In our last episode, we tackled perfectionism, procrastination, and fear of failure - the hallmarks of Good Girl Syndrome. Today, we're diving deeper into another core aspect: people pleasing.
We will talk about how pleasing people, a sneaky part of Good Girl Syndrome, holds us back. We explore its roots in childhood and societal messages, and how it can turn into codependency. We'll also unveil your hidden strengths (generosity, empathy, resourcefulness!) and show you how to harness them for an authentic you. We will share simple tips like self-care mantras and small, solo adventures can disrupt the people-pleasing cycle.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Good Girl Syndrome, specifically people pleasing and prioritizing others over oneself.
- How pleasing people can manifest and its potential causes.
- The strengths of people pleasers and how people pleasing can show up in different ways.
- Strategies for overcoming people pleasing and putting yourself first.
- Disrupting negative thought patterns and beliefs associated with pleasing people.
- Creating mantras and affirmations for self-compassion.
- Taking action to prioritize your needs and well-being.
BEST MOMENTS
"The key is to really start disrupting the patterns that continue to happen over time."
“Our beliefs that were serving us at some point, or that we just developed because of certain things that happen to us in life that are just not serving us any longer.”
"I had to have the courage to be disliked and just understanding that I would lose the closeness that I wanted."
"People pleasing usually starts out in childhood. This can be a cultural or a societal thing, as little girls should be pleasing and polite, seen and not heard."
"We want to be accepted, we want to belong. And then if you've grown up in a dysfunctional family, sometimes people pleasing could easily have been a survival mechanism."
"I can't fix anyone. I can't change anyone. The only person I can fix is me."
"When I realized that my relationship to myself changed for the better and I stopped seeking out fixer uppers..."
"You can be all of those things at the same time and still be a people pleaser."
"I exist to please myself. I choose to please others if and when it pleases me."
"Each small change that you implement adds up, like compound interest."
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