Building a relationship to pleasure and intimacy takes a lot of intention in this society that still treats talking about sex as taboo. So many people struggle with intimacy due to lack of communication, trauma, and societal conditioning to disconnect from their bodies and desires. Improving intimacy requires us to unlearn harmful norms and relearn our embodied self. Tools like love languages and embodied practices can help us engage in conscious communication with partners. It helps to create a safe container to explore these sensitive topics compassionately, gain perspective on cultivating more fulfilling relationships.
In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Daniela Stevens (she/they) to join me in a conversation about how to meet yourself where you’re at as you build a relationship to pleasure and intimacy.
Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:
- Breaking the rules we assume in romantic relationships
- Learning to love yourself and listen to your body
- Shifting from goals to intentions in sex
- The pressure to perform and recovering from ways we disconnect
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
How to Create Belonging with Amena Chaudhry
2017 Medium Article - Why Men Keep Demanding Sex from their Partners Over and Over
Monsters In Love: Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy—And What You Can Do About It by Resmaa Menakem
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