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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject why can't I go with my
friend and her cousin? Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married
for nine years and I've been mad at my husband
for the last year. For an entire year, he has
questioned my faithfulness to him and demanded me to drop
friends that I've known longer than I've known him. My
husband is projecting his characters character traits on me. He's
(00:49):
a cheater, not me. He is the one that textes
women and comments on their pictures on ig while he's
in bed next to me. When he started tripping about
who I hang with, it set me off. I've known
my girl Fay for twenty two years, and I met
her cousin, John John about five years ago. We've had
Faye and John John over to the house hundreds of times.
(01:10):
My husband enjoyed hanging with John John until I told
him that John John is Fay's cousin and not her man.
I should have never told him because now he is
trying to ruin my summer vacation with Fay. We have
paid for an all inclusive trip to the Bahamas, and
my husband said I can't go because John John is going.
(01:31):
He said, if I go, I can't come back to
his house. I didn't even argue with him that it's
my house too, because the real issue is that my
husband is a cheater, so he thinks I'm dirty too.
I don't have sex with him because he's always looking
at his phone and grinning day and night. I can't
get turned on by a man that doesn't pay me
(01:53):
any attention. He assumes that I don't want to have
sex with him because I'm having sex with John John.
We've had full blown arguments daily and I'm so over
it all. Can I go to the Bahamas and come
back home? Do I have to cancel my trip? It
would be a shame. It just would be a shame
to lose all of your money over something that's not
(02:14):
even true that your husband thinks up in his head.
But of course it would be worse to lose your
marriage over your husband's silly assumptions too. But this isn't
much of a marriage, now, is it. I think your
husband meant what he said, even though it is your
house too. And you're exactly right that cheaters are always
(02:35):
suspicious of their partners. Because your husband is doing something wrong,
he thinks you are too. You said that clearly in
the letter, and so your husband doesn't trust you, especially
with another man. Well, right now, he's punishing you because
you're depriving him of sex. You've been doing this for
a whole year. I want you to go to the Bahamas.
(02:56):
I really do, because everyone deserves a vacation to get away.
But my question to you is what is your endgame?
I mean, you can't continue to be married to this
man and not have sex with him. You can't do that.
You can't expect him not to cheat if you're not
having sex or whatever. I mean, come on, now, that's
not realistic. A decision has to be made here before
(03:19):
this trip. Your husband is still there in the house.
You guys are living together, but the marriage is broken.
I mean you cut him off. He's on the gram
now liking other women's pictures. So again, what is your
end game? Are you guys going to try to fix
this mess that way? Your husband maybe he'll want to
go with you on the trip. Are you going to
divorce him? And then you know, you could do whatever
(03:41):
you want to do, go on vacation with whoever you want.
But you guys got to fix this if it's fixable.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Steve Well, this letter starts off pretty rough. Now, a
titletter letter is why can't I go with my friend
at her cuz? Well, you know, call your cuzin wherever.
Let's you get into that little bit later. I've been
married for nine years. I've been mad at my husband
for the last year. I be down right there mad
(04:13):
for a whole year. Man, That just that just sounds
like such a hell of a house to be in.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I've been y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I'm living in a house with a person that's been
mad at me for a year.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You know, I'm not like somebody for a year. But
I ain't never been mad at nobody that I live
with for a year.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Well, I take that back.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh you have.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I don't know how I hear that.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
You just went through your mental rolodexca I.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Lived in the house with a person for nine years
and hated me. So I don't know how that. I
don't know how I thought I could get away anyway.
Let's this is not about me. And you said for
an entire year, he has questioned my faithfulness to him
and demanded me that I dropped fears that I've known
longer than I've known him. Now, your husband is projecting
(05:22):
his characteristic on you because he's the cheater, not me.
Now she's saying he's the cheater. But she never pointed
to a cheating incident except she's using this thing right here.
Here's the one that texts women and comments on their
pictures on IG while he's in bed next to me.
(05:45):
That yeah, okay, yeah, I take that back. That's cheating. Yeah,
that's cheating. In your damn face, I'm laying in bed
and I'm texting women and commenting on pictures on IG
while I I'm in bed next to my wife had dog.
You not only cheating on her, you disrespecting her. Yes,
(06:08):
and then when he started tripping about who I'm hanging with.
It kind of set you off. You've known your girl
Faith for twenty two years. I met her cousbind, John John,
five years ago. We've had Faye and John John over
to the house hundreds of time. My husband loved John
John until he found out that John John I fade cousin. Oh,
here we go, we come back. We'll get into.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It all right.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Uh, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming up
at twenty three months.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You mean John John ain't fay Man.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
That's exactly what happened, you know it. The subject is
why can't I go with my friend and her cousin.
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is why can
I go with my friend and her cousin?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Why this woman has been mad at her husband for
a year?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Now.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
First, I didn't understand how you in the house with
somebody mad for a year. But those of us that's
been in bad marriages, you've lived in a house and
we messed up, jacked up for years. So it's doable.
But she say he cheated, but then she didn't give
an example of how he cheated. And then she said
he's been laying in bed next to me on his
(07:29):
phone texting women and comment on a IG pictures.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I'll be dombe oh so fould that's a lot damn dog.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
So now he disrespectful too. So now I got why
you're mad. I got that. Then he started tripping about
who you hang out with him and set you off
because you've been friends with this girl you know, named
Faith for twenty two years and you met her cousin,
John John about five years ago. We didn't have Faye
and John John over to the house hundreds of times,
(08:02):
so that means over a few year period they've been
over to the house my husband and Jordan hanging with
John John until I told him that John John is
phased cousin and not her.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Man who heit who wait? Man? Wait, hold hold hold on?
Who ain't who? Man?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
No, baby, that's her cousin. That's that's not her John John. Yeah,
they don't go together. They're just related the man their
blood cousins. Yeah, cousin, uhh.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Yeah, and y'all finna go well.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Now, should have just down to the Bahamas. We already
booked the trip.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Oh you ain't gonna wear well, I don't tell you
right now. No no, hell no, hell no, hell no.
If you go down there to Bahamas with John John
and and he ain't fay man, you stay going you
you ain't coming back to this her house?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Well, it's my house too, what house?
Speaker 2 (09:05):
It was your house till you left went on vacation
with that man.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
It's her cousin.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
You know I don't play that right here. Now, see
what the problem he making is he gonna push her
into the arms of John Jon. Yeah, yeah, with all
these accusations. Because now John John looking way more pleasant
than he is. Now, you want to be careful because
the man's name is spelled j o n j o en.
You want to be careful.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
That's John John.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
So what you need, yeah, Jean, Jean, you know, so
you might want to check into a couple of things
because John John's been coming over in five years, playing
cousin and everything.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
So you know, well even her, even her husband liked
hanging out with them.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Okay, well you and might tell you some things about
your husband too. Anyway, j I should have never told
him because now he's trying to ruin my summer vacation
with Faith. We had to pay for an all inclusive
trip to the Bahamas, and my husband said, I can't
go because John John is going. He said, if I go,
I can't come back to his house. I ain't even
(10:14):
argue that because this is my house too, exactly, because
the real issue is that my husband is a cheetah,
so he thinks I'm dirty too. I didn't have sex
with him. I don't have sex with him because he's
always looking at his phone and grinning day and night.
I can't get turned on by a man that don't
pay attention to me. Understood. He assumes that I don't
(10:35):
want to have sex with him because I'm having sex
with John John. Well, he's using that as the new
approach for the hundreds of times John John was coming
over there and he was hanging out with John. He
didn't think nothing of it, and he was perfectly comfortable
about you not having sex with him because I'm on
the phone anyway. We've had full blown arguments daily, and
(10:57):
I'm so over it. Can I go to the Bahamas
and come back home?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
I would?
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Yeah, of course, you can't. Now, a man can't do that.
What a man can't go to the Bahamas and expect
to come back home and his key work. You dog,
you can't go, But she gonna go and she gonna
come back right because because because men don't really change locks,
(11:24):
a woman change lock on your ass? Do I have
to cancel my trip? I don't think so. No, I
really don't think so. Why don't you just tell your husband?
See this is where line comes in here?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh oh, what where's she going?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
John John ain't going?
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Okay, but he really is going.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Hell yeah, hell yeah, we're gonna be kicking. Yeah, just
don't post nothing.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
But she didn't say John John was cute, Steve. She
didn't say anything she's attracted to John John any of that.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
You know how many women is married to people that
ain't cute?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah I do, okay, But I'm saying she didn't even
say she was attracted to John Johnny in any kind
of way.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
I know, one for show. I mean, I mean, surely
look at your screen.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Yeah, I'm looking.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
There's three men over here that's married. Yeah, all those
guy wise Tommy has told you about. Yeah, he's sex.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
He having the mid life Christy he'd put a tattoo
on his whole damn arm. He's so tired of looking
at his ass he decided to draw.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
You want to sleep, man? I wish I would, Steve,
you should do it. Man, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Getting no damn tattoo put on me. I ain't got
no time to be laying on that wasn't put some
ink on me and it don't come out all right.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Listen poast your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve
Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Free Never
sounded so good. You can download it today now coming
up in forty six minutes after the hour, you know
what time it is, time for Junior and sports talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject why can't I go with my
friend and her cousin? Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married
for nine years and I've been mad at my husband
for the last year. For an entire year, he has
questioned my faithfulness to him and demanded me to drop
friends that I've known longer than I've known him. My
husband is projecting his characters character traits on me. He's
(00:49):
a cheater, not me. He is the one that textes
women and comments on their pictures on ig while he's
in bed next to me. When he started tripping about
who I hang with, it set me off. I've known
my girl Fay for twenty two years, and I met
her cousin, John John about five years ago. We've had
Faye and John John over to the house hundreds of times.
(01:10):
My husband enjoyed hanging with John John until I told
him that John John is Fay's cousin and not her man.
I should have never told him because now he is
trying to ruin my summer vacation with Fay. We have
paid for an all inclusive trip to the Bahamas, and
my husband said I can't go because John John is going.
(01:31):
He said, if I go, I can't come back to
his house. I didn't even argue with him that it's
my house too, because the real issue is that my
husband is a cheater, so he thinks I'm dirty too.
I don't have sex with him because he's always looking
at his phone and grinning day and night. I can't
get turned on by a man that doesn't pay me
(01:53):
any attention. He assumes that I don't want to have
sex with him because I'm having sex with John John.
We've had full blown arguments daily and I'm so over
it all. Can I go to the Bahamas and come
back home? Do I have to cancel my trip? It
would be a shame. It just would be a shame
to lose all of your money over something that's not
(02:14):
even true that your husband thinks up in his head.
But of course it would be worse to lose your
marriage over your husband's silly assumptions too. But this isn't
much of a marriage, now, is it. I think your
husband meant what he said, even though it is your
house too. And you're exactly right that cheaters are always
(02:35):
suspicious of their partners. Because your husband is doing something wrong,
he thinks you are too. You said that clearly in
the letter, and so your husband doesn't trust you, especially
with another man. Well, right now, he's punishing you because
you're depriving him of sex. You've been doing this for
a whole year. I want you to go to the Bahamas.
(02:56):
I really do, because everyone deserves a vacation to get away.
But my question to you is what is your endgame?
I mean, you can't continue to be married to this
man and not have sex with him. You can't do that.
You can't expect him not to cheat if you're not
having sex or whatever. I mean, come on, now, that's
not realistic. A decision has to be made here before
(03:19):
this trip. Your husband is still there in the house.
You guys are living together, but the marriage is broken.
I mean you cut him off. He's on the gram
now liking other women's pictures. So again, what is your
end game? Are you guys going to try to fix
this mess that way? Your husband maybe he'll want to
go with you on the trip. Are you going to
divorce him? And then you know, you could do whatever
(03:41):
you want to do, go on vacation with whoever you want.
But you guys got to fix this if it's fixable.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Steve Well, this letter starts off pretty rough. Now, a
titletter letter is why can't I go with my friend
at her cuz? Well, you know, call your cuzin wherever.
Let's you get into that little bit later. I've been
married for nine years. I've been mad at my husband
for the last year. I be down right there mad
(04:13):
for a whole year. Man, That just that just sounds
like such a hell of a house to be in.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I've been y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I'm living in a house with a person that's been
mad at me for a year.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You know, I'm not like somebody for a year. But
I ain't never been mad at nobody that I live
with for a year.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Well, I take that back.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh you have.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I don't know how I hear that.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
You just went through your mental rolodexca I.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Lived in the house with a person for nine years
and hated me. So I don't know how that. I
don't know how I thought I could get away anyway.
Let's this is not about me. And you said for
an entire year, he has questioned my faithfulness to him
and demanded me that I dropped fears that I've known
longer than I've known him. Now, your husband is projecting
(05:22):
his characteristic on you because he's the cheater, not me.
Now she's saying he's the cheater. But she never pointed
to a cheating incident except she's using this thing right here.
Here's the one that texts women and comments on their
pictures on IG while he's in bed next to me.
(05:45):
That yeah, okay, yeah, I take that back. That's cheating. Yeah,
that's cheating. In your damn face, I'm laying in bed
and I'm texting women and commenting on pictures on IG
while I I'm in bed next to my wife had dog.
You not only cheating on her, you disrespecting her. Yes,
(06:08):
and then when he started tripping about who I'm hanging with.
It kind of set you off. You've known your girl
Faith for twenty two years. I met her cousbind, John John,
five years ago. We've had Faye and John John over
to the house hundreds of time. My husband loved John
John until he found out that John John I fade cousin. Oh,
here we go, we come back. We'll get into.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It all right.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Uh, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming up
at twenty three months.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You mean John John ain't fay Man.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
That's exactly what happened, you know it. The subject is
why can't I go with my friend and her cousin.
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is why can
I go with my friend and her cousin?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Why this woman has been mad at her husband for
a year?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Now.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
First, I didn't understand how you in the house with
somebody mad for a year. But those of us that's
been in bad marriages, you've lived in a house and
we messed up, jacked up for years. So it's doable.
But she say he cheated, but then she didn't give
an example of how he cheated. And then she said
he's been laying in bed next to me on his
(07:29):
phone texting women and comment on a IG pictures.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I'll be dombe oh so fould that's a lot damn dog.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
So now he disrespectful too. So now I got why
you're mad. I got that. Then he started tripping about
who you hang out with him and set you off
because you've been friends with this girl you know, named
Faith for twenty two years and you met her cousin,
John John about five years ago. We didn't have Faye
and John John over to the house hundreds of times,
(08:02):
so that means over a few year period they've been
over to the house my husband and Jordan hanging with
John John until I told him that John John is
phased cousin and not her.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Man who heit who wait? Man? Wait, hold hold hold on?
Who ain't who? Man?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
No, baby, that's her cousin. That's that's not her John John. Yeah,
they don't go together. They're just related the man their
blood cousins. Yeah, cousin, uhh.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Yeah, and y'all finna go well.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Now, should have just down to the Bahamas. We already
booked the trip.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Oh you ain't gonna wear well, I don't tell you
right now. No no, hell no, hell no, hell no.
If you go down there to Bahamas with John John
and and he ain't fay man, you stay going you
you ain't coming back to this her house?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Well, it's my house too, what house?
Speaker 2 (09:05):
It was your house till you left went on vacation
with that man.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
It's her cousin.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
You know I don't play that right here. Now, see
what the problem he making is he gonna push her
into the arms of John Jon. Yeah, yeah, with all
these accusations. Because now John John looking way more pleasant
than he is. Now, you want to be careful because
the man's name is spelled j o n j o en.
You want to be careful.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
That's John John.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
So what you need, yeah, Jean, Jean, you know, so
you might want to check into a couple of things
because John John's been coming over in five years, playing
cousin and everything.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
So you know, well even her, even her husband liked
hanging out with them.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Okay, well you and might tell you some things about
your husband too. Anyway, j I should have never told
him because now he's trying to ruin my summer vacation
with Faith. We had to pay for an all inclusive
trip to the Bahamas, and my husband said, I can't
go because John John is going. He said, if I go,
I can't come back to his house. I ain't even
(10:14):
argue that because this is my house too, exactly, because
the real issue is that my husband is a cheetah,
so he thinks I'm dirty too. I didn't have sex
with him. I don't have sex with him because he's
always looking at his phone and grinning day and night.
I can't get turned on by a man that don't
pay attention to me. Understood. He assumes that I don't
(10:35):
want to have sex with him because I'm having sex
with John John. Well, he's using that as the new
approach for the hundreds of times John John was coming
over there and he was hanging out with John. He
didn't think nothing of it, and he was perfectly comfortable
about you not having sex with him because I'm on
the phone anyway. We've had full blown arguments daily, and
(10:57):
I'm so over it. Can I go to the Bahamas
and come back home?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
I would?
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Yeah, of course, you can't. Now, a man can't do that.
What a man can't go to the Bahamas and expect
to come back home and his key work. You dog,
you can't go, But she gonna go and she gonna
come back right because because because men don't really change locks,
(11:24):
a woman change lock on your ass? Do I have
to cancel my trip? I don't think so. No, I
really don't think so. Why don't you just tell your husband?
See this is where line comes in here?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh oh, what where's she going?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
John John ain't going?
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Okay, but he really is going.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Hell yeah, hell yeah, we're gonna be kicking. Yeah, just
don't post nothing.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
But she didn't say John John was cute, Steve. She
didn't say anything she's attracted to John John any of that.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
You know how many women is married to people that
ain't cute?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Yeah I do, okay, But I'm saying she didn't even
say she was attracted to John Johnny in any kind
of way.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
I know, one for show. I mean, I mean, surely
look at your screen.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Yeah, I'm looking.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
There's three men over here that's married. Yeah, all those
guy wise Tommy has told you about. Yeah, he's sex.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
He having the mid life Christy he'd put a tattoo
on his whole damn arm. He's so tired of looking
at his ass he decided to draw.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
You want to sleep, man? I wish I would, Steve,
you should do it. Man, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Getting no damn tattoo put on me. I ain't got
no time to be laying on that wasn't put some
ink on me and it don't come out all right.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Listen poast your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve
Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Free Never
sounded so good. You can download it today now coming
up in forty six minutes after the hour, you know
what time it is, time for Junior and sports talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show
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