ADOPTION STRUGGLES AND SUPPORT | Adoption Trauma, Parenting Guides, Biblical Encouragement, Respite, Healthy Relationships

Could it be that the very struggles you've walked through have prepared you to encourage someone else?

Hi Neighbor!⁣

Why do bad things happen in life?

Some might say, “That’s just life.” But I believe there’s a deeper meaning behind that question, something worth pausing to reflect on.

In this episode, let’s reframe that narrative together. I’ll share a moment from David’s life in Psalm 13, a powerful example from Paul in 2 Corinth...

Even adults who haven’t been through trauma can tell you that it’s sometimes difficult to talk about our feelings. I think that is the beauty of music therapy. Because clients can come. They don’t necessarily need to say exactly what they want to explore. We can just explore in music.

Hi Neighbor,

Did you know that music can be a powerful tool for healing in the lives of adopted children navigating trauma?

Today, I’m excited to wel...

Sometimes, life has a way of knocking the wind out of us, suddenly and without warning.

Hi Neighbor,

How do you navigate those unexpected changes or losses that shake your world?

Over time, I’ve learned to find steady ground through simple practices, prayer, journaling, or even a quiet walk outside. In the midst of grief, these anchors have become pockets of peace.

I’ve also come to lean on the people in my life, my anchors. Friend...

When your adopted child is struggling, how can you support them while being okay yourself?

Hi Neighbor,

Ever felt like your adopted child was stuck in an emotional ditch?

Today’s segment, Getting Out of the Ditch, comes from Episode 183. Jane Baker uses a powerful metaphor: if your child is down in a ditch, you can’t help them by jumping in after them. 

I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas t...

As adoptive parents, we often face incredibly challenging moments, especially when our kids are struggling or make choices that push us to the brink.

Hi Neighbor,

When things go south, what can you do? You can call the therapist, the case worker, or sometimes, even the police. But what’s next? How can you be okay even if your kids aren’t?

Today’s segment, Call for Pizza, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, ta...

He was called son. He was called grandson. He was called nephew. He was called cousin, and he was called brother.

But he was never called husband. He was never called daddy, and he was never called grandpa because he never came home.

I hope when I’m finished telling you his story, you might consider calling him hero.

Hi Neighbor,

This episode was recorded as we prepare to celebrate Memorial Day in the United States. The federal hol...

Feeling overwhelmed as an adoptive parent? You can’t pour from an empty cup!

Hi Neighbor,

Parenting, especially in adoptive families, can be overwhelming. There’s only so much you can give before you have nothing more to offer.

Today’s segment, The Magic Is in Nurturing Your Relationships, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you.

What fills your cup? 

A...

Life as an adoptive family can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. What can adoptive parents do to help their family connect and find calm when feeling overwhelmed or stressed? 

Hi Neighbor,

As adoptive parents, it’s easy to get swept away by busy schedules and endless to-dos. Life will pile on demands until you intentionally slow down. It’s okay to say no to yet another commitment and just spend quiet time together.

Today’s segmen...

Parenting an adopted child comes with unique challenges, and healing starts with you. Here’s how to truly support your adopted child and yourself.

Hi Neighbor,

Navigating the intricate journey of adoptive parenting presents unexpected hurdles, especially when trauma, healing, and family history are involved. 

Today’s segment, Don’t Be Afraid to Go to Therapy, comes from Episode 183. As adoptive parents, it’s okay to seek therapy fo...

Unresolved grief isn’t always obvious: Grief in adopted children often goes unrecognized, especially in the early years. Challenging behaviors aren’t always just a phase, they can be signals of deeper emotional pain.

Hi Neighbor,

As adoptive parents, we strive to create safe and loving homes. Yet, sometimes, deeper emotional layers, like unresolved grief, can go unnoticed in our children.

Today’s segment, Manifestations of Unresolv...

A lot of times, adopted children find it difficult to open up to their parents about the struggles they face regarding their adoption. Why is that?

Hi Neighbor,

Adoptive parenting isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Understanding the hidden struggles of adopted kids can transform how we support and connect with them. Here are some powerful insights you NEED to hear.

Today’s segment, Understanding the Hidden Struggles of Adopted Childr...

You can’t heal your child’s pain for them! What can adoptive parents do?

Hi Neighbor,

In this episode, I want to introduce a new format derived from the more information-packed episodes— short, digestible segments, each centering around a single key concept to support you on your parenting journey.

Today’s segment, Adoption is Like a Car Accident, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with t...

It’s not uncommon for me to start getting them at about 11 or 12 because parents have noticed a big shift. When we start getting into it... a lot of it connects back to sadness, grieving, and loss about why didn’t they keep me? What’s wrong with me?

Hi Neighbor,

Adoption is built on loss. It’s a journey of processing this loss, especially during the preteen and teen years. Parents can’t heal these wounds for their children, but the...

Would he hate us for loving him this much? We didn’t know. Would he see this as the ultimate act of betrayal? We didn’t know. Would he embrace the help we had finally found for him? We didn’t know. What we did know was our son needed help, help our love couldn't give him. 

Hi Neighbor,

Can you imagine the heartbreak of watching your child struggle with emotions so raw and unfamiliar, you don’t even know what they mean, let alone ho...

To some extent, the adoption journey will take a personal toll on you. You might find it difficult to keep yourself regulated. There could be times when you’re easily triggered. You could experience physical and emotional abuse. 

There might be times when you feel overwhelmed. You can’t breathe. You’re out of control. You feel like you’re drowning. What do you do? May I suggest you practice respite? 

Hi Neighbor,

Feeling overwhelme...

When I work with parents, they ask me, have I done it right? Did I do something wrong? How could I have done it better? There is a lot of self-reflection, which is really healthy. But I’m also mindful of the emotional burden that adoptive parents carry all the time. ~Crystal Luk-Worrall

Hi Neighbor,

EMDR therapy for kids? Yes! Initially, for soldiers with PTSD, this therapy helps children process memories, especially those who can'...

When I saw it, my heart sank. I thought I had just killed my boys.

Hi Neighbor,

I’m switching things up today! Instead of talking about adoption, I want to bring you a message of encouragement.

We all face storms in life, and in this episode, I’ll share a weather-related story that reflects that struggle. It might start a little rough, but hang in there—I promise it’s leading somewhere inspiring!

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on ...

Hi Neighbor,

As adoptive parents, we often find ourselves grappling with questions, fears, and challenges unique to the adoption journey.

In this episode, I want to share 3 stories that shape Adoption Struggles and Support. This podcast is deeply personal. Yes, it’s to support adoptive parents, but it’s also much more. 

I want you to know, you’re not alone.

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way. Your Neighbor, Tim

P.S. You’re ...

“Take hold of my instructions. Don’t let them go. Guard them, for they are the key to life.” ~Proverbs 4:13

Hi Neighbor,

How can adoptive parents be okay even if their kids aren’t? May I suggest you hold on to an anchor.

In this episode, I’ll consider a concept I call an ”anchor point,” which involves anchoring yourself in biblical principles to find guidance and peace during challenging times. 

I’ll also share a story from our pri...