EP 89: Self-Abandonment, Part 2

In today’s episode, we continue talking about self-abandonment, briefly reviewing the 8 types of self-abandonment (i.e., people-pleasing, not speaking truth, not trusting yourself, over-working/uber-productivity, the quest for self-improvement, checking boxes/collecting gold stars or external validation, numbing out, and getting stuck in your head or ruminating). We talk about how the various types of self-abandonment overlap with one another and share personal examples of which ones we default to in our own lives. We also share several examples of how easily and unconsciously self-abandonment appears in our lives and those of our clients, in big and small ways. Lastly, we offer several ways to interrupt self-abandonment including slowing down, tuning in and making space, letting our entire experience belong, shedding unhelpful expectations, comparisons, rules, judgments, and stories, and being self-compassionate.