it using Christian Scripture, and how you can do the same thing.
Episodes
Hey Matey's, Kushla Chadwick here!
Erin is in the hospital with a current health challenge and so she asked me to jump on and do a mini-episode with you this week.
So, let's lift her in our prayers because she absolutely is determined to be back soon.
But, this week, she asked me to talk to you about how sitting in the truth is one of the ways we respect ourselves.
If we are receiving the truth in our lives it helps us ...
What if the biggest boundary you need isn't with someone else?
What if it's with yourself?
In this episode, I share the foundational boundary that has transformed my life, healing, relationships, and the lives of countless women I work with every day:
I will be my own best friend.
Many women struggling with betrayal, people-pleasing, self-doubt, or unhealthy relationships don't realize they're abandoning themselve...
What if healing isn't about becoming fearless?
What if it's about becoming you again?
So many women believe that healing means reaching a point where they never feel afraid, never doubt themselves, never get triggered, and never struggle. But what if that's not the goal at all?
In this episode, Erin explores a powerful truth: healing isn't the absence of fear—it's the return to who God created you to be.
If you've...
What if one of the biggest obstacles to healing isn't what happened to you... but what you started believing about yourself because it happened?
In this deeply personal episode, Erin explores the powerful difference between reality and truth. Reality is what happened. Reality is betrayal, heartbreak, rejection, abandonment, disappointment, and pain. But truth? Truth is who God says you are.
If you've ever found yourse...
Have you ever smiled through a conversation while secretly feeling like you were falling apart inside?
In this episode of The Other Side of the Struggle, we’re talking about the silent exhaustion so many women carry while still showing up for everyone around them. The meals still get made. The bills still get paid. The kids are still cared for. The smile is still there. But underneath it all… there&rsquo...
What does emotionally safe love actually feel like?
If you’ve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, overthinking someone’s tone, craving consistency, or wondering why chaos feels more familiar than peace… this episode is for you.
In this deeply honest conversation, Erin Anderson breaks down the difference between emotionally unsafe love and emotionally safe love, how trauma can train the nervous...
If you’ve ever laid awake at night wondering how you’re going to provide for yourself or your family…
this episode is for you.
Today, we’re talking about money from a completely different perspective. Not hustle culture. Not ‘just work harder.’ Not shame.
We’re talking about how our money stories are often our self-love stories, and how the way we experience love is ...
Sometimes the hardest part about boundaries isn’t knowing what to say…
it’s actually holding the boundary once guilt, fear, anxiety, or pressure shows up.
In this episode, we’re diving deep into why boundaries can feel so difficult to hold — especially for women who have spent years people-pleasing, over-explaining, rescuing others, or abandoning themselves to keep the peace.
Because boun...
Have you ever prayed about something over and over again… only to find that the fear, pain, anxiety, insecurity, or struggle still hasn’t left?
In this episode, we’re having a real conversation about surrender, healing, faith, and why some struggles don’t disappear the moment we “give them to God.”
Because maybe healing was never meant to be self-abandonment.
Maybe God isn...
Oooo! This is a big one guys!
I know when I asked myself this question it hit hard...
and had me getting really honest with myself.
But that honesty turned into using my voice and creating self-trust.
If you're ready to trust God AND yourself...
then this episode is for you!
If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule a time:
https://calendly.com/erin-anderson-coachi...
What is a boundary anyway and why do we want them?
Somehow we know that they are foundational to our healing...
but they're not well defined.
In today's episode, I talk about what boundaries are and how we can actually use them to heal...
and create the life and relationships that we actually want.
If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule a time:
https://calendly...
One of the things that can cause recurring trauma in our nervous systems is the idea that we aren't heard, appreciate, seen, or supported.
AND, sometimes it's absolutely true that we're not!
Sometimes what we have to say or what we think may feel inconvenient to someone else.
So, what do we do to feel heard, appreciated, seen, and supported?
That's what we get into in today's episode.
One of the things that REALLY bothers me in the mental health field is this idea of "coping" with trauma.
When I was trying to heal the layers and layers of trauma surrounding my heart and nervous system...
this was what was being taught.
It wasn't the therapist's fault..
they were there to help.
But I didn't want to know how to "cope" with my trauma...
I wanted to know how to heal it!
So that's what I set out to do...
and ...
One of the things that I see in society today...
almost across all countries...
is trauma around our bodies.
Men and women alike are struggling to accept themselves the way they are.
Now, that doesn't mean that we don't strive for health...
but if we're judging ourselves against society's standards...
we're doing ourselves a big disservice.
Here's what I've learned about my body, no matter the size it's at...
and how I shif...
We all know the pain of betrayal...
but nothing is as hard as experiencing it over and over again.
But, it was a really hard reality when I realized that was something I was allowing...
and how my boundaries stopped it.
In today's episode, we talk about what boundaries REALLY are...
and how they stop constant betrayal for good!
If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule...
Trauma can get us to believe a lot of things that aren't true...
especially about ourselves.
One of the lies that it often teaches us...
is we are way more limited than what we really are.
So how do we undo these lies so that way we can live in truth?
I talk about this in today's episode.
If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule a time:
https://calendly.com/...
Oh boy! This can seem like a big problem can't it?
One of the questions that we ask ourselves after trauma is "How can I feel safe again?"
When I say that we cannot heal what doesn't feel safe,
well, that can feel a little hopeless.
But we have far more power than we think we do...
and we have the ability to create safety...
by creating unbreakable boundaries.
Today, I talk about how to do that and the first boundary...
Ugh! If only we could get ourselves to cooperate with our goals right???
But here's the thing...
I've noticed in the years that I've been coaching and studying trauma...
what is stopping people from reaching their goals...
the things we technically call blocks...
are actually a trauma program running in your nervous system.
Because your nervous system is designed to keep you safe, it will resist what it doesn't reco...
Whenever we have been hurt or betrayed by someone we love...
or even when we're wise enough to understand that we have betrayed ourselves...
we always ask how we can trust again.
And it makes sense!
Trust helps us feel safer.
But, often, we think that it's only our job to regain trust.
In today's episode, I talk about how you can find what to trust and how to regain it again.
A lot of times we think that trauma is an event that happened to us somewhere in our past.
But, in truth, trauma isn't the event.
Even though the entire world could tell us what happened was traumatic...
it's the thoughts that get stored in our nervous system that cause the trauma.
This is why it's so important to do thought work as well as nervous system work when it comes to healing trauma.
In today's episode, I talk a...
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