March 11, 2024 • 17 mins
After we heard Andrew was seeing a life coach, we feel inspired to do the same. We discuss what we think we would need to work on with the coach if we had one.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What would you talk about on your on your podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Fling show And here we go the fifteen minute morning
show podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
We have a skeleton crew today. A lot of people
are out.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Let's see Scotty Bees in Austin for the iHeartRadio Podcast Awards.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah. Uh, Nate is on a conference call. Yeah, and
it's just us.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
It's gonna be weird about Scotty because you know, one
or two appropriate things per podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I know he's going to talk about pooping and having
sex with the with a stuffed animal.
Speaker 5 (00:40):
I can come close.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But okay, okay, good.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Garrett's here, there's Gandhi, Scotty Scary is here, and there's
what there is, and there's Danielle Hello. You know we
had Andrew on earlier, who, by the way, is also
in Austin for the Podcast Awards for Serial Killers. He
was talking about the fact that he now has a
life coach and iHeart being the great company they are.
(01:03):
We love working with iHeart. They actually offer you eight sessions?
Is it eight sessions?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Gondi?
Speaker 6 (01:09):
Yes, eight for the year.
Speaker 7 (01:11):
What else?
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Is there anything else on the list that we have
coming to us that we don't know about?
Speaker 6 (01:17):
You know, I'd have to investigate. I don't know. I
haven't really done a deep dive into our insurance.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
There used to be chiropractic and acupuncture. I don't know
if it's still there, but I actually I think chiropractor
is because I go to a chiropractor. I don't know
if acupuncture is still there, but I know those two
things were there.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
What if we get like free steaks and food.
Speaker 6 (01:38):
We've really been missing out?
Speaker 5 (01:39):
Then I know we get a spirit day. We get
a spirit day and a mental health date.
Speaker 6 (01:43):
It's a spirit day, which a spirit day, it's.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
A day off.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
I don't know what a spirit day. It just says
it like we when we do like put in for vacation.
Speaker 6 (01:52):
Spirit day.
Speaker 8 (01:54):
Yeah, it's supposed to be something that you do to
like legitimately uplift your spirit.
Speaker 6 (01:58):
So you're supposed to take the day off and then
go volunteer somewhere or go learn.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
So yeah, it's now to have to improve like a
receipt from your volunteery, not that I know of.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
But see what else is coming to us? I mean, like, Omaha, steaks,
it'd be great.
Speaker 6 (02:12):
Like it's part of your health insurance.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Once per month, we get some steaks, all right, so
spirit day, okay, But this live coach thing, I've always
wanted to go meet with a live coach always.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Have you ever thought about it?
Speaker 8 (02:29):
Absolutely, especially when Andrew was saying that it's it's just
kind of basic every day stuff that you can tweak,
not the deep dive into why you are the way
you are from your childhood. It's just like, hey, I
have this one area of my life that need a
little bit of help in.
Speaker 6 (02:42):
Can you help me out? And that's what it's for.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, wow, Yeah, I can give you a list of
forty thousand things that I need help with, Like, Ghandi,
what would be one thing you'd like.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
To work on?
Speaker 6 (02:55):
Oh? Man, I mean there are a lot, but I
definitely so.
Speaker 8 (02:59):
I was raised in a household where I was taught
that sugarcoating gives you cavity, So just be direct about
what you have to say. As I have grown up,
I've realized that a lot of people take directness as
negative confrontation. So if I see a problem and I think, hey,
we can fix this, I would just say, hey, I
think this is a problem, let's fix it, when oftentimes
(03:20):
the person on the receiving end will shut their ears
off after Oh, there's a problem because they think that
whatever's coming is something bad. And I never looked at
it that way because I just think, let's not waste time,
let's get to it.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Let's fix this. Where a lot of people.
Speaker 8 (03:33):
Really need that fluff and that sugarcoating around it. So
I would like to get better at that and figure
out how to sugarcoat things.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
I guess, well, no, please don't do that.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
I mean, I don't want to.
Speaker 8 (03:45):
I think it's a waste of time. But I have noticed,
you know, if what I want is a positive outcome
from another person, then I can't just keep, you know,
barreling ahead and expecting everyone else to change. Maybe I
need to be the one that adjusts a little bit.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Idea. How about this, If you want to to me
with something we need to work on, I want you
to ask me a question first. Okay, shall I sugarcoat
this or not?
Speaker 8 (04:10):
Nobody will say yes no, but they always want the yes.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
Most people want the yes.
Speaker 8 (04:15):
With you, Elvis, I probably wouldn't sugarcoat it because you
and I have a very clear relationship where I don't
need to.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But there are other people that really.
Speaker 8 (04:22):
Need that because they will take it as offensive instead
of like constructive.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Maybe their life coach session should be about how I
should be able to talk about things without having it sugarcoated.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (04:34):
I would love to believe that the problem is everybody
else and not me. I really would, But I feel
like I'm the common denominator in every one of these things.
So it's just something to work on. It doesn't mean
I'm gonna do it all the time, but something.
Speaker 6 (04:44):
To work on.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I blame it on my Danielle.
Speaker 6 (04:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I feel like definitely carving more time in the day,
managing my time better, a life coach is good, I
think for that, and like, you know, just being able
to you know, do that. And then I have a
lot of ideas for things that I never like get
to implement, Like I'm.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
Starting to do them a little bit more.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Like you know, with my comedy thing and you know,
the Haunted House and like little things here and there,
but like I want, I have other ideas that I
want to do, and I feel like, well, how do
I do it? How do I find the time, how
do I whatever? You know, So that kind of a
thing I think would be good to talk to somebody about.
Speaker 9 (05:20):
Scary What about you, well, no, Well, to Gandhi's point earlier,
the more I'm hearing from all you guys about having
a life coach, the more I'm realizing I probably need
one because of my terrible upbringing. And it wasn't my
own fault or my parents' fault. It was because of
a generational thing. As a gen xer, we were always
told kids should be seen and not heard, so we
(05:41):
would internalize everything and keep things bottled up. Now, I
feel like with a life coach, maybe, you know, going
to somebody like that could help me, you know, identify
what it is I may want to work on and
move forward.
Speaker 7 (05:57):
With it, if you know, if that's what we're talking about, you.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Know, we'll say, so, where do you draw the line
between therapy and life coach?
Speaker 1 (06:03):
And I think that would be a therapy thing.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
I think she would probably say the same thing.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 9 (06:09):
Well, you said there's a clear difference between therapy and
life coaching, So a life coach, which there is, would
would handle what I think.
Speaker 8 (06:18):
I don't know specifically, but from what I'm hearing and gathering,
I think the life coach is more social dilemmas in
your life that are easily fixable, versus therapy, which is
a deep dive into your past and maybe resolving some trauma.
Speaker 7 (06:31):
Maybe you need to layer it.
Speaker 9 (06:32):
I mean, can you have a life coach without therapy first,
or you need to have therapy first.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Then the same time, my friends go to life coaches
because they're at an impasse where they want a new career,
where they want, you know, something else, and they just
can't get over that hump and they just don't know
how to go about it, and or they don't know
what they're looking for, so they go to the life
coach to kind of help them, you know, maybe figure
out in their head what they're looking for.
Speaker 6 (06:59):
When your thing be oh god, you know what?
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Motivation? Motivation and payoff. Procrastination is my worst enemy. I'll
come up with a great idea and I'll start to
put things into motion and I'll start the engine and
then it fizzles.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And I don't know if it's because I just am lazy,
or I am afraid of the outcome, or I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So mine is possibly the thin line between therapy and
life coaching.
Speaker 6 (07:32):
Yeh oh okay. I think sometimes when I.
Speaker 8 (07:35):
Feel that way, oh, I just cut you off, go ahead, No,
go ahead, go ahead. Well, I think when I feel
that way a lot of times, it's because I'm trying
to take too big of a step instead of taking
the little one. And when you try to take the
big one, then it feels overwhelming. But when you take
the little one, you're like, Okay, I can do this.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
I'm looking online and just did a random search for
topics for life coaching. Number one, defining your personal value.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Use Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
What stands out to you when you think of success?
How do you like to spend your free time? What
activities make you happy and fulfilled? That's important stuff, right, I.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Think all that's good.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Yeah, identifying your life goals, like what is it? You know?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I'll use me as an example, because well, I know me,
you know, Harry, I'm a sixty year old guy who's.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Been doing this morning show for how many years? To
almost thirty years?
Speaker 7 (08:26):
Right?
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Almost half of my life? Yeah, I mean in radio
since I was eighteen years old or fourteen years old?
Oh yeah, well what's left? What else is there out there?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You know? It's like I have this much of my
life left. What am I to do with that space? Right?
I think that would be a great life coach thing.
I got to where you are in life.
Speaker 8 (08:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
I always get nervous when people are like, oh, you know,
I'm saving all this for retirement and when I retire,
we're going to do this, We're gonna do that. And
then I get nervous thinking what if we don't.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Make it to that and we didn't do it.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
We didn't do it now like we wait very good,
you know like that. That is something that makes me
nervous all the time, like, yeah, this is great that
we're getting ready with a little mess egg.
Speaker 9 (09:02):
But whatever you No, I don't want to be the
richest guy in the cemetery. I've said it before. I
want to spend, I want to do, I want to explore.
I'm this is this was the new me from the
past couple of years. Now, I'm just trying to travel
to different places and like that. But but it's that
a life But that's not a life goal, right, I mean,
but it's not a worthwhile.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
You're mixing in You're mixing in your your happy, go
lucky scary with going going to the office as well.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Right, you're making them both work together.
Speaker 9 (09:30):
But should I be looking for a deeper layer here,
a deeper cause, something more worthwhile or worthy, or something
larger than me?
Speaker 7 (09:38):
Uh that than just well, this.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Question is do you need to do? That is the question.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Maybe that's what the life coach can help you discover,
like do you need or do you have a chunk
of your being missing because you're not chasing something more
meaningful and deeper.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
I feel rather complete right now.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I don't go with that, then go with that?
Speaker 7 (10:01):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Developing a positive mindset is another thing.
Speaker 8 (10:04):
Yes, God, I feel like that one's so important. I mean,
we've talked about gratitude and how it rewires your brain
and makes you think completely differently about everything that you face.
And instead of focusing on everything you don't have, why
not turn it around and focus on all the things
you do have. We have so much, Most people do
have really good things.
Speaker 6 (10:21):
And even if it's just your.
Speaker 8 (10:23):
Health that is so important, don't take advantage of it
and disregard it.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I think, I think, I think with Marilyn Monroe or
somebody that said, crave what you have, not what you
don't oo mar Her or I don't know, Adam, one
of my girls.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
It could have been Audrey Hepbrn overcoming self doubt and
negative thinking.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Hell life coach. Yeah, that inner voice that that kind
of fucks with us a little bit.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
That's probably a big thing with your life, coach, is
like trying to get you out of that negative space
and that I can't do it or I'm not worthy
that that type of.
Speaker 5 (10:59):
That's my biggest problem. Yeah, seriously, that inner voice is
like it takes over sometimes and it's just like I
almost have to like break out of my house and
like go for a walk because it just gets so
clouded at times.
Speaker 8 (11:09):
Yeah, I get that. I think my inner voice is
kind of a crackhead because she tells me all kinds
of things that are just not true.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Oh my god.
Speaker 8 (11:20):
She never tells me that I can't do anything. She
tells me I can do everything. And then I get
into things and I'm like, who did you think you
were to start doing this? That was crazy? Or she'll
tell me all look great before I leave the house
and then I'll see myself on camera and I'm like,
you lying, bitch, how dare you tell me.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
That I looked?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Okay? I love the relationship you have with your interview.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
I'll trust her. I don't trust her at.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
All, let's see.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Building self confidence is in there. Setting healthy boundaries. You know,
this is what we were talking about with Andrew earlier.
Boundaries are so important. You have to be able to
say no when you don't want to do something.
Speaker 6 (11:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Look, you don't have to say no every time. Sometimes
you may want to go I don't want to do this,
but I feel like I should. It's okay, there's nothing
wrong with that. But every single time, letting someone plow
over you and yeah, letting them tell you how you're
gonna live your life.
Speaker 4 (12:09):
I learned that in see was it high school? There
was a friend that I had, and she used to
always walk all over me and like try to tell
me what to do, and it had to be her
way or the highway. And I remember saying to her mom,
I've had it with your daughter. I'm not doing this anymore.
I'm going to do what I want to do. And
that was the first time I put my foot down
and I stopped listening to what that girl said, and
(12:31):
I was like, I don't care.
Speaker 7 (12:33):
What if?
Speaker 9 (12:34):
What if your boundaries are met with resistance? I mean
meaning like I don't know. You said, you set a boundary,
you align the sand on something. But the person that
that's maybe I don't know in your life that you
know will have a problem with that or you know,
because so where is there a compromise there or is
(12:55):
there just you just butt heads and you thought of
as a shithead.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Well, at what point in your life will you do
it your way? That's that's the question.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Yeah, I mean, how long can you go in your life?
It's just okay, I'd rather just not have confrontation with him.
Someone's going to do.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It versus that's not good for me. That doesn't work
for me.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
So I love you, I love our relationship as friends
or whatever, but that doesn't work for me.
Speaker 7 (13:24):
You know that's true.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
I don't think your shiphead.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
If you say that to me, it actually makes me
actively listen to what you're saying and give you the
space and the microphone is say what's on your mind?
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Elvis.
Speaker 5 (13:35):
I mean, over the course of our relationship to here
at work, you know, you've been blunt with me at times,
and I've told you, I go I appreciate it because
it only it only makes me better personally, because I
think a lot of people just kind of like Gandhi
was saying just sugarcoat things and aren't as direct, so
it does all it does is just hurts you at.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
The end of the day.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Well, don't you think though, being blunt is kind of
well not blunt.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Maybe that wasn't the right word, but you know what
I mean, like more direct.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Well being direct, if I if I'm direct with anyone
on the show, it's it's twofold. It's actually, in my opinion,
it's something you probably need to hear.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But that's my opinion, and also it's good for the show.
I think it also depends on something we all have
to keep an eye on.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, Like I think sometimes you know, you can be
blunt and straight to the point with certain things that
you know, okay, But then if it's something that would
really hurt somebody's feelings to the point where like that
be really really upset, maybe I have to go a
little bit, you know, little tippy toes, maybe a little
bit more, or find another way to say it without
pissing them all.
Speaker 6 (14:35):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (14:36):
I thought feelings don't count in this.
Speaker 6 (14:37):
No, it depends on what it is.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
I mean, you got to really think about the situation,
because every situation is different and.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Feelings always count, but sometimes you have to look over those.
Here's the problem with what we do here. We have
clocks ticking. Yeah, we have crunch time now for four
hours a day, it's crunch time, and sometimes it.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Gets a little heated. To get the point across, we
have to do.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
This now because we don't have time. We don't have
time to sit here and argue about or debate it. Right,
it's a weird situation we're in.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
So we switch over to a four hour podcast instead.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
Are you crazy? What's wrong with you?
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Get him out of the studio.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
The final, the final thing on this list of life
coaching topics that lead to transformation and breakthroughs embracing and
manifesting change.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
Oh my god, Yeah it is positive.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Oh my god. Sometimes you gotta just break it, you
know what, what do you think?
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Absolutely?
Speaker 8 (15:35):
I think that's the one thing that is really hard
for so many people is to just accept change and
roll with the change. But they say all the time
that the number one aspect any being needs for evolution
and to survive is adaptability and flexibility, and that goes
with change. If something changes, you can adjust yourself around it.
If you want to keep being a brick wall. You're
not going to go anywhere you need to be like
(15:56):
water flow like water.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
Unless it's a negative change. Then I think you have
to remove yourself from that situation at that point and
say I can't do this, this is not how I
feel or whatever, and then you do something else, you
find something else.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
So what changes are we making?
Speaker 6 (16:12):
You know what I want to mean?
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I want to meet the life coach that has all
their shit together, because really think about it, you're a
life coach giving someone else's advice. Do you take your
own advice?
Speaker 6 (16:21):
That's what I want to know.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Probably not.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You know a lot of really really strong, smart therapist
will tell you, hey, man, I don't always preach what
I say, but what I'm saying is perfect for what
you need to hear.
Speaker 6 (16:33):
Yeah, that's cool. Those who don't do coach.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I think we've I think we've filled We're about to
fifteen minutes here, Well.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
We're getting closer to scaries four hours. We're going like
almost seventeen.
Speaker 6 (16:51):
Fifteen sixteen cent. How many minutes are we owed?
Speaker 5 (16:53):
Now?
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Is it a credit?
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (16:55):
That's a credit, and this is not a skeleton crew.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I know. All right, Well that was great I feel like.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
I need to make a sexual comment or something about poop,
like Scotty would say.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 6 (17:07):
I don't know poop in.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
The bowl.
Speaker 6 (17:12):
The teddy Bear.
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Like Scotty's here.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
Alright, guys, bar long the fifteen minute morning Show
What would you talk about on your on your podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Fling show And here we go the fifteen minute morning
show podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
We have a skeleton crew today. A lot of people
are out.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Let's see Scotty Bees in Austin for the iHeartRadio Podcast Awards.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah. Uh, Nate is on a conference call. Yeah, and
it's just us.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
It's gonna be weird about Scotty because you know, one
or two appropriate things per podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I know he's going to talk about pooping and having
sex with the with a stuffed animal.
Speaker 5 (00:40):
I can come close.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But okay, okay, good.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Garrett's here, there's Gandhi, Scotty Scary is here, and there's
what there is, and there's Danielle Hello. You know we
had Andrew on earlier, who, by the way, is also
in Austin for the Podcast Awards for Serial Killers. He
was talking about the fact that he now has a
life coach and iHeart being the great company they are.
(01:03):
We love working with iHeart. They actually offer you eight sessions?
Is it eight sessions?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Gondi?
Speaker 6 (01:09):
Yes, eight for the year.
Speaker 7 (01:11):
What else?
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Is there anything else on the list that we have
coming to us that we don't know about?
Speaker 6 (01:17):
You know, I'd have to investigate. I don't know. I
haven't really done a deep dive into our insurance.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
There used to be chiropractic and acupuncture. I don't know
if it's still there, but I actually I think chiropractor
is because I go to a chiropractor. I don't know
if acupuncture is still there, but I know those two
things were there.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
What if we get like free steaks and food.
Speaker 6 (01:38):
We've really been missing out?
Speaker 5 (01:39):
Then I know we get a spirit day. We get
a spirit day and a mental health date.
Speaker 6 (01:43):
It's a spirit day, which a spirit day, it's.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
A day off.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
I don't know what a spirit day. It just says
it like we when we do like put in for vacation.
Speaker 6 (01:52):
Spirit day.
Speaker 8 (01:54):
Yeah, it's supposed to be something that you do to
like legitimately uplift your spirit.
Speaker 6 (01:58):
So you're supposed to take the day off and then
go volunteer somewhere or go learn.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
So yeah, it's now to have to improve like a
receipt from your volunteery, not that I know of.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
But see what else is coming to us? I mean, like, Omaha, steaks,
it'd be great.
Speaker 6 (02:12):
Like it's part of your health insurance.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Once per month, we get some steaks, all right, so
spirit day, okay, But this live coach thing, I've always
wanted to go meet with a live coach always.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Have you ever thought about it?
Speaker 8 (02:29):
Absolutely, especially when Andrew was saying that it's it's just
kind of basic every day stuff that you can tweak,
not the deep dive into why you are the way
you are from your childhood. It's just like, hey, I
have this one area of my life that need a
little bit of help in.
Speaker 6 (02:42):
Can you help me out? And that's what it's for.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, wow, Yeah, I can give you a list of
forty thousand things that I need help with, Like, Ghandi,
what would be one thing you'd like.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
To work on?
Speaker 6 (02:55):
Oh? Man, I mean there are a lot, but I
definitely so.
Speaker 8 (02:59):
I was raised in a household where I was taught
that sugarcoating gives you cavity, So just be direct about
what you have to say. As I have grown up,
I've realized that a lot of people take directness as
negative confrontation. So if I see a problem and I think, hey,
we can fix this, I would just say, hey, I
think this is a problem, let's fix it, when oftentimes
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the person on the receiving end will shut their ears
off after Oh, there's a problem because they think that
whatever's coming is something bad. And I never looked at
it that way because I just think, let's not waste time,
let's get to it.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Let's fix this. Where a lot of people.
Speaker 8 (03:33):
Really need that fluff and that sugarcoating around it. So
I would like to get better at that and figure
out how to sugarcoat things.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
I guess, well, no, please don't do that.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
I mean, I don't want to.
Speaker 8 (03:45):
I think it's a waste of time. But I have noticed,
you know, if what I want is a positive outcome
from another person, then I can't just keep, you know,
barreling ahead and expecting everyone else to change. Maybe I
need to be the one that adjusts a little bit.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Idea. How about this, If you want to to me
with something we need to work on, I want you
to ask me a question first. Okay, shall I sugarcoat
this or not?
Speaker 8 (04:10):
Nobody will say yes no, but they always want the yes.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
Most people want the yes.
Speaker 8 (04:15):
With you, Elvis, I probably wouldn't sugarcoat it because you
and I have a very clear relationship where I don't
need to.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
But there are other people that really.
Speaker 8 (04:22):
Need that because they will take it as offensive instead
of like constructive.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Maybe their life coach session should be about how I
should be able to talk about things without having it sugarcoated.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (04:34):
I would love to believe that the problem is everybody
else and not me. I really would, But I feel
like I'm the common denominator in every one of these things.
So it's just something to work on. It doesn't mean
I'm gonna do it all the time, but something.
Speaker 6 (04:44):
To work on.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I blame it on my Danielle.
Speaker 6 (04:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I feel like definitely carving more time in the day,
managing my time better, a life coach is good, I
think for that, and like, you know, just being able
to you know, do that. And then I have a
lot of ideas for things that I never like get
to implement, Like I'm.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
Starting to do them a little bit more.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Like you know, with my comedy thing and you know,
the Haunted House and like little things here and there,
but like I want, I have other ideas that I
want to do, and I feel like, well, how do
I do it? How do I find the time, how
do I whatever? You know, So that kind of a
thing I think would be good to talk to somebody about.
Speaker 9 (05:20):
Scary What about you, well, no, Well, to Gandhi's point earlier,
the more I'm hearing from all you guys about having
a life coach, the more I'm realizing I probably need
one because of my terrible upbringing. And it wasn't my
own fault or my parents' fault. It was because of
a generational thing. As a gen xer, we were always
told kids should be seen and not heard, so we
(05:41):
would internalize everything and keep things bottled up. Now, I
feel like with a life coach, maybe, you know, going
to somebody like that could help me, you know, identify
what it is I may want to work on and
move forward.
Speaker 7 (05:57):
With it, if you know, if that's what we're talking about, you.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Know, we'll say, so, where do you draw the line
between therapy and life coach?
Speaker 1 (06:03):
And I think that would be a therapy thing.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
I think she would probably say the same thing.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 9 (06:09):
Well, you said there's a clear difference between therapy and
life coaching, So a life coach, which there is, would
would handle what I think.
Speaker 8 (06:18):
I don't know specifically, but from what I'm hearing and gathering,
I think the life coach is more social dilemmas in
your life that are easily fixable, versus therapy, which is
a deep dive into your past and maybe resolving some trauma.
Speaker 7 (06:31):
Maybe you need to layer it.
Speaker 9 (06:32):
I mean, can you have a life coach without therapy first,
or you need to have therapy first.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Then the same time, my friends go to life coaches
because they're at an impasse where they want a new career,
where they want, you know, something else, and they just
can't get over that hump and they just don't know
how to go about it, and or they don't know
what they're looking for, so they go to the life
coach to kind of help them, you know, maybe figure
out in their head what they're looking for.
Speaker 6 (06:59):
When your thing be oh god, you know what?
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Motivation? Motivation and payoff. Procrastination is my worst enemy. I'll
come up with a great idea and I'll start to
put things into motion and I'll start the engine and
then it fizzles.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And I don't know if it's because I just am lazy,
or I am afraid of the outcome, or I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So mine is possibly the thin line between therapy and
life coaching.
Speaker 6 (07:32):
Yeh oh okay. I think sometimes when I.
Speaker 8 (07:35):
Feel that way, oh, I just cut you off, go ahead, No,
go ahead, go ahead. Well, I think when I feel
that way a lot of times, it's because I'm trying
to take too big of a step instead of taking
the little one. And when you try to take the
big one, then it feels overwhelming. But when you take
the little one, you're like, Okay, I can do this.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
I'm looking online and just did a random search for
topics for life coaching. Number one, defining your personal value.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Use Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
What stands out to you when you think of success?
How do you like to spend your free time? What
activities make you happy and fulfilled? That's important stuff, right, I.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Think all that's good.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Yeah, identifying your life goals, like what is it? You know?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I'll use me as an example, because well, I know me,
you know, Harry, I'm a sixty year old guy who's.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Been doing this morning show for how many years? To
almost thirty years?
Speaker 7 (08:26):
Right?
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Almost half of my life? Yeah, I mean in radio
since I was eighteen years old or fourteen years old?
Oh yeah, well what's left? What else is there out there?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
You know? It's like I have this much of my
life left. What am I to do with that space? Right?
I think that would be a great life coach thing.
I got to where you are in life.
Speaker 8 (08:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
I always get nervous when people are like, oh, you know,
I'm saving all this for retirement and when I retire,
we're going to do this, We're gonna do that. And
then I get nervous thinking what if we don't.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Make it to that and we didn't do it.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
We didn't do it now like we wait very good,
you know like that. That is something that makes me
nervous all the time, like, yeah, this is great that
we're getting ready with a little mess egg.
Speaker 9 (09:02):
But whatever you No, I don't want to be the
richest guy in the cemetery. I've said it before. I
want to spend, I want to do, I want to explore.
I'm this is this was the new me from the
past couple of years. Now, I'm just trying to travel
to different places and like that. But but it's that
a life But that's not a life goal, right, I mean,
but it's not a worthwhile.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
You're mixing in You're mixing in your your happy, go
lucky scary with going going to the office as well.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Right, you're making them both work together.
Speaker 9 (09:30):
But should I be looking for a deeper layer here,
a deeper cause, something more worthwhile or worthy, or something
larger than me?
Speaker 7 (09:38):
Uh that than just well, this.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Question is do you need to do? That is the question.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Maybe that's what the life coach can help you discover,
like do you need or do you have a chunk
of your being missing because you're not chasing something more
meaningful and deeper.
Speaker 7 (09:55):
I feel rather complete right now.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I don't go with that, then go with that?
Speaker 7 (10:01):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Developing a positive mindset is another thing.
Speaker 8 (10:04):
Yes, God, I feel like that one's so important. I mean,
we've talked about gratitude and how it rewires your brain
and makes you think completely differently about everything that you face.
And instead of focusing on everything you don't have, why
not turn it around and focus on all the things
you do have. We have so much, Most people do
have really good things.
Speaker 6 (10:21):
And even if it's just your.
Speaker 8 (10:23):
Health that is so important, don't take advantage of it
and disregard it.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I think, I think, I think with Marilyn Monroe or
somebody that said, crave what you have, not what you
don't oo mar Her or I don't know, Adam, one
of my girls.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
It could have been Audrey Hepbrn overcoming self doubt and
negative thinking.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Hell life coach. Yeah, that inner voice that that kind
of fucks with us a little bit.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
That's probably a big thing with your life, coach, is
like trying to get you out of that negative space
and that I can't do it or I'm not worthy
that that type of.
Speaker 5 (10:59):
That's my biggest problem. Yeah, seriously, that inner voice is
like it takes over sometimes and it's just like I
almost have to like break out of my house and
like go for a walk because it just gets so
clouded at times.
Speaker 8 (11:09):
Yeah, I get that. I think my inner voice is
kind of a crackhead because she tells me all kinds
of things that are just not true.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Oh my god.
Speaker 8 (11:20):
She never tells me that I can't do anything. She
tells me I can do everything. And then I get
into things and I'm like, who did you think you
were to start doing this? That was crazy? Or she'll
tell me all look great before I leave the house
and then I'll see myself on camera and I'm like,
you lying, bitch, how dare you tell me.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
That I looked?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Okay? I love the relationship you have with your interview.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
I'll trust her. I don't trust her at.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
All, let's see.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Building self confidence is in there. Setting healthy boundaries. You know,
this is what we were talking about with Andrew earlier.
Boundaries are so important. You have to be able to
say no when you don't want to do something.
Speaker 6 (11:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Look, you don't have to say no every time. Sometimes
you may want to go I don't want to do this,
but I feel like I should. It's okay, there's nothing
wrong with that. But every single time, letting someone plow
over you and yeah, letting them tell you how you're
gonna live your life.
Speaker 4 (12:09):
I learned that in see was it high school? There
was a friend that I had, and she used to
always walk all over me and like try to tell
me what to do, and it had to be her
way or the highway. And I remember saying to her mom,
I've had it with your daughter. I'm not doing this anymore.
I'm going to do what I want to do. And
that was the first time I put my foot down
and I stopped listening to what that girl said, and
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I was like, I don't care.
Speaker 7 (12:33):
What if?
Speaker 9 (12:34):
What if your boundaries are met with resistance? I mean
meaning like I don't know. You said, you set a boundary,
you align the sand on something. But the person that
that's maybe I don't know in your life that you
know will have a problem with that or you know,
because so where is there a compromise there or is
(12:55):
there just you just butt heads and you thought of
as a shithead.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Well, at what point in your life will you do
it your way? That's that's the question.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Yeah, I mean, how long can you go in your life?
It's just okay, I'd rather just not have confrontation with him.
Someone's going to do.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It versus that's not good for me. That doesn't work
for me.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
So I love you, I love our relationship as friends
or whatever, but that doesn't work for me.
Speaker 7 (13:24):
You know that's true.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
I don't think your shiphead.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
If you say that to me, it actually makes me
actively listen to what you're saying and give you the
space and the microphone is say what's on your mind?
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Elvis.
Speaker 5 (13:35):
I mean, over the course of our relationship to here
at work, you know, you've been blunt with me at times,
and I've told you, I go I appreciate it because
it only it only makes me better personally, because I
think a lot of people just kind of like Gandhi
was saying just sugarcoat things and aren't as direct, so
it does all it does is just hurts you at.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
The end of the day.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Well, don't you think though, being blunt is kind of
well not blunt.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Maybe that wasn't the right word, but you know what
I mean, like more direct.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Well being direct, if I if I'm direct with anyone
on the show, it's it's twofold. It's actually, in my opinion,
it's something you probably need to hear.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But that's my opinion, and also it's good for the show.
I think it also depends on something we all have
to keep an eye on.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, Like I think sometimes you know, you can be
blunt and straight to the point with certain things that
you know, okay, But then if it's something that would
really hurt somebody's feelings to the point where like that
be really really upset, maybe I have to go a
little bit, you know, little tippy toes, maybe a little
bit more, or find another way to say it without
pissing them all.
Speaker 6 (14:35):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (14:36):
I thought feelings don't count in this.
Speaker 6 (14:37):
No, it depends on what it is.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
I mean, you got to really think about the situation,
because every situation is different and.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Feelings always count, but sometimes you have to look over those.
Here's the problem with what we do here. We have
clocks ticking. Yeah, we have crunch time now for four
hours a day, it's crunch time, and sometimes it.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Gets a little heated. To get the point across, we
have to do.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
This now because we don't have time. We don't have
time to sit here and argue about or debate it. Right,
it's a weird situation we're in.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
So we switch over to a four hour podcast instead.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
Are you crazy? What's wrong with you?
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Get him out of the studio.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
The final, the final thing on this list of life
coaching topics that lead to transformation and breakthroughs embracing and
manifesting change.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
Oh my god, Yeah it is positive.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Oh my god. Sometimes you gotta just break it, you
know what, what do you think?
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Absolutely?
Speaker 8 (15:35):
I think that's the one thing that is really hard
for so many people is to just accept change and
roll with the change. But they say all the time
that the number one aspect any being needs for evolution
and to survive is adaptability and flexibility, and that goes
with change. If something changes, you can adjust yourself around it.
If you want to keep being a brick wall. You're
not going to go anywhere you need to be like
(15:56):
water flow like water.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
Unless it's a negative change. Then I think you have
to remove yourself from that situation at that point and
say I can't do this, this is not how I
feel or whatever, and then you do something else, you
find something else.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
So what changes are we making?
Speaker 6 (16:12):
You know what I want to mean?
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I want to meet the life coach that has all
their shit together, because really think about it, you're a
life coach giving someone else's advice. Do you take your
own advice?
Speaker 6 (16:21):
That's what I want to know.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Probably not.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You know a lot of really really strong, smart therapist
will tell you, hey, man, I don't always preach what
I say, but what I'm saying is perfect for what
you need to hear.
Speaker 6 (16:33):
Yeah, that's cool. Those who don't do coach.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I think we've I think we've filled We're about to
fifteen minutes here, Well.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
We're getting closer to scaries four hours. We're going like
almost seventeen.
Speaker 6 (16:51):
Fifteen sixteen cent. How many minutes are we owed?
Speaker 5 (16:53):
Now?
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Is it a credit?
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (16:55):
That's a credit, and this is not a skeleton crew.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I know. All right, Well that was great I feel like.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
I need to make a sexual comment or something about poop,
like Scotty would say.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 6 (17:07):
I don't know poop in.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
The bowl.
Speaker 6 (17:12):
The teddy Bear.
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Like Scotty's here.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
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