December 27, 2023 • 25 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and
the Black Effects.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
And just like that, we're back on air.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
With another carefully reckless episode, which girl just larious. We're
going to jump straight in. This is a very very
long story. Now, I know I mentioned voice memos, You
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Ebani dot Zena page. Speaking of Ebini dot Zena, does
that have their own page where you can watch the
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series start from episode one? I know when I do
these videos Ebeni and Xena, I've been doing the newer
ones because it's a continuing story. Newer followers want to
know where it started and how it all started, So
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two women who share the same child's father and how
they meant and how they became good friends. But they
still kind of sort of got this underlining issue with
each other, okay, and they talk shit in their heads
about each other, but they never talk shit in person
to one another about each other. So yeah, that's a
good series to make sure you get into over the
weekend over a cup of coffee, however you feel in
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Speaker 2 (01:26):
Let's get straight into fixing this mess. This is a
juicy story. 'af so, jess, I've.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Been talking to this guy for about five months now,
and he literally was everything on my list. And don't
jump down my neck for having a list, because as
an independent black woman, we must have a list.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Of standards, not expectations.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, you are certainly right, honey, because what we expect
is not always what we get, so a list of
standards is right. He was always going out of his
way to give me the reassurance that I needed, and
we had even started a thing where we would have
date nights every week to keep the spark. Okay, the
only thing that bob me about this is that he
never invited me over.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
He would always come to my house.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Mind you, I would have never looked at it no
type of way, because I prefer to be in my
own space anyway. But I always thought to myself why
he never invited me over? So on one of our
more recent date nights, I sat down with him and
I asked him why he has yet to ask me
to come over, and he told me there's always a
problem with the water, so between that and work, he's
barely even there himself. I'm like, well, it's still the
(02:26):
thought of you even asking me. Regardless of your house issues,
you still have yet to ask me to come over.
And he said, Okay, as soon as I get these
problems fixed, which should be by the end of the month,
you're going to stay the weekend with me.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Okay. Cool.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
The weekend comes and when I tell you, the crib
was nice. The crib was nice. It was giving five
star luxury loft. Ooh, I'm know the fuck that's the
right girl. For the first night we stayed in, he
cooked for me, We ate dinner and we were just vibing. Now, girl,
here is where things get crazy. As soon as we're
about to go to sleep, right there is banging on
the door. At first, I ignored it because he didn't budge,
(03:00):
But then I started the self question why isn't he budgeting?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
So I asked him, are you gonna get that?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
He told me that there are people that's trying to
serve in papers for something that he didn't do and
blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, cool, I trust you.
But they were knocking for a while and it would
get louder and louder. So I finally got up to
answer the door. And when I say, he.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Looked real nervous, he looked real nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I answer, and there's a woman at the door, holding
a baby in one hand and bags in the other hand, crying.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Damn the fuck.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
I mean not to laugh at this poor woman, but
when she saw me, oh baby, them tears dried up
and the veins was popping through that forehead.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I already knew what this was.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
I wasn't even going to try to be delusional about it,
so I asked, you must be his baby mother, right,
she said, yup, and I live here.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Excuse me ooh ah h.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I could have hit her right there. I'm glad you didn't.
That one would have had your ass locked up hitting
her in her own house. But God had me. I'm
glad he did, and she had that baby, so it
wasn't the right time. Lol, No, it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And you did good.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Following joeudgment, there, she walks in and goes to him
and asks him why do you have this bitch in
my house?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Now?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I'm waiting to see what he's gonna say. Jess, you're
not gonna believe it. He tells her that we've just
been fucking around, nothing serious, as if this is something
that they do. So I started spassing on his ass
and he yells at me just.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Get the fuck out. Ah. I was confused on it.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
If I should be mad, should I be sad, or
even if I should kill him? Mm, but you're trying
to go to jail, real man, ain't you? So I
punched him in his throat and walked out.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Good call.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
The next day, he's blowing my phone up, apologizing with
the dumbest excuses ever, and even came to my job.
I told my assistant no visitors, which made him wait
for me at my house.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Okay, assistant, I know that's right, black woman.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
This man gets out of his car boohun talking about
how sorry he is and that his baby mom is
threatening to take the baby away and how he's going
to be on child support. So he had to play
it like that and blah blah blah so she don't
turn against him.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
What I'm like? First of all, I didn't even know
you had a fucking baby.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Okay, until I seen her and her mom standing on
your you're a step looking to come back home. Oh
my god, girl, just a whole bunch of bullshit. I
told him, If you don't get the fuck off my porch,
I'm calling the police. Jess, I have never in my
life dealt with something like this before. I feel like
I'm in a lifetime movie.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Loo.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Well, this sound like a lifetime movie. Honey, I'm only
twenty six. What should I do? How should I go
about this? How do I heal? I really started falling
for him and I never seen this coming. Oh my god,
that that was. That was a pretty juicy story there,
and that was a lot. Hold up, Hold up, I
know this shit getting good. But listen to just a
couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Okay,
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how should you go about this? You should leave, honey.
The proof is right there and you're putting it. Don't
get no more crystal clear. It don't get no more
crystal clearer than that. First of all, your woman in
a wish. And that's something that we got that tells
us something before we tell ourselves something. You understand is
before we even can verbally say it, we're already thinking it.
Your inuition is your guardian angel, and I need for
(05:59):
more women to live.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Listen to that.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You knew somewhat right. You know, you said you've been,
you know, dealing with the guy for five months. He's
never invited you over to his house and when you
ask him, is because something always going wrong with the water.
What the fuck y'all live in Flint, Michigan. N Yeah, yeah,
stop fucking playing with me.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Fuck the water.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Nigga, you never eat, like you said, no, you just
never even extended the invitation, like yo, Like, we just
keep going to myles, going out and going to my house,
going out and going to myus. And I've had stories
similar to this one before where a man wouldn't invite
the woman over and then the woman later found out
that there was a wife that he was hiding, or
there was a girlfriend he was hiding, or the nigga
ain't even have a house he lived with his mom.
(06:36):
In this case, I wish that was the case because
now I hate that you felt for this guy and
that you do really like him. I don't know if
you love him or not, because this is five months.
But love doesn't have a time on it, you know
what I mean. You can love a nigga in five days.
You could love a nigga in five years.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
But I can tell that you you express a deep
concern about this because you really really love I mean,
because you really really like him. You're attractive woman, obviously
there is something there. And you say, he mocked every
check on your list, honey until the baby, mama, and
the baby popped up that night. All right, So when
is the last time you talk to him? I mean,
because obviously if you're telling me you don't know what
(07:14):
you should do or how to feel, or you're angry,
and then said you miss him, And I can almost
assure every listener listening to this that you've been in
contact again. Now I'm not gonna say you're stupid for that.
I'm not going to say you're dumb, but I am
going to say, if anything else comes out with this woman,
and if he doesn't leave her, you know anything, you know,
(07:36):
it's kind of like but you knew, you know what
I mean, you knew now you can't just turn off
your feelings for somebody. But he hit a whole fucking
baby from you.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, but he's
not upfront and truthful, and he's not to be trusted
until he is proven to be trusted. He hid a
baby from you. I understand the reason he gave a
reason about hiding the baby. Mother says she's gonna put
me on child support and she's gonna turn against me.
I'm never gonna see my child again, but you never
even let me know that you had a fucking child.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
How old is the baby? How old is the baby?
She says she lived there. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Even if they're not happy, they're still technically together, even
if he's fighting to get out of the relationship. You
don't need to be up in that until he is
fully past her and able to leave her alone and
able to control the situation, because it don't seem like
he had controlled at all. Talk about somebody trying to
surf him with some fucking papers because of something that
he didn't do. No, what you didn't do is tell
the fucking truth.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Scotti.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
I don't know if that's his name or not, but
we're gonna go with Scotty. You know you didn't tell
me the fucking truth, and now my feelings are hurt.
And you were in that woman's house, so she had
every right to call you a bit, to feel you
feel a certain way or whatever, because this is her home.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Now, you are probably not the first or the last
woman that she's caught in their home.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
They probably take a little breaks, and she'd probably go
stay at her mothers, go stay at her friends, or
go get her own apartment or whatever, and then comes
back because it's still her home. She just probably takes
these breaks because, like you said, they was doing this
like this is something that they do. Obviously, if you
think it's something they acted like, this was something that
they do, this is something that they do. She has
called this nigga and she can't get over him and
(09:13):
he can't leave her. That's just what it is, and
that's actually common these days. It's not normal, but it's
very common. It's not right, but it's very common. It's
not cute either, but it's very common. And it doesn't
make it okay because it happens so frequent, but it's I.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Think you can do better than this.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
You didn't tell me what you do for work, but
you did say you told your assistant, no, visitors, no,
So that lets me know right there that you're a
boss of some sort, like some kind. I don't know
if you own your own company or whatever, but you
are a fucking boss. You're only twenty six. You got
four more years until you hit that third decade of
your life. You know, live out your twenties, live out
your twenties date, but focused on your career because you're
(09:54):
at that half mark, you know what I mean, like
where you got four more years to figure the shit out,
and you can't be fucking up. You can't be sucking up.
You are already a boss. You have an assistant, so you
already have You know what responsibility is. You know what
self discipline is. Discipline yourself and lead that nigga alone.
Leave him alone.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Fuck that.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
If he checked off every mark on your list, make
another list, because that wasn't it.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
You know what I'm saying. I want to know what
the fuck was on your list of how the fuck
you didn't see this coming? Jesus. But niggas are slick.
I will give you that. Men are slick. And you
know so are we.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
But in this case, men are very slick and they
can hide things and you would never know. But to
tell you something going on with the water, you know, I.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Just don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I think I think that you should really have a
conversation with him and tell him that you're gonna move on,
because this is not something that you want to You
don't want to dim your light like this by just
allowing him to be shared between you and another woman
like you don't want to share him. And then the
woman that you're sharing him with, she ain't gonna have
(10:59):
gon nowhere because he has his child.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
And then if he already scared.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
The death to make up all these stories about how
the water don't work in this place because you know,
he don't want you to run into her, and all
that he scared of her ass too, you know what
I'm saying. They still hunt him for sure. She can't
get past him, and he won't leave her. So you
tell me what you need to do with that. Update me,
baby girl, you're better than that and moving on. Okay,
here we go, woo child, where do I start?
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I hope you can fix my mess? Jest.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
So I met this guy at the beginning of twenty twenty,
right before COVID hit. It was literally supposed to be
just the hookup and that was it because he was
from out of town originally and here in the Dirty
D just visiting. Hey, y'all, shout out to The Dirty D.
That is a series on TV and it's now on Peacock.
Congratulations to Lisa Brown and the acts just some of
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the actors that I do know by name. Diesel is
in it, Crystal to Dall, my guy who looked like
James Earl Jones. He looked like he can be James
Earl Jones's son, Like Yo. Detroit is really like the
new fucking Black Hollywood, and I love it. I fucking
love it, y'all. If you haven't seen Dirty D, hop
on to b O Peacock and watched the whole first
(12:08):
season and the second season as well.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
It's a really really good story. Man.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
They executed the acting well and as you get and
you know what, my bad, I'm going a little bit
too much into it.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
My bad.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Let me get back to her story. And that's my
show right there. So you're in Detroit basically, all right,
that's what they call it.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Dirty D.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
So fast forward a couple months, he came back up
here to visit again and we linked up again for
what I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I wasn't looking for anything serious, for the simple fact
that he wasn't from here. So we link again, and
you know, we do the nasty. Oh yeah, y'all did
an answer in a dirty day. I know that's all right.
He came to me before he left and was like,
I want to be with you. I'm like, say, what,
come again? He like, I want to be with you.
I'm like, how you don't even be here like that?
He gonna say, so, I'll make it work. I know what.
(12:53):
That's right, girl, This man is telling you he's gonna
make it work. He's professing his live.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Fast forward another couple months, we locked in, rocking hard
out the gate stupid right, No, not stupid, but me
being me. I love hard and plus he was fine
as hell with some good ass d they be the ones.
But ever since then we've been breaking up, getting back
together multiple times.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
We've been through it all. Okay, so that's it. Like
she she just left it like that. She ain't want
to say nothing else.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I hate what y'all do this I hate when y'all
leave me on a cliff, just hanging and dangling because
y'all don't know what what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
What happened? Did the nigga walk in the room while
you was typing and sent this shit to me? Like?
Come on, like, I need to know what else is
going on? All right?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
So I guess if we can go from where you
left off, then you know, basically everything was good up
until just a couple of months ago. I want to
know did he move to Detroit because y'all you said
y'all locked in and everything, like, did he move ended
up moving there?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Did you move to where he is? Does he just
come up certain times?
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Like?
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Is he there? More? What happened?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Because you said ever since ever since then, we've been
breaking up and getting back together multiple times?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Now, did you catch them cheating with somebody else in
the dirty d like? What was it? I need to know.
I need to know because you just left me hanging here.
I don't have no advice to give you.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
I will say I will speak on long distance relationships
though I have done that, and it takes a certain
type of person to be able to endure having a
relationship with someone or being in a relationship with someone
that lives miles and miles away, like not somewhere you
can drive to like a plane ride, you know what
I'm saying, Like you got to take a train to get.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
To this motherfucker. Like you got to be driving for
more than five hours to get to this nigga.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
You know what I'm saying. It takes a certain human
being to be able to do that. It takes a
certain amount of patience to be able to deal with that.
I don't think I could because I'm a very clingy person.
I'm clingy. You know, us Aquarius as we love and
we love hard. You know, we love physically, emotionally, mentally,
we love you with everything that we have. I can
only speak on my sign because I've been my sign
(14:58):
for thirty one years and I ain't going way. It
ain't gonna change, So I know how I love you
know what I'm saying. But to that point, I don't
think the best thing is to be in a relationship
where you're not close to your lover, you know, because
then trust issues can arouse, you know what I'm saying,
(15:19):
Like what you're doing when you there, I mean when
you when you in Detroit, you my nigga, But when
you go back to Chicago. I I'm just throwing something
out there. When he's in Chicago, when you in Chicago,
you could be doing what whatever with who knows who?
You know what I'm saying, like, And then what are
you doing because at the beginning of the story, you
said that you didn't even want a relationship. You were
just looking to fuck somebody. You know what I'm saying, Like,
(15:40):
is that the shit you're still on? I mean, I
know you fell for Home and all of that shit,
but where you did you still have other people like
on your roster when you started dealing with him, because
you said he came to you and proposed a relationship first,
you didn't come to him and say that that ain't
even what you wanted to begin with. So let me
know your side of the story too. Did you still
have niggas you was talking to that you couldn't just
cut off? Because now he's in your city, he's coming
(16:02):
to your city. You understand what I'm saying, ain't no
telling what you were doing either, you know, ain't no
telling what he was doing. But and the reason why
I'm not trying to blame you for y'all breaking up
multiple times and nothing, you know, nothing like that. I'm
just going off of what you told me you didn't
even want a relationship as the table turned where you
wanted this relationship and then he jumped in intoo fast
and he felt like he didn't want it anymore.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
I need some more meat on the bone.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Why the fuck you're gonna send me a passage and
then be like to be continued, bitch that say how
that work?
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Ain't no commercials? The fuck?
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Come on, girl, I need to know. So you need
to get back with me and let me know what happened.
And then your name is beauty and brains.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Oh damn, I done gave you Instagram name other saw Good.
It's a million of y'all on there. They don't know
the underscores and the periods and shit. But you got
beauty and brains. The bitch you need to use both,
all right, I'm serious about this. Now, we got a
commercial and if you click off of this podcast, I
swear I'm gonna beat your ass.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Moving on last story. Heyjus, I've been dealing with this
girl for a month. We've been kicking it and been
very cool with each other. However, she travels a lot,
and so do I. She currently stays in Vegas, so
the time zone is very different. I get up very
early when I'm getting up for work. She's going out now.
The career that she's in, she's surrounded by a lot
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of celebrities. She's always around big influencers and things like that,
as well as I am, but she's a little different
with it. I feel as if she comes off as
a groupie at times, and I don't like that, because
if you're supposed to be into me, then all that
energy is supposed to go into me.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Now.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
I understand about being starstruck, as I've been starstruck a
few times, but I don't give groupie. We got into
an argument about it just last night. She was saying
that one of her favorite influencers was going to be
at a venue.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
That she had to work.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I don't know whether she was joking or not, but
she quoted that's my type. I can't wait to see
her to night groupie or nah. That shit made me mad,
and I must say, I don't know where to go
from here. Do I stop talking to her? Do I
communicate with her now, Jess, I'm around celebrities all the time,
but I never act pressed like that, especially because I
(18:17):
am devoting myself to this one person and I'm actually
working on being in a relationship with someone someone that
lives so far away that's also kind of doing the
same thing that I'm doing. I just want to know
are we compatible? Have you ever been in this situation before,
and if so, how would you handle it? Because she's
very attractive to me, but this makes her unattractive and
(18:39):
it pushes me away, and I'm scared to even go
out in public with her because what if we run
into a celebrity while we're out? Will you act like
a groupie in front of me? Will you leave me
to go hang out with them? I just need to
know what you would do in this case. Well, I
want to know how old both of you are. If
you can write me back and keep me updated, I
want to know how old both of you are, because
(18:59):
this is said like, you know, childish activity and coming
from somebody of youth, you know, and it's expected for
somebody to be around celebrities and act pressed and you know,
and to even be a groupie or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
You know. I'm just happy to be around celebrities.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
However, if you are engaging a little too much, then yeah,
at that point, it's like, all right, because you do
have somebody at home you are dating, So I don't
give a fuck if it's a celebrity or not. I
don't give a fuck if Tianna Taylor walked through a
motherfucking door. Bitch, you are supposed to.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Be my girl. We're working on this. We've been dealing
with each other.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Now you said it's only been a month, I'm gonna
assume that it's been a month that y'all have been together,
or you can give me more of an update, whether
that's y'all were together for a month or y'all have
only been knowing each other for a month. Because knowing
each other for a month that actually changes my answer
because you have to you have to get to know
her more. You know what I'm saying. And whoever they
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know you, they are, they are that person. This sounds
like a person who obviously they didn't grow up being
in the industry. You know, she probably this job is
probably new for her. Because if you still being a
groupie and this is something that you've been doing for
a long time. Then yeah, you're you're probably more so
(20:20):
an opportunists more than likely, you know what I'm saying.
I mean, I just you know, looking for the next
big thing or you are you one of those people
that like to jump on whoever's hot and shit like that.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
I think you need to give me more clarity on that.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I was in a relationship with somebody who was in
the same line of work as you know as me,
but they wasn't a groupie. They wasn't really pressed to
be around you know, celebrities. But he was an older gentleman,
you know what I mean. I think this girl may
be young, and she may be out of your fucking league.
To be honest, you sound a lot more mature than
she is. And I think if she is young, and
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if this is the case, she just got to grow up,
that's all. And you, you, being as mature as you are,
you gotta date on your level, you know what I mean.
A lot of people are not gonna be on your level.
I don't give fuck how much money they got, how
many celebrities they rub elbows with, whatever, you know, there
has to be some type of standard that your partner
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can hold their self to even around celebrities, you know,
and if you're able to do it, she's able to
do it as well.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
But maybe she's not ready. So again, I want to
know if.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
You guys have been together for a month or if
you guys have been talking four month, because then you
got a lot more getting to know her to do,
you know, And I think you should have a conversation
with her. And let I know you said y'all got
into an argument about it, but I think you should
actually go into depth a lot more.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Look, especially if you know what you want. Look, this
is what I want. We're in the same line of work.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
There should be no reason that you should be this
way around around celebrities, especially if you're telling me that
you want me and we're in this together.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Now. The time zone shit, that shit is different. It
is very different.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I mean, should be outside all hours of the night,
which some jobs in this industry require, you know, late
nights and all that type of shit.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
But all of that extra you know, going in my
a and all the extra shit.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Nah, that's like dating a rabit at oh, I was
in the studio now using the studio fucking bitches, you know,
And then that little remark, like you said, you don't
know if she was joking or not, but when she
referred to one of you know, her favorite celebrities or
influencers being at the club or venue that she was
going to be at that night, saying, oh, that's my type.
I can't wait to see her. I will be the
first to say that's some clowned out ass shit. I
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don't like that, but that's probably who she is. And
just take note of her showing you indirectly who she is.
She's subconsciously she don't want you to think nobody's ever
gonna say, yeah, I'm a group of Yeah I like
to be around celebrities. Yeah, I like nobody's ever gonna
cop to that because people look down on that. You know,
it's the clout of it all. But I think you're
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a little bit better than this situation. If I may
just be one hundred percent honest with you, and I
think she didn't pay attention to your work right now,
and then that right person.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Will come along for you. For sure.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You and this girl could be friends, you know, and
you can even teach her, you know, she can. She
seems like she can learn some things from you. You know,
especially if y'all are in the same industry. But keep
me updated. Yeah, and just like that, we've come to
the end of yet another Carefully Reckless episode.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
WI Your Girl.
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And just like that, we're back on air.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
With another carefully reckless episode, which girl just larious. We're
going to jump straight in. This is a very very
long story. Now, I know I mentioned voice memos, You
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Speaker 2 (01:26):
Let's get straight into fixing this mess. This is a
juicy story. 'af so, jess, I've.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Been talking to this guy for about five months now,
and he literally was everything on my list. And don't
jump down my neck for having a list, because as
an independent black woman, we must have a list.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Of standards, not expectations.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, you are certainly right, honey, because what we expect
is not always what we get, so a list of
standards is right. He was always going out of his
way to give me the reassurance that I needed, and
we had even started a thing where we would have
date nights every week to keep the spark. Okay, the
only thing that bob me about this is that he
never invited me over.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
He would always come to my house.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Mind you, I would have never looked at it no
type of way, because I prefer to be in my
own space anyway. But I always thought to myself why
he never invited me over? So on one of our
more recent date nights, I sat down with him and
I asked him why he has yet to ask me
to come over, and he told me there's always a
problem with the water, so between that and work, he's
barely even there himself. I'm like, well, it's still the
(02:26):
thought of you even asking me. Regardless of your house issues,
you still have yet to ask me to come over.
And he said, Okay, as soon as I get these
problems fixed, which should be by the end of the month,
you're going to stay the weekend with me.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Okay. Cool.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
The weekend comes and when I tell you, the crib
was nice. The crib was nice. It was giving five
star luxury loft. Ooh, I'm know the fuck that's the
right girl. For the first night we stayed in, he
cooked for me, We ate dinner and we were just vibing. Now, girl,
here is where things get crazy. As soon as we're
about to go to sleep, right there is banging on
the door. At first, I ignored it because he didn't budge,
(03:00):
But then I started the self question why isn't he budgeting?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
So I asked him, are you gonna get that?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
He told me that there are people that's trying to
serve in papers for something that he didn't do and
blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, cool, I trust you.
But they were knocking for a while and it would
get louder and louder. So I finally got up to
answer the door. And when I say, he.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Looked real nervous, he looked real nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I answer, and there's a woman at the door, holding
a baby in one hand and bags in the other hand, crying.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Damn the fuck.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
I mean not to laugh at this poor woman, but
when she saw me, oh baby, them tears dried up
and the veins was popping through that forehead.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I already knew what this was.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
I wasn't even going to try to be delusional about it,
so I asked, you must be his baby mother, right,
she said, yup, and I live here.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Excuse me ooh ah h.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I could have hit her right there. I'm glad you didn't.
That one would have had your ass locked up hitting
her in her own house. But God had me. I'm
glad he did, and she had that baby, so it
wasn't the right time. Lol, No, it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And you did good.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Following joeudgment, there, she walks in and goes to him
and asks him why do you have this bitch in
my house?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Now?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I'm waiting to see what he's gonna say. Jess, you're
not gonna believe it. He tells her that we've just
been fucking around, nothing serious, as if this is something
that they do. So I started spassing on his ass
and he yells at me just.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Get the fuck out. Ah. I was confused on it.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
If I should be mad, should I be sad, or
even if I should kill him? Mm, but you're trying
to go to jail, real man, ain't you? So I
punched him in his throat and walked out.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Good call.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
The next day, he's blowing my phone up, apologizing with
the dumbest excuses ever, and even came to my job.
I told my assistant no visitors, which made him wait
for me at my house.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Okay, assistant, I know that's right, black woman.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
This man gets out of his car boohun talking about
how sorry he is and that his baby mom is
threatening to take the baby away and how he's going
to be on child support. So he had to play
it like that and blah blah blah so she don't
turn against him.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
What I'm like? First of all, I didn't even know
you had a fucking baby.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Okay, until I seen her and her mom standing on
your you're a step looking to come back home. Oh
my god, girl, just a whole bunch of bullshit. I
told him, If you don't get the fuck off my porch,
I'm calling the police. Jess, I have never in my
life dealt with something like this before. I feel like
I'm in a lifetime movie.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Loo.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Well, this sound like a lifetime movie. Honey, I'm only
twenty six. What should I do? How should I go
about this? How do I heal? I really started falling
for him and I never seen this coming. Oh my god,
that that was. That was a pretty juicy story there,
and that was a lot. Hold up, Hold up, I
know this shit getting good. But listen to just a
couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Okay,
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how should you go about this? You should leave, honey.
The proof is right there and you're putting it. Don't
get no more crystal clear. It don't get no more
crystal clearer than that. First of all, your woman in
a wish. And that's something that we got that tells
us something before we tell ourselves something. You understand is
before we even can verbally say it, we're already thinking it.
Your inuition is your guardian angel, and I need for
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more women to live.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Listen to that.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You knew somewhat right. You know, you said you've been,
you know, dealing with the guy for five months. He's
never invited you over to his house and when you
ask him, is because something always going wrong with the water.
What the fuck y'all live in Flint, Michigan. N Yeah, yeah,
stop fucking playing with me.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Fuck the water.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Nigga, you never eat, like you said, no, you just
never even extended the invitation, like yo, Like, we just
keep going to myles, going out and going to my house,
going out and going to myus. And I've had stories
similar to this one before where a man wouldn't invite
the woman over and then the woman later found out
that there was a wife that he was hiding, or
there was a girlfriend he was hiding, or the nigga
ain't even have a house he lived with his mom.
(06:36):
In this case, I wish that was the case because
now I hate that you felt for this guy and
that you do really like him. I don't know if
you love him or not, because this is five months.
But love doesn't have a time on it, you know
what I mean. You can love a nigga in five days.
You could love a nigga in five years.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
But I can tell that you you express a deep
concern about this because you really really love I mean,
because you really really like him. You're attractive woman, obviously
there is something there. And you say, he mocked every
check on your list, honey until the baby, mama, and
the baby popped up that night. All right, So when
is the last time you talk to him? I mean,
because obviously if you're telling me you don't know what
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you should do or how to feel, or you're angry,
and then said you miss him, And I can almost
assure every listener listening to this that you've been in
contact again. Now I'm not gonna say you're stupid for that.
I'm not going to say you're dumb, but I am
going to say, if anything else comes out with this woman,
and if he doesn't leave her, you know anything, you know,
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it's kind of like but you knew, you know what
I mean, you knew now you can't just turn off
your feelings for somebody. But he hit a whole fucking
baby from you.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, but he's
not upfront and truthful, and he's not to be trusted
until he is proven to be trusted. He hid a
baby from you. I understand the reason he gave a
reason about hiding the baby. Mother says she's gonna put
me on child support and she's gonna turn against me.
I'm never gonna see my child again, but you never
even let me know that you had a fucking child.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
How old is the baby? How old is the baby?
She says she lived there. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Even if they're not happy, they're still technically together, even
if he's fighting to get out of the relationship. You
don't need to be up in that until he is
fully past her and able to leave her alone and
able to control the situation, because it don't seem like
he had controlled at all. Talk about somebody trying to
surf him with some fucking papers because of something that
he didn't do. No, what you didn't do is tell
the fucking truth.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Scotti.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
I don't know if that's his name or not, but
we're gonna go with Scotty. You know you didn't tell
me the fucking truth, and now my feelings are hurt.
And you were in that woman's house, so she had
every right to call you a bit, to feel you
feel a certain way or whatever, because this is her home.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Now, you are probably not the first or the last
woman that she's caught in their home.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
They probably take a little breaks, and she'd probably go
stay at her mothers, go stay at her friends, or
go get her own apartment or whatever, and then comes
back because it's still her home. She just probably takes
these breaks because, like you said, they was doing this
like this is something that they do. Obviously, if you
think it's something they acted like, this was something that
they do, this is something that they do. She has
called this nigga and she can't get over him and
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he can't leave her. That's just what it is, and
that's actually common these days. It's not normal, but it's
very common. It's not right, but it's very common. It's
not cute either, but it's very common. And it doesn't
make it okay because it happens so frequent, but it's I.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Think you can do better than this.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
You didn't tell me what you do for work, but
you did say you told your assistant, no, visitors, no,
So that lets me know right there that you're a
boss of some sort, like some kind. I don't know
if you own your own company or whatever, but you
are a fucking boss. You're only twenty six. You got
four more years until you hit that third decade of
your life. You know, live out your twenties, live out
your twenties date, but focused on your career because you're
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at that half mark, you know what I mean, like
where you got four more years to figure the shit out,
and you can't be fucking up. You can't be sucking up.
You are already a boss. You have an assistant, so you
already have You know what responsibility is. You know what
self discipline is. Discipline yourself and lead that nigga alone.
Leave him alone.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Fuck that.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
If he checked off every mark on your list, make
another list, because that wasn't it.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
You know what I'm saying. I want to know what
the fuck was on your list of how the fuck
you didn't see this coming? Jesus. But niggas are slick.
I will give you that. Men are slick. And you
know so are we.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
But in this case, men are very slick and they
can hide things and you would never know. But to
tell you something going on with the water, you know, I.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Just don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I think I think that you should really have a
conversation with him and tell him that you're gonna move on,
because this is not something that you want to You
don't want to dim your light like this by just
allowing him to be shared between you and another woman
like you don't want to share him. And then the
woman that you're sharing him with, she ain't gonna have
(10:59):
gon nowhere because he has his child.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
And then if he already scared.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
The death to make up all these stories about how
the water don't work in this place because you know,
he don't want you to run into her, and all
that he scared of her ass too, you know what
I'm saying. They still hunt him for sure. She can't
get past him, and he won't leave her. So you
tell me what you need to do with that. Update me,
baby girl, you're better than that and moving on. Okay,
here we go, woo child, where do I start?
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I hope you can fix my mess? Jest.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
So I met this guy at the beginning of twenty twenty,
right before COVID hit. It was literally supposed to be
just the hookup and that was it because he was
from out of town originally and here in the Dirty
D just visiting. Hey, y'all, shout out to The Dirty D.
That is a series on TV and it's now on Peacock.
Congratulations to Lisa Brown and the acts just some of
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the actors that I do know by name. Diesel is
in it, Crystal to Dall, my guy who looked like
James Earl Jones. He looked like he can be James
Earl Jones's son, Like Yo. Detroit is really like the
new fucking Black Hollywood, and I love it. I fucking
love it, y'all. If you haven't seen Dirty D, hop
on to b O Peacock and watched the whole first
(12:08):
season and the second season as well.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
It's a really really good story. Man.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
They executed the acting well and as you get and
you know what, my bad, I'm going a little bit
too much into it.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
My bad.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Let me get back to her story. And that's my
show right there. So you're in Detroit basically, all right,
that's what they call it.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Dirty D.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
So fast forward a couple months, he came back up
here to visit again and we linked up again for
what I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I wasn't looking for anything serious, for the simple fact
that he wasn't from here. So we link again, and
you know, we do the nasty. Oh yeah, y'all did
an answer in a dirty day. I know that's all right.
He came to me before he left and was like,
I want to be with you. I'm like, say, what,
come again? He like, I want to be with you.
I'm like, how you don't even be here like that?
He gonna say, so, I'll make it work. I know what.
(12:53):
That's right, girl, This man is telling you he's gonna
make it work. He's professing his live.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Fast forward another couple months, we locked in, rocking hard
out the gate stupid right, No, not stupid, but me
being me. I love hard and plus he was fine
as hell with some good ass d they be the ones.
But ever since then we've been breaking up, getting back
together multiple times.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
We've been through it all. Okay, so that's it. Like
she she just left it like that. She ain't want
to say nothing else.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I hate what y'all do this I hate when y'all
leave me on a cliff, just hanging and dangling because
y'all don't know what what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
What happened? Did the nigga walk in the room while
you was typing and sent this shit to me? Like?
Come on, like, I need to know what else is
going on? All right?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
So I guess if we can go from where you
left off, then you know, basically everything was good up
until just a couple of months ago. I want to
know did he move to Detroit because y'all you said
y'all locked in and everything, like, did he move ended
up moving there?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Did you move to where he is? Does he just
come up certain times?
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Like?
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Is he there? More? What happened?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Because you said ever since ever since then, we've been
breaking up and getting back together multiple times?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Now, did you catch them cheating with somebody else in
the dirty d like? What was it? I need to know.
I need to know because you just left me hanging here.
I don't have no advice to give you.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
I will say I will speak on long distance relationships
though I have done that, and it takes a certain
type of person to be able to endure having a
relationship with someone or being in a relationship with someone
that lives miles and miles away, like not somewhere you
can drive to like a plane ride, you know what
I'm saying, Like you got to take a train to get.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
To this motherfucker. Like you got to be driving for
more than five hours to get to this nigga.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
You know what I'm saying. It takes a certain human
being to be able to do that. It takes a
certain amount of patience to be able to deal with that.
I don't think I could because I'm a very clingy person.
I'm clingy. You know, us Aquarius as we love and
we love hard. You know, we love physically, emotionally, mentally,
we love you with everything that we have. I can
only speak on my sign because I've been my sign
(14:58):
for thirty one years and I ain't going way. It
ain't gonna change, So I know how I love you
know what I'm saying. But to that point, I don't
think the best thing is to be in a relationship
where you're not close to your lover, you know, because
then trust issues can arouse, you know what I'm saying,
(15:19):
Like what you're doing when you there, I mean when
you when you in Detroit, you my nigga, But when
you go back to Chicago. I I'm just throwing something
out there. When he's in Chicago, when you in Chicago,
you could be doing what whatever with who knows who?
You know what I'm saying, like, And then what are
you doing because at the beginning of the story, you
said that you didn't even want a relationship. You were
just looking to fuck somebody. You know what I'm saying, Like,
(15:40):
is that the shit you're still on? I mean, I
know you fell for Home and all of that shit,
but where you did you still have other people like
on your roster when you started dealing with him, because
you said he came to you and proposed a relationship first,
you didn't come to him and say that that ain't
even what you wanted to begin with. So let me
know your side of the story too. Did you still
have niggas you was talking to that you couldn't just
cut off? Because now he's in your city, he's coming
(16:02):
to your city. You understand what I'm saying, ain't no
telling what you were doing either, you know, ain't no
telling what he was doing. But and the reason why
I'm not trying to blame you for y'all breaking up
multiple times and nothing, you know, nothing like that. I'm
just going off of what you told me you didn't
even want a relationship as the table turned where you
wanted this relationship and then he jumped in intoo fast
and he felt like he didn't want it anymore.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
I need some more meat on the bone.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Why the fuck you're gonna send me a passage and
then be like to be continued, bitch that say how
that work?
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Ain't no commercials? The fuck?
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Come on, girl, I need to know. So you need
to get back with me and let me know what happened.
And then your name is beauty and brains.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Oh damn, I done gave you Instagram name other saw Good.
It's a million of y'all on there. They don't know
the underscores and the periods and shit. But you got
beauty and brains. The bitch you need to use both,
all right, I'm serious about this. Now, we got a
commercial and if you click off of this podcast, I
swear I'm gonna beat your ass.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Moving on last story. Heyjus, I've been dealing with this
girl for a month. We've been kicking it and been
very cool with each other. However, she travels a lot,
and so do I. She currently stays in Vegas, so
the time zone is very different. I get up very
early when I'm getting up for work. She's going out now.
The career that she's in, she's surrounded by a lot
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of celebrities. She's always around big influencers and things like that,
as well as I am, but she's a little different
with it. I feel as if she comes off as
a groupie at times, and I don't like that, because
if you're supposed to be into me, then all that
energy is supposed to go into me.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Now.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
I understand about being starstruck, as I've been starstruck a
few times, but I don't give groupie. We got into
an argument about it just last night. She was saying
that one of her favorite influencers was going to be
at a venue.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
That she had to work.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I don't know whether she was joking or not, but
she quoted that's my type. I can't wait to see
her to night groupie or nah. That shit made me mad,
and I must say, I don't know where to go
from here. Do I stop talking to her? Do I
communicate with her now, Jess, I'm around celebrities all the time,
but I never act pressed like that, especially because I
(18:17):
am devoting myself to this one person and I'm actually
working on being in a relationship with someone someone that
lives so far away that's also kind of doing the
same thing that I'm doing. I just want to know
are we compatible? Have you ever been in this situation before,
and if so, how would you handle it? Because she's
very attractive to me, but this makes her unattractive and
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it pushes me away, and I'm scared to even go
out in public with her because what if we run
into a celebrity while we're out? Will you act like
a groupie in front of me? Will you leave me
to go hang out with them? I just need to
know what you would do in this case. Well, I
want to know how old both of you are. If
you can write me back and keep me updated, I
want to know how old both of you are, because
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this is said like, you know, childish activity and coming
from somebody of youth, you know, and it's expected for
somebody to be around celebrities and act pressed and you know,
and to even be a groupie or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
You know. I'm just happy to be around celebrities.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
However, if you are engaging a little too much, then yeah,
at that point, it's like, all right, because you do
have somebody at home you are dating, So I don't
give a fuck if it's a celebrity or not. I
don't give a fuck if Tianna Taylor walked through a
motherfucking door. Bitch, you are supposed to.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Be my girl. We're working on this. We've been dealing
with each other.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Now you said it's only been a month, I'm gonna
assume that it's been a month that y'all have been together,
or you can give me more of an update, whether
that's y'all were together for a month or y'all have
only been knowing each other for a month. Because knowing
each other for a month that actually changes my answer
because you have to you have to get to know
her more. You know what I'm saying. And whoever they
(20:00):
know you, they are, they are that person. This sounds
like a person who obviously they didn't grow up being
in the industry. You know, she probably this job is
probably new for her. Because if you still being a
groupie and this is something that you've been doing for
a long time. Then yeah, you're you're probably more so
(20:20):
an opportunists more than likely, you know what I'm saying.
I mean, I just you know, looking for the next
big thing or you are you one of those people
that like to jump on whoever's hot and shit like that.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
I think you need to give me more clarity on that.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I was in a relationship with somebody who was in
the same line of work as you know as me,
but they wasn't a groupie. They wasn't really pressed to
be around you know, celebrities. But he was an older gentleman,
you know what I mean. I think this girl may
be young, and she may be out of your fucking league.
To be honest, you sound a lot more mature than
she is. And I think if she is young, and
(20:53):
if this is the case, she just got to grow up,
that's all. And you, you, being as mature as you are,
you gotta date on your level, you know what I mean.
A lot of people are not gonna be on your level.
I don't give fuck how much money they got, how
many celebrities they rub elbows with, whatever, you know, there
has to be some type of standard that your partner
(21:14):
can hold their self to even around celebrities, you know,
and if you're able to do it, she's able to
do it as well.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
But maybe she's not ready. So again, I want to
know if.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
You guys have been together for a month or if
you guys have been talking four month, because then you
got a lot more getting to know her to do,
you know, And I think you should have a conversation
with her. And let I know you said y'all got
into an argument about it, but I think you should
actually go into depth a lot more.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Look, especially if you know what you want. Look, this
is what I want. We're in the same line of work.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
There should be no reason that you should be this
way around around celebrities, especially if you're telling me that
you want me and we're in this together.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Now. The time zone shit, that shit is different. It
is very different.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I mean, should be outside all hours of the night,
which some jobs in this industry require, you know, late
nights and all that type of shit.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
But all of that extra you know, going in my
a and all the extra shit.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Nah, that's like dating a rabit at oh, I was
in the studio now using the studio fucking bitches, you know,
And then that little remark, like you said, you don't
know if she was joking or not, but when she
referred to one of you know, her favorite celebrities or
influencers being at the club or venue that she was
going to be at that night, saying, oh, that's my type.
I can't wait to see her. I will be the
first to say that's some clowned out ass shit. I
(22:26):
don't like that, but that's probably who she is. And
just take note of her showing you indirectly who she is.
She's subconsciously she don't want you to think nobody's ever
gonna say, yeah, I'm a group of Yeah I like
to be around celebrities. Yeah, I like nobody's ever gonna
cop to that because people look down on that. You know,
it's the clout of it all. But I think you're
(22:46):
a little bit better than this situation. If I may
just be one hundred percent honest with you, and I
think she didn't pay attention to your work right now,
and then that right person.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Will come along for you. For sure.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You and this girl could be friends, you know, and
you can even teach her, you know, she can. She
seems like she can learn some things from you. You know,
especially if y'all are in the same industry. But keep
me updated. Yeah, and just like that, we've come to
the end of yet another Carefully Reckless episode.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
WI Your Girl.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
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and it's all because of you, guys. So I want
to say thank you and extend some love to all
my listeners all over the world. I love you, I
love you, and I couldn't do this without you because
I need yall ears. And just like that, peace, See
you next week.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Tas main.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
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