We hear a lot about boundaries these days but we're not all well equipped with how to set boundaries and how to decide what boundaries will serve us well. In today's episode, Tali and Cody explore these ideas and leave you with some actionable take-aways.
00:46 Icebreakers
05:32 Setting Boundaries - Why is it hard? Perhaps because the way kids are raised is typically with little to no autonomy, rarely given the opportunities to learn how to set boundaries, then grow into adults who've never practiced that skill.
08:11 It's possible to not even know you need boundaries.
08:55 Finding the sweet spot of knowing when to set boundaries, and learning to be discerning when you're learning from a coach or teacher. Having pre-established boundaries can help.
13:17 Wild Country Documentary
14:56 Establishing boundaries might start with ethics, but can also be put in place based on preferences for the life you want.
21:18 Boundaries can change as we change and grow. Don't allow your need to be liked to keep you from advocating for yourself. Book: The Courage To Be Disliked
23:57 Honesty and vulnerability can be strengths, but you also don't owe most people an explanation for your own boundaries. Boundaries, as well as your obligations, change depending on the relationship.
33:39 You can set boundaries for yourself that don't involve others as well. (Sometimes referred to as self-discipline. It's really just making decisions, but you make them in advance of the event.)
39:39 Boundless might sound like freedom, but being boundless is also being directionless. There is freedom in self-imposed boundaries.
44:37 Setting boundaries requires self-knowledge and helps you articulate the implicit as an explicit statement. Making explicit agreements leads to better relationships.
51:39 Stepping outside your comfort zone to try new things can help you learn where you want your boundaries to be.
01:02:50 Your boundaries are an expression of your values.
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