Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined. I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
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Leaving an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship doesn’t always bring the relief you expect. For many people, the trauma bond actually feels stronger after it’s over—bringing increased rumination, anxiety, longing, and confusion that can make you question yourself and your decision.
In this episode, I explain why trauma bonds often intensify after you le...
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If you’ve ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you.
Because what you’re feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw.
After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse, or abusive relationships, the nervous system gets conditioned to extreme highs and lows. A few good days followed by sudden blo...
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Two hundred episodes in, certain truths become impossible to ignore.
After years of conversations, client work, and pattern-spotting, one thing is clear: people don’t struggle because they lack insight, discipline, or desire to change. They struggle because their nervous systems are overloaded — and most healing tools ask for effort at the exact moment capac...
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Dating after emotional abuse isn’t about learning better lines or spotting red flags faster.
It’s about understanding what gets activated inside you when intimacy returns.
In this episode, I sit down with Tina Joy, and we go far beyond surface-level dating advice. We talk about what really happens when someone starts dating again after a narcissistic or...
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Ever notice how motivation feels strong for about two weeks and then suddenly disappears?
If you’ve ever told yourself “I just can’t stick to things” or “I always fall off,” this episode is going to flip that belief on its head.
Because the truth is — your problem isn’t discipline, consistency, or commitment.
It’s your nervous sys...
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Welcome to The Be A Better You Podcast, where I am exploring empowering women to break through their subconscious blocks that hinder personal growth and success. In this episode, we explore the hidden barriers that hold us back, from fear-based blocks and resistance to change to unresolved emotions. Through a guided visualization exercise, listeners will vi...
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The New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You.
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a better partner, or show up as the mom you want to be… but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to stick with ...
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It’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spi...
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If the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, and pulls you back into patterns, people, and feelings you’ve outgrown.
We break down what I call the Holiday Regression Effec...
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If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.
We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.
And yes…
we’re going there wi...
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Today I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing tactics from their abusers that intensify during this time.
The episode delves into the common challenges...
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In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind.
Discover why positive affirm...
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Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.
In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or ...
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Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling.
In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, bre...
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After emotional abuse, solitude can feel like safety. You tell yourself, I’m fine on my own. I don’t need anyone. But what if that fierce independence—the “lone wolf” mindset—is actually what’s keeping you from healing?
In this episode, author and subconscious-reprogramming coach Allison K. Dagney exposes the hidden cost of trying to heal alone. You’ll learn...
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The wounds of emotional abuse aren’t always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can’t see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence.
In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, A...
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“Why didn’t you just leave?”
It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse and trauma bonding.
In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious re...
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Most people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.
In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—exposes the lesser-known tactics of abuse...
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When you’ve lived through emotional abuse, the very idea of a healthy, loving relationship can feel like a fantasy. Maybe you’ve never experienced respect, true friendship, or kindness in a partner. Maybe you’ve been told—through words or through wounds—that love is supposed to be hard, painful, or disappointing. And maybe you secretly believe that happy ma...
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—pulls back the curtain on 3 key ways emotional abuse presents itself.
Emotional abuse isn’t always screaming, yelling, or physical violence. More often, it shows up as gaslighting, coercive co...
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