April 11, 2024 • 47 mins
Alexia Umansky from Buying Beverly Hills and the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills is hanging out in the O.R.!
Alexia tells us what it was REALLY like growing up on reality TV with her mom Kyle Richards, and we get some inside info on the tough conversations that DIDN’T make the final cut!
Plus, Alexia opens up about her relationship and reveals how she knew he was the one since elementary school!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rep An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrub a dub dumb.
Today's guest. Well, you know her because her family has
been on our TVs for.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
A minute now, many many years, yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Many many years, and now she is part of the madness.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
We saw her grow up in the Real Housewives of
Beverly Hills. Her mom is Kylo Richards, her dad is Mauricio,
and they now have their own TV show together as
a family. That's called Buying Beverly Hills, which is all
about the real estate market in Beverly Hills, their family dynamic.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
It's good.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
It's on Netflix. I've been enjoying it.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah, it's all the sisters. It's a whole family affair,
and we are going to ask her all the questions
on today's episode.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
So let's welcome to the Scrubbing In our Alexia Yumanski.
You're welcome. Clap, you're welcome, applause.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
I'm just like, yeah, I got a lot of for
but I'm joining you. Thank you for scrubbing in and
being on the podcast today.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Thank you guys so much for having me. I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Yeah, we were very excited to talk to you because
there's a lot to talk to you about. I feel
you were I was going to ask you this. I
was curious, have you ever felt like your life was
normal in terms of other people's norm.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
You know, that's such a good question because I feel
so normal, I really, really really do you know? Are
the drama the things we deal with as a family
as a whole, like that stuff never feels normal? But
like I also talk to my friends and we all
have our family drama as we all have our things,
and you know, I'm like, I'm not I'm not different.
(02:03):
Just a lot more people know about our stuff, you know.
But you know, I really do feel so normal.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Well do you know it's gotta be so weird watching
such personal things, especially in your family, because I come
a fan I'm from the South, and the thing about
the self is that everything is just great all the
time for everybody. So I come from a world where
no one really talks openly about struggles or family issues.
So is there a point where where you got to
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a certain age where you were like, why is all
of this so much everybody else's business.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
That's that's interesting. I've never really thought about it like that,
but so, you know, the truth is, and we talk
about this a lot as a family on our show,
The Buying Beverly Hills. I to different rate which one now,
which is crazy. But we always were the kind of
family that did brush things under the rug, and we
did not talk about things internally very much. And I've
(03:01):
got to say, you know, I would say the first
time our family drama was e republic was when a
lot of stuff happened with my mom and her sister
in the beginning seasons of Real Housewives, and that was
a very big deal for all of us and not
something I was used to. And I think that's around
the time I was just like, I don't think I
can watch the show. Oh my gosh. I was thirteen
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when it started twenty seven. Now, I was probably like
thirteen or fourteen when all that stuff started coming out.
I think it was season one when there's like this
whole big limo fighting and that was very not normal
for us, and it was a very big deal. It's
a big deal with our family, and so we just
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kept on rushing most things under the rug. It feels
like for a majority of our life until you know
now you know, as a family, are the news of
my store? Sorry, the news of my parents and separation
came out before we had ever talked about it as
a family internally, and then the cameras for Buying Beverly
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Hills were coming the very next day. So it was
one of those things where I think as a family
we were maybe fed up with brushing things under the rug.
I know the sisters were, and we just kind of
had a moment. We were like, we need to start talking,
and the cameras were going to be there anyway, so
we just leaned in. And that was in July. So
(04:28):
a lot has changed since then, but now we talk
about everything.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Because I saw, like the first episode of this season
of Buying Beverly Hills, it opens up with that kind
of conversation, but it was really quick and then it
says six months earlier, and I haven't finished this season yet,
so I'm still kind of like in the early episodes,
but so do we see all that play out? Like
we actually see the conversation of them explain to what's
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going on.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
So what was filmed was really like two of the
four big conversations we've had as a family, and those
were that was the you know, we had one conversation
when the news came out, but my sister Farah wasn't there.
So the next day when the cameras came, Flarah came
and that was the first full conversation as a family
we had. So that was as real as it gets
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and as honest and open as it gets, which is
so crazy. And then you know when my sisters that
scene that it starts off with my sisters and my
dad spoiler alert kind of you know, it ends with that.
Again you kind of see more of that conversation, but
you can definitely tell we were very frustrated at that
point because we hadn't had more conversations. So that was
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the first conversation with sisters and just dad that we
were like, we need to be doing this more, like
we feel out of the loop. We're learning things from
TMC and it doesn't feel fair. So, you know, it
was just it's it's something that's new for us, honestly.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
But is it is it easier because you were saying
that was July, Now it's I don't even know what
month were in April a second clips, it's the eclipse
in my brain. But is it is it easier for
you guys to kind of do this in front of
the cameras because you do have that time, like you've
had all these months to kind of digest what went
on and out now the public is like seeing it.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
The moments are not easier. I was very, very, very
emotional and Aspen the night before when the cameras were coming,
I was very freaked out. But I think something about
the cameras being on you kind of like stamped me
into just more of like a professional mode versus emotional mode. Also,
my little sister was there, so there's also the part
of me that's it's time to be a big sister.
(06:43):
It's time to be strong. And I think we all
handled it very strongly, which you know there's that, But
I don't even know. I forgot what you said because
my mind's in the thousand places right now. Now. I'm like,
I'll think of all the things the eclipse.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I was curious if before they because you said they
you found out that they separated before y'all had to
talk about it.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
No, we found out from the article.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
That's what I'm saying. But before y'all got to have
a family conversation about it, you found out about it.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh yeah, exactly a.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Moment that you were watching your parents interact where you
were like, because at a certain point your mid twenties,
you're kind of.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Going, yeah, it's going on.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
I know, relationship cues. Were you starting to see that stuff,
anything was going on?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I you know, that was I could tell that things
were not the same. So that's why it was different
this time. People were getting the calls typically and be like, oh,
just another story, but I think that time it hit
differently because of what we had been observing. Our parents
never fight, and it's still very healthy household, still very
full of so much love. But you know, they were
both traveling a lot more and not being as like
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affectionate with each other as much, and their schedules were
just so opposite, and I could tell that they weren't
each other's priority anymore, and they were just changing. You know,
my mom is in this health mode and she's working
out every day, and she's sober and well sober, she
doesn't drink anymore, you know, and then my dad is
(08:16):
just like on this whole other opposite grind where he's
like opening up these offices, and when he opens up
the offices, he goes and he's partying, and he's like
just in like a totally different mindset. So I was
starting to see changes between the two of them, and
like where interests were not aligning as much, and the
interests really where they did align where our family and
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naturally we're growing up and we're moving out, we're doing
all the things, and so I was piecing it all together,
but it was never confirmed.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah, yeah, here's like watching observing because you've been in
you've been in your own relationship for a while now, yeah,
I have so four years. So you're like, you know
when communication, when something's you're able to recognize it once
you're in a relationship for.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
A long Timestely, I just wasn't really ever sure it
was going to be that serious. I thought it was
just like a moment, you know, which was so natural.
So the word separation was the heavy Well yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
But I feel like that does happen in relationships, you
know what I mean, you have been with somebody for so long,
like you go through ebbs and flows, and yeah, you're
closer at some seasons of life not so close in
some so it's.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Like, yeah, exactly exactly, and you know, we talk about
it a little bit more where it's just twenty seven
years together. Is it's a win no matter what? Yeah,
And who knows still what's really going to happen if
they're still separated. I don't know what if the D
word's going to happen or what.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
But oh right, yeah, yeah, so it's.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Not sure where it's going to go at this moment.
That's where I stand. But you know, it's it's it's
new stuff.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah, for sure. Do you now that buying Beverly Hills?
Because The Housewives was always focused on your mom, right,
like the family stuff would come and go, but it
was definitely focused on Now buying Beverly Hills, you're with
your family, there's a lot more focus on you. Yeah,
how has the shift been weird or did you feel
like you were ready for it? Just from the Housewives world.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
I had a much harder time with it season one
just because I was so I was so I wanted
so badly to be such a good agent, and I
was so nervous of how people were going to judge
me because I knew people expected so much from me,
and I think I just had this whole existential crisis
season one and I just cried so much and I
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was just so triggered by everything. This time around, I
just felt way more confident and it was way easier
for me. And I've always been comfortable in front of
a camera, so you know, having all those harder conversations. Also,
these people come back, you know, the cameraman, you know,
the producer. It's like they're starting to become your friend.
So it was just so much easier this time around.
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So I don't know, it just feels natural. Just happens,
and I just I sometimes I just you know, I
know the cameras are there, but it's so easy to
just say what I want to say and feel completely normal.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah when you So I was on The Bachelor like
years and years ago. But it's so weird that you
go on a show and you're being filmed and you're
talking every day and you're sharing this stuff, and then
there's I remember there was this moment in between finishing
filming and when it aired where I had this moment
of thinking about everything. I said, going, oh my gosh,
(11:29):
people are gonna watch this.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Yeah, it's like the scariest part, yeah, because you're like,
you feel comfortable with your friends and something You're like, oh.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
God, no, I can guess everything.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Oh so there's there's definitely times I second guess things
and I'm like scared. But but you know, at the
end of the day, I don't think I said anything bad.
You just can't help but be like, oh my god,
I don't think I remember your season. I don't think
you ever said anything crazy either, Like you just can't
help but be like, was that okay, Oh my god
likes something or whatever? I like my voice sounded weird
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or I laughed weird, or just little things like that
that you never know what people are gonna come at
you for.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Us, right, Are they gonna take that out of context
or people gonna take it the wrong way? But you
really can't prepare. I was gonna say, I just was
this random person who got selected to be on a show,
and I had no idea what I was getting myself
into because I had never experienced just blatant hate towards
me or just people not liking me because I didn't
I never had that many eyes on me, So that
(12:29):
was such an adjustment when once the show ended, and
I was on social media seeing what people had to
say about me when they didn't know me, and I
was curious, if you struggle with that and having people
talk about your family and feeling the pressure or the
need to defend them or step up, or do you
just go they're gonna say what they're gonna say.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I think for me it's a little easier. I definitely
get some mean comments here and there, and it again
used to affect me way more, especially when it was
me in terms of my business because I was so
serious about it. But when people attack my character, I'm like,
they don't know me. They really don't. But the people.
What I never am okay with is how people speak
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to my mom and I see how much it really
affects her. And I know she's strong and she's fine,
but she's also like a very sensitive person. So I
think I've trained myself to turn that off because I
want her to turn that part off of her so
many times and I see what people say to her
and I see how wrong they are, but she internalizes
them and I'm like, they don't know you. You raise me.
(13:36):
I know you, like if I love you, and I
admire you and I tell you you're the best person in
the world, Like, trust me, that's the truth, you know,
And so that's never easyuse I really don't like when
people go after my family seeing those parts. I'm always
so annoyed, Like if anyone comments on my pictures about
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my family, I'm deleting. But if anyone trolls me, I
kind of keep it because I like it.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
And I'm like, Okay, the real fans will come to
my fence.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
It's about my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It's no one needs to see it.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
But just like that's your baby. That's kind of funny.
That's fine. I mean, I don't know, I just it's
I'm sometimes entertained. Like one time someone was like, you
look like a lizard next to your sisters, and I
was like, what a lizard. I was like, okay, I'll
take that. That's fine, they're beautiful a lizard.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Well, I was thinking though that. You know, we were saying,
we've talked about how people feel very brave behind a
computer phone when they're commenting. You know, there's no they'll
just go for it. But has anyone because Bramo fans
are so intense, they're so passionate. Have you ever been
had an experience with a fan that came up and
said something like to that degree to your face or
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to your mom's face while you're around.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, no, no, no, no, everyone's so nice. Honestly. Yeah,
I love when people come up and say to us.
Everyone's always really sweet. It's only just the people on
the screens. The trolls.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Yeah, the trolls.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Okay, I want to get to you and your relationship. Okay,
so you all been together, you said, four years?
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Yeah, four years.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
How did you meet?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
We actually met in elementary school. I came to his
school in third grade and we've just been friends ever
since we were He was always like in my friend group,
and then in high school became inseparable. High school, I
had a boyfriend for six years. Boyfriend was like, this
relationship is too close, you know, Like so we kind
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of had like an off couple of years. But the
second I broke up with that boyfriend, we were best
friends again and hanging out all the time. And yeah,
literally just best best best friends. He was the only
boy that was ever allowed to drive me in high school.
He was my carpool. He I was only allowed to
go to Coachella in high school if he shot parone
to me. So he was always my So your parents
(16:14):
love him, My parents will always loved him.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
He always took care of me and I was We
always had the best time together. So and then four
years ago, finally we made it happen.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
I was gonna say, how did it turn from best
friends to lovers?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
So it was always very platonic lovers. Yeah, I mean
there's no other word, right.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah, what was the shift?
Speaker 1 (16:43):
The shift was so it was it's kind of awkward,
but it was always platonic between us because in seventh grade,
seventh grade guys, he was my best friend's first kiss
and boyfriend, so in my world he was just never
an option and it just made that way. We were
best best friends, but there was never any romance. And
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then actually in college one year, that best friend who's
still my sister, she was like, you guys are in
love and you'd be idiots to not admit it to
each other. And I was like, no, we're not, absolutely not.
You're you're crazy and she's like, no, you're you're being crazy,
and the like opened up my eyes and I was like, Okay,
I didn't realize I needed that. Okay, and yeah, green light.
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It shifted like that moment, I was like, oh my god,
maybe I am. And I was like, oh my god,
I have been this whole time. And I had to
kiss him first. Nice I kissed, yeah, and I was like,
we're never talking about this ever again. I was like,
that was a mistake. We're not doing this again. And
(17:47):
then complicated story. But he ended up choosing someone else
for two years. Yep, he dated someone else and he
was like on.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
The friends two years.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yeah, So it kind of got broad up six years ago.
But the moment wasn't right. He met someone else, Like
right as I opened up my eyes to it, and
I was like, listen, we're best friends. If you're not
sure about this right now, we're not gonna go into
this because we're best friends. That's not ruined that. So
we took a step back. I remember us saying, if
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it's meant to be, it'll it'll be. And two years later,
it happened. It just happened. It was It was pretty crazy.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Did you all stay best friends when he was dating
the other girl? Did she say like, there's got to
be boundaries here?
Speaker 1 (18:37):
We were always best friends, but there was definitely like
a boundary. I mean, yeah, and he was. He loved
her so much, and I also really really liked her too,
and I was never waiting, you know. I was never
that person that was like, you know, hoping badly for them.
I really liked her and we still talk ever so often.
(18:58):
And she she broke up with him. Actually so yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
So so they break up and then how did he
he came running back.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Sort of yeah, pretty much like getting hot. Well, you know,
I feel like I didn't do anything wrong here, right, No, no, no,
it was all very respectful, waited exactly, and you know
it was it was her call, and it was never
I I dated other people. I was never waiting. I
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was never doing anything, you know, slimmy on the side. Like,
it was very very She knew about what had happened
to she found out. Yeah, she knew that we kissed,
and we were fine after that. Honestly, I think once
it was all out the bag, like it was like, okay,
now I know. Yeah, So honesty is the key.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, aside from you being like, okay, my best friend
kissed him or how to crush on him or whatever.
That was in seventh grade, during that whole time before
y'all kissed again. I prefer y'all kissed. Did you ever
think I have a Did you have feelings for him
and you were just like I can't go there or
you never even saw him that way.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I'm scarily good at shutting off feelings and like shutting
off people. Yeah, I'm very good at like, if this
isn't for me, it's like I'm done. So I never
we ever, So often we'd meet up, we'd have like
a hangout with our dinners and like friends whatever, and
like we always just we always had a special connection,
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but we never acted on any of it. It just
it was just one of those things where I never
allowed myself to feel anything that wasn't meant for me.
So I think that's kind of how it was for me.
You know, until I got the green light from my
best friend, I was just shut off. But the second
it was okay, turned back on, and when you know
he was doing this other girl, it was shut off.
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And it was I never allowed myself to go there.
And when I dated these other guys, I was only
thinking about those guys. I was never thinking about you
know what diabolical plan, you know, But you know, my
relationship didn't work out, and then maybe like a month
or two later, his relationship didn't work out, and we
were both just there and I was like, should we
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do we try this? Like and you know, he he
was like, I'm ready for you to be my girlfriend.
I was like, okay, okay, hold on, slowdown. You literally
just like this is too fast. I remember I chose
our anniversary because I didn't want to be right when
it started, because it was just like, this is too soon,
like we need to I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
You just picked a date that felt good.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Yeah, exactly. I actually chose the date I kissed him
the first time, and it like weirdly lined two days
two years later that like we had been hooking up
for like a month at that point, and I was like,
I feel like a month later it is good, you know,
I feel.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Good about this.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah, it's so funny.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Okay. So Tanya had a conversation our friend Jason. He
talks a lot about finances and relationship and the conversations
that you should be having before you get into real relationship.
I found it really interesting because I so much. You're welcome.
He is a great interview.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I was curious because y'all grew up together and then
you become you're in a relationship. I'm assuming do y'all
live together?
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Yeah, you recently moved in, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
So is there was there a conversation. Have y'all had
any of those conversations about like the financial and how
you're addressing those things moving forward?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, definitely, I was having those conversations way before we
even moved in together.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
I've always been very honest about what I want my
future to look like, and I, you know, just was like, hey,
we need to make sure our goal is aligne And
we've we actually have a plan now to go to
like Soho house one day and sit with our bottle
of wine and really go over all of our financials,
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like what our travel plans are going to be, like,
really go over the math of what our rent's going
to look like by the end of the year, and
just like our savings, et cetera, and just like really
plan out everything. But we've I always made it also
very clear that I want to be very part of
it all and involved. So we split our rent fifty
to fifty every like all our furniture is fifty to fifty,
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Like everything is hours, so you know, we were always
having those conversations. I do think it's so important to
talk about what you want and what your goals are.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
I think it's so funny because it's a conversation I
feel not a lot of people have or like are
not comfortable having, you know, like and I I feel
like with my fiance, we've always had conversations like that.
But like I was reading this book and I was like,
I didn't even know I don't know what his credit
score was, Like I didn't even really know what my
credit score was moving honest, Like I mean like I
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was like, oh my gosh, and I like find I
feel like I'm very on top of it, and like
I'm very you know, and I'm like, wow, there's a
lot of room to like really grow and be more
proactive in this space because it's like when you're combining
two lives, there's so much to it.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Yeah, it's true. So it's it's it's kind of weird
to say this, but business transaction totally. You know, you
have to make it's going to be your partner for
the rest of your life. You have to make sure
you work together. Well you know this. I remember the
beginning of our relationship. Not the beginning, but when I
wanted to start having these conversations, I'd be like, so,
(24:19):
like what are your goals? And you'd be like, oh,
just have a nice, happy family, and like I'd think like, okay,
Like that's so sweet, but what we need a little
bit more here, Like let's talk like real steps, right,
how do how what? How do we get there?
Speaker 2 (24:34):
You know? Right?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
We're what city are we living in? How many bedrooms?
How many bedrooms of a house are we having?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Exactly? And I tell my friends this all the time.
I think that money should be a very important part
of the conversation. I mean it's a common misalignment for
a lot of people. Yeah, like you know a lot
of one of my friends was just talking about how
someone she liked wasn't didn't want to send their kids
to private school, and she really wants their k to
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go to private school. And that's something I don't think about.
Like that's an important, you know piece, especially if both
of you are so strong headed about it. Yeah, just
it's important to just make your plans talk about those things,
even if it's awkward to be like, listen, if we're
being real, we need to talk about this stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
Yeah, I think there was a whole you know, the
generation before us was like, it's all about love. If
you find some money love, you can get through anything.
And it's like, sure, maybe that's true, but why not
set yourself up for success and have these conversations so
that there's not a surprise or there's not a misunderstanding.
And obviously there's ups and downs in life and not
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everything's predictable. But I think it's just being smart enough
to go. Are we at least on the same page
in terms of what we're hoping for?
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah? What THEND goal is? Yeah? You know, obviously we
all want to be happy and in love, but what if,
you know, like things happen.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Yeah, my best friend is obsessed basically with the whole show,
and she loves was.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
The best friend.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Huh oh sorry one of my best friends.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I was like to me, I know I related to that.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
When you're like, when your sisters are hanging out, I
get it when they feel like.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
You one of my best for other best friends, Brittany,
She was saying, she loves your relationship with your sisters
and how close y'all are. Has it always been that way?
Because I have three sisters, so I know the ups
and downs of sisterhood, stealing of the clothes, all the things.
But in terms of just life, do you relate to that?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I my sisters and I are so close. We have
always been that close. We never fight. I think growing up,
our biggest fight with Sophie and I was who was
going to click the elevator button. We just want we
both want to click it so bad, but it was
never we I don't know what the recipe is, what
we're doing right, but we they're my best friends. Like
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there's no oh, there's no details to it. It's just
we are best friends. We are obsessed with each other.
I look at Porscha and I'm just like, you're the
coolest person I've ever seen. I love her, Sophia, I'm
obsessed with She's funny, and all of us are so
different from the other. There's not two of us that
are alike.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Yeah, Farah, I look.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Up too so much. She's honorable and she's oh man
when she lets loose. She's the funniest, most fun person. Like,
we just have so much fun all the time. And
I think maybe because we're so different, Yeah, we don't
there's not really that competitive aspect or you know, like
we don't really borrow that many clothes from each other
because we.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
All dress different.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Yeah, so it just it just works.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
But you get jealous.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I get jealous when they're all vibing without Maamia.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
Yeah. What what are the ages? Everyone's ages?
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Farah thirty five, I think, and then I'm twenty seven,
Sophia's twenty four, and Porsha sixteen.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Okay, yeah, so it's that's amazing that y'all are so close,
because that's a thirty five to sixteen? Is it big gap?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah? They're nineteen nineteen years apart. Is that math? Is
that math? Mathing?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Not the right clips?
Speaker 4 (28:15):
Randon, don't even get me started with math.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
But actually the age difference between my mom and Farah
is the same age difference between Farah and Portia. Oh wow, yeah,
nineteen years apart.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Oh right, your mom had Parah when she was nineteen.
I did do that math at one point.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I have a question about your parents. Have you experienced,
and if you're comfortable sharing this, have you experienced them
dating other people since their separation and would you be comfortable?
How do you feel about it?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
If you have I'm I'm you know, what the goal
is really just for them to be happy. That's all
I want. So at the end of the day, if
they end up together or not, like I just want
them to do what's best for them. And I kind
of did have a conversation with I think both of
my parents where I was just like, you don't have
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to make this decision for me anymore, Like, do what's
best for you. And honestly, there's like like a beauty
in trying something new. I mean, you've you've had twenty
beautiful years, twenty seven beautiful years together and you guys
get to get to like test the waters and see
what's what's working for you. And you know, I I'm
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going to let them speak on their dating life, but
whatever they do and whatever makes them happy for the
most part, I will support.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
I say, coming from someone who has step kids in
their life, are you going to be nice to those
other people?
Speaker 1 (29:49):
I'm just I'm a nice person.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
If you're nice to me.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
I'll be nice for you. But if you mess with me.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
I do think you're at a good age too, We're
able to have that emotional maturity too, and just being
like how important it is to see your parents happy,
regardless of what that looks like or who they're with. Yeah,
and obviously you. I think the fact that you and
your sisters love each other and are so ride or
die and get along says so much about your parents,
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because I think that comes from how you're raised in
the household. You're raised in absolutely, and so I think
that you having the emotional awareness and maturities to say,
like you don't have to do this for us, at
least for me, I think that's amazing and I respect it.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
One of the things, like, you know, I was worried
about Porsche with this whole thing, because the rest of
us were, you know, we're adults. I was really worried
about Porsche when this all came to light. But the
reality is is Porsche has what for moms. We've all
been like moms to her. I saw someone commented on Instagram, like,
where's Porsche. We're worried about Porsche. I'm like, she is
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so fine. She's getting so much attention from all of us,
Like I just cheperone her sixteenth birthday and Lakinta it
was really fun, Like, you know, I love picking her
up from school, dropping her off she's best friends with Sophia,
Like they have their moments. She had one on one
lunch with my dad. The other day we went to
couple with our mom. Like we're always just together no
matter what. So it's really nice just having that, having
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that stability, like even if the parents are going through
the thing, like you have the sisters like coming in
and making sure everything's okay.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, you all really stick together. Speaking of girls stick
together so much that you all work together, you work
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as your family together. What is that, Danna, I don't
think I could work with definitely one of my Honestly.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
It has its challenges, honestly, but for the most part,
we just have a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
Yeah, And the good thing.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Is about real estate is that we're always doing different things.
So the way our team is built is that we
have obviously my dad, Farah and me, but my dad's
at the CEO and he's traveling and he's doing he's
doing his CEO meetings and whatever, and then they're fair
and I split our clients, so we're not working with
the same clients usually at once, so you know, we're
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we have our team meetings, but we actually keep our
inner workings pretty separate, which I think is good in
terms of just keeping the dynamics healthy.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Yeah, yeah, Well, I do feel like when I watch
these shows, any real estate shows on TV, they make
it look just it looks so easy, like anyone could
do it. But I'm curious about the realities of doing it,
but also doing it and filming it and having it
recorded and being on camera. What the reality of it?
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Well, first of all, every deal that we do, every
listing that we have on the show is real. So
anytime we're like, oh, this one's sold, it actually sold.
We went to Miami, we got a billion dollars in listings.
We actually got a billion dollars in listings, which is crazy.
So we're really working it through that process and we're
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almost like working double well, we are literally working double time.
We're doing a show and we're staring houses, but we're
working the real estate part trip all time because we
want to look good. We're like, shit, I don't sell
a house during this ten weeks that we're we're filming.
This is going to be so embarrassing, you know. So
it's stressful, especially because we did film at a very
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bad market. Thank god I got that one. Salem Oh
my god, the Venice house. Thank god. But it's scary
and it's it's you know, you just want to prove yourself.
At the end of the day. Real estate is a
relation ship build business, and it's about your who you
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are as a person. People pick you based on you know, like, yeah,
there's stats, but a lot of people are very successful
out there, so it's about who you are, and you know,
you want to put your best self out there. So
it's a lot of pressure.
Speaker 4 (34:19):
Can you talk to us a little bit about the
real estate market, because what the heck.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Don't wants to buy house?
Speaker 1 (34:27):
And like, what the heck?
Speaker 4 (34:29):
Why is my mortgage fifteen thousand dollars when it used
to be five?
Speaker 1 (34:33):
Okay, listen, you can always refinance your mortgage rate when
anytime it changes.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
But when is it going to change?
Speaker 3 (34:41):
You don't know.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So yeah, that's that's the one thing. Yeah, that's just
stuck until until it changes. But you know, they say
all these things, it's going to change. This year is
going to be really good. They're telling people that you
should buy now before it does drop, and then everyone
who's been waiting comes it at once. They're kind of like,
if you think it's going to change soon. Get in
on it now, So it's not like piranhas going after
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all the good stuff, right and then you can refinance.
So that's like people's plans.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Do they feel like that's I mean from what you hear,
is there a world word on the street, on the
street spidey sense that that's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
I get so nervous telling people because like, yes, they
are saying it's going to happen, but I don't. There's
obviously no promises, but it is projected to be much
there's projected to be a drop.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
This year, and what goes up must come down.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Exactly, it's just science. I mean, those numbers that we
saw this last year were just insane. Go any higher
would be astronomical.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Well, that's what I've heard a lot of people say
is if you find something that you love and you
can do it, get it, get it, and then be
prepared to refinance when when it drops, because what's going
to happen is as soon as it drops, it's going
to be vultures. And it's still competitive. Exactly do you
find that it's still competitive even with the interest rate
and the prices, it's still a competitive market.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
Well especially now this this new year is bringing in
a lot more people.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
So New Year meeting twenty twenty four, twenty twenty four,
what's twenty twenty five looking like? Do they tell you
like those things?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Okay, I can't. This is above my page, right. I
love that.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
I'm a guy for this, But like conversations about money
and like I always said, like I wish in college,
by the way, I knew you went to University of Arizona.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Oh did you I did?
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Oh my god, no way you were. Oh okay, yeah,
the little little research. But we are we like, were
you there at the same time?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
No, I'm thirty six, so actually funny enough. I know
Melissa Platt who is on the Beverly Hills. Yeah, she's
my sworty.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
She just at her house for Easter to spend the
day with us. She's one of our close close friends.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Oh yeah, she's the cutest.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
She's the cutest. She really is.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
She really is.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
She's the cutest.
Speaker 4 (36:55):
But in college I was I was like, they should
teach us stuff like buying a house, health insurance, all
these basic you know, financial planning and all that stuff,
because I'm like, once you become an adult. It's just
like it all just hits you and you're like, So I.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Actually started a what's the word networking event that I'm
trying to do quarterly called adulting is Hard, and it
was the first one was about building a good credit
score so you can prepare to eventually build a house
one day, and that all happened. This whole idea happened
because I had no idea. You needed a credit card
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to build a credit score, right, And my boyfriend actually
got me my first credit card and I looked at
my dad and I was like.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
I am an adult.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
I've been working for three years and I could have
been building a credit score whole time. Yeah, oh I
was living. I was like, I genuinely thought, like someone
the they you know, they're watching where's my credit score?
Speaker 2 (37:57):
Right?
Speaker 1 (37:58):
I had no idea. So my first was about but
they had credit score and I was. It was about explaining,
you know why you need a good score for your
future home and it's you know. That was the first one.
The second one was about uh, financial planning, so it
was about you know, starting your retirement fund and investing.
So these are all things I never learned and I
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wish I did. Yeah, And I mean it's funny because
I did grow up very comfortable and I am very privileged,
and I do acknowledge that, but there's almost like a
piece that you miss when you're so comfortable that you're
not like pushed to do these things. And and then
I have you know, friends that you know, don't have
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a parent to teach them these things. Like my partner
I'm not speaking, you know, on a podcast, but she
lost both of her parents and she's like, I didn't
know these things either. So we have two people on
two very opposite spectrums that like, you know, we're like,
there's this is something that should be done. We need
to have these moments. And then we have cocktails, we
make fun and we talked to people. We did bowling
(39:02):
last time, and it was you know, it's just something
I think should be more normalized, is these conversations.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I'm with you, that's such a great idea that you're
doing that. Yeah, I'm they there needs to be courses,
and they need to make it enjoyable and fun because
I'm not going to go sit in a lecture hall
and like be taught again, how did do exactly.
Speaker 4 (39:23):
In my college halls and tigers and bears. I'm like, what, Yeah,
teachers have four to oh one k oh, my.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
God, exactly. So last my last adulting is hard session.
He's like, I got up on stage. I'm introducing our guys.
I'm like, yeah, Like he's going to teach us about
time and funds whatever. He's like, yeah, I'm just going
to keep it simple, talk about for one cake. I'm
like what. I'm like, you're what. I genuinely didn't even
know what that was. And then I think everyone like
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started laughing in the room because I already had set
the precipice, like I, yes, I'm busting this thing, but
I don't know anything. But I'm here with everybody's.
Speaker 4 (40:01):
Embarrassed to say I don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:03):
You know, we all are in.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
These conversations and they're like yeh yeah, yeah, I'm you know,
but like nobody knows anything, and like, I mean, now
I know a little bit, but I mean, gosh.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
Yeah, I mean if I finally know what a four
oh one K is, I know four months ago I
learned that, Thank you very much. I'm twenty seven years old.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
I need to know when your next one is because
I feel like I lit the vulnerability of you also
not knowing what we're learning about.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
I yeah, I definitely make sure to ask a lot
of questions and then it really I mean, our thirty
minute session ended up being an hour and a half
because everyone started asking everything. I like, I make sure.
I'm like, I need you to rewind one oh one
for dummies.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
Yeah, you know, it also makes people feel comfortable, Like
if you're the host and you're asking, they're like, okay,
I can ask too, Yeah, exactly are you waiting or
interested in getting a ring on your finger?
Speaker 3 (40:56):
Obviously?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I definitely you know, you were like letting him know
that I needed to happen.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
We talk about getting married, like we know it's going
to happen. We were just in combo with my mom
and sisters, and I told my sisters and my mom
like I asked my mom for ring advice because I
don't know anything about rings, and we looked at pictures.
I was like, okay, son ever said that text him
right now, so you know, but him and I know
what's happening, Like that's not even a question. It's just
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a matter of when. Like he always tries to talk
to me about it. I'm like, stop talking. Like, I
need to be a secret. Yeah, you might be surprised,
and I never get my nails done. I told my sisters,
if you guys invite me to get my nails done,
I'll be upset with you because I know it's going
to be coming, So don't tell me that. I'm like,
it's just I want it to be a surprise, even
though I know it's coming, right, So we're excited about that. Yet.
(41:51):
I love that you want to just choose my ring.
But who knows what I ended up getting. He could
end up getting something totally different. Who knows.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
You're like, listen to whatever my mom sends you follow
with that advice.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
We did just measure each other's ring fingers. I like
brought home you know that jewelry store masery. Oh yeah,
they sent me a ring measure and I brought it
home the other day and he's like, yes, he's he
kept trying to put it on my finger. I'm no, no,
I want to do it. I want to do it.
He would just like wanted to put the ring sizing
on my on my finger. So you know, it's it's
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very open conversation. But when is the question.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
I love that you wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
He's probably just as excited about that.
Speaker 1 (42:32):
We're excited. I mean, it's it's been four years. But
I'm not in a rush actually.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
Okay, see that's what I was getting at a rush,
like you know some of you are.
Speaker 3 (42:42):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
I wanted the ring to be something I like, but
I'm not in a rush.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
You know, you know it's coming. So you're at piece
of up exactly.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
That's where I'm at mentally.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Okay, what about career wise? What are your hopes and
dreams and what is the what are the next years
look like for you?
Speaker 1 (42:59):
So I definitely want to sell more. This year was slow,
twenty twenty three was slower, and I just want to
be way, way more successful in the numbers era. Oh
not era. What's the word apartment department? Thank you? Era
is too much? It's such a word right now. And
then additionally, I want to I feel like our office
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is still kind of like post COVID. I hate talking
about COVID all the time, but it's still in that
post COVID moment where people aren't showing up to the
office all the time, and we used to have this
shot o'clock every Friday. We're at five o'clock every Friday.
We have shots and just like little things that have
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changed since since COVID, where a lot more people are
working at the office. I just want to focus a
lot more on the culture or a company. This year.
I talked to my dad. I was like, I want
to have a top golf event with people out of office.
I want to have a bowling event. I want him
to have you know, dinners with people. I was like,
we just I want to feel very involved, especially with
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the show coming out. I don't want it to be
so alienating. I want us to still feel very part
of the mix. Especially I just know people feel different
and you know, look at people differently sometimes, and I
just don't want to open the window to that possibility.
Like I want us to be like I want my
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sisters at every event we're going to do. So, I
want to focus a lot on the company this year.
I'm just being part of that.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Too, like the community of the company.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
But I love that you. I find that you really
value that I do like you do with your family,
with work, your friends.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Yeah, it's it's I have a giant group of friends
I'm very like, I'm very focused on keeping that together
as well. I'm just that's just my thing. I guess.
I love that and I really realize that until you
just said that out loud, Like you're so right.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
It's a very special quality because a lot of especially
with everyone being on their phones and it's like you
can barely get people to look you in the eye
when you're having a conversation. I feel like having you
having that is such a gift because it like bring
people together, reminding them about community and how important it
is to have that. Yeah, it's crucial. I think it's success.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
I think so too, and everything it's communities, like everywhere
there exactly I went to. My school was called a
community high school, and I'm still so involved in it.
I try. I'm just like, I just it's important to
focus on the community. All my friends are from my
high school.
Speaker 3 (45:29):
What high school did you go to?
Speaker 1 (45:30):
I went to milkinh Okay Jewish School four five Ye.
But yeah, we have literally have this group of like
fifty friends that we see each other every month, every week,
and we treat each other like a family. And I
really do think it's because that like that word cult,
community was so embedded in us, and we we nurtured
our relationship so much.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
Fifty five zero yeah, five zero.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
A group of fifty people, Yeah pretty much.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Yeah amazing.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Yeah, it's pretty crazy obviously, like the subgroups, but when
you get everyone involved, it can be up to the subgroups.
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I feel like you would have that if you still
love Yeah.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (46:11):
I'm definitely very lucky.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
I keep looking at her hair and.
Speaker 1 (46:13):
I'm like, do I need to get a cut? Like
I got so twelve inches, It's so cute, so cute,
You're so ch so she my ballet hair.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
Well, yeah, Cardigan, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
You give oldest sister mentality. I haven't met your oldest sister,
but you definitely have that energy.
Speaker 3 (46:32):
Yeah, you do, I have.
Speaker 1 (46:33):
I'm kind of like the grandma the group. Honestly. I'm
also I promise.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
I'm like, I want you to chaperone my birthday and
Wakita Oh.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
I can definitely if you get me in a party room.
But you know, during the week, I'm very conservative. I
don't wear makeup really. I like my sweaters.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
Yeah, jeans, You're everything you love. Thank you for scrubbing
a podcast.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
You guys for having me so much fun.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
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Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rep An iHeartRadio podcast.
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Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrub a dub dumb.
Today's guest. Well, you know her because her family has
been on our TVs for.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
A minute now, many many years, yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Many many years, and now she is part of the madness.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
We saw her grow up in the Real Housewives of
Beverly Hills. Her mom is Kylo Richards, her dad is Mauricio,
and they now have their own TV show together as
a family. That's called Buying Beverly Hills, which is all
about the real estate market in Beverly Hills, their family dynamic.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
It's good.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
It's on Netflix. I've been enjoying it.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah, it's all the sisters. It's a whole family affair,
and we are going to ask her all the questions
on today's episode.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
So let's welcome to the Scrubbing In our Alexia Yumanski.
You're welcome. Clap, you're welcome, applause.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
I'm just like, yeah, I got a lot of for
but I'm joining you. Thank you for scrubbing in and
being on the podcast today.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Thank you guys so much for having me. I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Yeah, we were very excited to talk to you because
there's a lot to talk to you about. I feel
you were I was going to ask you this. I
was curious, have you ever felt like your life was
normal in terms of other people's norm.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
You know, that's such a good question because I feel
so normal, I really, really really do you know? Are
the drama the things we deal with as a family
as a whole, like that stuff never feels normal? But
like I also talk to my friends and we all
have our family drama as we all have our things,
and you know, I'm like, I'm not I'm not different.
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Just a lot more people know about our stuff, you know.
But you know, I really do feel so normal.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Well do you know it's gotta be so weird watching
such personal things, especially in your family, because I come
a fan I'm from the South, and the thing about
the self is that everything is just great all the
time for everybody. So I come from a world where
no one really talks openly about struggles or family issues.
So is there a point where where you got to
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a certain age where you were like, why is all
of this so much everybody else's business.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
That's that's interesting. I've never really thought about it like that,
but so, you know, the truth is, and we talk
about this a lot as a family on our show,
The Buying Beverly Hills. I to different rate which one now,
which is crazy. But we always were the kind of
family that did brush things under the rug, and we
did not talk about things internally very much. And I've
(03:01):
got to say, you know, I would say the first
time our family drama was e republic was when a
lot of stuff happened with my mom and her sister
in the beginning seasons of Real Housewives, and that was
a very big deal for all of us and not
something I was used to. And I think that's around
the time I was just like, I don't think I
can watch the show. Oh my gosh. I was thirteen
(03:23):
when it started twenty seven. Now, I was probably like
thirteen or fourteen when all that stuff started coming out.
I think it was season one when there's like this
whole big limo fighting and that was very not normal
for us, and it was a very big deal. It's
a big deal with our family, and so we just
(03:44):
kept on rushing most things under the rug. It feels
like for a majority of our life until you know
now you know, as a family, are the news of
my store? Sorry, the news of my parents and separation
came out before we had ever talked about it as
a family internally, and then the cameras for Buying Beverly
(04:07):
Hills were coming the very next day. So it was
one of those things where I think as a family
we were maybe fed up with brushing things under the rug.
I know the sisters were, and we just kind of
had a moment. We were like, we need to start talking,
and the cameras were going to be there anyway, so
we just leaned in. And that was in July. So
(04:28):
a lot has changed since then, but now we talk
about everything.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Because I saw, like the first episode of this season
of Buying Beverly Hills, it opens up with that kind
of conversation, but it was really quick and then it
says six months earlier, and I haven't finished this season yet,
so I'm still kind of like in the early episodes,
but so do we see all that play out? Like
we actually see the conversation of them explain to what's
(04:57):
going on.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
So what was filmed was really like two of the
four big conversations we've had as a family, and those
were that was the you know, we had one conversation
when the news came out, but my sister Farah wasn't there.
So the next day when the cameras came, Flarah came
and that was the first full conversation as a family
we had. So that was as real as it gets
(05:20):
and as honest and open as it gets, which is
so crazy. And then you know when my sisters that
scene that it starts off with my sisters and my
dad spoiler alert kind of you know, it ends with that.
Again you kind of see more of that conversation, but
you can definitely tell we were very frustrated at that
point because we hadn't had more conversations. So that was
(05:42):
the first conversation with sisters and just dad that we
were like, we need to be doing this more, like
we feel out of the loop. We're learning things from
TMC and it doesn't feel fair. So, you know, it
was just it's it's something that's new for us, honestly.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
But is it is it easier because you were saying
that was July, Now it's I don't even know what
month were in April a second clips, it's the eclipse
in my brain. But is it is it easier for
you guys to kind of do this in front of
the cameras because you do have that time, like you've
had all these months to kind of digest what went
on and out now the public is like seeing it.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
The moments are not easier. I was very, very, very
emotional and Aspen the night before when the cameras were coming,
I was very freaked out. But I think something about
the cameras being on you kind of like stamped me
into just more of like a professional mode versus emotional mode. Also,
my little sister was there, so there's also the part
of me that's it's time to be a big sister.
(06:43):
It's time to be strong. And I think we all
handled it very strongly, which you know there's that, But
I don't even know. I forgot what you said because
my mind's in the thousand places right now. Now. I'm like,
I'll think of all the things the eclipse.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I was curious if before they because you said they
you found out that they separated before y'all had to
talk about it.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
No, we found out from the article.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
That's what I'm saying. But before y'all got to have
a family conversation about it, you found out about it.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh yeah, exactly a.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Moment that you were watching your parents interact where you
were like, because at a certain point your mid twenties,
you're kind of.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Going, yeah, it's going on.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
I know, relationship cues. Were you starting to see that stuff,
anything was going on?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I you know, that was I could tell that things
were not the same. So that's why it was different
this time. People were getting the calls typically and be like, oh,
just another story, but I think that time it hit
differently because of what we had been observing. Our parents
never fight, and it's still very healthy household, still very
full of so much love. But you know, they were
both traveling a lot more and not being as like
(07:52):
affectionate with each other as much, and their schedules were
just so opposite, and I could tell that they weren't
each other's priority anymore, and they were just changing. You know,
my mom is in this health mode and she's working
out every day, and she's sober and well sober, she
doesn't drink anymore, you know, and then my dad is
(08:16):
just like on this whole other opposite grind where he's
like opening up these offices, and when he opens up
the offices, he goes and he's partying, and he's like
just in like a totally different mindset. So I was
starting to see changes between the two of them, and
like where interests were not aligning as much, and the
interests really where they did align where our family and
(08:38):
naturally we're growing up and we're moving out, we're doing
all the things, and so I was piecing it all together,
but it was never confirmed.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah, yeah, here's like watching observing because you've been in
you've been in your own relationship for a while now, yeah,
I have so four years. So you're like, you know
when communication, when something's you're able to recognize it once
you're in a relationship for.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
A long Timestely, I just wasn't really ever sure it
was going to be that serious. I thought it was
just like a moment, you know, which was so natural.
So the word separation was the heavy Well yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
But I feel like that does happen in relationships, you
know what I mean, you have been with somebody for so long,
like you go through ebbs and flows, and yeah, you're
closer at some seasons of life not so close in
some so it's.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Like, yeah, exactly exactly, and you know, we talk about
it a little bit more where it's just twenty seven
years together. Is it's a win no matter what? Yeah,
And who knows still what's really going to happen if
they're still separated. I don't know what if the D
word's going to happen or what.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
But oh right, yeah, yeah, so it's.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Not sure where it's going to go at this moment.
That's where I stand. But you know, it's it's it's
new stuff.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah, for sure. Do you now that buying Beverly Hills?
Because The Housewives was always focused on your mom, right,
like the family stuff would come and go, but it
was definitely focused on Now buying Beverly Hills, you're with
your family, there's a lot more focus on you. Yeah,
how has the shift been weird or did you feel
like you were ready for it? Just from the Housewives world.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
I had a much harder time with it season one
just because I was so I was so I wanted
so badly to be such a good agent, and I
was so nervous of how people were going to judge
me because I knew people expected so much from me,
and I think I just had this whole existential crisis
season one and I just cried so much and I
(10:33):
was just so triggered by everything. This time around, I
just felt way more confident and it was way easier
for me. And I've always been comfortable in front of
a camera, so you know, having all those harder conversations. Also,
these people come back, you know, the cameraman, you know,
the producer. It's like they're starting to become your friend.
So it was just so much easier this time around.
(10:56):
So I don't know, it just feels natural. Just happens,
and I just I sometimes I just you know, I
know the cameras are there, but it's so easy to
just say what I want to say and feel completely normal.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah when you So I was on The Bachelor like
years and years ago. But it's so weird that you
go on a show and you're being filmed and you're
talking every day and you're sharing this stuff, and then
there's I remember there was this moment in between finishing
filming and when it aired where I had this moment
of thinking about everything. I said, going, oh my gosh,
(11:29):
people are gonna watch this.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Yeah, it's like the scariest part, yeah, because you're like,
you feel comfortable with your friends and something You're like, oh.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
God, no, I can guess everything.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Oh so there's there's definitely times I second guess things
and I'm like scared. But but you know, at the
end of the day, I don't think I said anything bad.
You just can't help but be like, oh my god,
I don't think I remember your season. I don't think
you ever said anything crazy either, Like you just can't
help but be like, was that okay, Oh my god
likes something or whatever? I like my voice sounded weird
(12:02):
or I laughed weird, or just little things like that
that you never know what people are gonna come at
you for.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Us, right, Are they gonna take that out of context
or people gonna take it the wrong way? But you
really can't prepare. I was gonna say, I just was
this random person who got selected to be on a show,
and I had no idea what I was getting myself
into because I had never experienced just blatant hate towards
me or just people not liking me because I didn't
I never had that many eyes on me, So that
(12:29):
was such an adjustment when once the show ended, and
I was on social media seeing what people had to
say about me when they didn't know me, and I
was curious, if you struggle with that and having people
talk about your family and feeling the pressure or the
need to defend them or step up, or do you
just go they're gonna say what they're gonna say.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I think for me it's a little easier. I definitely
get some mean comments here and there, and it again
used to affect me way more, especially when it was
me in terms of my business because I was so
serious about it. But when people attack my character, I'm like,
they don't know me. They really don't. But the people.
What I never am okay with is how people speak
(13:14):
to my mom and I see how much it really
affects her. And I know she's strong and she's fine,
but she's also like a very sensitive person. So I
think I've trained myself to turn that off because I
want her to turn that part off of her so
many times and I see what people say to her
and I see how wrong they are, but she internalizes
them and I'm like, they don't know you. You raise me.
(13:36):
I know you, like if I love you, and I
admire you and I tell you you're the best person in
the world, Like, trust me, that's the truth, you know,
And so that's never easyuse I really don't like when
people go after my family seeing those parts. I'm always
so annoyed, Like if anyone comments on my pictures about
(13:56):
my family, I'm deleting. But if anyone trolls me, I
kind of keep it because I like it.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
And I'm like, Okay, the real fans will come to
my fence.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
It's about my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It's no one needs to see it.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
But just like that's your baby. That's kind of funny.
That's fine. I mean, I don't know, I just it's
I'm sometimes entertained. Like one time someone was like, you
look like a lizard next to your sisters, and I
was like, what a lizard. I was like, okay, I'll
take that. That's fine, they're beautiful a lizard.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Well, I was thinking though that. You know, we were saying,
we've talked about how people feel very brave behind a
computer phone when they're commenting. You know, there's no they'll
just go for it. But has anyone because Bramo fans
are so intense, they're so passionate. Have you ever been
had an experience with a fan that came up and
said something like to that degree to your face or
(14:51):
to your mom's face while you're around.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, no, no, no, no, everyone's so nice. Honestly. Yeah,
I love when people come up and say to us.
Everyone's always really sweet. It's only just the people on
the screens. The trolls.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Yeah, the trolls.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Okay, I want to get to you and your relationship. Okay,
so you all been together, you said, four years?
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Yeah, four years.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
How did you meet?
Speaker 1 (15:32):
We actually met in elementary school. I came to his
school in third grade and we've just been friends ever
since we were He was always like in my friend group,
and then in high school became inseparable. High school, I
had a boyfriend for six years. Boyfriend was like, this
relationship is too close, you know, Like so we kind
(15:53):
of had like an off couple of years. But the
second I broke up with that boyfriend, we were best
friends again and hanging out all the time. And yeah,
literally just best best best friends. He was the only
boy that was ever allowed to drive me in high school.
He was my carpool. He I was only allowed to
go to Coachella in high school if he shot parone
to me. So he was always my So your parents
(16:14):
love him, My parents will always loved him.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
He always took care of me and I was We
always had the best time together. So and then four
years ago, finally we made it happen.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
I was gonna say, how did it turn from best
friends to lovers?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
So it was always very platonic lovers. Yeah, I mean
there's no other word, right.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah, what was the shift?
Speaker 1 (16:43):
The shift was so it was it's kind of awkward,
but it was always platonic between us because in seventh grade,
seventh grade guys, he was my best friend's first kiss
and boyfriend, so in my world he was just never
an option and it just made that way. We were
best best friends, but there was never any romance. And
(17:04):
then actually in college one year, that best friend who's
still my sister, she was like, you guys are in
love and you'd be idiots to not admit it to
each other. And I was like, no, we're not, absolutely not.
You're you're crazy and she's like, no, you're you're being crazy,
and the like opened up my eyes and I was like, Okay,
I didn't realize I needed that. Okay, and yeah, green light.
(17:27):
It shifted like that moment, I was like, oh my god,
maybe I am. And I was like, oh my god,
I have been this whole time. And I had to
kiss him first. Nice I kissed, yeah, and I was like,
we're never talking about this ever again. I was like,
that was a mistake. We're not doing this again. And
(17:47):
then complicated story. But he ended up choosing someone else
for two years. Yep, he dated someone else and he
was like on.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
The friends two years.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yeah, So it kind of got broad up six years ago.
But the moment wasn't right. He met someone else, Like
right as I opened up my eyes to it, and
I was like, listen, we're best friends. If you're not
sure about this right now, we're not gonna go into
this because we're best friends. That's not ruined that. So
we took a step back. I remember us saying, if
(18:19):
it's meant to be, it'll it'll be. And two years later,
it happened. It just happened. It was It was pretty crazy.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Did you all stay best friends when he was dating
the other girl? Did she say like, there's got to
be boundaries here?
Speaker 1 (18:37):
We were always best friends, but there was definitely like
a boundary. I mean, yeah, and he was. He loved
her so much, and I also really really liked her too,
and I was never waiting, you know. I was never
that person that was like, you know, hoping badly for them.
I really liked her and we still talk ever so often.
(18:58):
And she she broke up with him. Actually so yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
So so they break up and then how did he
he came running back.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Sort of yeah, pretty much like getting hot. Well, you know,
I feel like I didn't do anything wrong here, right, No, no, no,
it was all very respectful, waited exactly, and you know
it was it was her call, and it was never
I I dated other people. I was never waiting. I
(19:30):
was never doing anything, you know, slimmy on the side. Like,
it was very very She knew about what had happened
to she found out. Yeah, she knew that we kissed,
and we were fine after that. Honestly, I think once
it was all out the bag, like it was like, okay,
now I know. Yeah, So honesty is the key.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, aside from you being like, okay, my best friend
kissed him or how to crush on him or whatever.
That was in seventh grade, during that whole time before
y'all kissed again. I prefer y'all kissed. Did you ever
think I have a Did you have feelings for him
and you were just like I can't go there or
you never even saw him that way.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I'm scarily good at shutting off feelings and like shutting
off people. Yeah, I'm very good at like, if this
isn't for me, it's like I'm done. So I never
we ever, So often we'd meet up, we'd have like
a hangout with our dinners and like friends whatever, and
like we always just we always had a special connection,
(20:29):
but we never acted on any of it. It just
it was just one of those things where I never
allowed myself to feel anything that wasn't meant for me.
So I think that's kind of how it was for me.
You know, until I got the green light from my
best friend, I was just shut off. But the second
it was okay, turned back on, and when you know
he was doing this other girl, it was shut off.
(20:50):
And it was I never allowed myself to go there.
And when I dated these other guys, I was only
thinking about those guys. I was never thinking about you
know what diabolical plan, you know, But you know, my
relationship didn't work out, and then maybe like a month
or two later, his relationship didn't work out, and we
were both just there and I was like, should we
(21:14):
do we try this? Like and you know, he he
was like, I'm ready for you to be my girlfriend.
I was like, okay, okay, hold on, slowdown. You literally
just like this is too fast. I remember I chose
our anniversary because I didn't want to be right when
it started, because it was just like, this is too soon,
like we need to I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
You just picked a date that felt good.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Yeah, exactly. I actually chose the date I kissed him
the first time, and it like weirdly lined two days
two years later that like we had been hooking up
for like a month at that point, and I was like,
I feel like a month later it is good, you know,
I feel.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Good about this.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah, it's so funny.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Okay. So Tanya had a conversation our friend Jason. He
talks a lot about finances and relationship and the conversations
that you should be having before you get into real relationship.
I found it really interesting because I so much. You're welcome.
He is a great interview.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I was curious because y'all grew up together and then
you become you're in a relationship. I'm assuming do y'all
live together?
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Yeah, you recently moved in, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
So is there was there a conversation. Have y'all had
any of those conversations about like the financial and how
you're addressing those things moving forward?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, definitely, I was having those conversations way before we
even moved in together.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
I've always been very honest about what I want my
future to look like, and I, you know, just was like, hey,
we need to make sure our goal is aligne And
we've we actually have a plan now to go to
like Soho house one day and sit with our bottle
of wine and really go over all of our financials,
(22:53):
like what our travel plans are going to be, like,
really go over the math of what our rent's going
to look like by the end of the year, and
just like our savings, et cetera, and just like really
plan out everything. But we've I always made it also
very clear that I want to be very part of
it all and involved. So we split our rent fifty
to fifty every like all our furniture is fifty to fifty,
(23:15):
Like everything is hours, so you know, we were always
having those conversations. I do think it's so important to
talk about what you want and what your goals are.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
I think it's so funny because it's a conversation I
feel not a lot of people have or like are
not comfortable having, you know, like and I I feel
like with my fiance, we've always had conversations like that.
But like I was reading this book and I was like,
I didn't even know I don't know what his credit
score was, Like I didn't even really know what my
credit score was moving honest, Like I mean like I
(23:45):
was like, oh my gosh, and I like find I
feel like I'm very on top of it, and like
I'm very you know, and I'm like, wow, there's a
lot of room to like really grow and be more
proactive in this space because it's like when you're combining
two lives, there's so much to it.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Yeah, it's true. So it's it's it's kind of weird
to say this, but business transaction totally. You know, you
have to make it's going to be your partner for
the rest of your life. You have to make sure
you work together. Well you know this. I remember the
beginning of our relationship. Not the beginning, but when I
wanted to start having these conversations, I'd be like, so,
(24:19):
like what are your goals? And you'd be like, oh,
just have a nice, happy family, and like I'd think like, okay,
Like that's so sweet, but what we need a little
bit more here, Like let's talk like real steps, right,
how do how what? How do we get there?
Speaker 2 (24:34):
You know? Right?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
We're what city are we living in? How many bedrooms?
How many bedrooms of a house are we having?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Exactly? And I tell my friends this all the time.
I think that money should be a very important part
of the conversation. I mean it's a common misalignment for
a lot of people. Yeah, like you know a lot
of one of my friends was just talking about how
someone she liked wasn't didn't want to send their kids
to private school, and she really wants their k to
(25:00):
go to private school. And that's something I don't think about.
Like that's an important, you know piece, especially if both
of you are so strong headed about it. Yeah, just
it's important to just make your plans talk about those things,
even if it's awkward to be like, listen, if we're
being real, we need to talk about this stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
Yeah, I think there was a whole you know, the
generation before us was like, it's all about love. If
you find some money love, you can get through anything.
And it's like, sure, maybe that's true, but why not
set yourself up for success and have these conversations so
that there's not a surprise or there's not a misunderstanding.
And obviously there's ups and downs in life and not
(25:37):
everything's predictable. But I think it's just being smart enough
to go. Are we at least on the same page
in terms of what we're hoping for?
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah? What THEND goal is? Yeah? You know, obviously we
all want to be happy and in love, but what if,
you know, like things happen.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Yeah, my best friend is obsessed basically with the whole show,
and she loves was.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
The best friend.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Huh oh sorry one of my best friends.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I was like to me, I know I related to that.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
When you're like, when your sisters are hanging out, I
get it when they feel like.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
You one of my best for other best friends, Brittany,
She was saying, she loves your relationship with your sisters
and how close y'all are. Has it always been that way?
Because I have three sisters, so I know the ups
and downs of sisterhood, stealing of the clothes, all the things.
But in terms of just life, do you relate to that?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I my sisters and I are so close. We have
always been that close. We never fight. I think growing up,
our biggest fight with Sophie and I was who was
going to click the elevator button. We just want we
both want to click it so bad, but it was
never we I don't know what the recipe is, what
we're doing right, but we they're my best friends. Like
(26:59):
there's no oh, there's no details to it. It's just
we are best friends. We are obsessed with each other.
I look at Porscha and I'm just like, you're the
coolest person I've ever seen. I love her, Sophia, I'm
obsessed with She's funny, and all of us are so
different from the other. There's not two of us that
are alike.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Yeah, Farah, I look.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Up too so much. She's honorable and she's oh man
when she lets loose. She's the funniest, most fun person. Like,
we just have so much fun all the time. And
I think maybe because we're so different, Yeah, we don't
there's not really that competitive aspect or you know, like
we don't really borrow that many clothes from each other
because we.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
All dress different.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Yeah, so it just it just works.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
But you get jealous.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I get jealous when they're all vibing without Maamia.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
Yeah. What what are the ages? Everyone's ages?
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Farah thirty five, I think, and then I'm twenty seven,
Sophia's twenty four, and Porsha sixteen.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Okay, yeah, so it's that's amazing that y'all are so close,
because that's a thirty five to sixteen? Is it big gap?
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah? They're nineteen nineteen years apart. Is that math? Is
that math? Mathing?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Not the right clips?
Speaker 4 (28:15):
Randon, don't even get me started with math.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
But actually the age difference between my mom and Farah
is the same age difference between Farah and Portia. Oh wow, yeah,
nineteen years apart.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Oh right, your mom had Parah when she was nineteen.
I did do that math at one point.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I have a question about your parents. Have you experienced,
and if you're comfortable sharing this, have you experienced them
dating other people since their separation and would you be comfortable?
How do you feel about it?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
If you have I'm I'm you know, what the goal
is really just for them to be happy. That's all
I want. So at the end of the day, if
they end up together or not, like I just want
them to do what's best for them. And I kind
of did have a conversation with I think both of
my parents where I was just like, you don't have
(29:07):
to make this decision for me anymore, Like, do what's
best for you. And honestly, there's like like a beauty
in trying something new. I mean, you've you've had twenty
beautiful years, twenty seven beautiful years together and you guys
get to get to like test the waters and see
what's what's working for you. And you know, I I'm
(29:32):
going to let them speak on their dating life, but
whatever they do and whatever makes them happy for the
most part, I will support.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
I say, coming from someone who has step kids in
their life, are you going to be nice to those
other people?
Speaker 1 (29:49):
I'm just I'm a nice person.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
If you're nice to me.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
I'll be nice for you. But if you mess with me.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
I do think you're at a good age too, We're
able to have that emotional maturity too, and just being
like how important it is to see your parents happy,
regardless of what that looks like or who they're with. Yeah,
and obviously you. I think the fact that you and
your sisters love each other and are so ride or
die and get along says so much about your parents,
(30:18):
because I think that comes from how you're raised in
the household. You're raised in absolutely, and so I think
that you having the emotional awareness and maturities to say,
like you don't have to do this for us, at
least for me, I think that's amazing and I respect it.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
One of the things, like, you know, I was worried
about Porsche with this whole thing, because the rest of
us were, you know, we're adults. I was really worried
about Porsche when this all came to light. But the
reality is is Porsche has what for moms. We've all
been like moms to her. I saw someone commented on Instagram, like,
where's Porsche. We're worried about Porsche. I'm like, she is
(30:59):
so fine. She's getting so much attention from all of us,
Like I just cheperone her sixteenth birthday and Lakinta it
was really fun, Like, you know, I love picking her
up from school, dropping her off she's best friends with Sophia,
Like they have their moments. She had one on one
lunch with my dad. The other day we went to
couple with our mom. Like we're always just together no
matter what. So it's really nice just having that, having
(31:23):
that stability, like even if the parents are going through
the thing, like you have the sisters like coming in
and making sure everything's okay.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, you all really stick together. Speaking of girls stick
together so much that you all work together, you work
(31:51):
as your family together. What is that, Danna, I don't
think I could work with definitely one of my Honestly.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
It has its challenges, honestly, but for the most part,
we just have a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
Yeah, And the good thing.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Is about real estate is that we're always doing different things.
So the way our team is built is that we
have obviously my dad, Farah and me, but my dad's
at the CEO and he's traveling and he's doing he's
doing his CEO meetings and whatever, and then they're fair
and I split our clients, so we're not working with
the same clients usually at once, so you know, we're
(32:30):
we have our team meetings, but we actually keep our
inner workings pretty separate, which I think is good in
terms of just keeping the dynamics healthy.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Yeah, yeah, Well, I do feel like when I watch
these shows, any real estate shows on TV, they make
it look just it looks so easy, like anyone could
do it. But I'm curious about the realities of doing it,
but also doing it and filming it and having it
recorded and being on camera. What the reality of it?
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Well, first of all, every deal that we do, every
listing that we have on the show is real. So
anytime we're like, oh, this one's sold, it actually sold.
We went to Miami, we got a billion dollars in listings.
We actually got a billion dollars in listings, which is crazy.
So we're really working it through that process and we're
(33:22):
almost like working double well, we are literally working double time.
We're doing a show and we're staring houses, but we're
working the real estate part trip all time because we
want to look good. We're like, shit, I don't sell
a house during this ten weeks that we're we're filming.
This is going to be so embarrassing, you know. So
it's stressful, especially because we did film at a very
(33:44):
bad market. Thank god I got that one. Salem Oh
my god, the Venice house. Thank god. But it's scary
and it's it's you know, you just want to prove yourself.
At the end of the day. Real estate is a
relation ship build business, and it's about your who you
(34:05):
are as a person. People pick you based on you know, like, yeah,
there's stats, but a lot of people are very successful
out there, so it's about who you are, and you know,
you want to put your best self out there. So
it's a lot of pressure.
Speaker 4 (34:19):
Can you talk to us a little bit about the
real estate market, because what the heck.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Don't wants to buy house?
Speaker 1 (34:27):
And like, what the heck?
Speaker 4 (34:29):
Why is my mortgage fifteen thousand dollars when it used
to be five?
Speaker 1 (34:33):
Okay, listen, you can always refinance your mortgage rate when
anytime it changes.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
But when is it going to change?
Speaker 3 (34:41):
You don't know.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So yeah, that's that's the one thing. Yeah, that's just
stuck until until it changes. But you know, they say
all these things, it's going to change. This year is
going to be really good. They're telling people that you
should buy now before it does drop, and then everyone
who's been waiting comes it at once. They're kind of like,
if you think it's going to change soon. Get in
on it now, So it's not like piranhas going after
(35:03):
all the good stuff, right and then you can refinance.
So that's like people's plans.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Do they feel like that's I mean from what you hear,
is there a world word on the street, on the
street spidey sense that that's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
I get so nervous telling people because like, yes, they
are saying it's going to happen, but I don't. There's
obviously no promises, but it is projected to be much
there's projected to be a drop.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
This year, and what goes up must come down.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Exactly, it's just science. I mean, those numbers that we
saw this last year were just insane. Go any higher
would be astronomical.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Well, that's what I've heard a lot of people say
is if you find something that you love and you
can do it, get it, get it, and then be
prepared to refinance when when it drops, because what's going
to happen is as soon as it drops, it's going
to be vultures. And it's still competitive. Exactly do you
find that it's still competitive even with the interest rate
and the prices, it's still a competitive market.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
Well especially now this this new year is bringing in
a lot more people.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
So New Year meeting twenty twenty four, twenty twenty four,
what's twenty twenty five looking like? Do they tell you
like those things?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Okay, I can't. This is above my page, right. I
love that.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
I'm a guy for this, But like conversations about money
and like I always said, like I wish in college,
by the way, I knew you went to University of Arizona.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Oh did you I did?
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Oh my god, no way you were. Oh okay, yeah,
the little little research. But we are we like, were
you there at the same time?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
No, I'm thirty six, so actually funny enough. I know
Melissa Platt who is on the Beverly Hills. Yeah, she's
my sworty.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
She just at her house for Easter to spend the
day with us. She's one of our close close friends.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Oh yeah, she's the cutest.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
She's the cutest. She really is.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
She really is.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
She's the cutest.
Speaker 4 (36:55):
But in college I was I was like, they should
teach us stuff like buying a house, health insurance, all
these basic you know, financial planning and all that stuff,
because I'm like, once you become an adult. It's just
like it all just hits you and you're like, So I.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Actually started a what's the word networking event that I'm
trying to do quarterly called adulting is Hard, and it
was the first one was about building a good credit
score so you can prepare to eventually build a house
one day, and that all happened. This whole idea happened
because I had no idea. You needed a credit card
(37:34):
to build a credit score, right, And my boyfriend actually
got me my first credit card and I looked at
my dad and I was like.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
I am an adult.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
I've been working for three years and I could have
been building a credit score whole time. Yeah, oh I
was living. I was like, I genuinely thought, like someone
the they you know, they're watching where's my credit score?
Speaker 2 (37:57):
Right?
Speaker 1 (37:58):
I had no idea. So my first was about but
they had credit score and I was. It was about explaining,
you know why you need a good score for your
future home and it's you know. That was the first one.
The second one was about uh, financial planning, so it
was about you know, starting your retirement fund and investing.
So these are all things I never learned and I
(38:20):
wish I did. Yeah, And I mean it's funny because
I did grow up very comfortable and I am very privileged,
and I do acknowledge that, but there's almost like a
piece that you miss when you're so comfortable that you're
not like pushed to do these things. And and then
I have you know, friends that you know, don't have
(38:40):
a parent to teach them these things. Like my partner
I'm not speaking, you know, on a podcast, but she
lost both of her parents and she's like, I didn't
know these things either. So we have two people on
two very opposite spectrums that like, you know, we're like,
there's this is something that should be done. We need
to have these moments. And then we have cocktails, we
make fun and we talked to people. We did bowling
(39:02):
last time, and it was you know, it's just something
I think should be more normalized, is these conversations.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I'm with you, that's such a great idea that you're
doing that. Yeah, I'm they there needs to be courses,
and they need to make it enjoyable and fun because
I'm not going to go sit in a lecture hall
and like be taught again, how did do exactly.
Speaker 4 (39:23):
In my college halls and tigers and bears. I'm like, what, Yeah,
teachers have four to oh one k oh, my.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
God, exactly. So last my last adulting is hard session.
He's like, I got up on stage. I'm introducing our guys.
I'm like, yeah, Like he's going to teach us about
time and funds whatever. He's like, yeah, I'm just going
to keep it simple, talk about for one cake. I'm
like what. I'm like, you're what. I genuinely didn't even
know what that was. And then I think everyone like
(39:53):
started laughing in the room because I already had set
the precipice, like I, yes, I'm busting this thing, but
I don't know anything. But I'm here with everybody's.
Speaker 4 (40:01):
Embarrassed to say I don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:03):
You know, we all are in.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
These conversations and they're like yeh yeah, yeah, I'm you know,
but like nobody knows anything, and like, I mean, now
I know a little bit, but I mean, gosh.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
Yeah, I mean if I finally know what a four
oh one K is, I know four months ago I
learned that, Thank you very much. I'm twenty seven years old.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
I need to know when your next one is because
I feel like I lit the vulnerability of you also
not knowing what we're learning about.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
I yeah, I definitely make sure to ask a lot
of questions and then it really I mean, our thirty
minute session ended up being an hour and a half
because everyone started asking everything. I like, I make sure.
I'm like, I need you to rewind one oh one
for dummies.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
Yeah, you know, it also makes people feel comfortable, Like
if you're the host and you're asking, they're like, okay,
I can ask too, Yeah, exactly are you waiting or
interested in getting a ring on your finger?
Speaker 3 (40:56):
Obviously?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I definitely you know, you were like letting him know
that I needed to happen.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
We talk about getting married, like we know it's going
to happen. We were just in combo with my mom
and sisters, and I told my sisters and my mom
like I asked my mom for ring advice because I
don't know anything about rings, and we looked at pictures.
I was like, okay, son ever said that text him
right now, so you know, but him and I know
what's happening, Like that's not even a question. It's just
(41:29):
a matter of when. Like he always tries to talk
to me about it. I'm like, stop talking. Like, I
need to be a secret. Yeah, you might be surprised,
and I never get my nails done. I told my sisters,
if you guys invite me to get my nails done,
I'll be upset with you because I know it's going
to be coming, So don't tell me that. I'm like,
it's just I want it to be a surprise, even
though I know it's coming, right, So we're excited about that. Yet.
(41:51):
I love that you want to just choose my ring.
But who knows what I ended up getting. He could
end up getting something totally different. Who knows.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
You're like, listen to whatever my mom sends you follow
with that advice.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
We did just measure each other's ring fingers. I like
brought home you know that jewelry store masery. Oh yeah,
they sent me a ring measure and I brought it
home the other day and he's like, yes, he's he
kept trying to put it on my finger. I'm no, no,
I want to do it. I want to do it.
He would just like wanted to put the ring sizing
on my on my finger. So you know, it's it's
(42:23):
very open conversation. But when is the question.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
I love that you wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
He's probably just as excited about that.
Speaker 1 (42:32):
We're excited. I mean, it's it's been four years. But
I'm not in a rush actually.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
Okay, see that's what I was getting at a rush,
like you know some of you are.
Speaker 3 (42:42):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
I wanted the ring to be something I like, but
I'm not in a rush.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
You know, you know it's coming. So you're at piece
of up exactly.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
That's where I'm at mentally.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Okay, what about career wise? What are your hopes and
dreams and what is the what are the next years
look like for you?
Speaker 1 (42:59):
So I definitely want to sell more. This year was slow,
twenty twenty three was slower, and I just want to
be way, way more successful in the numbers era. Oh
not era. What's the word apartment department? Thank you? Era
is too much? It's such a word right now. And
then additionally, I want to I feel like our office
(43:21):
is still kind of like post COVID. I hate talking
about COVID all the time, but it's still in that
post COVID moment where people aren't showing up to the
office all the time, and we used to have this
shot o'clock every Friday. We're at five o'clock every Friday.
We have shots and just like little things that have
(43:42):
changed since since COVID, where a lot more people are
working at the office. I just want to focus a
lot more on the culture or a company. This year.
I talked to my dad. I was like, I want
to have a top golf event with people out of office.
I want to have a bowling event. I want him
to have you know, dinners with people. I was like,
we just I want to feel very involved, especially with
(44:03):
the show coming out. I don't want it to be
so alienating. I want us to still feel very part
of the mix. Especially I just know people feel different
and you know, look at people differently sometimes, and I
just don't want to open the window to that possibility.
Like I want us to be like I want my
(44:24):
sisters at every event we're going to do. So, I
want to focus a lot on the company this year.
I'm just being part of that.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Too, like the community of the company.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
But I love that you. I find that you really
value that I do like you do with your family,
with work, your friends.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Yeah, it's it's I have a giant group of friends
I'm very like, I'm very focused on keeping that together
as well. I'm just that's just my thing. I guess.
I love that and I really realize that until you
just said that out loud, Like you're so right.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
It's a very special quality because a lot of especially
with everyone being on their phones and it's like you
can barely get people to look you in the eye
when you're having a conversation. I feel like having you
having that is such a gift because it like bring
people together, reminding them about community and how important it
is to have that. Yeah, it's crucial. I think it's success.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
I think so too, and everything it's communities, like everywhere
there exactly I went to. My school was called a
community high school, and I'm still so involved in it.
I try. I'm just like, I just it's important to
focus on the community. All my friends are from my
high school.
Speaker 3 (45:29):
What high school did you go to?
Speaker 1 (45:30):
I went to milkinh Okay Jewish School four five Ye.
But yeah, we have literally have this group of like
fifty friends that we see each other every month, every week,
and we treat each other like a family. And I
really do think it's because that like that word cult,
community was so embedded in us, and we we nurtured
our relationship so much.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
Fifty five zero yeah, five zero.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
A group of fifty people, Yeah pretty much.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Yeah amazing.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Yeah, it's pretty crazy obviously, like the subgroups, but when
you get everyone involved, it can be up to the subgroups.
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I feel like you would have that if you still
love Yeah.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (46:11):
I'm definitely very lucky.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
I keep looking at her hair and.
Speaker 1 (46:13):
I'm like, do I need to get a cut? Like
I got so twelve inches, It's so cute, so cute,
You're so ch so she my ballet hair.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
Well, yeah, Cardigan, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
You give oldest sister mentality. I haven't met your oldest sister,
but you definitely have that energy.
Speaker 3 (46:32):
Yeah, you do, I have.
Speaker 1 (46:33):
I'm kind of like the grandma the group. Honestly. I'm
also I promise.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
I'm like, I want you to chaperone my birthday and
Wakita Oh.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
I can definitely if you get me in a party room.
But you know, during the week, I'm very conservative. I
don't wear makeup really. I like my sweaters.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
Yeah, jeans, You're everything you love. Thank you for scrubbing
a podcast.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
You guys for having me so much fun.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
Hey you just class and clap in, clap out,
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