April 17, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm almost sixty years old and I've been a live in girlfriend for over twenty years. When my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off a terrible marriage and I was married to an old man that died on me and left me homeless. I had saved up a lot of money and lost it all taking care of him. When he died, his children took what little money he had. So my current honey and I said we'd never get married, but he'd never leave me like the last one did. He makes sure I have access to everything that's his, and he doesn't have any children, so I'm good on that part. We have a comfortable life and he loves to travel...................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nep you subject.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I'm going to take him back every time?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Okay? Did Stephen Shirley. I'm almost sixty years old and
I've been a living girlfriend for over twenty years. When
my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off
a terrible marriage and I was married to an old
man that died on me and left me homeless. I
had saved up a lot of money and lost it
all taking care of him. When he died, his children
(00:56):
took what little money he had. So my current honey
and I said we'd never get married, but he'd never
leave me like the last one did. He makes sure
I have access to everything that's his, and he doesn't
have any children, so I'm good on that part. We
have a comfortable life and he loves to travel. I
will retire in five years, and I had planned to
(01:19):
settle on in and cater to my husband. But my
honey is up to no good most of the time.
Over the years, I've seen things, and a few women
have contacted me or approached us while we are out.
He has no shame, and one time he told the
lady to calm down, don't disrespect me, and he'll call
(01:40):
her later. The lady turned around and went back to
her car. He's like magic, and I can't get from
under his spell. That's what my friends say to me
when they come to me telling me that he's no good.
What they don't know is that I'm looking at my future.
I will take this man back, no matter what he did,
because my aunties and grandma told me that a piece
(02:03):
of a man is better than no man at all.
It may not make sense to other women, but it's
how I am with my honey. He's a good man
if I look over his infidelity. He's sixty four and
I'm hoping he will settle down soon. But I can't lie.
I'm afraid someone might take him away. From me, Am
(02:24):
I going about this the wrong way? Should I leave
this man? Yes? And yes?
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Okay. So in the.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Beginning and in the middle of this letter, it didn't
sound like you wanted any advice at all. It sounded
like you were perfectly fine with how things were. You said,
no matter what anyone says about him, you'll take this
man back. You said, your aunties and your grandma told
you that a piece of a man is better than
no man at all. Sorry, but that's bad advice, that
(02:54):
really is. And you said, if you ignore his infidelities,
he's a good man. Excuse me what, he's cheating on you.
That's not a good man. It's not a good man.
If he's cheating on you, Okay, you don't like it,
(03:14):
you're unhappy, that's why you're writing Steve and I. You
said he's like magic and you can't get from under
a spell. But he's more like poison that you shouldn't
be ingesting. He's not respecting you. You said he's up
to no good most of the time. You said that, listen,
no one, no one is that good where you just
(03:35):
allow them to treat you any old kind of way.
So you can't just sit there and take this. You
can't got you can't have a fear of losing him
to someone else. Thinking that someone else is gonna take
them away from him, take them away from you. It
makes you look desperate. Okay, it makes you look desperate.
I'm sorry. You're living girlfriend for twenty years, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I'm stuck at the I'm going to take him back
every time.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Then my question is, Okay, so what you want from us?
You've already said so the little questions you have in
the letter, You've already said you're gonna take him back
every time.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
So what you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Want from us? I can't give you self esteem at sixty.
I can't make you want more if you don't want more, Well,
what you want from us? What you want me to
tell you?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Lady? You settling? This all you want that?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Look, I'm almost sixty and I've been a living girlfriend
for over twenty years. Like what?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Okay, what.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
A live in girlfriend for over twenty years? What do
you want from me? You just settled? You're a girlfriend.
You're a sixty year old girl.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Friend? Who do that with my honey?
Speaker 3 (05:07):
And I started dating your honey? That's all you can
call him is your honey. You can't call him nothing else.
He was married, and I was married to a old
man that died on me and left me homeless. I
stayed up. I saved up a lot of money and
I lost it all taking care of him. When he died,
his children who took what little money he had. So
my current honey and I said, we never get married,
(05:30):
but he never.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Leave me like the last one did. The last one
didn't just leave you. He died, damn it. He didn't
just leave you. Damn it.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
He died.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
The other one gonna die too. He gonna die too.
And if he died before you guess what. He gonna
leave you, just like the other one dead. He makes
sure I have access to everything that's his. And he
(06:08):
don't have any children, So I'm good on that part.
He's sixty four and ain't got no kids. What is
wrong with this picture? Well, I'm gonna show you what's
wrong with it when we come back. He don't have
no children. We have a comfortable life, and he loves
to travel. I'm gonna retire five years and I'm playing
(06:32):
on settling down and catering to my honey.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Oh ready, hang on, we'll.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Get to that when we come backey of your response.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
today's Strawberry Letters subject, I'm going to take him back
every time. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. I'm gonna take him back
every time.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Well, the lady, once you entited a letter that My
question was what do you want from us? What you
want from us? And then you proceed to tell us
that you was married. You sit almost sixty and you've
been a living and girlfriend for over twenty years. Okay,
your standards alone, you don't want nothing and you don't
demand nothing. So now what you want from us? When
(07:24):
my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off
of terrible marriage and I was married to an old
man that died on me and left me homeless. You
had a lot of money, but you lost it all
taking care of him when he died. His children tell
the little money had. So my current honey and I said,
we never get married, but he never leave me like
the last one did. Once again, let me point out
(07:46):
he did not just leave.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
You say it.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Yeah, his ass died. That's different, really different, he laughed me. No, no, no, no,
he's out. I mean he left me hanging. No, no,
he didn't have a choice.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He died, damn it.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And anyway, the other one said, he never do that
one and to make sure. He make sure I have
access to everything that he has. And he don't have
no children, so I'm good on that part. Now here
we go. We have a comfortable life and he loves
to travel. I will retire in five years and I
have planned to settle in and cater to my honey.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Oh yeah, now that's gonna be interesting.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Let's say that, because that's gonna be my clothing line
when you retire and cater to your honey.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
But my honey is up to no good most of
the time. Oh okay, here we go.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Over the years, I have seen things, and a few
women have contacted me or approached us while we were out.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
He has no shame.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
And one time he told the lady to calm down,
don't disrespect me, and he'll call her later.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
The lady turned around the way back to her car.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
He's like magic. I can't get from under his spell. Well,
let's talk about magic Mike. Now, Magic Mike.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Is who I've called the dude in this letter.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Now, you have several problems with him, but you seem
to think that he's unfaithful to you, and I don't
think that's true.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm gonna point this out.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
That's what my friends say to me when they come
to me telling me he's no good. What they don't
know is that I'm looking at my future and I
will take this man back no matter what he does,
because my aunties and grandma told me that a piece
of a man is better than no man at all.
I could assure you your grandmama and your aunt ain't
got no damn but it.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I can promise you that. I can promise you that
and have never had one.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It may not make me since to women that don't
make sense to other men, that don't make no sense
to me, but it's how I am with my honey.
He's a good man if I overlook his infidelity.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You so stupid, You know you're just stupid.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
You done wrote a dumb ass letter and you keep
making dumb ass statements and you want us to give
you an answer. Well, we can't help your dumb ass
because you stupid. He a good man if I overlook
his infidelity. He's sixty four, and I'm hoping he will
settle down. So sixty four settled down. He ain't settling down.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
He locked in.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
This is how he is. You just heard he ain't
got no kids. You have found a bunch of women.
Women come up to him in public here, Hey, calm down,
you don't disrespect me. Get on out of here. I'll
call you later. She go away and you stay. When
he settled down, he doing what he do. He locked in.
(11:01):
But I can't lie. I'm afraid someone might take him
away from me.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
They already got him, everybody. What is you talking about?
You afraid somebody gonna take him from you? You don't
have him. They have him. Am I going about this
the wrong way? Should I lead this man?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
No? No, no, no, listen to me. Stop saying should I lead
this man? Because you just told us you're not going
no matter what he do, You're not gonna leave because
you just you want a piece of man, and you
got a piece of man. Now you say it's infidelity,
which means he's cheating on you. Let me point out
something to you. He's not cheating on you. This man
(11:39):
isn't cheating on you.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
What's he doing?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
You are one of.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
The women that he sees, and when they come up
to you in public, he tells them to calm down,
don't disrespect me, get on out of here, and I'll
call you later. And you sit there and go, yeah,
get out our face. He'll call you later, not get
(12:04):
and then you go right back to being his honey.
So you see, he's not cheating on you. He's not
practicing infidelily. He has a stable of women that you've
known about over the years, and you one of them,
and you okay with being his honey and his.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Living and girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
And no, he's not gonna settle down because he's locked in.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
This is what he do.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Now, let me help you with this statement you made
in five years, you gonna retire and cater to your honey.
You go cater to your honey. He don't cater to you.
You got a five year plan that's doomed from the start.
He don't cater to you. He's not your man. He's
(12:54):
a lot of man's is to a lot of women's. See,
when you're talking to ignorant people, is best to talk
ignorant he's not because he has a lot of women's.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
On Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram, at Steve Harvey FM,
and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Now coming up next to his junior and sports talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nep you subject.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I'm going to take him back every time?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Okay? Did Stephen Shirley. I'm almost sixty years old and
I've been a living girlfriend for over twenty years. When
my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off
a terrible marriage and I was married to an old
man that died on me and left me homeless. I
had saved up a lot of money and lost it
all taking care of him. When he died, his children
(00:56):
took what little money he had. So my current honey
and I said we'd never get married, but he'd never
leave me like the last one did. He makes sure
I have access to everything that's his, and he doesn't
have any children, so I'm good on that part. We
have a comfortable life and he loves to travel. I
will retire in five years, and I had planned to
(01:19):
settle on in and cater to my husband. But my
honey is up to no good most of the time.
Over the years, I've seen things, and a few women
have contacted me or approached us while we are out.
He has no shame, and one time he told the
lady to calm down, don't disrespect me, and he'll call
(01:40):
her later. The lady turned around and went back to
her car. He's like magic, and I can't get from
under his spell. That's what my friends say to me
when they come to me telling me that he's no good.
What they don't know is that I'm looking at my future.
I will take this man back, no matter what he did,
because my aunties and grandma told me that a piece
(02:03):
of a man is better than no man at all.
It may not make sense to other women, but it's
how I am with my honey. He's a good man
if I look over his infidelity. He's sixty four and
I'm hoping he will settle down soon. But I can't lie.
I'm afraid someone might take him away. From me, Am
(02:24):
I going about this the wrong way? Should I leave
this man? Yes? And yes?
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Okay. So in the.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Beginning and in the middle of this letter, it didn't
sound like you wanted any advice at all. It sounded
like you were perfectly fine with how things were. You said,
no matter what anyone says about him, you'll take this
man back. You said, your aunties and your grandma told
you that a piece of a man is better than
no man at all. Sorry, but that's bad advice, that
(02:54):
really is. And you said, if you ignore his infidelities,
he's a good man. Excuse me what, he's cheating on you.
That's not a good man. It's not a good man.
If he's cheating on you, Okay, you don't like it,
(03:14):
you're unhappy, that's why you're writing Steve and I. You
said he's like magic and you can't get from under
a spell. But he's more like poison that you shouldn't
be ingesting. He's not respecting you. You said he's up
to no good most of the time. You said that, listen,
no one, no one is that good where you just
(03:35):
allow them to treat you any old kind of way.
So you can't just sit there and take this. You
can't got you can't have a fear of losing him
to someone else. Thinking that someone else is gonna take
them away from him, take them away from you. It
makes you look desperate. Okay, it makes you look desperate.
I'm sorry. You're living girlfriend for twenty years, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I'm stuck at the I'm going to take him back
every time.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Then my question is, Okay, so what you want from us?
You've already said so the little questions you have in
the letter, You've already said you're gonna take him back
every time.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
So what you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Want from us? I can't give you self esteem at sixty.
I can't make you want more if you don't want more, Well,
what you want from us? What you want me to
tell you?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Lady? You settling? This all you want that?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Look, I'm almost sixty and I've been a living girlfriend
for over twenty years. Like what?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Okay, what.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
A live in girlfriend for over twenty years? What do
you want from me? You just settled? You're a girlfriend.
You're a sixty year old girl.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Friend? Who do that with my honey?
Speaker 3 (05:07):
And I started dating your honey? That's all you can
call him is your honey. You can't call him nothing else.
He was married, and I was married to a old
man that died on me and left me homeless. I
stayed up. I saved up a lot of money and
I lost it all taking care of him. When he died,
his children who took what little money he had. So
my current honey and I said, we never get married,
(05:30):
but he never.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Leave me like the last one did. The last one
didn't just leave you. He died, damn it. He didn't
just leave you. Damn it.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
He died.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
The other one gonna die too. He gonna die too.
And if he died before you guess what. He gonna
leave you, just like the other one dead. He makes
sure I have access to everything that's his. And he
(06:08):
don't have any children, So I'm good on that part.
He's sixty four and ain't got no kids. What is
wrong with this picture? Well, I'm gonna show you what's
wrong with it when we come back. He don't have
no children. We have a comfortable life, and he loves
to travel. I'm gonna retire five years and I'm playing
(06:32):
on settling down and catering to my honey.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Oh ready, hang on, we'll.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Get to that when we come backey of your response.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
today's Strawberry Letters subject, I'm going to take him back
every time. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. I'm gonna take him back
every time.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Well, the lady, once you entited a letter that My
question was what do you want from us? What you
want from us? And then you proceed to tell us
that you was married. You sit almost sixty and you've
been a living and girlfriend for over twenty years. Okay,
your standards alone, you don't want nothing and you don't
demand nothing. So now what you want from us? When
(07:24):
my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off
of terrible marriage and I was married to an old
man that died on me and left me homeless. You
had a lot of money, but you lost it all
taking care of him when he died. His children tell
the little money had. So my current honey and I said,
we never get married, but he never leave me like
the last one did. Once again, let me point out
(07:46):
he did not just leave.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
You say it.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Yeah, his ass died. That's different, really different, he laughed me. No, no, no, no,
he's out. I mean he left me hanging. No, no,
he didn't have a choice.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He died, damn it.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And anyway, the other one said, he never do that
one and to make sure. He make sure I have
access to everything that he has. And he don't have
no children, so I'm good on that part. Now here
we go. We have a comfortable life and he loves
to travel. I will retire in five years and I
have planned to settle in and cater to my honey.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Oh yeah, now that's gonna be interesting.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Let's say that, because that's gonna be my clothing line
when you retire and cater to your honey.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
But my honey is up to no good most of
the time. Oh okay, here we go.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Over the years, I have seen things, and a few
women have contacted me or approached us while we were out.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
He has no shame.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
And one time he told the lady to calm down,
don't disrespect me, and he'll call her later.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
The lady turned around the way back to her car.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
He's like magic. I can't get from under his spell. Well,
let's talk about magic Mike. Now, Magic Mike.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Is who I've called the dude in this letter.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Now, you have several problems with him, but you seem
to think that he's unfaithful to you, and I don't
think that's true.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm gonna point this out.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
That's what my friends say to me when they come
to me telling me he's no good. What they don't
know is that I'm looking at my future and I
will take this man back no matter what he does,
because my aunties and grandma told me that a piece
of a man is better than no man at all.
I could assure you your grandmama and your aunt ain't
got no damn but it.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I can promise you that. I can promise you that
and have never had one.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It may not make me since to women that don't
make sense to other men, that don't make no sense
to me, but it's how I am with my honey.
He's a good man if I overlook his infidelity.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You so stupid, You know you're just stupid.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
You done wrote a dumb ass letter and you keep
making dumb ass statements and you want us to give
you an answer. Well, we can't help your dumb ass
because you stupid. He a good man if I overlook
his infidelity. He's sixty four, and I'm hoping he will
settle down. So sixty four settled down. He ain't settling down.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
He locked in.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
This is how he is. You just heard he ain't
got no kids. You have found a bunch of women.
Women come up to him in public here, Hey, calm down,
you don't disrespect me. Get on out of here. I'll
call you later. She go away and you stay. When
he settled down, he doing what he do. He locked in.
(11:01):
But I can't lie. I'm afraid someone might take him
away from me.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
They already got him, everybody. What is you talking about?
You afraid somebody gonna take him from you? You don't
have him. They have him. Am I going about this
the wrong way? Should I lead this man?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
No? No, no, no, listen to me. Stop saying should I lead
this man? Because you just told us you're not going
no matter what he do, You're not gonna leave because
you just you want a piece of man, and you
got a piece of man. Now you say it's infidelity,
which means he's cheating on you. Let me point out
something to you. He's not cheating on you. This man
(11:39):
isn't cheating on you.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
What's he doing?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
You are one of.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
The women that he sees, and when they come up
to you in public, he tells them to calm down,
don't disrespect me, get on out of here, and I'll
call you later. And you sit there and go, yeah,
get out our face. He'll call you later, not get
(12:04):
and then you go right back to being his honey.
So you see, he's not cheating on you. He's not
practicing infidelily. He has a stable of women that you've
known about over the years, and you one of them,
and you okay with being his honey and his.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Living and girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
And no, he's not gonna settle down because he's locked in.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
This is what he do.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Now, let me help you with this statement you made
in five years, you gonna retire and cater to your honey.
You go cater to your honey. He don't cater to you.
You got a five year plan that's doomed from the start.
He don't cater to you. He's not your man. He's
(12:54):
a lot of man's is to a lot of women's. See,
when you're talking to ignorant people, is best to talk
ignorant he's not because he has a lot of women's.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
On Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram, at Steve Harvey FM,
and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Now coming up next to his junior and sports talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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Every week comedian and infamous roaster Nikki Glaser provides a fun, fast-paced, and brutally honest look into current pop-culture and her own personal life.