April 19, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I live in a duplex and his brother and the brother's girlfriend live next to us. I don't get along with a girlfriend, and she knows she will never be welcome in my house. My husband's brother and I are the same age. We're forty six. My husband is fifty eight and he has problems with sleep apnea, so he's been sleeping with a CPAP machine to help him sleep at night. Because of it, I don't have a lot of sex with my husband. I have it with his brother instead. He gives me all of the great sex that I want and need, and we don't even have to sneak around to do it. He comes over after my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of his sleep machine drown out any sounds we're making in the next room.........................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like I're gonna read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. Subject he doesn't want me to be
with his brother. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I
live in a duplex and his brother and the brother's
girlfriend live next to us. I don't get along with
a girlfriend, and she knows she will never be welcomed
in my house. My husband's brother and I are the
same age. We're forty six. My husband is fifty eight
(00:47):
and he has problems with sleep apnea, so he's been
sleeping with a sea pat machine to help him sleep
at night. Because of it. I don't have a lot
of sex with my husband. I have it with his
brother instead. He gives me all of the great sex
that I want and need, and we don't even have
to sneak around to do it. He comes over after
(01:08):
my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of his sleep
machine drown out any sounds we're making in the next room.
We are usually able to make love two or three
times a night, once or twice a week. My husband
sleeps right through it all, and I wake up happy
and fulfilled. The girlfriend doesn't suspect a thing because her
(01:28):
man is at his brother's house. The only issue that
I'm having with this love triangle is that my husband's
brother doesn't want me to have sex with my husband anymore.
We had a talk and he was serious about that.
I told him that I have to be intimate with
my husband too, or he'll know something's not right. So
what's crazy is I have to sneak to have sex
(01:50):
with a man I'm married, but I can freely have
sex with his brother. Make it make sense? He has
threatened to end our affair. Does his brother have the
right to be jealous? Does this sound crazy to you?
What should I do here? Does this sound crazy to you? No? No, no,
this sounds perfectly sane and sensible to me. Perfectly you
(02:14):
and your brother in law having sex in your house
right under your husband's nose. What's crazy about that? Your
brother in law doesn't want you to have sex with
his brother your husband anymore, just with him. Nope, still
doesn't sound crazy to me. Your brother in law is
threatening to stop your affair if you don't stop having
sex with your own husband. Well, doesn't every brother who's
(02:37):
sleeping with his brother's wife want this? I mean really? Okay,
I'm being sarcastic here, of course, because I want you
to hear how ridiculous this sounds. We are to believe
that because your husband sleeps with a seapat machine, you're
having sex with his brother. You never once said your
husband wasn't a good husband. You never said he doesn't
(02:59):
love you. You never even said you don't love your husband.
Your husband's not cheating, nothing like that. I guess you're
sleeping with his brother because you can, because he's right
next door, or simply because you don't like his girlfriend.
Those are the only things you told us about any
other thing besides you and the brother in law. You
(03:20):
ask Steve and I to make this make sense. Hmm. Really,
that's kind of impossible, because no one can make sense
of this foolishness. And I don't want any parts of it.
I mean, how can we possibly help you here? You
don't want our health because if your husband just happens
to wake up one of those nights that you think
that you think he's sleeping through, I feel sorry for
(03:42):
you and his brother. But until then, do you boo
Steve Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I'm forever amazed at how people have created these new norms,
how everybody now does has all this dysfunctional faith or
dysfunctional behavior, and then you want us to normalize it,
like y'all don't see what I'm trying to do here. No, no,
(04:12):
we don't, and we don't. And you trifling, You trifling.
Your husband's brother is trifling. So this is a letter
full of trifling mess. And now at the end of
it does this her brother had the right to be jealous.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
What are y'all talking about?
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Okay, your husband and you and your husband live in
a duplex plexit and his brother and the girlfriend will
live next door to y'all in the duplex. I don't
get along with the girlfriend and she knows she will
be never be welcome in my house. Well, now let's
take this line right here, because this is now that
we've read the letter.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
This makes perfect sense. I don't get.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Along with the girlfriend, and she knows she will never
be welcome in my house. Also, she can't come over there.
You got a lot of well, we know based on
this letter, we know why.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
She can't come over.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Yeah, right, because it's the party house, and she the
only one ain't involved in the party. Out of the
four people, she's the only one not involved in the party.
You and the party, your husband and the party, your
brother in law in the party. She can't come to
the party house. My husband's brother and I the same age.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
We forty six. Your husband is fifty eight.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
He's got problems with sleep appnear, so he been sleeping
with a sea pack machine to help him sleep at night.
In case y'all don't know what that is, that's that mask.
That's that mask you put on. It pushes ad through
your nasal passages and everything, so he don't stop breathing
due to a couple of problems you might have, and
(05:51):
it causes you to breathe or more freely.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Okay, So now he got the machine.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Or that.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
This is a seapack machine, y'all.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I used to sleep on the sea pack machine till
I found a way to heal myself.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Praise God for that.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
But one night the seapack machine came off and it
fell in my lap. You know, I sleep naked. Then
I found a whole nother need for that seapack machine.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You take that cuff and you leave it there. Let
me tell you some Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Thank you for the
background seatpap machine noise.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
The subject of today's strawberry letter he doesn't want me
to be with his brother. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is he doesn't
want me to be with his brother.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
All right, let me go through this quickly.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Here's this woman that's forty six years old that lives
in the duplex with her husband who's fifty eight. They
next door neighbors. Right next door in the duplex, it's
his forty six year old brother with her girlfriend. She
don't like the girlfriend, and the girlfriend may walk come
over to the house. We know in the letter why
she ain't walcome over to the house. Her husband and
her don't have sex because he got some health issues.
He sleep on a seapack machine at night, and so
(07:26):
we don't have a lot of sex with my husband.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I have it with his brother in state.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
That line.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
You'm raggedy, healful. So now you sleeping with your her
husband's brother.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
He gives me all the great sex that I want
and need, and we don't even have to sneak around
to do it. Wait a minute, what you don't have
to sneak around to do it? Well, let me show
you what she called now sleep sneaking around? He comes
over after my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of
his sleep miss she drown out any sign, any sounds
(08:03):
we're making in the next room. Wait a minute, man,
y'all having sex in the next room, Why your husband
is in the other rooms sleep His brother is in
here sleeping with his wife. And you think the sleep
machine drowns out the sounds? Y'all make it. We are
(08:23):
usually able to make love two to three times a night,
once or twice a week. My husband sleeps right through
it all, and I wake up happy and fulfilled. Yes,
the girlfriend don't suspect a thing because.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Her man is at his brother's house.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
The only issue that I'm having with this love triangle now,
guess what? And you know why you're over there at
the house because you don't allow her to come over either.
Remember that at the top of the letter and see
will because you don't like her. You created the dislike
you did this. The girlfriend ain't did nothing wrong to you.
You doing something I'm wrong to the girlfriend and your husband.
So now the only problem I'm having with this love
(09:07):
triangle is my husband's brother does not want me to
have sex with my husband anymore. What we had a
talk and he was serious about that. I told him
I have to be intimate with my husband too, or
he'll know something's not right. So what's crazy is no? No, no, no, no,
(09:29):
you ain't got to say that crazy ben happened. But
now here she come and she see this is what
I'm talking about. These people have these abnormal behaviors and
try to normalize them.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Did she say, what's so what's crazy? Is?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Now?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
What you mean? What's crazy? That's already crazy.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
I have to sneak to have sex with the man
I'm married to, but I can freely have sex with
his brother. Wait a minute, lady, No, no, y'all have
locks on these doors.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're supposed to have sex with.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Your hus You shouldn't be sneaking around on your hugs,
and you really shouldn't be sneaking around with his brother
in the room next door while he and that listening
to that damn seatpack machine. Then she says, I can
(10:41):
freely have sex with his brother. How you call that
freely having sex? You're sneaking with your husband. No, you're
not freely Your husband is next door. She says that
I can freely have sex. Make it make sense? Why
we can't?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
What can we do?
Speaker 2 (11:03):
It? Make sense? What's wrong with y'all?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I done told y'all quitting having these crazy ass behaviors.
You the made it normal. Now you want us to
help you. We got no help for you. We don't
give a damn what you do. I'm gonna tell you
what's gonna happen. Though, let me tell you what's gonna happen.
He has threatened to end our affair. Does his brother
have the right to be jealous? Well, whether he has
(11:28):
the right or not he jealous, he don't have the
right to be sleeping with his brother's wife, but he
doing it.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
You don't have.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
The right to violate your husband's trust in y'all's marriage
with the dude that stay next door which happens to
be his brother. Does this sound crazy to you?
Speaker 2 (11:51):
No helpful?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Do this sound crazy to you? What should I do here? Okay,
let me tell you what's gonna happen. Your man gonna
wake up one night, because let me tell you what happened.
When you wake up with that seapack machine on, you
can set it down and it'll blow freely for a
couple of couple of beats, not long, for about fifteen
(12:20):
ten fifteen seconds.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
I think it'll blow freely.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
And then and then it'll cut off, and then you
have to come back and put it on, and then
it'll start back up again. I think what's gonna happen
is he gonna have to go to the bathroom one
of them nights exactly.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
He's gonna wake wake up.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Yeah, he gonna wake up and that seapack machine gonna
cut off, and he gonna hear that noise. Then he
gonna look over and realize you ain't in bed. He
gonna thank somebody has broke in the house and over
that beating you. He gonna walk in the room. Y'all
ain't gonna hear him. And even if you do hear him,
what is y'all doing in this damn bed together?
Speaker 1 (13:00):
It's gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
And then it's gonna be owning cracking. Yes, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Leave your comments on today's girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
You don't like, she gonna come over and whoop your ass.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
On Instagram at Steve Harvey FM. Check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app coming up next
to his junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like I're gonna read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. Subject he doesn't want me to be
with his brother. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I
live in a duplex and his brother and the brother's
girlfriend live next to us. I don't get along with
a girlfriend, and she knows she will never be welcomed
in my house. My husband's brother and I are the
same age. We're forty six. My husband is fifty eight
(00:47):
and he has problems with sleep apnea, so he's been
sleeping with a sea pat machine to help him sleep
at night. Because of it. I don't have a lot
of sex with my husband. I have it with his
brother instead. He gives me all of the great sex
that I want and need, and we don't even have
to sneak around to do it. He comes over after
(01:08):
my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of his sleep
machine drown out any sounds we're making in the next room.
We are usually able to make love two or three
times a night, once or twice a week. My husband
sleeps right through it all, and I wake up happy
and fulfilled. The girlfriend doesn't suspect a thing because her
(01:28):
man is at his brother's house. The only issue that
I'm having with this love triangle is that my husband's
brother doesn't want me to have sex with my husband anymore.
We had a talk and he was serious about that.
I told him that I have to be intimate with
my husband too, or he'll know something's not right. So
what's crazy is I have to sneak to have sex
(01:50):
with a man I'm married, but I can freely have
sex with his brother. Make it make sense? He has
threatened to end our affair. Does his brother have the
right to be jealous? Does this sound crazy to you?
What should I do here? Does this sound crazy to you? No? No, no,
this sounds perfectly sane and sensible to me. Perfectly you
(02:14):
and your brother in law having sex in your house
right under your husband's nose. What's crazy about that? Your
brother in law doesn't want you to have sex with
his brother your husband anymore, just with him. Nope, still
doesn't sound crazy to me. Your brother in law is
threatening to stop your affair if you don't stop having
sex with your own husband. Well, doesn't every brother who's
(02:37):
sleeping with his brother's wife want this? I mean really? Okay,
I'm being sarcastic here, of course, because I want you
to hear how ridiculous this sounds. We are to believe
that because your husband sleeps with a seapat machine, you're
having sex with his brother. You never once said your
husband wasn't a good husband. You never said he doesn't
(02:59):
love you. You never even said you don't love your husband.
Your husband's not cheating, nothing like that. I guess you're
sleeping with his brother because you can, because he's right
next door, or simply because you don't like his girlfriend.
Those are the only things you told us about any
other thing besides you and the brother in law. You
(03:20):
ask Steve and I to make this make sense. Hmm. Really,
that's kind of impossible, because no one can make sense
of this foolishness. And I don't want any parts of it.
I mean, how can we possibly help you here? You
don't want our health because if your husband just happens
to wake up one of those nights that you think
that you think he's sleeping through, I feel sorry for
(03:42):
you and his brother. But until then, do you boo
Steve Wow.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I'm forever amazed at how people have created these new norms,
how everybody now does has all this dysfunctional faith or
dysfunctional behavior, and then you want us to normalize it,
like y'all don't see what I'm trying to do here. No, no,
(04:12):
we don't, and we don't. And you trifling, You trifling.
Your husband's brother is trifling. So this is a letter
full of trifling mess. And now at the end of
it does this her brother had the right to be jealous.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
What are y'all talking about?
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Okay, your husband and you and your husband live in
a duplex plexit and his brother and the girlfriend will
live next door to y'all in the duplex. I don't
get along with the girlfriend and she knows she will
be never be welcome in my house. Well, now let's
take this line right here, because this is now that
we've read the letter.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
This makes perfect sense. I don't get.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Along with the girlfriend, and she knows she will never
be welcome in my house. Also, she can't come over there.
You got a lot of well, we know based on
this letter, we know why.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
She can't come over.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Yeah, right, because it's the party house, and she the
only one ain't involved in the party. Out of the
four people, she's the only one not involved in the party.
You and the party, your husband and the party, your
brother in law in the party. She can't come to
the party house. My husband's brother and I the same age.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
We forty six. Your husband is fifty eight.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
He's got problems with sleep appnear, so he been sleeping
with a sea pack machine to help him sleep at night.
In case y'all don't know what that is, that's that mask.
That's that mask you put on. It pushes ad through
your nasal passages and everything, so he don't stop breathing
due to a couple of problems you might have, and
(05:51):
it causes you to breathe or more freely.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Okay, So now he got the machine.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Or that.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
This is a seapack machine, y'all.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I used to sleep on the sea pack machine till
I found a way to heal myself.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Praise God for that.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
But one night the seapack machine came off and it
fell in my lap. You know, I sleep naked. Then
I found a whole nother need for that seapack machine.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You take that cuff and you leave it there. Let
me tell you some Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Thank you for the
background seatpap machine noise.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
The subject of today's strawberry letter he doesn't want me
to be with his brother. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is he doesn't
want me to be with his brother.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
All right, let me go through this quickly.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Here's this woman that's forty six years old that lives
in the duplex with her husband who's fifty eight. They
next door neighbors. Right next door in the duplex, it's
his forty six year old brother with her girlfriend. She
don't like the girlfriend, and the girlfriend may walk come
over to the house. We know in the letter why
she ain't walcome over to the house. Her husband and
her don't have sex because he got some health issues.
He sleep on a seapack machine at night, and so
(07:26):
we don't have a lot of sex with my husband.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I have it with his brother in state.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
That line.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
You'm raggedy, healful. So now you sleeping with your her
husband's brother.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
He gives me all the great sex that I want
and need, and we don't even have to sneak around
to do it. Wait a minute, what you don't have
to sneak around to do it? Well, let me show
you what she called now sleep sneaking around? He comes
over after my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of
his sleep miss she drown out any sign, any sounds
(08:03):
we're making in the next room. Wait a minute, man,
y'all having sex in the next room, Why your husband
is in the other rooms sleep His brother is in
here sleeping with his wife. And you think the sleep
machine drowns out the sounds? Y'all make it. We are
(08:23):
usually able to make love two to three times a night,
once or twice a week. My husband sleeps right through
it all, and I wake up happy and fulfilled. Yes,
the girlfriend don't suspect a thing because.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Her man is at his brother's house.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
The only issue that I'm having with this love triangle now,
guess what? And you know why you're over there at
the house because you don't allow her to come over either.
Remember that at the top of the letter and see
will because you don't like her. You created the dislike
you did this. The girlfriend ain't did nothing wrong to you.
You doing something I'm wrong to the girlfriend and your husband.
So now the only problem I'm having with this love
(09:07):
triangle is my husband's brother does not want me to
have sex with my husband anymore. What we had a
talk and he was serious about that. I told him
I have to be intimate with my husband too, or
he'll know something's not right. So what's crazy is no? No, no, no, no,
(09:29):
you ain't got to say that crazy ben happened. But
now here she come and she see this is what
I'm talking about. These people have these abnormal behaviors and
try to normalize them.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Did she say, what's so what's crazy? Is?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Now?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
What you mean? What's crazy? That's already crazy.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
I have to sneak to have sex with the man
I'm married to, but I can freely have sex with
his brother. Wait a minute, lady, No, no, y'all have
locks on these doors.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're supposed to have sex with.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Your hus You shouldn't be sneaking around on your hugs,
and you really shouldn't be sneaking around with his brother
in the room next door while he and that listening
to that damn seatpack machine. Then she says, I can
(10:41):
freely have sex with his brother. How you call that
freely having sex? You're sneaking with your husband. No, you're
not freely Your husband is next door. She says that
I can freely have sex. Make it make sense? Why
we can't?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
What can we do?
Speaker 2 (11:03):
It? Make sense? What's wrong with y'all?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I done told y'all quitting having these crazy ass behaviors.
You the made it normal. Now you want us to
help you. We got no help for you. We don't
give a damn what you do. I'm gonna tell you
what's gonna happen. Though, let me tell you what's gonna happen.
He has threatened to end our affair. Does his brother
have the right to be jealous? Well, whether he has
(11:28):
the right or not he jealous, he don't have the
right to be sleeping with his brother's wife, but he
doing it.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
You don't have.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
The right to violate your husband's trust in y'all's marriage
with the dude that stay next door which happens to
be his brother. Does this sound crazy to you?
Speaker 2 (11:51):
No helpful?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Do this sound crazy to you? What should I do here? Okay,
let me tell you what's gonna happen. Your man gonna
wake up one night, because let me tell you what happened.
When you wake up with that seapack machine on, you
can set it down and it'll blow freely for a
couple of couple of beats, not long, for about fifteen
(12:20):
ten fifteen seconds.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
I think it'll blow freely.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
And then and then it'll cut off, and then you
have to come back and put it on, and then
it'll start back up again. I think what's gonna happen
is he gonna have to go to the bathroom one
of them nights exactly.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
He's gonna wake wake up.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Yeah, he gonna wake up and that seapack machine gonna
cut off, and he gonna hear that noise. Then he
gonna look over and realize you ain't in bed. He
gonna thank somebody has broke in the house and over
that beating you. He gonna walk in the room. Y'all
ain't gonna hear him. And even if you do hear him,
what is y'all doing in this damn bed together?
Speaker 1 (13:00):
It's gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
And then it's gonna be owning cracking. Yes, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Leave your comments on today's girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
You don't like, she gonna come over and whoop your ass.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
On Instagram at Steve Harvey FM. Check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app coming up next
to his junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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