June 17, 2023 • 16 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And Martinez in Real Life podcast. This episode and conversation
is powered by ADU. Say hey, hi everybody, we are back.
This is another tech takeaway episode. I know we're late.
It has been a crazy couple of weeks, so we
we've just been a little bit behind. We try to
(00:21):
do the takeaway episodes a week after we do our
interview episodes. But as some of you might know, I
r L has now launched into a production company. Thank you,
thank you, thank you. And Brittany's here by the way,
who is our producer on the show, and also some
(00:41):
of the projects that we'll be doing moving forward. All
of the projects that we will be doing it moving
forward pretty much. And so yeah, so we've been working
on this ABC special around the fiftieth anniversary of hip
hop and and that you know, we've been caught up
in that. So that that airs Monday on Monday. It
airs Monday on Juneteenth, ten pm on ABC. So hopefully
(01:02):
you guys will check that out. Super proud of it,
and we just reflect on like where hip hop is
as a fifty year old, because you know, it's fifty
years old, and as fifty year old humans, you know,
you've learned some things you made, some mistakes, You've had growth,
And I kind of took the special and framed the
(01:24):
conversation that way around how we've grown in hip hop
mental health, and how we've grown in hip hop through
financial literacy. We're so much smarter now about our business.
And anyway, you'll watch it, you'll see I hope you
like it. But yes, it's been a busy week, so
we were a little bit backed up on our takeaway
episode for the money Bag Yo interview, which was so
dope and so honest and so raw. And I'll be honest.
(01:49):
I had interviewed him one time before only and he
seemed cool, like we had a natural energy and but
you know, he was like in promo mode and it
was just kind of chill, fun. I really didn't know
what this episode was gonna bring. I knew he had
been through some trauma. I knew about the loss of
the mother of his kids, but you know, you never
(02:10):
really know how much people are willing to open up
about it. But I loved the way he showed up.
He showed up like all guards down, super vulnerable. Do
you feel like he'd maybe been to therapy. No, he
hadn't been to therapy.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
No, no, no, he did go to therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
He was he hated therapy.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Yes, he wasn't messing with the therapist.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
That's right. He did say that. We talked about that.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
He actually said, you'd be hit at therapist.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
I felt like we were having therapy in a weird way.
Not that I'm a therapist. I am not a legal therapist,
but I felt like he needed to get out some
of the things that were going on inside of him.
I think, you know, that type of trauma is different
and real, and I mean he just next level opened up, right,
And I think people are just really It's one thing
when a woman opens up, it's a.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Very different thing when a person from South Memphis who
grew up with nothing, who's been through a lot a
lot of trouble.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Persona is that of a you know, a tough guy
and serious and you know, a serious street dude. To say, yo,
I go to the bathroom and cry because I'm I'm
trying to hold it together, but sometimes I can't. And
I'm trying to hold it together because I'm trying to
be the best version of myself for my kids. As
(03:22):
he's raising these kids on his own. Now that his
their mother has been murdered. It just I don't know.
I appreciated it so much. I appreciated his willingness to
show up.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And so some of my takeaways from this episode were
number one, the number one takeaway is check on your
strong friends. You would never know in a million years.
And even even he said it, he even said his
team didn't really know how how deeply and how you know,
some of the stuff that he had been through had
been affecting him because he'd hold he holds a straight face.
He says, if I cry, what's gonna what's gonna happen
(03:56):
to my kids? So he just kind of been you know,
sticking out his chest but on that I'm okay face,
and then he would have to like remove himself to
cry or just really has been having a hard time.
And so yeah, the reminder to check on your strong
friends was definitely a strong takeaway that I left with
after this episode.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
A lot of times I act like I'm happy, Like
I be acting like I'm happy because I understand I'm
a role model. I got people looking up to me.
I can't you can't do that. You can't let them
see that. And I ain't about looking weak like I said,
you were hearman at the end of the day. But
it's like I can't. I can't do that. I gotta
set examples. I got people looking at me, so I
(04:36):
got to stay strong. If then I got kids that
if they see me crying, what you think they're gonna do?
You know what I'm saying. So if they see me
break down, what you think they gonna do? I got
to stay strong in front of them, even though it
be super intend, be super hard, do you I'd be
having to walk hold up, let me go. I gotta
pee real quick and cry like oh, and then come
back and we finished the situation, finish the conversation like
(04:57):
it be dip hard.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
First of all, the way he's says human, it's like
I could listen to it all day. That little Memphis
accent is so great. But yeah, man, it was heavy
and he's he's so honest and gotta check on our
strong friends people.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I think him also will talk about give some background
about what he's been going through.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
For someone who hasn't listened to the episode, Oh, if
you haven't watched the interview. First of all, the mother
of his three children was murdered unexpectedly and now he
has full custody of the three kids. One of his
other friends also lost his life. He didn't get into
the specifics and the details of how. And then another
friend got caught up in some legal stuff and is incarcerated.
(05:45):
Also didn't get very specific about the details of that.
But like losing that many people that close to you,
on top of being a new full time father to
the three kids that are now living with you, and
then your other kids that you have through other relationships,
his life it's kind of upside down. So a lot
of trauma in that, and then on top of that,
(06:06):
I just feel like he's at a turning point in
his life. Yes, number one, because he has to be
a full time father, but you know, he's in this
relationship now and he talks about being raised mostly by
his mother and his father wasn't home because his father
was in the streets. He says his father was a pimp.
You know. His projects called heart of Love hard to Love.
How could you not be hard to love when you're
(06:27):
that guarded, when you're the father example that you have
the man of the house or out of the house.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
I almost feel like he was hinting that he didn't
feel like worthy of love in a sense, like when
he was talking, especially about his relationship with Ari about
he says, you know, I'm a tough man to deal with,
not just because of his lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
I love when a man takes ownership and his shit. Accountability, accountability.
Oh it's so sexy, you know what I mean, accountability, ownership,
just self awareness. Guy, that's all we want as women,
you know what I mean. It's like, we'll ride out
with you while you're working through your shit if you
could admit that, I mean, really, just take this advice
(07:10):
with money bag, yo, because this is what happened with
him and Ari. He said he messed up. He was
honest about it, messed up, cheated. This is what he cheated.
He said, he cheated. He's trying to get her trust
back now. But he's like, look, this is who I am,
this is where I come from. I'm trying my best.
I'm trying here. And he says the Ferrari that she
was willing to stick it out with him and do
the work with him and try to get to a
(07:32):
better place with him, and they seem to be going strong,
they seem to be doing great. She even FaceTime during
the interview. She did FaceTime during the interview. Is did
we catch that?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
And we got a little bit we might post some.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, we should post that. She definitely checked him during
the interview. But he seems happy, and I think he
also appreciates her willingness to kind of see him and
see him flaws and all and still kind of ride
this thing out with him. Their relationship is really sweet.
When he when he tells the story about her buying
him property, he says, nobody has ever bought him anything.
(08:08):
He's never nobody's ever given him anything.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
He even said that on his birthday when he when
his dad was trying to make a way back in
his life, that when money Bag was getting buzz in
the street, he said that he called it I was
getting I was getting motion in the streets. That his
dad reached out to him on his birthday, was telling
him gratulations and then also proceeded to ask him for
a little something on his birthday.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
On his birthday. That's the relationship he has with his father.
So yeah, this is not a man who's used to
experiencing or receiving gifts. But I wonder what his love
language is you know, everybody has a love language. I'm
gonna say, have you ever read that book? Have you
read that book?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, I'm going to say it's definitely physical touch. I
feel like him is absolutely I feel him and already
have a lot of Yes, they got physical attraction down
to science.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah, but it might be gifts but he didn't even
know it because he never received any. Because I really
feel like this gift really meant so much to him,
even when he's talking about it, it's just I don't know.
It was very sweet. Can we play the clip when
he's breaking down the.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Gift greatest gift I ever got? Like so far?
Speaker 1 (09:18):
And are you used to that? Like, like how did
that feel for you?
Speaker 3 (09:23):
I may feel mushy crazy, like you know, you know
what I'm saying, not trying to be just too hard.
It just made me like I was like damn, like
and she really do look it made it opened my
eyes more so, like not saying that I used to
question love with her, like or did question I love?
It's just period in general, like going back to the
(09:43):
hard to love situation, like is this really.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
It so sweet? I'm rooting for them, man, you know,
it's like it's like against all it's one of those
against all odd stories. Don't call me toxic just because
I'm rooting for them. I really have because when I
see somebody take accountability and I see somebody trying, and
I see two people trying to work through trauma and
break generational curses and all those things, and like, you know,
(10:10):
yea and choose love. Like I don't know, maybe I'm
a softy, but I'm definitely rooting for them. And I
love that she's been there through this little period of
his life that's been really challenging. He says, you know,
his trauma is her trauma. He says, she's gone through
this with him. She was dating, you know, a single
guy with no kids in the house, and you know
he's a full time dad. Now his life has changed
(10:32):
changed dramatically, and she has been there through that. So yeah,
I'm rooting for them and his kids. Man, this throughout
this whole thing, my heart was definitely aching for his
kids and the trauma that they must still be going with.
He mentions that his daughter opened up about therapy, which
to me says something about his parenting skills. When your
(10:55):
kids can be honest about what they're going through and
they can talk talk to you that way. You know,
give yourself a little pat on the back, because kids
can close up quick, and it's so hard, especially if
you have teenagers. You know this, It's like so hard
to get them to open up. So when you have
a kid that can come to you and say, I'm struggling, daddy,
(11:16):
you know I want to try therapy, you know he
must be doing something right. Here's anyway, here's that clip
of him talking about that.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, like my, uh my daughter, like the oldest one.
You know, she understands more. She understands more than the
other ones. So she taking it way harder. Like she
walked up to me like before I left, like, Dad,
I just want to talk to him. Talking to her.
She's like, I don't want to do therapy. I need therapy,
Like she she a world enough to say that, Like,
you know, I want to do therapy. I want to
(11:49):
get I just be so sad and I'm just always
in the room because she always just in her room.
Like I have to make her do stuff, you feel me,
I have to make her just get up and get
about her day. Come on to mind, let's do this duty.
You knows it took him in. But now she's she
she opened and up, she's doing it.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I hope he gets therapy for them. That's that's losing
your parent that way at that age. It is something
those kids are going to carry with them for the
rest of their lives. So I really do hope for
their sake that there is therapy being sought after for them.
I know that he didn't have a good experience with therapy.
He talks about that. He says he didn't like the therapist.
(12:26):
He felt like she was just being He said she
felt like she was being nosy or something like that.
He says, at the therapist.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, she was being too nosy, that she just wanted
to know about him.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Because he's because he's famous.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
He didn't feel like she was actually help him.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
You know, not every therapist is created equal, and sometimes
you might catch a bad one, and that doesn't mean
the therapy is not for you. That just means maybe
that that therapist is not for you. And I do
highly encourage anyone who's thinking about it to maybe try
a couple. It's like dating. You gotta date a few
people till you find somebody you lock in with and
you can't ever give up. So you gotta just, you know,
(13:00):
keep trying to find that. I love though that he
did say he's built some community around some of the
things he's going through. One of his friends also had
a similar loss in his life. He talks about finding
people to talk to because you do have to have
an outlet, especially somebody like him who's busy putting on
a strong face all the time. At some point you
have to release that. So he said he had his brother.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Yeah, his brother, his friend.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah. So he said he had he had some people
like that in his life.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I love how he was just overall so vulnerable. He says,
you know, he wants to change the narrative of what
it means.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
To be a gangst YO. Something about that moment sat
with me so strong, because he said, I don't want
people to when people see me, they see a monster,
use the word monster. Imagine walking through the world and
feeling like the outside world looks at you like a monster. Yikes.
(13:59):
Like what that does to you internally.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Makes you harder probably, yeah, harder and trusting yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah. That part stuck with me too. That stayed with
me that moment. A lot of it did. I felt
I found him to be so and I'm sure he's
not like this all the time, because this was a
this was a very unique experience we had we had
with him. He even said he didn't he probably talked
to me more than he talked to some of the
people in his life about this stuff that was going on.
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I just you could you could tell that he had
come far, but he still has a long way to go. Yeah.
The fact that even the part in the interview where
he's like, you know, like run to the bathroom, crybaby, crybaby,
You're like, what what?
Speaker 3 (14:43):
What was that?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I don't just scuttle over that real quick?
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Why would he call himself a cry baby? That's so crazy?
He was great. I was so grateful that he chose
us to open up that way to it, and I
think it, like again, the biggest takeaway for me was
the check on a strong friends. You really just never
know what people are going through, and some people act
like the toughest, strongest, And not just men. We all
(15:09):
know a woman like this. We all know our friends
who are single moms or just bosses or you know,
alpha females or people who just always have to present
as strong and that's exhausting for anyone, male, female, anyone,
like at some point something's gonna crack. And I'm so
(15:33):
grateful that he opened up to us the way that
he did. And it's really a beautiful conversation. And if
you haven't checked out the full interview yet, please do.
It's on the YouTube page Angie Martinez Show Money Bag yeo.
Especially if you don't even know, if you're not that
familiar with him as an artist maybe some of you guys.
Still just a really interesting story to tell and how
he's navigating his trauma and his life and his circumstances.
(15:59):
And super grateful for it. So again, go to the
YouTube page. You can check out the full interview there.
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(16:20):
ABC special.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
The name of the special is Hip Hop at fifty Rhythms,
Rhymes and Reflections.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
That's what it's called, and you can watch it on
ABC ten pm Eastern on June nineteenth, which is Juneteenth,
so Happy Juneteenth everyone. Thank you guys so much for
checking out this episode, and make sure you subscribe for
future episodes. Have a great day.
And Martinez in Real Life podcast. This episode and conversation
is powered by ADU. Say hey, hi everybody, we are back.
This is another tech takeaway episode. I know we're late.
It has been a crazy couple of weeks, so we
we've just been a little bit behind. We try to
(00:21):
do the takeaway episodes a week after we do our
interview episodes. But as some of you might know, I
r L has now launched into a production company. Thank you,
thank you, thank you. And Brittany's here by the way,
who is our producer on the show, and also some
(00:41):
of the projects that we'll be doing moving forward. All
of the projects that we will be doing it moving
forward pretty much. And so yeah, so we've been working
on this ABC special around the fiftieth anniversary of hip
hop and and that you know, we've been caught up
in that. So that that airs Monday on Monday. It
airs Monday on Juneteenth, ten pm on ABC. So hopefully
(01:02):
you guys will check that out. Super proud of it,
and we just reflect on like where hip hop is
as a fifty year old, because you know, it's fifty
years old, and as fifty year old humans, you know,
you've learned some things you made, some mistakes, You've had growth,
And I kind of took the special and framed the
(01:24):
conversation that way around how we've grown in hip hop
mental health, and how we've grown in hip hop through
financial literacy. We're so much smarter now about our business.
And anyway, you'll watch it, you'll see I hope you
like it. But yes, it's been a busy week, so
we were a little bit backed up on our takeaway
episode for the money Bag Yo interview, which was so
dope and so honest and so raw. And I'll be honest.
(01:49):
I had interviewed him one time before only and he
seemed cool, like we had a natural energy and but
you know, he was like in promo mode and it
was just kind of chill, fun. I really didn't know
what this episode was gonna bring. I knew he had
been through some trauma. I knew about the loss of
the mother of his kids, but you know, you never
(02:10):
really know how much people are willing to open up
about it. But I loved the way he showed up.
He showed up like all guards down, super vulnerable. Do
you feel like he'd maybe been to therapy. No, he
hadn't been to therapy.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
No, no, no, he did go to therapy.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
He was he hated therapy.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Yes, he wasn't messing with the therapist.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
That's right. He did say that. We talked about that.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
He actually said, you'd be hit at therapist.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
I felt like we were having therapy in a weird way.
Not that I'm a therapist. I am not a legal therapist,
but I felt like he needed to get out some
of the things that were going on inside of him.
I think, you know, that type of trauma is different
and real, and I mean he just next level opened up, right,
And I think people are just really It's one thing
when a woman opens up, it's a.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Very different thing when a person from South Memphis who
grew up with nothing, who's been through a lot a
lot of trouble.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Persona is that of a you know, a tough guy
and serious and you know, a serious street dude. To say, yo,
I go to the bathroom and cry because I'm I'm
trying to hold it together, but sometimes I can't. And
I'm trying to hold it together because I'm trying to
be the best version of myself for my kids. As
(03:22):
he's raising these kids on his own. Now that his
their mother has been murdered. It just I don't know.
I appreciated it so much. I appreciated his willingness to
show up.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And so some of my takeaways from this episode were
number one, the number one takeaway is check on your
strong friends. You would never know in a million years.
And even even he said it, he even said his
team didn't really know how how deeply and how you know,
some of the stuff that he had been through had
been affecting him because he'd hold he holds a straight face.
He says, if I cry, what's gonna what's gonna happen
(03:56):
to my kids? So he just kind of been you know,
sticking out his chest but on that I'm okay face,
and then he would have to like remove himself to
cry or just really has been having a hard time.
And so yeah, the reminder to check on your strong
friends was definitely a strong takeaway that I left with
after this episode.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
A lot of times I act like I'm happy, Like
I be acting like I'm happy because I understand I'm
a role model. I got people looking up to me.
I can't you can't do that. You can't let them
see that. And I ain't about looking weak like I said,
you were hearman at the end of the day. But
it's like I can't. I can't do that. I gotta
set examples. I got people looking at me, so I
(04:36):
got to stay strong. If then I got kids that
if they see me crying, what you think they're gonna do?
You know what I'm saying. So if they see me
break down, what you think they gonna do? I got
to stay strong in front of them, even though it
be super intend, be super hard, do you I'd be
having to walk hold up, let me go. I gotta
pee real quick and cry like oh, and then come
back and we finished the situation, finish the conversation like
(04:57):
it be dip hard.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
First of all, the way he's says human, it's like
I could listen to it all day. That little Memphis
accent is so great. But yeah, man, it was heavy
and he's he's so honest and gotta check on our
strong friends people.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I think him also will talk about give some background
about what he's been going through.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
For someone who hasn't listened to the episode, Oh, if
you haven't watched the interview. First of all, the mother
of his three children was murdered unexpectedly and now he
has full custody of the three kids. One of his
other friends also lost his life. He didn't get into
the specifics and the details of how. And then another
friend got caught up in some legal stuff and is incarcerated.
(05:45):
Also didn't get very specific about the details of that.
But like losing that many people that close to you,
on top of being a new full time father to
the three kids that are now living with you, and
then your other kids that you have through other relationships,
his life it's kind of upside down. So a lot
of trauma in that, and then on top of that,
(06:06):
I just feel like he's at a turning point in
his life. Yes, number one, because he has to be
a full time father, but you know, he's in this
relationship now and he talks about being raised mostly by
his mother and his father wasn't home because his father
was in the streets. He says his father was a pimp.
You know. His projects called heart of Love hard to Love.
How could you not be hard to love when you're
(06:27):
that guarded, when you're the father example that you have
the man of the house or out of the house.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
I almost feel like he was hinting that he didn't
feel like worthy of love in a sense, like when
he was talking, especially about his relationship with Ari about
he says, you know, I'm a tough man to deal with,
not just because of his lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
I love when a man takes ownership and his shit. Accountability, accountability.
Oh it's so sexy, you know what I mean, accountability, ownership,
just self awareness. Guy, that's all we want as women,
you know what I mean. It's like, we'll ride out
with you while you're working through your shit if you
could admit that, I mean, really, just take this advice
(07:10):
with money bag, yo, because this is what happened with
him and Ari. He said he messed up. He was
honest about it, messed up, cheated. This is what he cheated.
He said, he cheated. He's trying to get her trust
back now. But he's like, look, this is who I am,
this is where I come from. I'm trying my best.
I'm trying here. And he says the Ferrari that she
was willing to stick it out with him and do
the work with him and try to get to a
(07:32):
better place with him, and they seem to be going strong,
they seem to be doing great. She even FaceTime during
the interview. She did FaceTime during the interview. Is did
we catch that?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
And we got a little bit we might post some.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, we should post that. She definitely checked him during
the interview. But he seems happy, and I think he
also appreciates her willingness to kind of see him and
see him flaws and all and still kind of ride
this thing out with him. Their relationship is really sweet.
When he when he tells the story about her buying
him property, he says, nobody has ever bought him anything.
(08:08):
He's never nobody's ever given him anything.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
He even said that on his birthday when he when
his dad was trying to make a way back in
his life, that when money Bag was getting buzz in
the street, he said that he called it I was
getting I was getting motion in the streets. That his
dad reached out to him on his birthday, was telling
him gratulations and then also proceeded to ask him for
a little something on his birthday.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
On his birthday. That's the relationship he has with his father.
So yeah, this is not a man who's used to
experiencing or receiving gifts. But I wonder what his love
language is you know, everybody has a love language. I'm
gonna say, have you ever read that book? Have you
read that book?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, I'm going to say it's definitely physical touch. I
feel like him is absolutely I feel him and already
have a lot of Yes, they got physical attraction down
to science.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah, but it might be gifts but he didn't even
know it because he never received any. Because I really
feel like this gift really meant so much to him,
even when he's talking about it, it's just I don't know.
It was very sweet. Can we play the clip when
he's breaking down the.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Gift greatest gift I ever got? Like so far?
Speaker 1 (09:18):
And are you used to that? Like, like how did
that feel for you?
Speaker 3 (09:23):
I may feel mushy crazy, like you know, you know
what I'm saying, not trying to be just too hard.
It just made me like I was like damn, like
and she really do look it made it opened my
eyes more so, like not saying that I used to
question love with her, like or did question I love?
It's just period in general, like going back to the
(09:43):
hard to love situation, like is this really.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
It so sweet? I'm rooting for them, man, you know,
it's like it's like against all it's one of those
against all odd stories. Don't call me toxic just because
I'm rooting for them. I really have because when I
see somebody take accountability and I see somebody trying, and
I see two people trying to work through trauma and
break generational curses and all those things, and like, you know,
(10:10):
yea and choose love. Like I don't know, maybe I'm
a softy, but I'm definitely rooting for them. And I
love that she's been there through this little period of
his life that's been really challenging. He says, you know,
his trauma is her trauma. He says, she's gone through
this with him. She was dating, you know, a single
guy with no kids in the house, and you know
he's a full time dad. Now his life has changed
(10:32):
changed dramatically, and she has been there through that. So yeah,
I'm rooting for them and his kids. Man, this throughout
this whole thing, my heart was definitely aching for his
kids and the trauma that they must still be going with.
He mentions that his daughter opened up about therapy, which
to me says something about his parenting skills. When your
(10:55):
kids can be honest about what they're going through and
they can talk talk to you that way. You know,
give yourself a little pat on the back, because kids
can close up quick, and it's so hard, especially if
you have teenagers. You know this, It's like so hard
to get them to open up. So when you have
a kid that can come to you and say, I'm struggling, daddy,
(11:16):
you know I want to try therapy, you know he
must be doing something right. Here's anyway, here's that clip
of him talking about that.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, like my, uh my daughter, like the oldest one.
You know, she understands more. She understands more than the
other ones. So she taking it way harder. Like she
walked up to me like before I left, like, Dad,
I just want to talk to him. Talking to her.
She's like, I don't want to do therapy. I need therapy,
Like she she a world enough to say that, Like,
you know, I want to do therapy. I want to
(11:49):
get I just be so sad and I'm just always
in the room because she always just in her room.
Like I have to make her do stuff, you feel me,
I have to make her just get up and get
about her day. Come on to mind, let's do this duty.
You knows it took him in. But now she's she
she opened and up, she's doing it.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I hope he gets therapy for them. That's that's losing
your parent that way at that age. It is something
those kids are going to carry with them for the
rest of their lives. So I really do hope for
their sake that there is therapy being sought after for them.
I know that he didn't have a good experience with therapy.
He talks about that. He says he didn't like the therapist.
(12:26):
He felt like she was just being He said she
felt like she was being nosy or something like that.
He says, at the therapist.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, she was being too nosy, that she just wanted
to know about him.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Because he's because he's famous.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
He didn't feel like she was actually help him.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
You know, not every therapist is created equal, and sometimes
you might catch a bad one, and that doesn't mean
the therapy is not for you. That just means maybe
that that therapist is not for you. And I do
highly encourage anyone who's thinking about it to maybe try
a couple. It's like dating. You gotta date a few
people till you find somebody you lock in with and
you can't ever give up. So you gotta just, you know,
(13:00):
keep trying to find that. I love though that he
did say he's built some community around some of the
things he's going through. One of his friends also had
a similar loss in his life. He talks about finding
people to talk to because you do have to have
an outlet, especially somebody like him who's busy putting on
a strong face all the time. At some point you
have to release that. So he said he had his brother.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Yeah, his brother, his friend.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah. So he said he had he had some people
like that in his life.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I love how he was just overall so vulnerable. He says,
you know, he wants to change the narrative of what
it means.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
To be a gangst YO. Something about that moment sat
with me so strong, because he said, I don't want
people to when people see me, they see a monster,
use the word monster. Imagine walking through the world and
feeling like the outside world looks at you like a monster. Yikes.
(13:59):
Like what that does to you internally.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Makes you harder probably, yeah, harder and trusting yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah. That part stuck with me too. That stayed with
me that moment. A lot of it did. I felt
I found him to be so and I'm sure he's
not like this all the time, because this was a
this was a very unique experience we had we had
with him. He even said he didn't he probably talked
to me more than he talked to some of the
people in his life about this stuff that was going on.
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I just you could you could tell that he had
come far, but he still has a long way to go. Yeah.
The fact that even the part in the interview where
he's like, you know, like run to the bathroom, crybaby, crybaby,
You're like, what what?
Speaker 3 (14:43):
What was that?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I don't just scuttle over that real quick?
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Why would he call himself a cry baby? That's so crazy?
He was great. I was so grateful that he chose
us to open up that way to it, and I
think it, like again, the biggest takeaway for me was
the check on a strong friends. You really just never
know what people are going through, and some people act
like the toughest, strongest, And not just men. We all
(15:09):
know a woman like this. We all know our friends
who are single moms or just bosses or you know,
alpha females or people who just always have to present
as strong and that's exhausting for anyone, male, female, anyone,
like at some point something's gonna crack. And I'm so
(15:33):
grateful that he opened up to us the way that
he did. And it's really a beautiful conversation. And if
you haven't checked out the full interview yet, please do.
It's on the YouTube page Angie Martinez Show Money Bag yeo.
Especially if you don't even know, if you're not that
familiar with him as an artist maybe some of you guys.
Still just a really interesting story to tell and how
he's navigating his trauma and his life and his circumstances.
(15:59):
And super grateful for it. So again, go to the
YouTube page. You can check out the full interview there.
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(16:20):
ABC special.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
The name of the special is Hip Hop at fifty Rhythms,
Rhymes and Reflections.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
That's what it's called, and you can watch it on
ABC ten pm Eastern on June nineteenth, which is Juneteenth,
so Happy Juneteenth everyone. Thank you guys so much for
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