January 10, 2024 • 23 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
the Black Effect. Oh shit, be back on the air,
Welcome back to you got another carefully reckless episode with
your girl Jess. Hilarious. So we're gonna jump right in.
(00:21):
We got some written passages, y'all. Remember I told y'all
people don't be wanting nobody to catch on today voice
so we don't have voice notes today. But thank god
that I can read the non punctuations and shit. So
we're gonna get it popping.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Hey Jess, so I'm gay. Damn hold up. That is
not how you start a story. God damn it. I
mean I could see if it was June, but how
you hey Jess, I'm gay? Like that would oh my god.
Usually it's like, hey JS, I'm Chris, or Hey Jess,
I'm Courtney.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He'll say, hey Jess, I'm gay. Straight off the rippy.
All right, that's cool.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
And I've been talking to this girl for about two months.
This will be my first relationship with the girl, and
I'm actually falling for her. Never thought I would be
in a relationship with a female, but it's going now.
We're both pretty popular on social media, and we're both
active on social media with pretty popular platforms, so we've
been trying to figure out the perfect.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Time to pop out. Okay, I understand that we don't
want to rush anything.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
We just want to make sure we're locked in before
revealing each other on each other's pages. Nothing wrong with it,
I can relate, But girls, tell me why. I wake
up yesterday morning, Osha and I see the green circle
with her name on it, which means she posted in
her close friends. I was really saying, what the fuck
that made? I don't know what a green circle is.
I don't have no close friends or nothing. All Right,
I clicked and it was a picture of us, but
(01:43):
my back was turned. So I'm trying to figure out
if I should be happy about this or should I
question it? Because if this is supposed to be the
pop out, why is the PopOut in your close friends?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
M Okay?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
It also got me thinking who is in her close
friends and why didn't she post it publicly?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And then, girl, I'm such an overthinker.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Maybe she took everybody out of her close friends and
had me in there by myself, so I can see
it like she's looking for a reaction or something. What
do you think, Jess, Hmmm, where it could be a
couple of things. It could be a couple of things.
If you two have well, I want to know, have
you two talked about what that looks like for you
guys to popping out situation? Have you guys even spoke
(02:25):
on it, like and had a real conversation about it,
Because I know with me and my man, he's not
really big on social media, so he can't relate to
this story, but I can. But I'm about to go
back and talk about new exos and I lighted, So
I'm just going to let y'all let you know this.
We still did talk about it, Chris and I we
talked about when we were going to post each other,
(02:47):
and I bought it up because he wasn't really big
on social he's still not big on social media and
he's never really cared about it that much to have
to do a debut of who his girlfriend is, you
know what I mean. But I actually did go to
him and sit down with him and I was like,
what it looks like for me?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Is this I think it's time to post you.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Of course, we were well passed two months, but not
that far in you know, we were just about like
six months in or whatever. And the timing doesn't matter.
It just it just matters if you guys are ready.
But like you said earlier in your passage, you wanted
to just see if y'all are locked in. Y'all, you
want to be completely comfortable with the person before you
just parade them to the world, before you let somebody,
because the moment you let somebody into your safe space
(03:28):
and your relationship is definitely a safe space. You know,
you want to make sure this is what you want.
You know, nobody can tell the future. Nobody knows that
they're going to be with somebody forever, but that's what
you plan for, right you know, So without being a
fortune teller, you're just able to react off your feelings.
And that's what I think your girlfriend might have done
in this case. Also, I can see why it kind
(03:50):
of has you thinking in your mind running because like
you said, this is your first time in a gay relationship,
this is your first time in a relationship with a woman,
you know, shall I say, and you just want to
make sure you know, and I have a stand up
joke about this, but you want to be careful posting anybody,
whether it's girl posing a girl, or a man posting
a man, a woman on man, whatever, Like you want
(04:12):
to be careful posting whoever you're with, because it seems
like that's when everything goes to shit when you let
people in your business. I guess that's the reason for
the close friends. She could have been waiting to see
a reaction she could have. I liked that third option
that you said. You said you're such an overthinker, but
I don't think that's overthinking. She could have removed everybody
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out of her close friends to just get a reaction
out of you. What was your reaction, though? Did you
hit her up about it? You leaven meet off the posadas?
I mean, I mean you leaving meat off the bones.
I need to know what happened. I need an update.
I know you're gonna update me because this ain't my
first time helping you out, so I'm gonna need an update.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But I do want to say maybe she didn't go
so hard with the.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Because I know y'all have a thousand pictures with each
other where she could have posed to want to show
your face?
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But what that have made you upset?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
If she'd posted your face and then I could see
what you're saying when you said, Okay, if it's a
pop out, why is any of your close friends? I
could see that as well. But are you ready for that?
Have you posted her yet? Have you thought about that?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
So it's just a couple of questions that I would
like to be privy with the answer to, because I
don't think it was any harm trying to be done
or anything. I think that she's just trying to leave
her little mark, you know what I'm saying. I think
she wants people to know this is my girl without
actually showing who you are until you are ready to
post her too.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Also, she one of those females will feel like, well
is she one of those people? It is not just girls,
trust me, and she one of those people who feel like, Okay,
I posted you, now, when you're gonna post me?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
You know?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Because and I'm not gonna say that's a tip for
tad thing, but most of the time, when you show
somebody off, you definitely definitely looking to be showed off eventually,
not not too long after you.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Showing somebody off.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
But I definitely like, I like, I like this story
because it's a lot of that going on. It don't
matter how old you are, It don't matter how young
you are, how popular you are on social media.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
You just want to be careful. You just you just
want to be careful.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And whether you have a big platform or not, people
will be scared to post their people.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I know you don't want nobody come and see you
as a woman. So and both of y'all social media's
is popping. Y'all got pretty popular platforms, like you said, So,
I don't know. I think you should kind of sit
on and talk to her about it, because you damn
sure ain't telling me whether you hold her up about her.
Talk to her and just just let me know. But
(06:49):
I'm absolutely proud of you for telling me your business
like I tell everybody who sends me in a story.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Thank y'all.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Thank y'all for trusting me with your information and trusting
my life lists, you know, and staying anonymous as well.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So check back in with me, baby, If you love me,
you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right
back moving on.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Hey, Jess, please fix my mess. I've been dating a
man for sixteen months and it ended last month. Okay,
So that's a little over a year. Backstory. I met
him through social media. What is it social media that
we gonna call this this episode social media. He was
not working at the time until last January, which I
helped him expand his job hunt to get the job
(07:33):
he got and still has. Okay, that's good, I know,
that's right, supportive queen. He told me he had a
child on the way. Wait a minute, hold up, okay,
and I too told him I have kids also, So
kids are no big deal to me. Yeah, yeah, if
they are already here, but if they on the way,
(07:53):
let me just finish reading. He told me he never
plans on getting back with the child's mother. However, in February,
the child's mother wanted to work things out. I mean, yeah,
she was pregnant. That lasted until the beginning of May.
During that time span, we continue to communication, but the
dating stopped. However, after he tells me it ended in May,
(08:13):
it's back to us again.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Now, from the beginning, we implemented the rules of we're
only dating each other. Okay, so that means you're only
dating him, you only dating you and having sex with
each other. Okay, you only having sex with him, he
only having sex with you. If someone else did pop
up in our lives, we would tell each other. Okay,
so you being honest with him and he being honest
with you. Now fast forward to December. We're on a
(08:36):
lunch date and I see his Apple watch. It's a
selfie picture of him and this one chick uh uh okay,
and that's it. Listen, I am so so let me.
Let me let me vent real quick to y'all answers.
I'm so sick of y'all with these open ended ass stories. Now,
I'm not gonna be re in this shit no more.
I'm gonna change the whole fucking trajectory of carefully reckless
(09:00):
if y'all asses cannot send me a whole fucking story,
Like why do you guys start and then you stop?
This is irritating the shit out of me. This is
like the fourth weekend. I'm sorry, my sister, gret my shoulder,
Like no, no, no, no, no, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I'm sick of as shit.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
This is like the fourth week in a row that
these people write these fucking stories and then they stop
right there. I always make fun of it, like maybe
a nigga walked in the room while you was typing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
The shit.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Okay, I'm sure he ain't staying in the room right now. Shit,
you this, if it's a two be continued. You come
back and continue, motherfuck girl. Shit, I don't know what
the fuck the sound you after that? After you saw
the selfie of him and the one chick on the
apple wash?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
What did you do? And was it the baby? Mom?
What was it? God damn it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I want to give you some advice, but I can
if y'all coming with these open ended stories.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
This shit is crazy. So basically, now I'm about to
get in your ass because where you.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Turn, where you went wrong at anyway, was getting with
a nigga who had a baby on the way.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Now, I don't give a fuck. I've been through them all.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I've been in almost every situation that somebody that I
read on these on this hip podcast like that somebody
has giving me. I've either been through it or I
know somebody who has.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But that's a red flag right there.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
A guy got a woman pregnant and then he's still
dating while she's pregnant. Listen, when I was pregnant with Ashton,
Rome was dating. Of course, he told people that he
wasn't gonna be with me. But where was he at
every fucking night with his girlfriend me? You know what
I'm saying, A nigga gonna say whatever the fuck he
can to get what he wants. Of course, the girl
(10:42):
was telling them he wanted to be with her, She
wanted to be with him and work things out. They
was probably just going through it because of hormonal changes
or she must have.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You know, girl, if you've never oh yeah, you have
had babies.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Okay, I was gonna say, if you've never been pregnant,
you don't understand you got kids.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
You ain't got one.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
You got kids talking about You told them in what
no big deal? Yeah, damn right, it's a big deal.
It has to be a big deal if his kid's
not here yet. But I like how you said you
stopped talking to him and that was that, and then
you fans forward a little bit. So when he told
you that it ended in May, and then you said
it was back to y'all again, all right, cool? And
(11:20):
so then you lay down some rules because giving how
it was going before, I know, when you know he
spent the block or you spent the block. You know,
y'all had to lay down some ground rules, because there
was certainly some groundwork that that should have been done,
you know, because you didn't want the same thing that
happened before to happen again. Cool, but obviously he broke
(11:41):
that rule because when you all at lunch, a selfie
pop up on your phone and I don't know what
else so you need to do.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I'm not even gonna milk this shit.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Try to stretch it or whatever you need to let
me know what else happened.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
And if you don't, oh fucking well, pissing me off
of this shit. God damn it. Fuck girl, I'm shit.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
They off my sister in here, like just like a
calm down. How I hate when they do that. Lord,
hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good.
But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, got another story
for you. First off, Happy New Year is just listen.
(12:23):
I'm gonna tell y'all one more time, it's happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
How it's gonna be more than one year?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Is? It's happy new Year. We go, we go a
year at a time, but Happy New Year to YouTube boom.
I'm just a woman who feels alone. Yes, I'm married,
I'm a mother, I'm an auntie, I'm a daughter, and
I only had one friend, my best friend of forty
five years. Okay, even with this, I feel alone. The
first man in your life is your father, who teaches
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you how a man should love you. My dad was
a great dad. However, in eighty nine, my father started
using crack and drinking up a storm.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Our world has been turned upside down. Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
He started to physically abuse my mother. I loved my mother,
but she was weak. Many years go by, she found
her strength to leave my father and later passed in
ninety seven.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I then took care of my father with his addiction
because my older brother and younger sister didn't want to
deal with him.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I understand that as well.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Fast forward, my father passed in twenty fifteen. He lived
a long time after that though, So that's that's something
to be grateful to God for. By ninety seven, I
met the man of my dreams. We had two children,
one boy and one girl. After fourteen years together, we
were married. Biggest mistake of my life. Damn, after fourteen
(13:44):
years somethingwha wasn't a mistake. He was so kind and loving.
Then things changed. He's so disrespectful, y'all. Naya hold on, Wade,
it stopped. I don't know if this is an error
or what the fuck this is. I maybe it's something
going on with this shit, because that that story stopped
(14:07):
like that too. But then how is somebody how some
of them getting through and some of them not unless
all of y'all just not finishing.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
What the fuck is going on? Y'all?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
I can't even give full advice. I don't know what
she wants. I mean, I know she feels alone. I'm
sorry about hearing the story about your parents, both your
mom and your dad. You lost them, and you know
you definitely was a blessed daughter to have taken care
of your father after seeing him struggle with such an
(14:40):
addiction and you know, be physically abusive and mentally abusive
to your mom. I don't like how you called her
week though. You know, you just don't know what she
was going through in that time. She could have been
battling depression, she could have been you know. And again,
I'm not trying to change how you feel. You because
you know your mother. You knew your mother more than
(15:02):
I did or any of us listening. You know what
I'm saying, But I'm sure if there was something that
she could have done to not be in that situation,
I'm sure she would have done it for you and
your sibling's sake. You also went on to tell me,
after fourteen years off you and your children's father being together,
that was a big mistake you married him. Things changed.
(15:24):
He was disrespectful and mentally and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
And verbally abusive.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
So if you can say that your mom was weak
for taking that abuse from your father, and the same
breath as you taking the abuse, then what does that
make you. You wouldn't call yourself a weak woman, right right?
And you know how they say the apple don't fall
far from the tree.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I'm not insulting you.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I just want you to realize you called your mother weak,
and you would be upset if I were to call
you weak. I don't know what your mental stability is like.
I don't know what your mental health is like. I
don't know the status of your mental health. I don't
know what you're going through. I do know that you're
a mom and you have to live for your children.
You know you have to raise your children. You have
(16:08):
to be mentally stable enough to raise your children. You
have to be Okay, it sounds as if you need
therapy because you started off saying that you're alone. You're
a forty five year woman and you're alone. You have
one best friend, you have one friend. This is not
going to make you feel any better, I suppose. But
there are people with no friends, no family, no siblings,
know nothing. You know, so let's look around and see
(16:30):
what you do have and get some therapy. That's all
I can tell you right now, because I don't know
what else your story is. I'm gonna look further into
what the hell may be going on with Instagram because
I know all of y'all can't be this like dense
to keep stopping a goddamn story. And I'm sorry, I'm
(16:51):
just like, what the fuck is going on? But okay,
last story and then we are going to end this episode, y'all.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
So I think I read this one last last week,
but this guy came back. He said, I have a question.
Is it bad for a guy my age to still
be a virgin without choice? I never smoked, dranked, or
slept with anyone, and I feel embarrassed. I'm twenty seven
I think I'm gonna be forever a virgin. Sadly, I'm
an in cell. You are fucking what I don't even
(17:22):
know what that means. And I'm not choosing this because
I want to. Beautiful women don't want me. You're twenty seven,
You're a virgin. You're never taking a drug in your life.
And by that, I mean you said you never smoked,
you never dranked or anything. You feel embarrassed, Well, what
(17:42):
else do you tell me more about yourself? This is
also opening it as well. I mean you you finished it.
It's just that most guys don't really leave a lot
of meat on the bone as well. I do want to,
first and foremost say thank you for even exposing this
little part for me.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
You know, of your life. I definitely can understand why
you feel embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You shouldn't be. I mean, twenty seven. That just means
when you do get some, it's going to be a
magical moment for you, honey. Like you know, make sure
because you have held your virginity up to par for
so long, that you don't just give it away to
any fucking body.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I mean, because you have not come this far just
to go grab some chlamydia, all right, so just make
sure that it's you know, my sister is like nigger.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
But seriously, shit, you know, it's a lot of men
out here who got bodies on bodies on bodies, you
know what I'm saying. And I'm pretty sure there is
a woman out there who could appreciate meeting a twenty
seven year old virgin because she would be at first,
you know, and hopefully you meet somebody like Yvonne Orgy.
You know, she as sexual as her last name. Maybe
(18:53):
she is or was recently, you know, a virgin up
until like I think she's in like her mid thirties.
So it's not unheard of. It's not like it's like
something that you have to be embarrassed about. But I
would I would definitely tell me more about yourself. You know,
what are some things that are fun to you? What
do you do? You know, I'm going through your page.
(19:14):
You're you're certainly handsome. I don't understand what do you
mean by beautiful women don't want me? What the hell
do you do? That's gonna be hard to say, but
it's like, are you weird? What the fuck would you
classify yourself as a I don't know what you mean
by an inceell does that mean an introvert?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
I mean I could.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Certainly google it, because only a super duper smart ass
genius as Nigga who ain't hand section we use a
word like that.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
If it's a word, maybe it was a mistake.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Okay, So in cell means members of an online subculture
who defines themselves as unable to find romantic Oh okay, yeah,
you read books and shit, all right.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
So.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
You're smart obviously you know just by the word that
you use. I would never be like, hey, I'm an
insol but that's you're smart. So you need to find
you another little smarty pants. What do you like to
do for fun? Please don't tell me you read books.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
In the house.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
I want I need to know more. I need I
need for you to uh lighten up a little bit.
I throw some little humor in there for you.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
Do you laugh?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Do you like comedy? Do you like to do you
want to take a damn shot? I mean, I know
you don't smoke. I'm not encouraging anybody to do anything
that they don't want to do. I mean, because you
certainly have a choice. You're twenty seven, You're of age.
You can do any and everything you fucking want. I mean,
do you travel? Do you what are some of your
favorite shows? Do you watch TV?
Speaker 2 (20:38):
What do you do? What excites you? You know?
Speaker 1 (20:42):
You know what excites you down there too, you know
what I mean? Like, I don't have you ever watched porn?
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Like? What's up? I don't. I don't know what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
But I am here for you, and I as hard
as that may sound, you know, I think I may
have feel a little bit too many jokes that cause
I don't know what you like. I don't know what
you do. I don't know if you're like allergic to
laughing or some shit. But listen, we need to get
you some But we need to get you a great woman,
a good woman, because, like I said, don't waste the
virginity on nobody that don't deserve it.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
If you've saved yourself, like you said, not by choice,
but it don't matter by choice or not. You have
saved yourself obviously, and so a woman that's worthy of
that is the only woman deserving of it.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
So just put some more meat on the bones for me.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Let me know what you like, what you don't like
and let's see, let's see do you even know what
you don't like?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
You know, I can ask you questions all day because
you don't know shit.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
But just like that, we've come to the end of
yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your Girl just hilarious.
Make sure you tune into Carefully Reckless every Wednesday on
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Speaker 2 (21:57):
Peace.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
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Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
the Black Effect. Oh shit, be back on the air,
Welcome back to you got another carefully reckless episode with
your girl Jess. Hilarious. So we're gonna jump right in.
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We got some written passages, y'all. Remember I told y'all
people don't be wanting nobody to catch on today voice
so we don't have voice notes today. But thank god
that I can read the non punctuations and shit. So
we're gonna get it popping.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Hey Jess, so I'm gay. Damn hold up. That is
not how you start a story. God damn it. I
mean I could see if it was June, but how
you hey Jess, I'm gay? Like that would oh my god.
Usually it's like, hey JS, I'm Chris, or Hey Jess,
I'm Courtney.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He'll say, hey Jess, I'm gay. Straight off the rippy.
All right, that's cool.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
And I've been talking to this girl for about two months.
This will be my first relationship with the girl, and
I'm actually falling for her. Never thought I would be
in a relationship with a female, but it's going now.
We're both pretty popular on social media, and we're both
active on social media with pretty popular platforms, so we've
been trying to figure out the perfect.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Time to pop out. Okay, I understand that we don't
want to rush anything.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
We just want to make sure we're locked in before
revealing each other on each other's pages. Nothing wrong with it,
I can relate, But girls, tell me why. I wake
up yesterday morning, Osha and I see the green circle
with her name on it, which means she posted in
her close friends. I was really saying, what the fuck
that made? I don't know what a green circle is.
I don't have no close friends or nothing. All Right,
I clicked and it was a picture of us, but
(01:43):
my back was turned. So I'm trying to figure out
if I should be happy about this or should I
question it? Because if this is supposed to be the
pop out, why is the PopOut in your close friends?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
M Okay?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
It also got me thinking who is in her close
friends and why didn't she post it publicly?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And then, girl, I'm such an overthinker.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Maybe she took everybody out of her close friends and
had me in there by myself, so I can see
it like she's looking for a reaction or something. What
do you think, Jess, Hmmm, where it could be a
couple of things. It could be a couple of things.
If you two have well, I want to know, have
you two talked about what that looks like for you
guys to popping out situation? Have you guys even spoke
(02:25):
on it, like and had a real conversation about it,
Because I know with me and my man, he's not
really big on social media, so he can't relate to
this story, but I can. But I'm about to go
back and talk about new exos and I lighted, So
I'm just going to let y'all let you know this.
We still did talk about it, Chris and I we
talked about when we were going to post each other,
(02:47):
and I bought it up because he wasn't really big
on social he's still not big on social media and
he's never really cared about it that much to have
to do a debut of who his girlfriend is, you
know what I mean. But I actually did go to
him and sit down with him and I was like,
what it looks like for me?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Is this I think it's time to post you.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Of course, we were well passed two months, but not
that far in you know, we were just about like
six months in or whatever. And the timing doesn't matter.
It just it just matters if you guys are ready.
But like you said earlier in your passage, you wanted
to just see if y'all are locked in. Y'all, you
want to be completely comfortable with the person before you
just parade them to the world, before you let somebody,
because the moment you let somebody into your safe space
(03:28):
and your relationship is definitely a safe space. You know,
you want to make sure this is what you want.
You know, nobody can tell the future. Nobody knows that
they're going to be with somebody forever, but that's what
you plan for, right you know, So without being a
fortune teller, you're just able to react off your feelings.
And that's what I think your girlfriend might have done
in this case. Also, I can see why it kind
(03:50):
of has you thinking in your mind running because like
you said, this is your first time in a gay relationship,
this is your first time in a relationship with a woman,
you know, shall I say, and you just want to
make sure you know, and I have a stand up
joke about this, but you want to be careful posting anybody,
whether it's girl posing a girl, or a man posting
a man, a woman on man, whatever, Like you want
(04:12):
to be careful posting whoever you're with, because it seems
like that's when everything goes to shit when you let
people in your business. I guess that's the reason for
the close friends. She could have been waiting to see
a reaction she could have. I liked that third option
that you said. You said you're such an overthinker, but
I don't think that's overthinking. She could have removed everybody
(04:34):
out of her close friends to just get a reaction
out of you. What was your reaction, though? Did you
hit her up about it? You leaven meet off the posadas?
I mean, I mean you leaving meat off the bones.
I need to know what happened. I need an update.
I know you're gonna update me because this ain't my
first time helping you out, so I'm gonna need an update.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But I do want to say maybe she didn't go
so hard with the.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Because I know y'all have a thousand pictures with each
other where she could have posed to want to show
your face?
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But what that have made you upset?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
If she'd posted your face and then I could see
what you're saying when you said, Okay, if it's a
pop out, why is any of your close friends? I
could see that as well. But are you ready for that?
Have you posted her yet? Have you thought about that?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
So it's just a couple of questions that I would
like to be privy with the answer to, because I
don't think it was any harm trying to be done
or anything. I think that she's just trying to leave
her little mark, you know what I'm saying. I think
she wants people to know this is my girl without
actually showing who you are until you are ready to
post her too.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Also, she one of those females will feel like, well
is she one of those people? It is not just girls,
trust me, and she one of those people who feel like, Okay,
I posted you, now, when you're gonna post me?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
You know?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Because and I'm not gonna say that's a tip for
tad thing, but most of the time, when you show
somebody off, you definitely definitely looking to be showed off eventually,
not not too long after you.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Showing somebody off.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
But I definitely like, I like, I like this story
because it's a lot of that going on. It don't
matter how old you are, It don't matter how young
you are, how popular you are on social media.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
You just want to be careful. You just you just
want to be careful.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And whether you have a big platform or not, people
will be scared to post their people.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I know you don't want nobody come and see you
as a woman. So and both of y'all social media's
is popping. Y'all got pretty popular platforms, like you said, So,
I don't know. I think you should kind of sit
on and talk to her about it, because you damn
sure ain't telling me whether you hold her up about her.
Talk to her and just just let me know. But
(06:49):
I'm absolutely proud of you for telling me your business
like I tell everybody who sends me in a story.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Thank y'all.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Thank y'all for trusting me with your information and trusting
my life lists, you know, and staying anonymous as well.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So check back in with me, baby, If you love me,
you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right
back moving on.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Hey, Jess, please fix my mess. I've been dating a
man for sixteen months and it ended last month. Okay,
So that's a little over a year. Backstory. I met
him through social media. What is it social media that
we gonna call this this episode social media. He was
not working at the time until last January, which I
helped him expand his job hunt to get the job
(07:33):
he got and still has. Okay, that's good, I know,
that's right, supportive queen. He told me he had a
child on the way. Wait a minute, hold up, okay,
and I too told him I have kids also, So
kids are no big deal to me. Yeah, yeah, if
they are already here, but if they on the way,
(07:53):
let me just finish reading. He told me he never
plans on getting back with the child's mother. However, in February,
the child's mother wanted to work things out. I mean, yeah,
she was pregnant. That lasted until the beginning of May.
During that time span, we continue to communication, but the
dating stopped. However, after he tells me it ended in May,
(08:13):
it's back to us again.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Now, from the beginning, we implemented the rules of we're
only dating each other. Okay, so that means you're only
dating him, you only dating you and having sex with
each other. Okay, you only having sex with him, he
only having sex with you. If someone else did pop
up in our lives, we would tell each other. Okay,
so you being honest with him and he being honest
with you. Now fast forward to December. We're on a
(08:36):
lunch date and I see his Apple watch. It's a
selfie picture of him and this one chick uh uh okay,
and that's it. Listen, I am so so let me.
Let me let me vent real quick to y'all answers.
I'm so sick of y'all with these open ended ass stories. Now,
I'm not gonna be re in this shit no more.
I'm gonna change the whole fucking trajectory of carefully reckless
(09:00):
if y'all asses cannot send me a whole fucking story,
Like why do you guys start and then you stop?
This is irritating the shit out of me. This is
like the fourth weekend. I'm sorry, my sister, gret my shoulder,
Like no, no, no, no, no, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I'm sick of as shit.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
This is like the fourth week in a row that
these people write these fucking stories and then they stop
right there. I always make fun of it, like maybe
a nigga walked in the room while you was typing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
The shit.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Okay, I'm sure he ain't staying in the room right now. Shit,
you this, if it's a two be continued. You come
back and continue, motherfuck girl. Shit, I don't know what
the fuck the sound you after that? After you saw
the selfie of him and the one chick on the
apple wash?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
What did you do? And was it the baby? Mom?
What was it? God damn it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I want to give you some advice, but I can
if y'all coming with these open ended stories.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
This shit is crazy. So basically, now I'm about to
get in your ass because where you.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Turn, where you went wrong at anyway, was getting with
a nigga who had a baby on the way.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Now, I don't give a fuck. I've been through them all.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I've been in almost every situation that somebody that I
read on these on this hip podcast like that somebody
has giving me. I've either been through it or I
know somebody who has.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But that's a red flag right there.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
A guy got a woman pregnant and then he's still
dating while she's pregnant. Listen, when I was pregnant with Ashton,
Rome was dating. Of course, he told people that he
wasn't gonna be with me. But where was he at
every fucking night with his girlfriend me? You know what
I'm saying, A nigga gonna say whatever the fuck he
can to get what he wants. Of course, the girl
(10:42):
was telling them he wanted to be with her, She
wanted to be with him and work things out. They
was probably just going through it because of hormonal changes
or she must have.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You know, girl, if you've never oh yeah, you have
had babies.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Okay, I was gonna say, if you've never been pregnant,
you don't understand you got kids.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
You ain't got one.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
You got kids talking about You told them in what
no big deal? Yeah, damn right, it's a big deal.
It has to be a big deal if his kid's
not here yet. But I like how you said you
stopped talking to him and that was that, and then
you fans forward a little bit. So when he told
you that it ended in May, and then you said
it was back to y'all again, all right, cool? And
(11:20):
so then you lay down some rules because giving how
it was going before, I know, when you know he
spent the block or you spent the block. You know,
y'all had to lay down some ground rules, because there
was certainly some groundwork that that should have been done,
you know, because you didn't want the same thing that
happened before to happen again. Cool, but obviously he broke
(11:41):
that rule because when you all at lunch, a selfie
pop up on your phone and I don't know what
else so you need to do.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I'm not even gonna milk this shit.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Try to stretch it or whatever you need to let
me know what else happened.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
And if you don't, oh fucking well, pissing me off
of this shit. God damn it. Fuck girl, I'm shit.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
They off my sister in here, like just like a
calm down. How I hate when they do that. Lord,
hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good.
But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, got another story
for you. First off, Happy New Year is just listen.
(12:23):
I'm gonna tell y'all one more time, it's happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
How it's gonna be more than one year?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Is? It's happy new Year. We go, we go a
year at a time, but Happy New Year to YouTube boom.
I'm just a woman who feels alone. Yes, I'm married,
I'm a mother, I'm an auntie, I'm a daughter, and
I only had one friend, my best friend of forty
five years. Okay, even with this, I feel alone. The
first man in your life is your father, who teaches
(12:51):
you how a man should love you. My dad was
a great dad. However, in eighty nine, my father started
using crack and drinking up a storm.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Our world has been turned upside down. Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
He started to physically abuse my mother. I loved my mother,
but she was weak. Many years go by, she found
her strength to leave my father and later passed in
ninety seven.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I then took care of my father with his addiction
because my older brother and younger sister didn't want to
deal with him.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I understand that as well.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Fast forward, my father passed in twenty fifteen. He lived
a long time after that though, So that's that's something
to be grateful to God for. By ninety seven, I
met the man of my dreams. We had two children,
one boy and one girl. After fourteen years together, we
were married. Biggest mistake of my life. Damn, after fourteen
(13:44):
years somethingwha wasn't a mistake. He was so kind and loving.
Then things changed. He's so disrespectful, y'all. Naya hold on, Wade,
it stopped. I don't know if this is an error
or what the fuck this is. I maybe it's something
going on with this shit, because that that story stopped
(14:07):
like that too. But then how is somebody how some
of them getting through and some of them not unless
all of y'all just not finishing.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
What the fuck is going on? Y'all?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
I can't even give full advice. I don't know what
she wants. I mean, I know she feels alone. I'm
sorry about hearing the story about your parents, both your
mom and your dad. You lost them, and you know
you definitely was a blessed daughter to have taken care
of your father after seeing him struggle with such an
(14:40):
addiction and you know, be physically abusive and mentally abusive
to your mom. I don't like how you called her
week though. You know, you just don't know what she
was going through in that time. She could have been
battling depression, she could have been you know. And again,
I'm not trying to change how you feel. You because
you know your mother. You knew your mother more than
(15:02):
I did or any of us listening. You know what
I'm saying, But I'm sure if there was something that
she could have done to not be in that situation,
I'm sure she would have done it for you and
your sibling's sake. You also went on to tell me,
after fourteen years off you and your children's father being together,
that was a big mistake you married him. Things changed.
(15:24):
He was disrespectful and mentally and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
And verbally abusive.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
So if you can say that your mom was weak
for taking that abuse from your father, and the same
breath as you taking the abuse, then what does that
make you. You wouldn't call yourself a weak woman, right right?
And you know how they say the apple don't fall
far from the tree.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I'm not insulting you.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I just want you to realize you called your mother weak,
and you would be upset if I were to call
you weak. I don't know what your mental stability is like.
I don't know what your mental health is like. I
don't know the status of your mental health. I don't
know what you're going through. I do know that you're
a mom and you have to live for your children.
You know you have to raise your children. You have
(16:08):
to be mentally stable enough to raise your children. You
have to be Okay, it sounds as if you need
therapy because you started off saying that you're alone. You're
a forty five year woman and you're alone. You have
one best friend, you have one friend. This is not
going to make you feel any better, I suppose. But
there are people with no friends, no family, no siblings,
know nothing. You know, so let's look around and see
(16:30):
what you do have and get some therapy. That's all
I can tell you right now, because I don't know
what else your story is. I'm gonna look further into
what the hell may be going on with Instagram because
I know all of y'all can't be this like dense
to keep stopping a goddamn story. And I'm sorry, I'm
(16:51):
just like, what the fuck is going on? But okay,
last story and then we are going to end this episode, y'all.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
So I think I read this one last last week,
but this guy came back. He said, I have a question.
Is it bad for a guy my age to still
be a virgin without choice? I never smoked, dranked, or
slept with anyone, and I feel embarrassed. I'm twenty seven
I think I'm gonna be forever a virgin. Sadly, I'm
an in cell. You are fucking what I don't even
(17:22):
know what that means. And I'm not choosing this because
I want to. Beautiful women don't want me. You're twenty seven,
You're a virgin. You're never taking a drug in your life.
And by that, I mean you said you never smoked,
you never dranked or anything. You feel embarrassed, Well, what
(17:42):
else do you tell me more about yourself? This is
also opening it as well. I mean you you finished it.
It's just that most guys don't really leave a lot
of meat on the bone as well. I do want to,
first and foremost say thank you for even exposing this
little part for me.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
You know, of your life. I definitely can understand why
you feel embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You shouldn't be. I mean, twenty seven. That just means
when you do get some, it's going to be a
magical moment for you, honey. Like you know, make sure
because you have held your virginity up to par for
so long, that you don't just give it away to
any fucking body.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I mean, because you have not come this far just
to go grab some chlamydia, all right, so just make
sure that it's you know, my sister is like nigger.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
But seriously, shit, you know, it's a lot of men
out here who got bodies on bodies on bodies, you
know what I'm saying. And I'm pretty sure there is
a woman out there who could appreciate meeting a twenty
seven year old virgin because she would be at first,
you know, and hopefully you meet somebody like Yvonne Orgy.
You know, she as sexual as her last name. Maybe
(18:53):
she is or was recently, you know, a virgin up
until like I think she's in like her mid thirties.
So it's not unheard of. It's not like it's like
something that you have to be embarrassed about. But I
would I would definitely tell me more about yourself. You know,
what are some things that are fun to you? What
do you do? You know, I'm going through your page.
(19:14):
You're you're certainly handsome. I don't understand what do you
mean by beautiful women don't want me? What the hell
do you do? That's gonna be hard to say, but
it's like, are you weird? What the fuck would you
classify yourself as a I don't know what you mean
by an inceell does that mean an introvert?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
I mean I could.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Certainly google it, because only a super duper smart ass
genius as Nigga who ain't hand section we use a
word like that.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
If it's a word, maybe it was a mistake.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Okay, So in cell means members of an online subculture
who defines themselves as unable to find romantic Oh okay, yeah,
you read books and shit, all right.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
So.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
You're smart obviously you know just by the word that
you use. I would never be like, hey, I'm an
insol but that's you're smart. So you need to find
you another little smarty pants. What do you like to
do for fun? Please don't tell me you read books.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
In the house.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
I want I need to know more. I need I
need for you to uh lighten up a little bit.
I throw some little humor in there for you.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
Do you laugh?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Do you like comedy? Do you like to do you
want to take a damn shot? I mean, I know
you don't smoke. I'm not encouraging anybody to do anything
that they don't want to do. I mean, because you
certainly have a choice. You're twenty seven, You're of age.
You can do any and everything you fucking want. I mean,
do you travel? Do you what are some of your
favorite shows? Do you watch TV?
Speaker 2 (20:38):
What do you do? What excites you? You know?
Speaker 1 (20:42):
You know what excites you down there too, you know
what I mean? Like, I don't have you ever watched porn?
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Like? What's up? I don't. I don't know what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
But I am here for you, and I as hard
as that may sound, you know, I think I may
have feel a little bit too many jokes that cause
I don't know what you like. I don't know what
you do. I don't know if you're like allergic to
laughing or some shit. But listen, we need to get
you some But we need to get you a great woman,
a good woman, because, like I said, don't waste the
virginity on nobody that don't deserve it.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
If you've saved yourself, like you said, not by choice,
but it don't matter by choice or not. You have
saved yourself obviously, and so a woman that's worthy of
that is the only woman deserving of it.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
So just put some more meat on the bones for me.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Let me know what you like, what you don't like
and let's see, let's see do you even know what
you don't like?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
You know, I can ask you questions all day because
you don't know shit.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
But just like that, we've come to the end of
yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your Girl just hilarious.
Make sure you tune into Carefully Reckless every Wednesday on
iHeart under the Black Effect umbrella and in my deepest
Pam voice.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Peace.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
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