CHOICES: We have great power

Choices are not irrevocable. Rejoice in the fact that you can always course correct! ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Have you ever
stopped to consider the fact the choices, our choices are

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not irrevocable. We can make different choices. Knowing that we
can make different choices about our life, about our circumstances
should fill you with wonder. Maybe you've always felt like
you had no choices, like all your choices were made
for you. And in some places in the world that

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I've been to, especially if you're a young woman, a
lot of your choices are made for you. And in
the world that we live in, there are things that
are visited upon us that we have no choice over.
But the choices that we make as adults, we can

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change those. We can make better choices. Think on that.
Doesn't that thrill you to understand that you have great
power in making good choices every day? You can intentionally
make good choices in what you eat, in what you

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listen to, in what you consume. Don't take things into
your eyes or your ears or your mind that are
negative that are going to hurt you. Make better choices,
and when you start realizing the power that comes from
good choices, You're going to want to make more good choices. Cynthia, Hi,

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what can I do for you?

Speaker 2 (02:04):
I am suffering from a huge broken heart and I'm
calling because I need your advice. I am in my
late thirties. I have met the guy that is of
my dreams and he's in his mid sixties and just
told me that I need to find somebody my own age,

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and that somebody that I can go and have babies with.
And I just don't know what to do about it,
because every part of my being tells me that I
want to be with this man. It was love at
first sight. And I just don't see how two people
really care about each other that they can't figure out
some way to be together.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
Okay, And he's already had kids, raise kids, had grandkids.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
Correct, he's a grandfather of four.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
And you have never had children.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
I've never had children, never been there.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Do you have you thought all your life that you
wanted to have a family, wanted to have kids.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
I do want to have a family, but I was
an adopted child, and my purpose, I think, maybe partly
to be the mother to an adopted child. And he
is ready to almost retire and doesn't want to start over.

Speaker 1 (03:23):
And what you have to do is pray with all
your heart and discern which is more important to you
spending your life with him or raising a child someday
because you can't do both.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Which is what I do, because I'm telling you every part,
every thing that I am tells me that I want
to be with this man.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
But are you sure that's him really saying that or
is that his excuse because he doesn't want to be
in a committed relationship.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
I can't figure that out. I think there's another side
to it. He was in a bad relationship and got
hurt really bad, and I don't think he's willing to
take a chance. And my look on everything is you
don't find love every day, and not only love, but
true love. And if you can just find it with anybody,

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I don't care the age. I just think you should
go for it.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
You know what I would do is I would have
a really frank discussion with your honey and say, are
you just saying this because you want and out? And
if you are, I get it right? Or do you
love me enough that you know we can have a
future together? And I would go adopt a child. I
would be, especially if he's looking for an out, then

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maybe you guys can continue to date for the next
twenty years and you can still be a mama.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh Delilah, just when you think you have life figured
out kind of smacks you in the face.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Yeah. But if you love him that much and he
loves you and he is committed to you, then you
guys can work something out. But if this is his
out and he's using it to say I'm not really
interested in a committed relationship, that's another story.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
So, Lila, thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
You're welcome. I got this letter from Christy Richardson. Christie writes,
I had a rough senior year in high school. Seems
like I decided to party every night. I knew that

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wasn't right, and yet I did it, maybe to fit in,
I guess. Last year I found out that I was
pregnant from the many bad choices that I had made
during my partying. I was scared and didn't know what
to do or how to even begin to tell my family.
When I finally did, they were upset, of course because
I'm still in high school. But I have their support.

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I decid to keep my baby to grow up and
learn responsibility. I moved out, worked two jobs, and now
I don't regret the decisions I'm beginning to make. I
have the most beautiful five month old little girl, and
now I'm dating a wonderful guy. He's not my baby's father,
but he loves my daughter as if she were his own.

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He's good to us, and I can't tell him enough
how much I love him and appreciate all that he
does for us. My mom is so in love with
her granddaughter. And my church has been so good to
me through this. They gave me a baby shower, they
showed me love, and they loved my daughter. Through all this,
I've straightened up and I have so much more going

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for me Now. I know I can make it through anything.
Thanks so much from Christy, Hi Bill, Hi Doda, thank
you for calling. What can I do for you tonight?

Speaker 3 (07:00):
Well, and the other night I called you and I
asked over your advice, and you really weren't able to
give me too much advice, But you gave me one
piece of advice that no one gave me, and that
was to seek God's advice, the most important advice.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
You had some doubts because you're in love and you
didn't know if you wanted to leave your girlfriend behind
it go in the military, right, And I said, you
know what, I can't answer that because I don't know,
but God can.

Speaker 3 (07:28):
Yeah, I'm having some doubts in maybe this is not
the woman for me, and maybe it's not the right
thing to concentrate on because I'm in a job that
I love so much. I work in a facility where
we help people translate from jail to the society, and

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I deal. I work with them on a daily basis,
on a one on one basis, and I love what
I do so much because to be able to help
them translate where they're supposed to be and where they're
coming from. It's just a great feeling to know when
they leave, to shake your hand and say thank you
for all the time that you sat down and listened

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to what I had to say.

Speaker 1 (08:12):
All Right, well, I'm glad that you saw the big
guys direction. Let me find a song for you.

Speaker 3 (08:18):
I appreciate it.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
You have a good night you too. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey, it's Delilah