May 10, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband is driving me batty with his occasional drinking and mood swings that come with it. He has embarrassed me for the last time, and I hate that he can never remember what he did or said when he was drunk. On the flip side, he's the sweetest man in the world when he doesn't drink. Saturday, we had an engagement party to go to and my husband started drinking around noon. I could tell that he was going to be a problem because he made a few rude comments about my outfit........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
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submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com by
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or please write us okay, And.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Now you have it, buckle up and hold on tight.
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for you subject. Don't threaten me with a
good time. Dear Stephen Shirley, my husband is driving me
batty with his occasional drinking and mood swings that come
with it. He has embarrassed me for the last time,
and I hate that he can never remember what he
did or said when he was drunk. On the flip side,
he's the sweetest man in the world when he doesn't drink. Saturday,
(00:49):
we had an engagement party to go to and my
husband started drinking around noon. I could tell that he
was going to be a problem because he made a
few rude comments about my outfit. I told him we
should stay home because he was already drunk, but he
said he had to go to tell the groom to
be that marriage is terrible. He says anything to irritate
(01:11):
me when he's drunk, so I didn't react. We got
to the party and his eyes were so heavy that
he dozed off during the musical selection. I asked him
to go to the car if he was sleepy. He refused.
The bride to be saw him sleeping and asked if
he wanted to go upstairs and get into bed. He said,
don't threaten me with a good time. The groom to
(01:33):
be herded and told my husband to watch his mouth.
My husband said he was joking, but then he said, man,
you know your girl is fine. Af That was my
cue to exit. I heard my husband almost got beat up.
He got a ride home and he slept on the
living room floor. The next morning, he made me breakfast
in bed, and then we made love. My sweet sexy
(01:56):
husband was back and he didn't remember anything him when
he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him. Should
I stick with him until he gets help or do
I let him figure it out alone. Well, you're married
to him, so you probably right now should stick it out.
Help him get some help. Whether you stay with him
(02:17):
or not, He does need the help, that's a fact,
but he's got to want it, you know what they say.
He seems to be in denial right now because he
doesn't remember anything. I'm surprised you haven't taken videos of
him on your camera phone or something. That's what you
need to do. Maybe then after he sees what a
fool he's making of himself at these parties and stuff,
(02:38):
he'll get some help. The saying goes that the things
that people say or do when they're drunk is what
they really truly mean. But then you know they have
the alcohol to blame it on, which is an easy out.
And the other thing you can do is get the
alcohol out of the house so he won't start drinking
so early and all of that. His problem can be
solved if he gets the help he needs and does work.
(03:00):
But if he continues to drink recklessly like this, he's
only it's only going to get worse. Sweet things that
he does for you mean nothing when he's drunk. Nothing.
Alcoholic episodes erase all of that. So if you love him,
try to get him to stop first. If he doesn't
want to and he won't go to get some help,
then you're gonna have to make that hard decision about
(03:21):
leaving him, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
This letter is why two of my pardners had to
quit drinking. Right, This letter, right here is why two
of my homeboys had to quit drinking because of these
near well, well, let me retract that the dude in
this letter has to quit drinking because my two homeboys
(03:44):
that stop drinking, they quit drinking because what happened in
this letter, this near ass whipping, actually happened to these
two dudes. What so you know? I mean, man, you
can get warmed up now running your mouth. I don't
really know. This is exactly the first letter where there's
not an abnormal. This is a real life situation that
(04:07):
can happen. Yeah, when he drinks, he gets the mood swings.
He has got to stop drinking. He can't occasionally sip.
Y'all was going to this occasion and he started drinking
around noon. Now, damn, the event ain't into that night.
(04:28):
If you start by noon, Junior, If you start drinking
around noon, when when are you toasty? Probb two? Yeah,
so right there. If you start drinking at tune and
two at noon and you toasted by two, the event
(04:50):
ain't till seven.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I just cannot with you right now.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
You toasted at two see you toasting, you know, like
you toast a cigar. You run the blade crossed the
front of the cigar. At foe you lick. Your ass
is on fire. By the time you go to the event.
The fire been burning so long. You just a hot
(05:18):
log with imbers on you. There's no coming back from this.
You can't survive this. So they go to the party,
and obviously some party to announce the wedding or something
like that, or engagement party. I don't know what it was.
But they got up there and you told him that
(05:40):
you probably ought to stay home because he was already drunk.
He said he had to go so he could tell
the groom to be that marriage is terrible. Well he
did more than that. Now he says anything to irritate
me when he's drunk, so I don't react. We got
(06:00):
to the parties. His eyes was heavy. He dozed off
doing the musical selection. Most musical elections at engagement parties
are doze off of bowl. These are those offable groups.
They're groups that ain't made it. They they doing a
bad cover.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Is that a word?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, those offable it's some woman singing Luther's never too Much, Yeah,
it's always so, or some guy singing Whitney Houston, I'll
always love it. It's just all wrong, just some songs.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, Hang on, hang on, we'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject don't threaten me with
a good time. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is don't threaten me
with a good time. Time.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
This woman is married to a man who cannot drink
at all because when he drinks, he has mood sweets. Now,
other than that, he's sweet, he's warm, he's a kind man.
But as soon as he drank, he is just a
game changing for him. So they go into an engagement
party that night. He started drinking at noon. According to Junior,
who I asked, once you start drinking at noon, you
(07:25):
toasty at two. Once you're toasted at too, and you
continue to drink at foe, you lit by the time
the event get that, your ass is on fire on
both ends and you have ambers on you you are
red firelog. You ain't lit no more and there's no
coming back for that. You can't blow him down, cool
(07:47):
him off. He drunk now, I mean slashing, yeah, slash
his slurge speech. And you told him you don't need
to go because you already drunk. He said, I got
to go because I have for Tale. I have for
Tale the groom to not to marry because it's terrible. Yo.
(08:14):
So you say when he gets drunk, he tells anything
just to irritate you.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Wait, I love your drunk laughslf up.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I can't believe out they had that money anyway. Anyway,
you told him he don't need to go. He said
he got to go, and tell him that, and then
you knew he was drunk. And when he got there,
his eyes was heavy, so he fell asleep doing the
music selection. Like I said earlier, music selections are easy
to fall asleep to an engagement party because these groups
(08:53):
that ain't made it. You got a woman singing Luther's
Never too Much. Some man sang and I'll Always love
you about Whitney Houston. You got some fat ass man
over there trying to sing It's rain and Me and
knowing good in hell well, his fat ass can't come
out the sky, and don't nobody.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Really you know.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Then you have some little real soft ass dude over
there singing killing me softly. But he doing Roberta and
the Fuji's version. Lord, so he falls asleep. The bride
to be saw him and asked him if he wanted
to go upstairs and get into bed. He said, don't
(09:41):
threaten me with no good time, baby. The groom to
be hurted, don't threaten me with no good time, baby. Laugh.
The groom to be hurded told my husband, watch your mouth, man.
My husband said, I'm just joking. Then he said, man,
(10:02):
you know your girl find his alf What you talking
about that? I watched my mother. Man. You know, boy,
you know he finding hell.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Come on, now you look at.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
It, Look at it, look at it, Look at the
thing away a thing waker over there. Baby, shake your monkey.
She got that monkey shaken over the here boy, so
that was all you needed. You left him at the party.
You heard your husband almost got his ass whooped, which
(10:35):
is what I think needs to occur at this point.
That usually stops me from drinking heavily. Ass whooping. I
wish the groom to be in the groomsman had a
whooped his ass. But then when he came home, he
slept on the living room floor. You know that's when
you do come through the door, Junior. You ever come
through the dough and you just you just can't because
(10:56):
Tommy ain't on here. So I got you ever come
through the oh and being so toe down, you just
you can't make it. It just got on your knees
and curl down in the floor. Nothing. Oh, you remember
that morning? You remember that morning?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
This is not about JR.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Talk about him. Good morning when you fell asleep behind
the couch. No, I don't feel see behind the couch.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Any attention to him, or.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
I'm bad Anyway. He woke up next morning, made me
breakfast in bed. My sexy husband was back and we
made love and he didn't remember anything. I love him
when he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him.
Shall I stick with him until he gets help? Or
do I need to figure that he need to figure
this out alone. You need to help him. You need
(11:48):
to get your man some help, because you got a
good man that he just got to stop drinking. You
got to get your man some help. You have to
You have to let him know that the insults hurt
your feelings. You have to let him know that you're
unhappy and you're thinking of leaving, and you don't want
to leave him because he can be a great guy
(12:08):
at times. But if this continues, I'm sorry, I'm gonna
have to leave you. Now. We've all been left before,
all of us, Junior, You ever been left before? Oh? Absolutely?
Girl left me. Yeah. I got called cheating. Yeah, she gone.
You got caught cheating? Yeah, out in public in the car,
(12:30):
in the car, she didn't see you. Yeah you Oh
you stupid? Okay, really now asking Junior, that wasn't stupid
to you? Yes, sir? Yeah? And where was y'all out
in the car kissing that? Because she was we was
kissing and she walked up on the window and saw me. Well,
where was y'all at in the car? Where was the
car park? Oh, in the front of the club, in
(12:51):
the front of the club. And you didn't didn't you
meet your girl at that club? Uh?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I sure did? Uh huh. Yeah, see, I know all
these type things. You ain't think she never come back
to the club.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Listen, leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on into that.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Very stupid to you.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Sean Harvey FM bling me out of this and check
us out of the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free
iHeartRadio app. Coming up next, it is Junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show
And it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter. Then we'll get your letter. We'll
read it. We could read yours, It could be yours
or please write us okay, And.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Now you have it, buckle up and hold on tight.
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for you subject. Don't threaten me with a
good time. Dear Stephen Shirley, my husband is driving me
batty with his occasional drinking and mood swings that come
with it. He has embarrassed me for the last time,
and I hate that he can never remember what he
did or said when he was drunk. On the flip side,
he's the sweetest man in the world when he doesn't drink. Saturday,
(00:49):
we had an engagement party to go to and my
husband started drinking around noon. I could tell that he
was going to be a problem because he made a
few rude comments about my outfit. I told him we
should stay home because he was already drunk, but he
said he had to go to tell the groom to
be that marriage is terrible. He says anything to irritate
(01:11):
me when he's drunk, so I didn't react. We got
to the party and his eyes were so heavy that
he dozed off during the musical selection. I asked him
to go to the car if he was sleepy. He refused.
The bride to be saw him sleeping and asked if
he wanted to go upstairs and get into bed. He said,
don't threaten me with a good time. The groom to
(01:33):
be herded and told my husband to watch his mouth.
My husband said he was joking, but then he said, man,
you know your girl is fine. Af That was my
cue to exit. I heard my husband almost got beat up.
He got a ride home and he slept on the
living room floor. The next morning, he made me breakfast
in bed, and then we made love. My sweet sexy
(01:56):
husband was back and he didn't remember anything him when
he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him. Should
I stick with him until he gets help or do
I let him figure it out alone. Well, you're married
to him, so you probably right now should stick it out.
Help him get some help. Whether you stay with him
(02:17):
or not, He does need the help, that's a fact,
but he's got to want it, you know what they say.
He seems to be in denial right now because he
doesn't remember anything. I'm surprised you haven't taken videos of
him on your camera phone or something. That's what you
need to do. Maybe then after he sees what a
fool he's making of himself at these parties and stuff,
(02:38):
he'll get some help. The saying goes that the things
that people say or do when they're drunk is what
they really truly mean. But then you know they have
the alcohol to blame it on, which is an easy out.
And the other thing you can do is get the
alcohol out of the house so he won't start drinking
so early and all of that. His problem can be
solved if he gets the help he needs and does work.
(03:00):
But if he continues to drink recklessly like this, he's
only it's only going to get worse. Sweet things that
he does for you mean nothing when he's drunk. Nothing.
Alcoholic episodes erase all of that. So if you love him,
try to get him to stop first. If he doesn't
want to and he won't go to get some help,
then you're gonna have to make that hard decision about
(03:21):
leaving him, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
This letter is why two of my pardners had to
quit drinking. Right, This letter, right here is why two
of my homeboys had to quit drinking because of these
near well, well, let me retract that the dude in
this letter has to quit drinking because my two homeboys
(03:44):
that stop drinking, they quit drinking because what happened in
this letter, this near ass whipping, actually happened to these
two dudes. What so you know? I mean, man, you
can get warmed up now running your mouth. I don't
really know. This is exactly the first letter where there's
not an abnormal. This is a real life situation that
(04:07):
can happen. Yeah, when he drinks, he gets the mood swings.
He has got to stop drinking. He can't occasionally sip.
Y'all was going to this occasion and he started drinking
around noon. Now, damn, the event ain't into that night.
(04:28):
If you start by noon, Junior, If you start drinking
around noon, when when are you toasty? Probb two? Yeah,
so right there. If you start drinking at tune and
two at noon and you toasted by two, the event
(04:50):
ain't till seven.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I just cannot with you right now.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
You toasted at two see you toasting, you know, like
you toast a cigar. You run the blade crossed the
front of the cigar. At foe you lick. Your ass
is on fire. By the time you go to the event.
The fire been burning so long. You just a hot
(05:18):
log with imbers on you. There's no coming back from this.
You can't survive this. So they go to the party,
and obviously some party to announce the wedding or something
like that, or engagement party. I don't know what it was.
But they got up there and you told him that
(05:40):
you probably ought to stay home because he was already drunk.
He said he had to go so he could tell
the groom to be that marriage is terrible. Well he
did more than that. Now he says anything to irritate
me when he's drunk, so I don't react. We got
(06:00):
to the parties. His eyes was heavy. He dozed off
doing the musical selection. Most musical elections at engagement parties
are doze off of bowl. These are those offable groups.
They're groups that ain't made it. They they doing a
bad cover.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Is that a word?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, those offable it's some woman singing Luther's never too Much, Yeah,
it's always so, or some guy singing Whitney Houston, I'll
always love it. It's just all wrong, just some songs.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, Hang on, hang on, we'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject don't threaten me with
a good time. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is don't threaten me
with a good time. Time.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
This woman is married to a man who cannot drink
at all because when he drinks, he has mood sweets. Now,
other than that, he's sweet, he's warm, he's a kind man.
But as soon as he drank, he is just a
game changing for him. So they go into an engagement
party that night. He started drinking at noon. According to Junior,
who I asked, once you start drinking at noon, you
(07:25):
toasty at two. Once you're toasted at too, and you
continue to drink at foe, you lit by the time
the event get that, your ass is on fire on
both ends and you have ambers on you you are
red firelog. You ain't lit no more and there's no
coming back for that. You can't blow him down, cool
(07:47):
him off. He drunk now, I mean slashing, yeah, slash
his slurge speech. And you told him you don't need
to go because you already drunk. He said, I got
to go because I have for Tale. I have for
Tale the groom to not to marry because it's terrible. Yo.
(08:14):
So you say when he gets drunk, he tells anything
just to irritate you.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Wait, I love your drunk laughslf up.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I can't believe out they had that money anyway. Anyway,
you told him he don't need to go. He said
he got to go, and tell him that, and then
you knew he was drunk. And when he got there,
his eyes was heavy, so he fell asleep doing the
music selection. Like I said earlier, music selections are easy
to fall asleep to an engagement party because these groups
(08:53):
that ain't made it. You got a woman singing Luther's
Never too Much. Some man sang and I'll Always love
you about Whitney Houston. You got some fat ass man
over there trying to sing It's rain and Me and
knowing good in hell well, his fat ass can't come
out the sky, and don't nobody.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Really you know.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Then you have some little real soft ass dude over
there singing killing me softly. But he doing Roberta and
the Fuji's version. Lord, so he falls asleep. The bride
to be saw him and asked him if he wanted
to go upstairs and get into bed. He said, don't
(09:41):
threaten me with no good time, baby. The groom to
be hurted, don't threaten me with no good time, baby. Laugh.
The groom to be hurded told my husband, watch your mouth, man.
My husband said, I'm just joking. Then he said, man,
(10:02):
you know your girl find his alf What you talking
about that? I watched my mother. Man. You know, boy,
you know he finding hell.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Come on, now you look at.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
It, Look at it, look at it, Look at the
thing away a thing waker over there. Baby, shake your monkey.
She got that monkey shaken over the here boy, so
that was all you needed. You left him at the party.
You heard your husband almost got his ass whooped, which
(10:35):
is what I think needs to occur at this point.
That usually stops me from drinking heavily. Ass whooping. I
wish the groom to be in the groomsman had a
whooped his ass. But then when he came home, he
slept on the living room floor. You know that's when
you do come through the door, Junior. You ever come
through the dough and you just you just can't because
(10:56):
Tommy ain't on here. So I got you ever come
through the oh and being so toe down, you just
you can't make it. It just got on your knees
and curl down in the floor. Nothing. Oh, you remember
that morning? You remember that morning?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
This is not about JR.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Talk about him. Good morning when you fell asleep behind
the couch. No, I don't feel see behind the couch.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Any attention to him, or.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
I'm bad Anyway. He woke up next morning, made me
breakfast in bed. My sexy husband was back and we
made love and he didn't remember anything. I love him
when he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him.
Shall I stick with him until he gets help? Or
do I need to figure that he need to figure
this out alone. You need to help him. You need
(11:48):
to get your man some help, because you got a
good man that he just got to stop drinking. You
got to get your man some help. You have to
You have to let him know that the insults hurt
your feelings. You have to let him know that you're
unhappy and you're thinking of leaving, and you don't want
to leave him because he can be a great guy
(12:08):
at times. But if this continues, I'm sorry, I'm gonna
have to leave you. Now. We've all been left before,
all of us, Junior, You ever been left before? Oh? Absolutely?
Girl left me. Yeah. I got called cheating. Yeah, she gone.
You got caught cheating? Yeah, out in public in the car,
(12:30):
in the car, she didn't see you. Yeah you Oh
you stupid? Okay, really now asking Junior, that wasn't stupid
to you? Yes, sir? Yeah? And where was y'all out
in the car kissing that? Because she was we was
kissing and she walked up on the window and saw me. Well,
where was y'all at in the car? Where was the
car park? Oh, in the front of the club, in
(12:51):
the front of the club. And you didn't didn't you
meet your girl at that club? Uh?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I sure did? Uh huh. Yeah, see, I know all
these type things. You ain't think she never come back
to the club.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Listen, leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on into that.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Very stupid to you.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Sean Harvey FM bling me out of this and check
us out of the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free
iHeartRadio app. Coming up next, it is Junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show
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