April 16, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty nine year old married man. My wife is thirty seven, and she volunteers throughout our community and it's become her life passion. She got fired right after the pandemic because it was too hard for her to keep her composure with her coworkers after all of the Black Lives Matter movement stuff. Every day she comes home ranting. She came home ranting over something a coworker said, and I'm sure she usually took it the wrong way. Currently, she's the director of a nonprofit organization that does gardens in underserved areas of town...............................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Beguide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you. Nephew's subject My wife is an activist at
the wrong times. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty nine
year old married man. My wife is thirty seven, and
she volunteers throughout our community and it's become her life passion.
She got fired right after the pandemic because it was
too hard for her to keep her composure with her
(00:48):
coworkers after all of the Black Lives Matter movement stuff.
Every day she comes home ranting. She came home ranting
over something a coworker said, and I'm sure she usually
took it the wrong. Currently, she's the director of a
nonprofit organization that does gardens and underserved areas of town
She's often featured on the news, and she's so passionate
(01:11):
that it's funny. She's talking about growing greens and tomatoes,
but she sounds like Malcolm X. Everyone teases her about it,
and we always get that speech about black women are
expected to be behind the scenes, not an authoritative physicians.
I tell her all the time that it's not nineteen
sixty and she's got a voice in today's society, but
(01:34):
she doesn't have to scowl when she talks. I work
for a major food distributor and our small division gave
bags of food out for Easter so that one thousand
families could have a meal. My wife volunteered, and I
knew she was going to ruin it somehow. As we
were handing out bags to pre selected families, my wife
(01:56):
went to my CEO, who was visiting from Florida, and
asked him if they could only find needy black people
to help out. This woman was mad because we didn't
have but a few white families. My boss turned bright
red and I had to go get my wife. Steven Shirley.
My wife is an activist at the wrong times. How
(02:17):
do I talk some sense into her? What can I do?
She sounded like Malcolm X.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Definitely props to your wife for her dedication, for her
passion about her community and all that. For her giving back.
That's always a good thing. And here comes the butt.
But you know you can't take your wife to any.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
More job stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
You do realize that, okay, cause she, like you said,
can ruin it for you. There's a time and a
place for everything, and the place is not at your
husband's work event. You do not confront the CEO. There
keyword confront, okay. Do that This event is set, People
(03:02):
are in place, things are set to go, Anticipation is high,
everyone is focused on the task at hand and the
greater good period. That's what the day is for.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
That's what it's all about.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It's not for your wife and her passion to help people,
which at this moment is clouding her judgment. She needs
to understand that what she does affects you, It affects everyone,
not just her. You as her husband, have to remind
her of that. You have to talk to her that way.
Hopefully she'll see that you do support her and her passion,
(03:33):
and maybe she'll listen to you and what you're saying,
because what she doesn't want to do is to jeopardize
everything by finding fault in everything, even when people are trying.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
To do good.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Steve is tell me there no Tommy stept away press
second Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Yeah, I wanted him to do a reenactment in the
second half of the letter.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
But you know, oh he'll be back. Oh he can, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
But he don't if he don't understand the letter. You know,
you know, I sit through these damn pranks, but you
know we can't sit through these damn man.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
But he can.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
He busy, he got to go somewhere. He's doing the
egg less, trying to get tall this summer. And you
know my wife is an activist at the wrong times.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You damn right.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
She is now your wife thirty seven. She volunteers throughout
the community. And now the reason she got a volunteer,
and because it's her life passion, it's cause she got fired.
See you, once you get fired from a job, and
the word get out why they fired you. You ain't
finna work nowhere else. Now she volunteer and now it's
(04:39):
her life's passion. But she got fired after the pandemic
because it was too hard for her to keep her
composure with her coworkers after all the Black Lives Matter
movement stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Let me translate that for you.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Right after the pandemic, it was too hard for her
to shut her damn mouth with her coworkers who are white,
after all the Black Lives Matter movements stuff. Every day
she came home ran over something a coworker said, and
I'm sure she usually took it the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yes, she did.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Currently, she's director of a nonprofit organization that does gardens
in underserved areas Uptown. Yeah, she's often featured on the
news and she's so passionate that it's funny. She talking
about growing greens and tomatoes, but she sounded like Malcolm X.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
How did does that go together?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
How did that word?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
I'm about to these tomatoes? I do these greens? Y'all
up in the hill. You know, we're trying to do
the right thing. We'll do the right thing. Come out
to dirt. That's what dirt is, dirt, dirt, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Here we are.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
We always got to push through something. Now you got
us out here farming. Oh, I guess you want us
to get back to picking hunh. Yeah, but by not,
we're picking with a purpose now We ain't picking for free.
We're picking to volunteer feeding the disadvantaged communities and our
(06:13):
underserved communities of this city. That's what these gardens is for.
Since the government refuses to help us, we have now
been relegated to helping ourselves. That's who he is up
in hill. I'm about that life.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Anymore.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Everybody ain't got a great are the black thumbs in
the neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
We'll have heard two of Steve's response coming up in
twenty three minutes after the hour deal. Today's Strawberry letter.
Subject my wife is an agat.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
It means necessary.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
At the wrong time.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
We're gonna grow crops.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Back after this. You're listening morning show. Let's recap Steve
Today's strawberry letter. The subject is my wife is an
activist at the wrong times.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Yeah, this woman is used to work at a job,
but then she got fired because after the pandemic, all
the Black Lives Matter stuff, she couldn't keep her mouth
closed down at her job. So now she cussing everybody
out every day, talking about what the coworkers said. When
the coworkers trying to work through it too. Her husband
said she probably was taking it the wrong way. So
(07:23):
now she's the director of a nonprofit organization that feeds
the hungry. But now she be on TV all the
time with this garden and stuff she's doing. But the
man says, she sounded like Malcolm X. So you know,
we had did a little thing earlier letting you know
that she about these tomatoes. She's doing these gus. You
(07:43):
know what I'm saying, Like we come from the dirt.
I guess now y'all really want us to get back
to picking again, but we're not. We serve in the
underprivileged community and that's it. And it's only because the
government itself does not fulfill this obligation and duty to
those in need. So now we got Malcolm X in
charge of the nonprofit organization. Well, he took her to
(08:05):
work to help with their company giveaway. She met her
husband's boss and ran up to her boss talking about
she mad at the boss because they only she mad
because they could only find needy black people to help out.
This woman was mad because we only had a few
white families. My boss turned bright red to get I
(08:28):
had to go get my wife. My wife is an
activist at the wrong times. How do I talk some
sense of her. What can I do? There's nothing you
could do, because she is committed to this life. Now
the problem is she need to make up who is
she though. If you're gonna be Malcolm X, you can't
be white and you can't be fighting to feed white families.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Damn, lady, you got to make up your mind.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You can't be about Black lives matter and then be
pushing the white agenda.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Now listen to me. Let me just say this to you.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
You can't be Malcolm X and Donald Trump at the
same time. You gonna have to You're gonna have to
pull yourself together. Now, this is what's gonna happen. I
see Tommy's here now, So Tommy, here is this woman
(09:30):
who is committed to the culture and black lives matter.
She got fired from a job, but now she the
director of a nonprofit that gives out food from this
garden they make and now white people down there she'
mad about that. Her husband wants to talk some sense
into her because he is afraid that she's gonna mess
(09:51):
this up too. You are now the husband trying to
talk some sense into your militant wife, who I have
deemed as the Malcolm X of God, and and and uh,
the Malcolm X of garden and volunteer programs, and you
the husband that's trying to save lives.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
So why are you constantly talking to me? Herman?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Maybe you're getting a little you're taking it a little
too far. If I could just get you to calm
down a little bit, that's all. I'm trying to get you.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
To calm down. Why we calm now? I guess the
slaves should have been calm too. If I could just
get you to walk a little lighter, that's all I'm
just trying to do. Just it's a little lighter, that's all.
Walk lighter as in light skin. Oh so now you
want me to walk white.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I'm not asking you to walk white. I'm not asking
you that. I'm not asking I'm just asking you to
just be a little bit more open, that's all. That's
all I'm saying. Shouldn't we try to save other people
as well? Don't you think so?
Speaker 4 (10:54):
Do you even understand what Black Lives Matter was about?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I totally understand what Black Lives Matter means. I understand that.
But but all lives matter, baby.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
Right, all lives do matter. But when are black lives
gonna matter? Like all the rest of the lies.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I'm not saying all the Herman. Okay, okay, listen. All
I'm saying here is if we take a different approach
with this, we'll be able to help a lot more people.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Let's just let's just take a lot more.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
We're trying to help our people. Oh, I see what's
going on here now? Oh I should Quita Mohammed Abdul
too and Uncle Tom? Whoa uncle Tom?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
That's that's that said? Come on, baby, we marry me
and Tom Jackson Herman Tom?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Okay, okay, now you got to You're about to mess
up our relationship now due to this. You do realize, Oh,
our relationship is already messed up when you refuse to
join me with the Black Lives Matter movement. My brother,
I'm your husband, baby? Why why are you talking to
me like this? I mean we we we got married,
(12:17):
we took I've been relegated to just you are my husband.
I guess you are thinking I am your wife.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Yes, you are my wife. What are you are you saying?
Speaker 4 (12:27):
So?
Speaker 3 (12:28):
Now you picking pronouns.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I'm not picking anything. You are my wife? Are you
not my wife? What?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
What? What? What? What? What are we talking? About here am
I not? I guess not?
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Then if revolution will not be televised?
Speaker 3 (12:46):
O what what?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
That?
Speaker 3 (12:52):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Ignorant show?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
Sounded So good.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
You can download it today now coming up at forty
six minutes after the hour, we got Junior in Sports
Talk right after this and the Black Passes. You're listening
to Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Beguide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you. Nephew's subject My wife is an activist at
the wrong times. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty nine
year old married man. My wife is thirty seven, and
she volunteers throughout our community and it's become her life passion.
She got fired right after the pandemic because it was
too hard for her to keep her composure with her
(00:48):
coworkers after all of the Black Lives Matter movement stuff.
Every day she comes home ranting. She came home ranting
over something a coworker said, and I'm sure she usually
took it the wrong. Currently, she's the director of a
nonprofit organization that does gardens and underserved areas of town
She's often featured on the news, and she's so passionate
(01:11):
that it's funny. She's talking about growing greens and tomatoes,
but she sounds like Malcolm X. Everyone teases her about it,
and we always get that speech about black women are
expected to be behind the scenes, not an authoritative physicians.
I tell her all the time that it's not nineteen
sixty and she's got a voice in today's society, but
(01:34):
she doesn't have to scowl when she talks. I work
for a major food distributor and our small division gave
bags of food out for Easter so that one thousand
families could have a meal. My wife volunteered, and I
knew she was going to ruin it somehow. As we
were handing out bags to pre selected families, my wife
(01:56):
went to my CEO, who was visiting from Florida, and
asked him if they could only find needy black people
to help out. This woman was mad because we didn't
have but a few white families. My boss turned bright
red and I had to go get my wife. Steven Shirley.
My wife is an activist at the wrong times. How
(02:17):
do I talk some sense into her? What can I do?
She sounded like Malcolm X.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Definitely props to your wife for her dedication, for her
passion about her community and all that. For her giving back.
That's always a good thing. And here comes the butt.
But you know you can't take your wife to any.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
More job stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
You do realize that, okay, cause she, like you said,
can ruin it for you. There's a time and a
place for everything, and the place is not at your
husband's work event. You do not confront the CEO. There
keyword confront, okay. Do that This event is set, People
(03:02):
are in place, things are set to go, Anticipation is high,
everyone is focused on the task at hand and the
greater good period. That's what the day is for.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
That's what it's all about.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It's not for your wife and her passion to help people,
which at this moment is clouding her judgment. She needs
to understand that what she does affects you, It affects everyone,
not just her. You as her husband, have to remind
her of that. You have to talk to her that way.
Hopefully she'll see that you do support her and her passion,
(03:33):
and maybe she'll listen to you and what you're saying,
because what she doesn't want to do is to jeopardize
everything by finding fault in everything, even when people are trying.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
To do good.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Steve is tell me there no Tommy stept away press
second Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Yeah, I wanted him to do a reenactment in the
second half of the letter.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
But you know, oh he'll be back. Oh he can, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
But he don't if he don't understand the letter. You know,
you know, I sit through these damn pranks, but you
know we can't sit through these damn man.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
But he can.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
He busy, he got to go somewhere. He's doing the
egg less, trying to get tall this summer. And you
know my wife is an activist at the wrong times.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You damn right.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
She is now your wife thirty seven. She volunteers throughout
the community. And now the reason she got a volunteer,
and because it's her life passion, it's cause she got fired.
See you, once you get fired from a job, and
the word get out why they fired you. You ain't
finna work nowhere else. Now she volunteer and now it's
(04:39):
her life's passion. But she got fired after the pandemic
because it was too hard for her to keep her
composure with her coworkers after all the Black Lives Matter
movement stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Let me translate that for you.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Right after the pandemic, it was too hard for her
to shut her damn mouth with her coworkers who are white,
after all the Black Lives Matter movements stuff. Every day
she came home ran over something a coworker said, and
I'm sure she usually took it the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yes, she did.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Currently, she's director of a nonprofit organization that does gardens
in underserved areas Uptown. Yeah, she's often featured on the
news and she's so passionate that it's funny. She talking
about growing greens and tomatoes, but she sounded like Malcolm X.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
How did does that go together?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
How did that word?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
I'm about to these tomatoes? I do these greens? Y'all
up in the hill. You know, we're trying to do
the right thing. We'll do the right thing. Come out
to dirt. That's what dirt is, dirt, dirt, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Here we are.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
We always got to push through something. Now you got
us out here farming. Oh, I guess you want us
to get back to picking hunh. Yeah, but by not,
we're picking with a purpose now We ain't picking for free.
We're picking to volunteer feeding the disadvantaged communities and our
(06:13):
underserved communities of this city. That's what these gardens is for.
Since the government refuses to help us, we have now
been relegated to helping ourselves. That's who he is up
in hill. I'm about that life.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Anymore.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Everybody ain't got a great are the black thumbs in
the neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
We'll have heard two of Steve's response coming up in
twenty three minutes after the hour deal. Today's Strawberry letter.
Subject my wife is an agat.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
It means necessary.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
At the wrong time.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
We're gonna grow crops.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Back after this. You're listening morning show. Let's recap Steve
Today's strawberry letter. The subject is my wife is an
activist at the wrong times.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Yeah, this woman is used to work at a job,
but then she got fired because after the pandemic, all
the Black Lives Matter stuff, she couldn't keep her mouth
closed down at her job. So now she cussing everybody
out every day, talking about what the coworkers said. When
the coworkers trying to work through it too. Her husband
said she probably was taking it the wrong way. So
(07:23):
now she's the director of a nonprofit organization that feeds
the hungry. But now she be on TV all the
time with this garden and stuff she's doing. But the
man says, she sounded like Malcolm X. So you know,
we had did a little thing earlier letting you know
that she about these tomatoes. She's doing these gus. You
(07:43):
know what I'm saying, Like we come from the dirt.
I guess now y'all really want us to get back
to picking again, but we're not. We serve in the
underprivileged community and that's it. And it's only because the
government itself does not fulfill this obligation and duty to
those in need. So now we got Malcolm X in
charge of the nonprofit organization. Well, he took her to
(08:05):
work to help with their company giveaway. She met her
husband's boss and ran up to her boss talking about
she mad at the boss because they only she mad
because they could only find needy black people to help out.
This woman was mad because we only had a few
white families. My boss turned bright red to get I
(08:28):
had to go get my wife. My wife is an
activist at the wrong times. How do I talk some
sense of her. What can I do? There's nothing you
could do, because she is committed to this life. Now
the problem is she need to make up who is
she though. If you're gonna be Malcolm X, you can't
be white and you can't be fighting to feed white families.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Damn, lady, you got to make up your mind.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You can't be about Black lives matter and then be
pushing the white agenda.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Now listen to me. Let me just say this to you.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
You can't be Malcolm X and Donald Trump at the
same time. You gonna have to You're gonna have to
pull yourself together. Now, this is what's gonna happen. I
see Tommy's here now, So Tommy, here is this woman
(09:30):
who is committed to the culture and black lives matter.
She got fired from a job, but now she the
director of a nonprofit that gives out food from this
garden they make and now white people down there she'
mad about that. Her husband wants to talk some sense
into her because he is afraid that she's gonna mess
(09:51):
this up too. You are now the husband trying to
talk some sense into your militant wife, who I have
deemed as the Malcolm X of God, and and and uh,
the Malcolm X of garden and volunteer programs, and you
the husband that's trying to save lives.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
So why are you constantly talking to me? Herman?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Maybe you're getting a little you're taking it a little
too far. If I could just get you to calm
down a little bit, that's all. I'm trying to get you.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
To calm down. Why we calm now? I guess the
slaves should have been calm too. If I could just
get you to walk a little lighter, that's all I'm
just trying to do. Just it's a little lighter, that's all.
Walk lighter as in light skin. Oh so now you
want me to walk white.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I'm not asking you to walk white. I'm not asking
you that. I'm not asking I'm just asking you to
just be a little bit more open, that's all. That's
all I'm saying. Shouldn't we try to save other people
as well? Don't you think so?
Speaker 4 (10:54):
Do you even understand what Black Lives Matter was about?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I totally understand what Black Lives Matter means. I understand that.
But but all lives matter, baby.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
Right, all lives do matter. But when are black lives
gonna matter? Like all the rest of the lies.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I'm not saying all the Herman. Okay, okay, listen. All
I'm saying here is if we take a different approach
with this, we'll be able to help a lot more people.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Let's just let's just take a lot more.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
We're trying to help our people. Oh, I see what's
going on here now? Oh I should Quita Mohammed Abdul
too and Uncle Tom? Whoa uncle Tom?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
That's that's that said? Come on, baby, we marry me
and Tom Jackson Herman Tom?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Okay, okay, now you got to You're about to mess
up our relationship now due to this. You do realize, Oh,
our relationship is already messed up when you refuse to
join me with the Black Lives Matter movement. My brother,
I'm your husband, baby? Why why are you talking to
me like this? I mean we we we got married,
(12:17):
we took I've been relegated to just you are my husband.
I guess you are thinking I am your wife.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Yes, you are my wife. What are you are you saying?
Speaker 4 (12:27):
So?
Speaker 3 (12:28):
Now you picking pronouns.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I'm not picking anything. You are my wife? Are you
not my wife? What?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
What? What? What? What? What are we talking? About here am
I not? I guess not?
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Then if revolution will not be televised?
Speaker 3 (12:46):
O what what?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
That?
Speaker 3 (12:52):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Ignorant show?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
Sounded So good.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
You can download it today now coming up at forty
six minutes after the hour, we got Junior in Sports
Talk right after this and the Black Passes. You're listening
to Harvey Morning Show.
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