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If you’ve ever felt like no one truly understands what you’re going through as an adoptive parent, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.

Hi Neighbor,

Today marks not only our 200th episode, but also the third anniversary of this podcast. What started as a simple idea and a backyard walk has now grown into a global community of adoptive parents seeking encouragement, connection, and biblical hope.

In this milestone episode, I’ll t...

Have you ever been so frustrated by things going on around you that you couldn't see clearly, you couldn't think clearly, your judgment was impaired? What's a person to do about that? May I suggest you work on raising your awareness?

Hi Neighbor!

In this episode, I share a personal story about a time when I became so frustrated that I almost missed a positive opportunity that was right in front of me.

It’s something I need a consta...

Is adoption life chaotic for you? Is it even possible to find peace in the middle of meltdowns, uncertainty, and daily struggles?

I believe it is. Not just to see calm from a distance but to actually experience it, even in the middle of the storm. 

But first, you’ll need to become a copycat.

Hi Neighbor,

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious as an adoptive parent, you’re not alone. Anxiety Management is a real need in the trench...

Have you ever felt completely alone—like you were the only one facing something so hard it seemed no one else could understand? What do you do in those moments? Who do you turn to?

If you’re an adoptive parent feeling that way right now, may I gently suggest this: it’s time to grab hold of an anchor.

Hi Neighbor,⁣

I’m imagining an adoptive parent listening to this episode, feeling isolated and overwhelmed. I know that feeling well ...

“By the time he left, I felt like I was close to a mental breakdown. And I would tell my husband over and over, I can’t do this much longer. I just can’t. 

You know, I would go sit in the Walmart parking lot for three hours until he went to bed. And so I was avoiding my whole family. That affected my husband because here my husband is supposed to be my protector, but legally he can’t protect me against this thirteen-year-old who’s ...

Could it be that the very struggles you've walked through have prepared you to encourage someone else?

Hi Neighbor!⁣

Why do bad things happen in life?

Some might say, “That’s just life.” But I believe there’s a deeper meaning behind that question, something worth pausing to reflect on.

In this episode, let’s reframe that narrative together. I’ll share a moment from David’s life in Psalm 13, a powerful example from Paul in 2 Corinth...

Even adults who haven’t been through trauma can tell you that it’s sometimes difficult to talk about our feelings. I think that is the beauty of music therapy. Because clients can come. They don’t necessarily need to say exactly what they want to explore. We can just explore in music.

Hi Neighbor,

Did you know that music can be a powerful tool for healing in the lives of adopted children navigating trauma?

Today, I’m excited to wel...

Sometimes, life has a way of knocking the wind out of us, suddenly and without warning.

Hi Neighbor,

How do you navigate those unexpected changes or losses that shake your world?

Over time, I’ve learned to find steady ground through simple practices, prayer, journaling, or even a quiet walk outside. In the midst of grief, these anchors have become pockets of peace.

I’ve also come to lean on the people in my life, my anchors. Friend...

When your adopted child is struggling, how can you support them while being okay yourself?

Hi Neighbor,

Ever felt like your adopted child was stuck in an emotional ditch?

Today’s segment, Getting Out of the Ditch, comes from Episode 183. Jane Baker uses a powerful metaphor: if your child is down in a ditch, you can’t help them by jumping in after them. 

I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas t...

As adoptive parents, we often face incredibly challenging moments, especially when our kids are struggling or make choices that push us to the brink.

Hi Neighbor,

When things go south, what can you do? You can call the therapist, the case worker, or sometimes, even the police. But what’s next? How can you be okay even if your kids aren’t?

Today’s segment, Call for Pizza, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, ta...

He was called son. He was called grandson. He was called nephew. He was called cousin, and he was called brother.

But he was never called husband. He was never called daddy, and he was never called grandpa because he never came home.

I hope when I’m finished telling you his story, you might consider calling him hero.

Hi Neighbor,

This episode was recorded as we prepare to celebrate Memorial Day in the United States. The federal hol...

Feeling overwhelmed as an adoptive parent? You can’t pour from an empty cup!

Hi Neighbor,

Parenting, especially in adoptive families, can be overwhelming. There’s only so much you can give before you have nothing more to offer.

Today’s segment, The Magic Is in Nurturing Your Relationships, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you.

What fills your cup? 

A...

Life as an adoptive family can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. What can adoptive parents do to help their family connect and find calm when feeling overwhelmed or stressed? 

Hi Neighbor,

As adoptive parents, it’s easy to get swept away by busy schedules and endless to-dos. Life will pile on demands until you intentionally slow down. It’s okay to say no to yet another commitment and just spend quiet time together.

Today’s segmen...

Parenting an adopted child comes with unique challenges, and healing starts with you. Here’s how to truly support your adopted child and yourself.

Hi Neighbor,

Navigating the intricate journey of adoptive parenting presents unexpected hurdles, especially when trauma, healing, and family history are involved. 

Today’s segment, Don’t Be Afraid to Go to Therapy, comes from Episode 183. As adoptive parents, it’s okay to seek therapy fo...

Unresolved grief isn’t always obvious: Grief in adopted children often goes unrecognized, especially in the early years. Challenging behaviors aren’t always just a phase, they can be signals of deeper emotional pain.

Hi Neighbor,

As adoptive parents, we strive to create safe and loving homes. Yet, sometimes, deeper emotional layers, like unresolved grief, can go unnoticed in our children.

Today’s segment, Manifestations of Unresolv...

A lot of times, adopted children find it difficult to open up to their parents about the struggles they face regarding their adoption. Why is that?

Hi Neighbor,

Adoptive parenting isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Understanding the hidden struggles of adopted kids can transform how we support and connect with them. Here are some powerful insights you NEED to hear.

Today’s segment, Understanding the Hidden Struggles of Adopted Childr...

You can’t heal your child’s pain for them! What can adoptive parents do?

Hi Neighbor,

In this episode, I want to introduce a new format derived from the more information-packed episodes— short, digestible segments, each centering around a single key concept to support you on your parenting journey.

Today’s segment, Adoption is Like a Car Accident, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with t...

It’s not uncommon for me to start getting them at about 11 or 12 because parents have noticed a big shift. When we start getting into it... a lot of it connects back to sadness, grieving, and loss about why didn’t they keep me? What’s wrong with me?

Hi Neighbor,

Adoption is built on loss. It’s a journey of processing this loss, especially during the preteen and teen years. Parents can’t heal these wounds for their children, but the...

Would he hate us for loving him this much? We didn’t know. Would he see this as the ultimate act of betrayal? We didn’t know. Would he embrace the help we had finally found for him? We didn’t know. What we did know was our son needed help, help our love couldn't give him. 

Hi Neighbor,

Can you imagine the heartbreak of watching your child struggle with emotions so raw and unfamiliar, you don’t even know what they mean, let alone ho...