Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined. I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.
Episodes
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You know the relationship was unhealthy. You know they hurt you. You know you deserve better. So why do you still care?
If you've ever found yourself thinking about a toxic ex, missing someone who treated you poorly, or feeling confused about why you're not "over it" yet, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we're exploring one of the most frustrating parts of healing after emotiona...
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If you’ve ever caught yourself mentally arguing with your ex while driving, showering, trying to sleep, or folding laundry… this episode is for you.
In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting mental loops that so many women experience after emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, divorce, or heartbreak. The imaginary conversations. The repla...
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If you keep finding yourself waiting for someone to change, holding onto the “good parts” of them, replaying their promises in your head, or wondering whether you’re giving up too soon…this episode is for you.
In this powerful episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re talking about the emotional trap of loving someone’s potential instead of recog...
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Parental alienation as a broad concept is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences a parent can go through—especially after emotional abuse, divorce, or separation.
In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Johnson of "Been There Got Out" to talk about the devastating reality of parental alienation, abuse by proxy, and what happens when an unsafe parent uses children as e...
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Why do you always assume you did something wrong in relationships? Why does your mind immediately jump to “they must be thinking something bad about me” when someone pulls away, doesn’t respond, or seems off?
In this episode, we break down the pattern of self-blame and obsessive mind-reading that many women experience after emotional abuse. You’ll learn why your ...
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What if the clarity you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to figure out… but something you can learn to receive?
In this episode, I sit down with Christine Luken, Financial Dignity Coach, a Crystal Wisdom Codes practitioner, to explore a topic that a lot of people are curious about—but don’t always fully understand: crystals, intuition, and ho...
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You feel the spark.
The pull.
The butterflies that make it feel like this could be something real.
But what if that “chemistry” isn’t actually a good sign?
In this episode, we’re breaking down why intense attraction after emotional abuse can be misleading—and how what feels like connection is often your nervous system recognizing a familiar...
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Most people dismiss their dreams as random noise… but what if they’re actually one of the clearest ways your subconscious tries to reach you?
In this episode, I sit down with spiritual guide and dream worker Maelle (known as Oneiraya — “queen of dreams”) to explore what’s really happening when you sleep, and why your dreams may be far more intentiona...
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If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you—whether it’s alcohol, emotional eating, overthinking, or constantly seeking validation from someone—this episode will change the way you see it.
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the truth about coping mechanisms and why it’s not about willpower, discipline, or “...
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What actually happens in the brain after emotional abuse—and why can healing feel so difficult even when you know the relationship was unhealthy?
In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation from my recent appearance on Chantal Contorines’ podcast, The Survivor’s Playbook. Chantal is a high-conflict divorce and recovery coach who supports people navigating the com...
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If you’ve ever felt like you’ve done the work to move on from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship—but something still lingers—this episode is for you.
In this powerful conversation, we’re breaking down the “ick” that won’t go away… the emotional residue that stays in your thoughts, your body, and your sense of self long afte...
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Have you ever looked back at a relationship and wondered, How did I stay so long when I knew something wasn’t right?
In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful truth that many people struggle to admit: intelligence does not protect you from toxic relationships. In fact, the very qualities that make someone thoughtful, capable, and self-aware can sometimes keep them stuck lo...
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If you’ve ever thought, “I could write a book about my life…” but don’t know where to start—this episode is for you.
In this powerful conversation, I sit down with author and storytelling coach Heather Hutzel, who has written over 20 books and spent the last two decades mastering the art of storytelling.
We dive into what actually makes a story compel...
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Venting can feel good in the moment—but what if constantly talking about your pain is actually keeping you stuck?
In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden dangers of co-rumination—the cycle of repeatedly discussing problems, betrayal, stress, or emotional wounds with others in a way that reinforces pain instead of helping you heal. While validation and support are...
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In this powerful episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, we dive deep into neurodivergence, neuroplasticity, and what it truly means to work with your brain instead of against it — especially when you're recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, or toxic relationships that made you believe something was fundamentally wrong with you.
What we cover:
- What neurod...
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Imposter syndrome after emotional abuse looks like doubting your memory.
Minimizing what happened. Feeling dramatic for having boundaries.
Questioning whether it was “really that bad.”
In this episode, we unpack how emotional abuse and trauma conditioning create deep self-doubt — and why you feel like an imposter in your own story.
You’ll lea...
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Have you ever walked away from a relationship wondering how you became so confused, reactive, or unsure of yourself? In this episode, we unpack why so many emotionally intelligent, self-aware people end up questioning their own reality in unhealthy relationships—and why that doesn’t mean anything was wrong with you.
You’ll learn how emotional inconsistency, mixed signa...
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In this episode of the "Be A Better You Podcast," we're diving deeper into the journey of breaking trauma bonds, offering advanced strategies and practical tools for healing. Building on discussions about identifying and challenging harmful beliefs, this episode focuses on actionable steps to reprogram the mind, foster self-compassion, and establish healthy boundaries.
We'll begin...
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After emotional abuse, it’s common to either distrust everyone or to rely too heavily on words, promises, and explanations. In this episode, we talk about how to rebuild discernment by learning how to read people accurately—through patterns of behavior rather than intention or language.
We explore why accepting what someone says over what they consistently do often leads to ...
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Many people don’t relate to the word abuse—not because nothing happened, but because emotional control often doesn’t look dramatic, obvious, or cruel. In emotionally abusive or controlling relationships, the most damaging patterns are often subtle, gradual, and reinforced in ways that are easy to miss while you’re in them.
In this episode, we explore the subtle s...
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