December 15, 2023 • 8 mins
Bethenny addresses the extremely difficult situation between Kim Zolciak and Kroy Biermann. Unfortunately, we find out it’s a subject that she can very much relate to as she opens up about difficulties from her own past.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
I relate so deeply to the Kim and Kry situation
on a cellular level, and watching this video of them
cry out for help and fight really took me down
to the sticks. Because as adults we push away experiences
(00:36):
we had as children. It's just our survival mechanism. We
just we brush it off. We think it didn't happen.
It's the only thing we knew. We can sometimes just
say that we didn't have a great childhood, or an
ideal childhood or a functional childhood. But it's just like
an anecdotal thing. But you really don't remember or even
(00:59):
know what it felt like, because it's just something you
can describe. It's not something you can feel now because
you've pushed it down and because you're not a child.
And so I watch Kim and Croy in desperation. Imagine
people who cared so deeply about what other people think. Financially,
(01:22):
the cars, the stuff, the chanel bags, the show, the show,
the show. We'll get into that, but that to be
able to be on camera, awsome hidden camera, or not
even be in front of your neighbors, just like be
(01:42):
out there in the open with police at your house
and someone calling the police and actually talking to the
police because you feel like they're the only ones who
can help you. That means you are close to rock bottom.
And I lived in that house. I know that there's
been discussion about finances and gambling and foreclosures and mortgages
(02:06):
and fronting and stunting. It's a fact. And I know
that I was the kid in that house. I was
at the kid in the house where in the neighborhood
things were smashing, glass was smashing. There was one time
that my mother took every single framed beautiful glass and
(02:28):
I don't mean like eight x ten like a giant,
like giant poster size horse winter circle pictures that my
stepfather won that were all over the house and smashed
them all. I remember watching suicide attempts. I remember knife fights.
I remember my mother being beaten with the phone and
(02:49):
dragged down the hall. And I remember hearing the word
see the sea word that my stepfather was calling her
that because she had been out to Studio fifty four
till all hours of the night, I wasted and got
into a car accident. He would lock her out. She
would punch the glass to get in, bleeding everywhere, and
(03:11):
I remember he would come in and say everything to
me about her, like everything she was to me, you know.
And I remember hiding in the closet. I remember lighting paper.
I remember lighting fire, like not that I wanted to
set the house on fire, but I remember lighting paper
and then blowing it out, lighting paper and then blowing
it out, like watching the flame get a little bigger.
I could have set the house on fire. I was
a child, and I remember eating off of a card table.
(03:35):
We had a parakeet and we had a cat. We
ate off of a card table. Fifty three Greenway Terrace
and Forest Hills. The house cost one hundred thousand dollars.
I kept trying to ask, like how much one hundred
thousand dollars was, Like, it's one hundred thousand dollars. And
I remember having different cars, Mercedes, Jaguar, all of it,
and then I remember having none of it. I remember
(03:57):
my stepfather coming in and asking me to break open
my piggy bank to pay back bookies, football bookies. I
remember calling the cops and them coming and us being
at the hospital and be looking at me, looking myself
and the ads for like little apartments and begging why
we can leave them? Why we couldn't find an apartment.
(04:19):
And I remember, I remember all of it. I remember
going to that groom's house, my father, my stepfather's groom,
his horse groom who worked for me, a young guy
in his twenties, and his mother, Pat Wilson, and she
and her husband. She her husband used to was a
raging irish alcoholic. I don't remember. I remember there being
(04:41):
an abusive household too, and I remember someone in that
house being violated in that house. Let's just leave it
at that. These I know that I didn't realize we
couldn't leave because of money. Money, money, money, money, money, money, money.
Money makes the world go go round. And it's why
Kim and Croy probably are staying together in some way.
(05:02):
They probably love each other, they probably hate each other.
They probably look at each other and their mirrors of
each other. They reflect all their mistakes. They're the only
ones who know how much a fraud it's all been.
And I bring up the show because that's what The
Housewives is. It's a place where you have to show
everybody else how rich you are, how much money you have,
(05:26):
how many air meaz bags you have, how many letters
you can fit on your body, how many logos you
can wear. I'm not saying this is a situation with
p K and Dori. I'm just saying so many people
have said there have been financial issues. I'm not saying
that was the situation with Alex and Simon. I'm saying
that they were going to Kevali and went into foreclosure.
I'm not saying that it's the situation with Charat, but
(05:53):
she felt like she had to build some palace to
prove something to somebody. I'm not saying that Nini is
or isn't a rich bitch, but she came on the
show as a woman who was just like a normal
married woman and felt the need that she had to
prove that she was rich bitch. It goes on and
on and on in every single city. Everybody has to
(06:14):
prove how much money they have, and then you find out, oh,
they're not really a housewife. They're being helicoptered in to
prove they're a housewife. Oh they don't really own their house,
they rent their house. Or oh that person in Salt
Lake City, jen Shaw who's stealing to look rich with
logos everywhere, but they're all fake. Oh that's not really
her house. Every season she rents a new house. First
(06:37):
season I was on with Chill. They had money. It's
some money. Bobby rented a yellow Lamborghini to film. Everybody
has to appear rich and it's a pressure cooker because
they can't sustain it. They can't sustain it. And I
know how much money people have that were on the
Real Housewives of New York. It wasn't a lot compared
(06:57):
to what people think. It's not a lot on Beverly Hills.
It's a lot, but it's not what you think it
is because everything is designed to show you how rich
people are. Was Erica that rich? Was Erica that rich?
I knew she was, and I knew her husband owed money.
It doesn't matter. Everybody has to prove it. That's what
that show is about. And they don't hire people that
(07:18):
don't look rich. You don't have to be rich, you
just have to look rich. They would never hire someone
in a studio apartment like mine. Now, that's not what
the brand is, and they would say she doesn't have
enough money. She doesn't like she has enough money when casting.
That's what it is, and that, I bet you is
a lot of the pressure here because we hear about
all the bags that him selling, all the money that
(07:40):
these two were trying to prove that they had, and
now we hear about gambling debts. There are children in
that house, and they probably can't afford to break up,
and somebody's going to have to just be a grown
up out of the two of them and take their
kids and themselves out of that misery. People want to
(08:00):
blame Kim, people want to blame everyone. They're both in there,
and their children are going to be the product of
their unresolved issues. All the issues that their children have
in the future that they're talking to their therapists about
are going to be a result of being in that house.
So somebody has to get out of there. Somebody wants
to stay in my house, in my guest room, in
(08:21):
my guest house, no problem. But somebody's got to get
the hell out of there and find a small, tiny
place to stay with no heirs and no show and
no go. And they have to call this fight now
because this is irresponsible, it's unhealthy, it's bad for their children,
they're doing damage, it's bad for themselves. Somebody has got
to call this fight. It's time someone has to get
(08:42):
out of this house, get a studio apartment that is
six hundred dollars a month and take those kids into
a calm environment. Living in a nice, big house is
not worth this, and it's doing damage. It's enough now
I relate so deeply to the Kim and Kry situation
on a cellular level, and watching this video of them
cry out for help and fight really took me down
to the sticks. Because as adults we push away experiences
(00:36):
we had as children. It's just our survival mechanism. We
just we brush it off. We think it didn't happen.
It's the only thing we knew. We can sometimes just
say that we didn't have a great childhood, or an
ideal childhood or a functional childhood. But it's just like
an anecdotal thing. But you really don't remember or even
(00:59):
know what it felt like, because it's just something you
can describe. It's not something you can feel now because
you've pushed it down and because you're not a child.
And so I watch Kim and Croy in desperation. Imagine
people who cared so deeply about what other people think. Financially,
(01:22):
the cars, the stuff, the chanel bags, the show, the show,
the show. We'll get into that, but that to be
able to be on camera, awsome hidden camera, or not
even be in front of your neighbors, just like be
(01:42):
out there in the open with police at your house
and someone calling the police and actually talking to the
police because you feel like they're the only ones who
can help you. That means you are close to rock bottom.
And I lived in that house. I know that there's
been discussion about finances and gambling and foreclosures and mortgages
(02:06):
and fronting and stunting. It's a fact. And I know
that I was the kid in that house. I was
at the kid in the house where in the neighborhood
things were smashing, glass was smashing. There was one time
that my mother took every single framed beautiful glass and
(02:28):
I don't mean like eight x ten like a giant,
like giant poster size horse winter circle pictures that my
stepfather won that were all over the house and smashed
them all. I remember watching suicide attempts. I remember knife fights.
I remember my mother being beaten with the phone and
(02:49):
dragged down the hall. And I remember hearing the word
see the sea word that my stepfather was calling her
that because she had been out to Studio fifty four
till all hours of the night, I wasted and got
into a car accident. He would lock her out. She
would punch the glass to get in, bleeding everywhere, and
(03:11):
I remember he would come in and say everything to
me about her, like everything she was to me, you know.
And I remember hiding in the closet. I remember lighting paper.
I remember lighting fire, like not that I wanted to
set the house on fire, but I remember lighting paper
and then blowing it out, lighting paper and then blowing
it out, like watching the flame get a little bigger.
I could have set the house on fire. I was
a child, and I remember eating off of a card table.
(03:35):
We had a parakeet and we had a cat. We
ate off of a card table. Fifty three Greenway Terrace
and Forest Hills. The house cost one hundred thousand dollars.
I kept trying to ask, like how much one hundred
thousand dollars was, Like, it's one hundred thousand dollars. And
I remember having different cars, Mercedes, Jaguar, all of it,
and then I remember having none of it. I remember
(03:57):
my stepfather coming in and asking me to break open
my piggy bank to pay back bookies, football bookies. I
remember calling the cops and them coming and us being
at the hospital and be looking at me, looking myself
and the ads for like little apartments and begging why
we can leave them? Why we couldn't find an apartment.
(04:19):
And I remember, I remember all of it. I remember
going to that groom's house, my father, my stepfather's groom,
his horse groom who worked for me, a young guy
in his twenties, and his mother, Pat Wilson, and she
and her husband. She her husband used to was a
raging irish alcoholic. I don't remember. I remember there being
(04:41):
an abusive household too, and I remember someone in that
house being violated in that house. Let's just leave it
at that. These I know that I didn't realize we
couldn't leave because of money. Money, money, money, money, money, money, money.
Money makes the world go go round. And it's why
Kim and Croy probably are staying together in some way.
(05:02):
They probably love each other, they probably hate each other.
They probably look at each other and their mirrors of
each other. They reflect all their mistakes. They're the only
ones who know how much a fraud it's all been.
And I bring up the show because that's what The
Housewives is. It's a place where you have to show
everybody else how rich you are, how much money you have,
(05:26):
how many air meaz bags you have, how many letters
you can fit on your body, how many logos you
can wear. I'm not saying this is a situation with
p K and Dori. I'm just saying so many people
have said there have been financial issues. I'm not saying
that was the situation with Alex and Simon. I'm saying
that they were going to Kevali and went into foreclosure.
I'm not saying that it's the situation with Charat, but
(05:53):
she felt like she had to build some palace to
prove something to somebody. I'm not saying that Nini is
or isn't a rich bitch, but she came on the
show as a woman who was just like a normal
married woman and felt the need that she had to
prove that she was rich bitch. It goes on and
on and on in every single city. Everybody has to
(06:14):
prove how much money they have, and then you find out, oh,
they're not really a housewife. They're being helicoptered in to
prove they're a housewife. Oh they don't really own their house,
they rent their house. Or oh that person in Salt
Lake City, jen Shaw who's stealing to look rich with
logos everywhere, but they're all fake. Oh that's not really
her house. Every season she rents a new house. First
(06:37):
season I was on with Chill. They had money. It's
some money. Bobby rented a yellow Lamborghini to film. Everybody
has to appear rich and it's a pressure cooker because
they can't sustain it. They can't sustain it. And I
know how much money people have that were on the
Real Housewives of New York. It wasn't a lot compared
(06:57):
to what people think. It's not a lot on Beverly Hills.
It's a lot, but it's not what you think it
is because everything is designed to show you how rich
people are. Was Erica that rich? Was Erica that rich?
I knew she was, and I knew her husband owed money.
It doesn't matter. Everybody has to prove it. That's what
that show is about. And they don't hire people that
(07:18):
don't look rich. You don't have to be rich, you
just have to look rich. They would never hire someone
in a studio apartment like mine. Now, that's not what
the brand is, and they would say she doesn't have
enough money. She doesn't like she has enough money when casting.
That's what it is, and that, I bet you is
a lot of the pressure here because we hear about
all the bags that him selling, all the money that
(07:40):
these two were trying to prove that they had, and
now we hear about gambling debts. There are children in
that house, and they probably can't afford to break up,
and somebody's going to have to just be a grown
up out of the two of them and take their
kids and themselves out of that misery. People want to
(08:00):
blame Kim, people want to blame everyone. They're both in there,
and their children are going to be the product of
their unresolved issues. All the issues that their children have
in the future that they're talking to their therapists about
are going to be a result of being in that house.
So somebody has to get out of there. Somebody wants
to stay in my house, in my guest room, in
(08:21):
my guest house, no problem. But somebody's got to get
the hell out of there and find a small, tiny
place to stay with no heirs and no show and
no go. And they have to call this fight now
because this is irresponsible, it's unhealthy, it's bad for their children,
they're doing damage, it's bad for themselves. Somebody has got
to call this fight. It's time someone has to get
(08:42):
out of this house, get a studio apartment that is
six hundred dollars a month and take those kids into
a calm environment. Living in a nice, big house is
not worth this, and it's doing damage. It's enough now
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