May 15, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty eight years old and my husband is forty two. We've been married for six years and his business has taken off in the past three years. He used to be a club promoter and now he owns a lounge with three other guys. I was scared to date a man that's always in the streets, but he's proven that he's just out to get the bag and bring it home so he can spoil me. I trusted him until this past weekend. It was his birthday weekend, so his partners threw him an all white party.....................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. He let the two girls sleep over.
That is a subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty eight
years old and my husband is forty two. We've been
married for six years and his business has taken off
in the past three years. He used to be a
club promoter and now he owns a lounge with three
other guys. I was scared to date a man that's
(00:45):
always in the streets, but he's proven that he's just
out to get the bag and bring it home so
he can spoil me. I trusted him until this past weekend.
It was his birthday weekend, so his partners threw him
an all white party. I went on home around one
point thirty am. He came in around three am and
crashed in all of his clothes. I woke up around
(01:08):
nine am to the sound of running water. I woke
my husband up and he said it was his two
homegirls upstairs getting ready to head out to a graduation.
I was like, what homegirls and what graduation? He told
me to trust him on this one. Instead of getting mad,
He told me to go with him to meet the girls.
(01:28):
We went up to our guest bedroom and I was
surprised to see two gorgeous women wrapped in two of
my best towels. They greeted me with big smiles. They
were just as sweet as they were cute. They thanked
us for letting them get a few hours of sleep
and said they would be leaving town after the graduation.
I wanted to be mad, but I couldn't be. My
(01:49):
husband told me that one of the girls is the
daughter of a guy he went to school with, and
they planned to stay with a friend, but she ghosted them.
I find this story hard to believe. I don't think
my husband is even aware of how dangerous it was
to have strangers in our home, or were they even strangers?
Why didn't he call me to ask me first, because
(02:11):
it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. Okay, he
knows that had he called you first, you would have
said absolutely not, And who could blame you? What would
that even sound like? Look like, hey baby, I'm coming
home and I'm bringing guests, two beautiful young women to
spend the night. What No, No, Like you, I do
(02:32):
find this story very hard to believe. But it's so crazy,
it is so out there, so preposterous that he could
be telling the truth in this instance. Steve said, all
you need is reasonable doubt with a good lie, because
what husband would be stupid enough to bring two random
chicks to his house to spend the night knowing his
wife is there? Is he that drunk? I mean on
(02:54):
his birthday night? This is a very dangerous situation. What
wife is going to say yes to any of this?
The question is if one of these girls was the
daughter of someone you went to school with, why couldn't
she stay with her dad? Where was he? Or why
couldn't they stay with one of his other friends, one
of your husband's other friends, or one of his three
(03:15):
business partners. Your husband asked you to trust him on this,
but you need a whole lot of more information. There
are huge holes in this story. A lot of things
are left out. You said you were hesitant to marry
your husband in the first place because he was in
the streets. But so far he hasn't done anything to
make you not trust him until now. But all you
(03:37):
need is one time, right you left the party at
one thirty am. You need to find out exactly what
happened after that and until three am when your husband
finally made it home.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Steve lott Eimers, you don't care. No, I really care, fellas.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I try to help y'all, I really do.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
I go above and beyond to try to come up
with something to help y'all. Y'all making it hard, though, Oh,
y'all making it hard. What the hell is going on?
I mean, dog, I'm trying to.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Damn dog.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I can't do none of this. I can't do none
of this. I can't say this to my wife. I
can't do none of this. Matter of fact, nobody I
know can do this. Okay, here's a problem. You used
to be a club owner promoter. Now you got another
biz that's going on, and I guess he used to
(04:51):
just be a club promoter.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I'm sorry. Now he owns a lounge with three other guys.
Oh lord, mercy.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Club own. It just got trouble written all over it.
It just ain't no way round it. And so now
here we go. You got these partners. You had a
birthday party, They throw all white party for you.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
You go to the all white party for his birthday.
You leave and go home. Round one point thirty.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
He show up at the house at three m crashed
it all his clothes.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
All right, so far this story ain't going that bad.
So far not bad. You woke up around nine a m.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Nine in the morning to the sound of running water.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Where's your husband at? At this point? Does it say
in the letter Shirley? Where is he at?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
He came home.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Crashed in all his clothes, woke up at nine? Where
was he? A?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Well, he was downstairs because the two homegirls were upstairs
getting ready.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So he must still be in his clothes. Okay, that's
good news. I woke my husband up and he said,
was it? It was his two home girls upstairs getting
ready to head out the graduation.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Home girls and friend's.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Daughter ain't shouldn't be in the same sense. Hang on,
that's the problem. I can't fix this for you.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
We'll have part two of your response coming up. Steve
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry letter,
subject he let the two girls sleep over. We'll get
back into it and find out what this is all about.
Right after this, you're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
(06:55):
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he let
the two girls sleep over.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I feel so bad. I don't know what to do.
He forty you, thirty eight, He forty two, you thirty eight.
You go to his all white birthday party at this
lounge he owned with his two homies. They throw an
all white party for him for his birthday. You lead
a party at one thirty. He come in around three thirty.
He fall asleep downstairs in all his clothes. Been a
(07:22):
hell of a night, hell of a party. Y'all sleep.
At around nine o'clock in the morning, you hear running water. Okay,
you hit his running water. You go downstairs, wake him up.
He tell you it's his two home girls upstairs getting
ready to head out to a graduation. What there's two
(07:45):
women in the house upstairs running water?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Say it again? See, I'm just dog.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
This is so impossible for me, and I don't apologize
to the fellas because I usually try to be that
for you.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
What what did you just say?
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Wait a minute, it's two home girls upstairs? What they
taking a shot and getting ready to go out to
a graduation?
Speaker 1 (08:15):
What?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Homegirl?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
What? What graduation?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And then I said what home girls? What graduation? He
told me to trust him on this one instead of
getting mad, horror, trust me on this here instead of
instead of getting mad, mad, the shock, the horror, the amazement,
the unbelief, instead of He told me to go with
(08:41):
him to meet the girl.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Come on up here with me. Boy, what is not
proud of him?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
At this point, Steve.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Come on up here and meet him with me? Oh man.
We went up to our guest bedroom.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I was surprised to see two gorgeous women wrapped in
two of my best tiles. They greeted me with big smiles.
They were just as sweet as they were cute. Hey,
hey girl.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
How you doing.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
De Chante's wife? Hey, what's going on?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
They thanked me for letting him get a few hours
sleep and said they would be leaving town after the graduation.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
What graduations? Y'all keep talking.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
About where is this graduation?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Because all we was at the all white party?
Speaker 3 (09:44):
What graduation y'all keep talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I wanted to be mad, but I couldn't be.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
My husband told me that one of the girls is
the daughter of a guy he went to school with,
and they planning to stay with a friend. But she
go to them Where you meet their mad? Was they
at the lounge?
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Not nothing?
Speaker 3 (10:07):
What's the party?
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Now? If you forty two.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
And these girls is going to a graduation, I'm assuming
they somewhere and they're young, and they sweet, and they gorgeous.
They between twenty twenty five, They in that age range. Right,
let's stop in the middle of say they twenty three,
you forty two? Your boy had these babies when he
(10:35):
was nineteen. This is what I'm going.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
On, Okta, I like it? See go ahead?
Speaker 3 (10:42):
How they your home girls? Cause I ain't got no
twenty three year home girl? Now they planning to stay
with a friend. How you get in this though?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
That's the barn that's left out?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
How you?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
How are you the out? They girlfriend ghosted you? Where
your hotel money? Where your room at? Where are your
other friends at?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:11):
I don't think my husband. He is even aware of
how dangerous it was to have strangers in the house.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Why are you so stupid? What are you talking about
the danger? Stop?
Speaker 3 (11:23):
There's no danger. They harmless that you've already met him.
It wasn't dangerous. How you making I don't think my
husband even aware how dangerous it was to have strangers
in the house. There was no danger there. You met him.
So how you picking that part out? Or were they
even strangers? Hell?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
No, they not strangers. What is your questioning this stupid?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Did my husband know how dangerous it was to have
strangers in the house or are they strangers? He just
told you they his homegirl. M He just told you
they friend ghosted them. He been knowing them, and he
called them homegirls. They upstairs. How he didn't wake you
up and say, hey, baby, it's two women staying in
(12:13):
this guest room up here, Just so you know, why
didn't he call me to ask me first? Because I
don't know how to fix my lips to tell my
wife at three in the morning, I'm bringing two women
over to the house. They need place to stay, and
I'm gonna be captain sab.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Them, young beautiful girls.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I saved two young girls lives on the Chatter Chatto
Hoochie River. One time on God Float got away from him.
I saved their life on the Chatter Hoochie River one time.
I got in trouble for that.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I know. Goodness, here will I'm gonna get cussed.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Out from the all right, if you can leave your
comments on Today's letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey him
and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Coming up next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. He let the two girls sleep over.
That is a subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty eight
years old and my husband is forty two. We've been
married for six years and his business has taken off
in the past three years. He used to be a
club promoter and now he owns a lounge with three
other guys. I was scared to date a man that's
(00:45):
always in the streets, but he's proven that he's just
out to get the bag and bring it home so
he can spoil me. I trusted him until this past weekend.
It was his birthday weekend, so his partners threw him
an all white party. I went on home around one
point thirty am. He came in around three am and
crashed in all of his clothes. I woke up around
(01:08):
nine am to the sound of running water. I woke
my husband up and he said it was his two
homegirls upstairs getting ready to head out to a graduation.
I was like, what homegirls and what graduation? He told
me to trust him on this one. Instead of getting mad,
He told me to go with him to meet the girls.
(01:28):
We went up to our guest bedroom and I was
surprised to see two gorgeous women wrapped in two of
my best towels. They greeted me with big smiles. They
were just as sweet as they were cute. They thanked
us for letting them get a few hours of sleep
and said they would be leaving town after the graduation.
I wanted to be mad, but I couldn't be. My
(01:49):
husband told me that one of the girls is the
daughter of a guy he went to school with, and
they planned to stay with a friend, but she ghosted them.
I find this story hard to believe. I don't think
my husband is even aware of how dangerous it was
to have strangers in our home, or were they even strangers?
Why didn't he call me to ask me first, because
(02:11):
it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. Okay, he
knows that had he called you first, you would have
said absolutely not, And who could blame you? What would
that even sound like? Look like, hey baby, I'm coming
home and I'm bringing guests, two beautiful young women to
spend the night. What No, No, Like you, I do
(02:32):
find this story very hard to believe. But it's so crazy,
it is so out there, so preposterous that he could
be telling the truth in this instance. Steve said, all
you need is reasonable doubt with a good lie, because
what husband would be stupid enough to bring two random
chicks to his house to spend the night knowing his
wife is there? Is he that drunk? I mean on
(02:54):
his birthday night? This is a very dangerous situation. What
wife is going to say yes to any of this?
The question is if one of these girls was the
daughter of someone you went to school with, why couldn't
she stay with her dad? Where was he? Or why
couldn't they stay with one of his other friends, one
of your husband's other friends, or one of his three
(03:15):
business partners. Your husband asked you to trust him on this,
but you need a whole lot of more information. There
are huge holes in this story. A lot of things
are left out. You said you were hesitant to marry
your husband in the first place because he was in
the streets. But so far he hasn't done anything to
make you not trust him until now. But all you
(03:37):
need is one time, right you left the party at
one thirty am. You need to find out exactly what
happened after that and until three am when your husband
finally made it home.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Steve lott Eimers, you don't care. No, I really care, fellas.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I try to help y'all, I really do.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
I go above and beyond to try to come up
with something to help y'all. Y'all making it hard, though, Oh,
y'all making it hard. What the hell is going on?
I mean, dog, I'm trying to.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Damn dog.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I can't do none of this. I can't do none
of this. I can't say this to my wife. I
can't do none of this. Matter of fact, nobody I
know can do this. Okay, here's a problem. You used
to be a club owner promoter. Now you got another
biz that's going on, and I guess he used to
(04:51):
just be a club promoter.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I'm sorry. Now he owns a lounge with three other guys.
Oh lord, mercy.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Club own. It just got trouble written all over it.
It just ain't no way round it. And so now
here we go. You got these partners. You had a
birthday party, They throw all white party for you.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
You go to the all white party for his birthday.
You leave and go home. Round one point thirty.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
He show up at the house at three m crashed
it all his clothes.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
All right, so far this story ain't going that bad.
So far not bad. You woke up around nine a m.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Nine in the morning to the sound of running water.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Where's your husband at? At this point? Does it say
in the letter Shirley? Where is he at?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
He came home.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Crashed in all his clothes, woke up at nine? Where
was he? A?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Well, he was downstairs because the two homegirls were upstairs
getting ready.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So he must still be in his clothes. Okay, that's
good news. I woke my husband up and he said,
was it? It was his two home girls upstairs getting
ready to head out the graduation.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Home girls and friend's.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Daughter ain't shouldn't be in the same sense. Hang on,
that's the problem. I can't fix this for you.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
We'll have part two of your response coming up. Steve
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry letter,
subject he let the two girls sleep over. We'll get
back into it and find out what this is all about.
Right after this, you're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
(06:55):
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he let
the two girls sleep over.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I feel so bad. I don't know what to do.
He forty you, thirty eight, He forty two, you thirty eight.
You go to his all white birthday party at this
lounge he owned with his two homies. They throw an
all white party for him for his birthday. You lead
a party at one thirty. He come in around three thirty.
He fall asleep downstairs in all his clothes. Been a
(07:22):
hell of a night, hell of a party. Y'all sleep.
At around nine o'clock in the morning, you hear running water. Okay,
you hit his running water. You go downstairs, wake him up.
He tell you it's his two home girls upstairs getting
ready to head out to a graduation. What there's two
(07:45):
women in the house upstairs running water?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Say it again? See, I'm just dog.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
This is so impossible for me, and I don't apologize
to the fellas because I usually try to be that
for you.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
What what did you just say?
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Wait a minute, it's two home girls upstairs? What they
taking a shot and getting ready to go out to
a graduation?
Speaker 1 (08:15):
What?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Homegirl?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
What? What graduation?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And then I said what home girls? What graduation? He
told me to trust him on this one instead of
getting mad, horror, trust me on this here instead of
instead of getting mad, mad, the shock, the horror, the amazement,
the unbelief, instead of He told me to go with
(08:41):
him to meet the girl.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Come on up here with me. Boy, what is not
proud of him?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
At this point, Steve.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Come on up here and meet him with me? Oh man.
We went up to our guest bedroom.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I was surprised to see two gorgeous women wrapped in
two of my best tiles. They greeted me with big smiles.
They were just as sweet as they were cute. Hey,
hey girl.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
How you doing.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
De Chante's wife? Hey, what's going on?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
They thanked me for letting him get a few hours
sleep and said they would be leaving town after the graduation.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
What graduations? Y'all keep talking.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
About where is this graduation?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Because all we was at the all white party?
Speaker 3 (09:44):
What graduation y'all keep talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I wanted to be mad, but I couldn't be.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
My husband told me that one of the girls is
the daughter of a guy he went to school with,
and they planning to stay with a friend. But she
go to them Where you meet their mad? Was they
at the lounge?
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Not nothing?
Speaker 3 (10:07):
What's the party?
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Now? If you forty two.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
And these girls is going to a graduation, I'm assuming
they somewhere and they're young, and they sweet, and they gorgeous.
They between twenty twenty five, They in that age range. Right,
let's stop in the middle of say they twenty three,
you forty two? Your boy had these babies when he
(10:35):
was nineteen. This is what I'm going.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
On, Okta, I like it? See go ahead?
Speaker 3 (10:42):
How they your home girls? Cause I ain't got no
twenty three year home girl? Now they planning to stay
with a friend. How you get in this though?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
That's the barn that's left out?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
How you?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
How are you the out? They girlfriend ghosted you? Where
your hotel money? Where your room at? Where are your
other friends at?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:11):
I don't think my husband. He is even aware of
how dangerous it was to have strangers in the house.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Why are you so stupid? What are you talking about
the danger? Stop?
Speaker 3 (11:23):
There's no danger. They harmless that you've already met him.
It wasn't dangerous. How you making I don't think my
husband even aware how dangerous it was to have strangers
in the house. There was no danger there. You met him.
So how you picking that part out? Or were they
even strangers? Hell?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
No, they not strangers. What is your questioning this stupid?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Did my husband know how dangerous it was to have
strangers in the house or are they strangers? He just
told you they his homegirl. M He just told you
they friend ghosted them. He been knowing them, and he
called them homegirls. They upstairs. How he didn't wake you
up and say, hey, baby, it's two women staying in
(12:13):
this guest room up here, Just so you know, why
didn't he call me to ask me first? Because I
don't know how to fix my lips to tell my
wife at three in the morning, I'm bringing two women
over to the house. They need place to stay, and
I'm gonna be captain sab.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Them, young beautiful girls.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I saved two young girls lives on the Chatter Chatto
Hoochie River. One time on God Float got away from him.
I saved their life on the Chatter Hoochie River one time.
I got in trouble for that.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I know. Goodness, here will I'm gonna get cussed.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Out from the all right, if you can leave your
comments on Today's letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey him
and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Coming up next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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