February 12, 2024 • 48 mins
Ready to get your shit together and make this your ‘best year yet’? 💩
In Season 2, Episode 12 of I’m Lost, So What? I’m hopping on for a solo episode to share how to get your shit together and other tips for living your best life 😜
Jk, we don’t put that type of pressure on ourselves over here, we’re just working on slow and steady, gradual change, to live a more intentional life. None of that capitalist, self-development, productivity shit that makes you optimize your life 😂
In this episode, I share:
- What’s been happening over on my end, professionally and personally
- What being lost means to me
- My 3-step process for ‘getting your shit together’
- And what living my best life looks like for me
Links referenced in the episode:
- Get featured on the Season 2 Finale episode! Share your answer here - https://www.speakpipe.com/ImLostSoWhat
- The Wheel of Life Activity - https://www.mindtools.com/ak6jd6w/the-wheel-of-life
- “Making 2024 More Intentional” my latest YouTube video - https://youtu.be/lXMVAWIV-OE
- S1E11 “Why home isn’t really a place…” - https://imlostsowhat.podbean.com/e/why-home-isn-t-really-a-place%e2%80%a6/
- S2E5 “Aiko Smith: Calming your mind, body, and nervous system with mindfulness” - https://imlostsowhat.podbean.com/e/aiko-smith-calming-your-mind-body-and-nervous-system-with-mindfulness-1699037127/
Connect with Cassandra and her business elsewhere:
- Cassandra’s Personal Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cassandratle/
- The Quirky Pineapple Studio Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thequirkypineapplestudio/
- The Quirky Pineapple Studio Website - https://thequirkypineapple.com/
- Love the podcast? Considering supporting - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/cassandrale
- Subscribe to Cassandra’s YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvIE9KYuAQD39SCkKwKh4ow
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Or, you know, actively not changing thingsbecause, you know, when you don't make
a choice, that's also making a choice.
Mind fuck there.
Hello, hello, everyone.
I'm Cassandra Le, and you'relistening to I'm Lost, So What?
The podcast exploring betweenbelonging and carving your own path.
For all the peeps out there who kindof know what you're doing, but still
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question what the fuck is going on.
Yeah, I'm with you.
Woo!
Alright, it has been a while since I'vehad a solo episode and it feels good
to be back here with you all, just you.
In this episode, we are talking abouthow to get your shit together and
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other tips for living your best life.
But before we get into that, Iwant to catch you up on what's
been happening over on my end.
And honestly, we're I've been.
So in 2023, it was a reallyterrible, that sounds dramatic, but
honestly it was a really terribleand a really fantastic year.
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Who knew?
Duality, two things can exist at once,or many things can exist at once if we
want to get into the parallel universes.
But for business, it was rocky, y'all.
We had a loss of clients,a dip in cash flow.
If you work in the marketing industryor in any sense of, or in any terms
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of like content, uh, you'll knowthat artificial intelligence came in
hot and well, it kind of took over.
So there were so many changes inthe industry and for me and my team
at The Quirky Pineapple Studio, wewere really trying to keep up with
it all and also figure out a wayto use AI in our own processes,
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content creation, and all the things.
Most of the time last year, I endedup questioning a lot if I'm actually
building something that I really like.
And I used a lot of last year tobuild and create systems and workflows
to really streamline the business.
Since we had a dip in cashflow and withclients, we actually had a lot of time
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and space to really take a look at oursystems and operations and simplify them.
Simplify and streamline, to be honest,and make it easier for me and the rest
of the team to actually do our work well.
If you're interested inthings like that, let me know.
Send me a DM on Instagram @CassandraTLe.
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If you want.
Like a totally separate episode on that.
This podcast doesn't necessarily coverbusiness things, but that's kind of
what happened in 2023 over at The QuirkyPineapple Studio and the business.
On the personal side of things...
where, where do I even start?
There were a lot of moments, I guess,where I had to learn to put up.
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and hold boundaries.
I had to learn to choose myself.
That sounds also dramatic, buthonestly I had to learn how to
choose myself and voice my feelingsand not feel guilty about them.
Thanks to therapy and my therapistwe've been working on it.
I still feel guilty sometimes, buthonestly the payoff after voicing
my feelings and not feeling guiltyabout them, totally worth it because
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I'm not like harboring resentment.
I think that might have to be anepisode for another day, but But
basically I was working through a lotof like mind drama and all the things.
Those were some of like the personalchallenges that I went through in 2023.
But at the same time, there were alsolike some really beautiful things in 2023.
My partner and I, Mario,we traveled a lot.
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We did something that I've been wantingto do for years since living in Spain,
which is called the Camino de Santiago.
It is a pilgrimage from a certain areapoint in Spain, or actually I think you
can start in Portugal or even France,and you walk for however many kilometers
you want to Santiago de Compostela.
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So that was amazing.
We did a five day pilgrimage,walked 100 kilometers.
Uh, that's maybe breaks downto 20 ish kilometers every day.
Gosh, y'all, like if you ever are thinkingabout doing something like that, I
highly recommend El Camino de Santiago.
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It is beautiful if you go in the summer.
Not too hot.
The weather was amazing.
Well, there was one day that it rainedon us, but it was still amazing.
And the landscape and just like beingin nature, waking up early every
day, putting on my shoes, packingmy backpack, and just walking.
Like, there was nothing elsethat I needed to worry about.
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Gosh, that was amazing.
Like, I think about those fivedays all the time and I'm always
like, should we do it again?
Should we just like, stop and like, Gowalking again or do this pilgrimage.
So that was amazing for 2023.
We got to hang out with lots of people.
I spent time deepeningfriendships and relationships.
I started working towards my goals andmyself, really, I grew in community.
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I, I feel like I started reallymaking friends or connecting
more with people here in Toledo.
I started grounding myself inreally what I wanted in my vision.
And then of course, A big one was Ihosted family for a month, and having
the flexibility and time and space tojust live my life has been, like, super
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fulfilling, very wholesome, I feel likemy soul needed something like that,
and I mean, the icing on the cake wasjust hosting five family members over
four weeks, so I had my youngest sistercome in December 18th, and my last
family member came My middle sisterleft on January 21st, so it was a lot.
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I've never hosted that manypeople in my house before.
Shout out to my partner Mariofor really putting up with that.
I feel like it's a lot to, like, one, hostfamily or host people in general, but to
host your like parents in law, I guess.
In Spanish it's calledconsuegros, or no, los suegros.
To host your in laws and your likesister in laws, even though we're
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not married, but like basically forthat long, I mean, bless his soul.
But it was amazing, like hostingthem, having quality time, hanging
out, and like really sharing my home.
In season one, episode 11, it's calledWhy Home Isn't a Place, like That feeling
I had, like having my family here andexploring a place that I have turned into
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my home, like my routines, my favoritespots, sharing that with them and having
them feel really welcome, I think, andalso at home in my home was honestly,
I feel like I need to do a whole otherepisode for that because that feeling I
don't even know how to describe it yet.
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It's like fulfilling, wholesome,complete, really, I don't know,
gratitude, something like that.
But yeah, that's kind of what'sbeen happening over here.
Like lots of things happen in 2023.
And now I feel like I've got agood foundation and set up to
be super intentional about 2024.
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So that's kind of what's beenhappening over here in Toledo
in May little area of the world.
And before diving into what I've gotplanned for 2024 and this episode
how to get your shit together as wellas other tips to live your best life
I've been asking all of the gueststhat we've had on the season 2.
What does being lost mean to themand I feel like I need to ask myself
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that question first and share withyou all before we dive into like How
to get to your shit together becausewhat does lost even mean or what
does being lost even mean to me?
Well, lots of things apparently.
I've got my notes in front of me andI'm looking at like the little bullet
point list I've made for myself.
The first thing that I'vewritten down is opportunities.
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So being lost to me is likeequal parts opportunities,
frustration, anxiety and magic.
Like I said in the beginning of thisepisode, two things or many things can
be true at once and I honestly feellike being lost is first like definitely
frustrating, frustrating mainly becauseI think I'm like looking externally
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for I guess like benchmarks of whatI should be doing, where I should be,
when I should be doing stuff and thenbecause I'm looking externally not only
am I feeling like the frustration I'malso feeling the anxiety on top of that
because I feel like I am falling behind.
So I feel like it's that for sure, likethis underlying feeling of frustration and
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anxiety because I am looking externally.
And then when I'm looking internally,it is more like this feeling
of, oh, opportunities, magic.
Like I talked about it, I believe inseason one, where I mentioned about
the twilight zone and how in thetwilight zone, nothing is palpable.
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It's like the, you're onthe precipice of something.
And that's where I feel likeopportunities and magic actually happen.
And that is basically whatbeing lost means to me.
Equal parts opportunities,magic mixed with frustration and
anxiety and how that feels usuallyin my body and everyday life.
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Well, for me, it manifests in mychest and I feel like I, I think
I've talked to my therapist aboutthis and a previous life coach when
I have like feelings of anxiety.
It's definitely in my chest.
I feel like it's constricting andI'm like, and most of the time
it's this like unwarranted feelingthat just kind of overcomes my
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body and I just have to like, Whoa.
Pause for a moment and think, okay, let metake some deep breaths here because this
anxiety is like constricting my breathing.
So that's how it feels in my body.
It also creates lots of mind drama.
So when I am feeling lost and youknow, the frustration, anxiety
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is like really taking over.
It definitely creates lots of mind drama.
And when I am talking about mind drama,it is like me overthinking and really,
I guess like getting too granularin things like it is me thinking.
Oh my gosh I don't know what to say.
I don't know what to do.
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I Start like playing scenarios in my brainof like, okay, if I do this, these are
like the repercussions I start creatinglike stories in my brain In my mind,
really, of, like, what could happen,what could go wrong, and that mind
drama basically leads to me being stuckbecause I am basically stuck in fear.
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And in like freeze mode like I'm tooscared to actually do something because I
have created so many stories in my brainand Like overthought every little thing.
So I just don't take action and whenthat happens usually what I have to
do is kind of like take a moment pauseand then kind of like recalibrate,
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not look so externally and look moreinternally, and then start moving into
like the magic and the opportunitiesthat I was talking about before.
So that is what being lost means to me.
And I would love to know whatdoes being lost mean to you?
We are recording the season finaleof season two of I'm lost, so what?
Podcast, and I would love to includeyou all in the season finale episode
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of what being lost means to you andhow does that feel in your body?
I am going to link a little link inthe show notes where you can send
like a 30 second to one minute clipanswering the question and you'll be
included in the season finale thatcomes out at the end of February.
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Okay, now that we've got that here'show to actually get your shit together
and Live your best life because I knowthis is the meaty stuff and this is
what this episode is about anyways.
So I'm starting with a disclaimer, um,because I feel like whenever I watch
videos about this on YouTube or listento podcasts or I see other people's
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posts, this might be a me thing.
So I am like, Wow, they just likelive such a perfect life and,
you know, I end up accidentallyputting those people on a pedestal.
And I am just going to start witha disclaimer and say, take my
words, really, like this entireepisode with a grain of salt.
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Take what you like.
Leave the rest.
If you don't agree withme, let's talk about it.
You can send me a DM onInstagram @CassandraTLe.
I want to start this episode sharingthat I do come from a background of being
middle class raised in the United States.
I am able bodied, I am neurotypical, andI am from the United States with a US
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passport and a native English speaker.
So, When I'm saying learn, like, let'sget our shit together and live your
best life, like, I'm already startingthere with, like, certain privileges.
Yes, I am also AsianAmerican, Vietnamese American.
Yes, I am an immigrant living in Spain,but I do have a base to start from, so.
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Again, take this with a grain ofsalt, take what you like, leave the
rest, and let's just dive into it.
Okay, so getting your shit together.
Going to, I'm going to sharelike three ways to start.
I am definitely not saying thatI always have my shit together.
Most of the time, I kind of don't.
I'm kind of like, I'm kindof winging it sometimes.
Most of the time I do feellike my shit ebbs and flows.
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Um, that was very.
visual.
Some days are really better than others,but I return to the simple like system
and ritual that I've developed andit has helped me recalibrate when I
feel really like out of sorts or lostlike what I was mentioning before.
So the first thing to do, and this ismy system, so this is what works for
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me and I say take some of whateveryou are interested in and then you
can adapt it to what works for you.
But the thing that I usually do in thebeginning if I'm feeling like lost,
out of sorts, if I feel like oof, Ido not have my shit together today.
I basically take stock and notice things.
I cannot get, personally, I can't getmy shit together if I don't know what
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shit is splattered all over the place.
That was also very visual.
But really, like, I cannot getmy shit together if I don't know.
What my shit is.
So I like to take stock andnotice things in my life.
I usually do this through journaling,reflection activities, and really,
you can do this however feelscomfortable and supportive for you.
One of the examples that I wantto mention is the wheel of life.
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It is an activity, basically a wheel,and then what you do is like you divide
it into I think six categories, and itcould be things like personal, spiritual,
romantic, play, work, and health, maybe?
And then you kind of like rank ineach category, the error, like the
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number that you feel is most adequate.
And usually it's numbers one to10, uh, 10 being like, Oh yeah, you
feel super satisfied and fulfilled.
And then what you do after yourank each section with like little
dots is you connect them and itbasically makes a little web.
So it's super visual.
I just did that activity.
In December or January, and I sawthat, oop, my physical and friendship
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area was like at number three, soI need to work on that this year.
So, some of the things that I liketo review and take note of are how
I feel on a day to day basis, weeklybasis, monthly, quarterly, and yearly.
Any specific milestone moments.
So, When I'm talking milestonemoments, I'm not saying like
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really awesome things all the time.
I am also marking down challengingmilestone moments and also
feel good milestone moments.
And that is, those are like milestonemoments that I've had through the
weeks, months, quarters, and year.
And I kind of Like when I list out thesemilestone moments, I then kind of go in
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and think about, okay, what happened?
Why did it happen?
How did I contribute to it?
How did I feel?
And also a super importantquestion is, do I want to change
it or do I want to keep at it?
So let's say for example, I writedown a milestone moment that's good.
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And I go through like thosequestions that I just mentioned.
And the last one is do I want tochange or do I want to keep it?
And that one would be if it'slike a feel good thing, then
of course I want to keep it.
So now the question goes to,okay, if I want to keep feeling
this or keep experiencing momentslike this, what do I need to do
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to continuously make that happen?
And if it were like a milestonemoment that was a challenge that
I'm like, oh, I do not like that.
I did not like that.
I don't want to ever experiencesomething like that again.
Then I ask myself, okay, yeah,of course I want to change that.
And that takes me to the next questionof, okay, what do I need to do to
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actually change that so that I don'texperience like crippling anxiety again?
So those are just someof the other things.
to consider when you arewriting down milestone moments.
And then another one that I liketo take note of is people I spent
most of my time and energy with.
So this is basically taking stock ofmy relationships that I have, whether
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with my partner, with my family, withmy friends, with colleagues, with
just like random people if I go tolike networking events or something.
And then I ask myself, didthey add to my life, take away?
Was I feeling fulfilled or chaotic?
I will say that like, when I go throughthis, like, activity and I talk about
how I feel or list out milestonemoments, like, those are easy for me
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and they're very fun to do becauseI just, I like reflecting and kind
of, like, taking note of how thingshave happened and what has happened.
It's also a really nice way for me tojust feel gratitude for how far I've come.
I will say when I ask myselfabout relationships and people.
This is like the superuncomfortable section for me
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because I am a huge people pleaser.
Well, I'm like a huge peoplepleaser in, what is that word?
Rehab?
Yeah, I'm in rehab for that.
It's called therapy.
Um, but I, I've hung out with somepeople who, I mean, I, I'm sure you all
have felt it, like where you've hungout with people who re- energized you
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and then people who drain your energy.
It's not like, you know, you don't likethem because they drain your energy,
it's just that, you know, they justdon't, they're not your vibe right now.
So I have to answer that question too,and that question is super uncomfortable
for me because that means that I needto, again, start taking action to kind
of either spend more time or developa deeper relationship with someone or
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I need to be honest with myself andto limit my time with him and this is
not me saying like oh go out and tellsomebody like oh my gosh you like drain
my energy you suck no this is more likeokay I've noticed this what do I need
to do to make sure that I feel good.
So once you've got all of that and allof the answers to this, like taking stock
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and reflection, we are going to moveinto the next step, which is actually
making a plan for you to get yourshit together and live your best life.
This part I think is probably like themost fun for me because this is when
you feel well, I don't know if youall feel it, but I definitely feel it.
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This is when I feel like super jazzed up.
I'm like excited.
I am really feeling expansive andI am thinking about all of the
possibilities that I could get done.
And then I like to make a concreteplan to actually make that happen.
So this is when I get to dream, envisionamazing, dreamy things for myself.
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I like to really just Letmy imagination play here.
I feel like this is the most fun part.
I mean, reflecting is also fun, butlike making a plan, it's just like,
it's like inspiring and motivating.
And it's like, oh my gosh, I'mgonna, it's gonna, I'm gonna
change, it's gonna happen.
So here's how I actually make a plan.
I usually start off with goals.
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So I brain dump all my goals into my, um,Notion hub template and I kind of just
like list whatever goals I feel like Iwant to accomplish Like it could be this
year if we're talking 2024 It could behonestly whenever and then what I do is
I break those goals up into quarters.
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So instead of trying to tackle all ofthe goals all the time during the year.
I like to basically Consider okay, what?
is my life kind of looking atlike, and where does it make
sense to approach these goals?
So let's say for example, this year,I know I will be traveling back
to the United States, maybe twice,because I have weddings to go to.
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And if I am traveling for weddings, andthen potentially seeing family and seeing
friends and maybe staying a little bitlonger in the United States, I'm going to
need goals that are less grand and lessbig or less like energy consuming and
goals that are a little bit easier becauseI know when I'm traveling I just don't
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have like the emotional physical energeticcapacity like I would have if I were
just at home living my normal routine.
So after I bring down my goals, Ibreak them up into quarters And then
after I break them up into quartersfrom those quarters, I decide okay,
which month do I want to tackle them?
if I'm thinking, okay, in January, Iwant to focus on these goals in February,
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these goals in March, these goals.
And then after I do that, that'swhen I finally write out action
steps to make them happen.
I will say that before you likeprobably break up these goals into
quarters or months, maybe think aboutwhat your year kind of looks like.
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So for example, I mentioned traveland I mentioned like, okay, I'm
traveling to the United States.
So those times I know that My bandwidth toactually do something is probably going to
be a little, like, more limited because Ijust don't have, like, the same capacity
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I would have if I were at home doing mything if I know that, for example, in
Spain, in July, August, well, it's reallyhot here, at least in Toledo, where I
live, and nobody really does anything,people kind of just, like, take off for
the summer and they just chill and relax.
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So for me, you know, in July, August,if I have goals that potentially involve
other people, or if I have specificgoals around X, Y, Z, I know in July,
August, it'll be a little bit more chill,so I can do maybe more personal goals.
So I would.
break, like, map out your year first.
If you know, like, what you haveplanned, put that in first, and then
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once you have your brain dumped goals,break them up into quarters, and then
you can break them up into months.
And then once you do that, then we getinto the action steps to make it happen.
I like to assign specific time framesfor when I'll be focusing on specific
goals because it keeps me focusedand I won't actually get distracted.
So an example is this year I'm likespeaking this out into the universe
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because honestly, I've been sayingthis for maybe four years and I haven't
actually taken the action steps to makeit happen And I think I like rushed
into it, but I am getting my Spanishdriver's license if you have like if
you live abroad, then you know whatit's like to potentially get your
driver's license or not But in Spain,this is a little bit more technical.
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I don't know if you all care aboutthis, but in Spain I cannot drive
legally even though I have mylicense back in the United States.
I could have Like whatis the word switched it?
I guess, and gotten my Spanish driver'slicense earlier when I first arrived
to Spain to live here permanentlywithin like the first six months.
But because I didn't know to dothat, um, I got to start from zero.
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So I am learning how to drive stickshift and I have to take my theory test.
So my goal is to have itby the end of the year.
So now retroactively, I needto be studying for it now.
So I am like listing out what myaction steps are and then the months,
quarters that I plan to make it happen.
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So one action step is to take threetests daily and that is something that
I can start where I started in January.
And i'm going to continueuntil I feel confident to
actually take the actual test.
Um, I plan on registering for drivingschool in quarter two and then that
will give me time to practice drivingstick shift and in spanish with like
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a spanish instructor And then gettingmy license by the end of the year
.So, once I have those action plans, then it's about setting up a system to
support these goals and make it a reality.
And we'll talk about that next, butthat is kind of how I make my plan.
And then, actually, make action stepsor set action steps to make that
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plan a reality because I feel likeand this happens with my clients
at The Quirky Pineapple Studio.
This is like a marketing sentence, butit applies I think to everybody else
generally what happens usually with ourclients at The Quirky Pineapple Studio.
They come up with like this grand planfor marketing and they want to do all
of this content marketing and they wantto do launches and sales campaigns.
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And that is awesome.
Totally here for that.
We love supporting our clients doing that.
But what usually happens is theymake the plan, but then they don't
actually set up the action steps.
And the action steps are superimportant because Basically, this is
how you know that you're going to like,you know, carry out your strategy.
And not only are the action stepsimportant, it's really important
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to set up a system to actuallysupport your action steps.
So for example, if our clientswant to do more video content.
Then a system that they probablyneed to set up is one to record
videos and batch record content.
So then they can send it to us and thenwe can edit that content send it back to
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them for revision and then post it andall of that needs to be supported by a
system like Marketing systems and like allof that stuff because if you don't have
that then your action steps just kind ofour action says well Then you don't you
end up not having time to carry out youraction says because you haven't changed
the system to support them That waslike super technical, but let me know if
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that like example made sense to you all.
But yeah, that's like the planning part.
The next part is setting up thesystem to like support these
goals and make it a reality.
This part is, oh, this part I don'tthink is like the fun part because like
when you review and reflect you feelgood and then you kind of like know more
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and you have data to you know, act on.
And then you also can feel likegratitude and feel good about
where you've, like, how far you'vegrown and all of that stuff.
Making the plan is like superexciting because then you feel like
inspired and motivated and you'relike, oh my gosh, this can happen.
I can do this.
And then, uh, setting up the system toactually make the action steps happen.
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Now this part I feel like sucks.
This is the part I call discipline.
And this is where I feel like alot of people, myself included,
fall off that motivation train.
We fall off that motivation andinspiration train and we're just like,
well, this is like a lot harder to cut,like, to get your shit together and
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live your best life than we anticipated.
And this is where change.
is actually required.
This is where action is actuallyneeded, and this is where discipline
is probably the most important thing.
Okay, well, I say discipline, but Ialso want to include, like, I think
discipline and self compassion.
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So, tangibly and logically,I'm just going to walk you all
through, like, my process for this.
Um, I've broken it down tangibly andlogically, and then I've also broken it
down emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
Y'all know.
I love having like the tangiblewith like the spiritual stuff.
So tangibly and logically,this is what I like to do.
I like to time block on my Googlecalendar to actually know, okay,
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when am I going to do stuff?
I know it sounds like really lame to liketime block and just know exactly what
you're going to do every day, especiallyfor the people who are like, Oh, I want
like inspiration to strike and I wantlike spontaneity and all of that stuff.
But honestly, having the systemallows me to even be more
creative because I know every day.
Not every day, but like, I knowon Mondays at 10 o'clock, this
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is when I'm recording content.
I know on Tuesdays at 10 o'clock, thatis when I'm sitting down to script
out podcast episodes, to script outYouTube video outlines, to script
out reels and all of that stuff.
And that actually gives my mindlike, okay, I know Tuesday, I'm
gonna wake up and I'm gonna do this.
That makes it super, super easy.
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So when I time block on mycalendar, I start setting up my
morning and evening routines andthat sets me up for a good day.
And then I get really, reallyintentionable, intentionable, um, what?
I get really intentionable.
intentional, okay, intentional,y'all, about what I want to do
or don't do in my notion hub.
I basically have lots of lists for thisand I kind of just like keep it there
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because it's just like a reminder for me.
So sometimes when I go back into like,when I like fall into the feeling of
being lost, and like that frustration,anxiety comes in, and then I start like,
you know, with the mind drama again, Istart overthinking and overcomplicating
things I kind of can go to my notion huband just look at the list and be like, oh,
yeah, that was like the goal or oh yeah,that was the focus so then after I time
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block and set up my morning and eveningroutines and then get really Intentional
about what I want to do or don't do.
This is when I start bringing in mysupport so this is when I communicate my
goals to my partner to my family, to myfriends, to team Quirky, to my colleagues.
This is where I, I also needsupport to make it happen.
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So I pull in the peoplethat can support me.
And then I also use the systemsthat I have to support me.
That is like the tangible and logical.
I feel like this is easiersaid like explained visually.
So maybe a podcast episode mightnot be the best way to explain
this, but I did record a YouTubevideo on setting up the system.
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So if you want to take a look at whatmy Google calendar looks like and how
I've set it up using like my notion huband all of that, then I will link it in
the show notes and you can watch it andkind of like see a visual representation.
So that is what I like to doto keep myself disciplined.
And then emotionally, mentally,and spiritually, this is
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what I like to do as well.
I also journal.
Uh, a lot.
I am an avid journaler.
I journal every single day in the morning.
I pick an affirmation card to helpme with like a question to explore.
I look up Pinterest journaling prompts.
I have my own journaling promptsthat I like to kind of like reuse.
I've worked through the Artist'sWay, which is an awesome book to
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explore and unlock my creativity.
So I use like lots of differenttools to journal and I set a like.
Slot every day in my in my morningroutine to journal before I start work
something else that I also do is Icontinue with therapy to work on all
the hidden and past things holdingme back from actually moving forward
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and My therapist has really helped menotice roles I have in my relationship
specifically with my family like whatthese rules look like the patterns That
I have in these roles and the cycles thatI perpetuate unconscious habits I have
and also unconscious things that likeI recreate so routines that I fall into
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and then that's therapy work in general.
And then something else that I also do isI set up little celebrations for myself.
So this one's super important because Ijust need celebrations to like recognize
that I have reached specific milestonesand they can be like small milestones.
It doesn't even need to be big ones.
Like a big milestone for me usingthe example of getting my driver's
license that would be like holdingthe physical driver's license.
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That would be awesome.
Uh, that is like a big celebration,but like a little celebration for me
is like, okay, today I actually took.
Three tests online and one thing Ilove doing is like I have a little
habit tracker in my bullet journaland I just cross off the date and that
seems so small but the satisfaction Ihonestly feel crossing that off and then
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looking at it month by month to see.
How many days I actually studied-TheQuirky Pineapple Studiolove that stuff.
I celebrate it.
And I go, who I interviewed inseason two, episode five talks
about this when she talks aboutdeveloping a mindfulness practice.
So just being mindful of like, okay,where you are, what you're doing
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and setting up little, I guess likecelebratory things for yourself.
So then you can also recognizethe work that you've put in.
I mean, honestly, itcould be big or small.
It doesn't need.
To be like justified to be a big thing.
You can celebrate any small thing.
Like for real, I lovecelebrating the smallest thing.
So those, I like the tangible and logical,and then emotional, mental, and spiritual
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things that I like to do when it comesto discipline, and I will not lie to you
all this is like the discipline part isprobably the hardest part because it is
actually taking action to change thingsor you know, actively not changing things
because, you know, when you don't makea choice, that's also making a choice.
Mindfuck there.
Um, but it's really like, it is hard.
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Like, honestly, I'm like talkingto you all about this and talking
about discipline and like thesystems and routines I set up.
But honestly, I could wake up and haveall of these systems set up, have all of
these routines to be disciplined aboutit and like take the action steps I need.
And I could wake up andbe like, eh, not today.
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Or, eh, I don't feel like it.
Or, eh, the bed's too warm,I'm not getting up to do this.
And that, I think, is where, like,the self compassion comes in,
because, like, this stuff is hard.
Changing?
Fucking hard.
Changing things that you don't like?
Also really hard.
Changing things and then acceptingand, like, acknowledging that
something has to change, or that youwant to do something differently?
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Difficult.
Giving up?
it midway because maybe youfell off the wagon one day and
then like restarting, also hard.
Like, discipline, people say it allthe time and I feel like I watch
all of these, like, inspirationalclips on TikTok or Instagram or any
social media, YouTube, whatever.
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When they talk about it, they always saylike, discipline, discipline, discipline.
You need discipline and I get it.
You need discipline.
Like, without discipline, nothing canhappen, but also I feel like you, we
need to couple discipline with selfcompassion, because there are going to
be days where you kind of just don'twant to do it, and instead of, like,
beating yourself up about it, youkind of just say, okay, you know what?
There's tomorrow.
And then you actually start tomorrow.
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But, really, like, y'all, most ofthe time, I, like, don't want to
get my shit together and I justwant to let my shit fly around.
Like, changing?
Not fun.
I say, like, I like change and Ilike spontaneity and I like doing
things and trying different things.
The act of actually doing it and,like, sticking to it, though?
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Fuckin hard.
Not fun.
Kind of like emotionallydraining if I'm being honest.
But then I remember like honestly howbad I, I felt or how bad I feel when
I don't change and then I decide,okay, I'm like tired of my shit now.
Like I'm really tired of my shit.
It fucking reeks.
Then I start working slowly and steadilytowards getting my shit together and I
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fall into like Like I said before, like, Idon't have my shit together all the time.
I fall into these, like, you know, wavesand peaks of, yes, Cassandra's doing it.
And then I drop back down and I'm like,oh, well, this week, not a good week.
But it's just kind of like acceptingthat about myself and then giving myself
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that compassion and not judging myselfabout it, which takes work, like, to be
honest, to give myself that compassion.
I do have my woe is me moments and I letmyself, like, beat myself up about it.
I let myself kind of,like, wallow in my shit.
And then I, I end up being like,okay, well, I'm tired of that.
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Let's go back to trying again andtrying again with like more discipline.
So Here's like I feel like that wasa lot But that is kind of like my
process of getting your shit together.
Now, how do you actuallylive your best life?
Oh, I feel like this is a great question.
I don't know what yourbest life looks like.
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So I don't know fully how totell you to live your best life
because your best life is goingto be different than my best life.
But here is my way of livingyour best life rapid fire style.
Again, starting with a disclaimer,take my words with a grain of salt.
Take what you like, leave the rest.
If you don't agree with me, wecan talk about it on Instagram.
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You can send me a DM @CassandraTLe.
Again, just so you all know, I docome from a background of being middle
class, being able bodied neurotypicaland being from the US with a USA
passport and a native English speaker.
So again, my best life is going tolook different than your best life.
So let's just get intothis rapid fire style.
First one, mind drama.
Eliminating my mind drama,basically being a woe is me person.
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So this doesn't mean I don't letmyself have a moment where I cry and
complain and throw myself a pity party,but it does mean that I let myself
wallow in my shit, like I said before.
And then I actually takeaction and decide, okay.
I'm tired of my shit and move on.
I don't want to get stuck in my minddrama and I don't want to get stuck
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in my pity party or woe is me phase.
Basic when I'm in that, I just likerecreate the loop of being lost
and feeling frustrated and anxious.
Second thing, romanticizing my life.
To be honest, I absolutelylove the life I've created.
I love everything I'm able to do.
I love my routines and schedule.
I love all of it.
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And romanticizing my life is really justhaving those mindful moments where I
just get quiet and kind of look aroundand think what the fuck like I have made
like active decisions and choices toget me where I am today and I love it.
I love it.
I love that I am able to bein my like, you know, really
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colorful, cute office in Toledo.
I am able to record a podcastepisode and share this with you all.
I am able to do thethings that I want to do.
And of course there's things thatI want to change, but I love.
Just like having this mindful moment andsaying yeah, I really fucking did that.
And third thing is taking myself ondates I got this concept from the
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artist way book by Julia Cameron and Iwant to take myself on dates or treat
myself to little things like a reallynice felt pen expensive stickers.
Coffee by myself in the sun.
I want to give younger Cassandraall the extravagance and
indulgences I couldn't have.
And when I take myself on dates, like Iget to live my best life in that moment.
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Like it could be a short moment, itcould be like a full day, whatever it
is, I get to care for myself in that way.
Okay.
Number four, putting effortinto my relationships.
All of my relationships, friends,partner, myself, my family, my clients.
I feel like this is like the livingthe best life part that is actually
uncomfortable and difficult because it'slike this honest, um, how do I say this?
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It's like this honest confession thatI care and I care a lot about the
relationships that I have with you.
And I feel like it's scary, becausewho wants to be that vulnerable a lot?
But I do feel like I, at this point inmy life and at this age, um, I don't
want superficial relationships or justflowy things that don't have substance.
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Like I live far away from my family.
I don't have all of myfriends close to me.
I, I really want realrelationships and to give love now.
Sounds cheesy, right?
Like, who talks like this?
I want to give love now.
Like, platonic love, romantic love,familial love, whatever it is.
Like, I want to give it now, not later.
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And this concept comes from BellHook's book, All About Love, so if you
haven't read it, I highly recommend.
But I just realized that,like, I don't want to not care.
Like, it's really scary to care, butI just, I don't want to not care.
Like, I would rather be known as likethe emotional baby and show you my
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appreciation and care for you thennot so that is number four of what
living my best life rapid fire stylelooks like I'll repeat these again.
And then the last one, forreal, for real, is being delulu.
Honestly, having big audacityenergy towards myself really helps.
It's, to be honest, it's not always there.
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I wish it was a hundred percent ofthe time, but I definitely deal with
imposter syndrome, like the who am Imentality and all of the other things.
But I, I like to remind myself that.
I've got some really awesome experiencesstories and more and that I have
made a reality and I want to make areality and why not give myself that
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big audacious energy to to do it likewhy not give myself the permission to
just fucking go out there and do it.
Did this turn into like amotivational podcast episode?
I don't know, but let merepeat what living my best life
looks like rapid fire style.
To me.
1.
Eliminating mind drama.
2.
Romanticizing my life.
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3.
Taking myself on dates.
4.
Putting effort into myrelationships and 5.
Being Delulu and having bigaudacity energy towards myself.
So, those are what living my bestlife looks and feels like to me.
I would love to know what living yourbest life looks and feels like to you.
I mean, we could sharethings or we could not.
I would love to know.
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Send me a DM on Instagram @cassandraTLeand let is let's chat about it.
So before we wrap up and likeconclude this episode, honestly,
this one, this felt good.
It's really nice.
Let me just take a moment.
It's really nice to be back here solo andchat with you all and share about like.
All of the things that come upthis year and like what's in
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the works and all that stuff.
So again, before we wrap up, just afew reminders that I'm talking about
all of these things to like get yourshit together and live your best life.
But this honestly takes time andrequires equal parts discipline,
again, and self compassion.
Discipline and self compassion andy'all, they need to be together so
that, you know, we give ourselvessoftness and also we keep ourselves
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accountable to our greatness.
If you are tired.
Another reminder, if you'retired of your own shit, then this
could be your time to explore.
Like, I, I, sometimes I lookat myself and I'm like, Mm,
Cassandra, I'm tired of your shit.
And that's when I have to get honestand consider, okay, Well, if I'm
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tired of my shit, my own shit.
Uh, what do I need to do to explore that?
What does that actually look like?
And the last reminder is most ofthe time there can't be someone out
there helping you clean up your shit.
I know, terrible.
Like I used to think like, oh, if thishappens, my shit will be cleaned up.
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Like it could be an accomplishment.
It could be somebody else.
It could be like looking forsomebody else to help me.
But unfortunately, you have toclean up your shit yourself.
I know.
Disgusting.
Asqueroso, as they say in Spanish.
But, yeah.
You gotta clean up your shit yourself.
And, of course, there's like, support.
Like I mentioned before,like, I have support.
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People who kind of like, help me.
But they don't actuallylike, clean up my shit.
I think they kind of just keep meaccountable and cheer me on to clean
up my shit, if that makes sense.
So those are my little reminders.
Before we wrap up and of course,I love ending each episode with
journaling prompts to explore.
So I've got three journalingprompts for you all.
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The first one is what did youlike or didn't like about 2023?
How did you feel in 2023?
And what do you want tochange or keep from 2023?
Those are the journaling prompts.
Honestly, if you want to do itfor 2023, if you're listening
to this episode, it's like 2025.
You honestly could just ask yourselflike what did you like or didn't
like in the last six months?
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How did you feel in the last six months?
And what did you want to changeor keep from the last six months?
All right, y'all.
Thank you for being here.
Thanks for joining this solo episode.
If you want to share what came up foryou, Send me a message on Instagram
@CassandraTLe . The next episode willbe the season finale for season two.
And again, if you want to be includedlike a little audio clip of you in
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season, the season finale, then in theshow notes, I have included a link for
you to send in a little short audio clip.
It could be 30 seconds to aminute answering the question.
What does being lost mean to youand how does that feel in your body?
I would love to include you all, thiscommunity, into the season finale.
Um, I love hearing all of, like,everybody's diverse answers.
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So, if you feel called, I inviteyou to send in a little clip.
Alright, y'all, I will seeyou in the next episode.
I cannot wait to share more.
And until then, stay.
Here's fam.
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Or, you know, actively not changing thingsbecause, you know, when you don't make
a choice, that's also making a choice.
Mind fuck there.
Hello, hello, everyone.
I'm Cassandra Le, and you'relistening to I'm Lost, So What?
The podcast exploring betweenbelonging and carving your own path.
For all the peeps out there who kindof know what you're doing, but still
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question what the fuck is going on.
Yeah, I'm with you.
Woo!
Alright, it has been a while since I'vehad a solo episode and it feels good
to be back here with you all, just you.
In this episode, we are talking abouthow to get your shit together and
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other tips for living your best life.
But before we get into that, Iwant to catch you up on what's
been happening over on my end.
And honestly, we're I've been.
So in 2023, it was a reallyterrible, that sounds dramatic, but
honestly it was a really terribleand a really fantastic year.
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Who knew?
Duality, two things can exist at once,or many things can exist at once if we
want to get into the parallel universes.
But for business, it was rocky, y'all.
We had a loss of clients,a dip in cash flow.
If you work in the marketing industryor in any sense of, or in any terms
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of like content, uh, you'll knowthat artificial intelligence came in
hot and well, it kind of took over.
So there were so many changes inthe industry and for me and my team
at The Quirky Pineapple Studio, wewere really trying to keep up with
it all and also figure out a wayto use AI in our own processes,
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content creation, and all the things.
Most of the time last year, I endedup questioning a lot if I'm actually
building something that I really like.
And I used a lot of last year tobuild and create systems and workflows
to really streamline the business.
Since we had a dip in cashflow and withclients, we actually had a lot of time
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and space to really take a look at oursystems and operations and simplify them.
Simplify and streamline, to be honest,and make it easier for me and the rest
of the team to actually do our work well.
If you're interested inthings like that, let me know.
Send me a DM on Instagram @CassandraTLe.
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If you want.
Like a totally separate episode on that.
This podcast doesn't necessarily coverbusiness things, but that's kind of
what happened in 2023 over at The QuirkyPineapple Studio and the business.
On the personal side of things...
where, where do I even start?
There were a lot of moments, I guess,where I had to learn to put up.
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and hold boundaries.
I had to learn to choose myself.
That sounds also dramatic, buthonestly I had to learn how to
choose myself and voice my feelingsand not feel guilty about them.
Thanks to therapy and my therapistwe've been working on it.
I still feel guilty sometimes, buthonestly the payoff after voicing
my feelings and not feeling guiltyabout them, totally worth it because
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I'm not like harboring resentment.
I think that might have to be anepisode for another day, but But
basically I was working through a lotof like mind drama and all the things.
Those were some of like the personalchallenges that I went through in 2023.
But at the same time, there were alsolike some really beautiful things in 2023.
My partner and I, Mario,we traveled a lot.
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We did something that I've been wantingto do for years since living in Spain,
which is called the Camino de Santiago.
It is a pilgrimage from a certain areapoint in Spain, or actually I think you
can start in Portugal or even France,and you walk for however many kilometers
you want to Santiago de Compostela.
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So that was amazing.
We did a five day pilgrimage,walked 100 kilometers.
Uh, that's maybe breaks downto 20 ish kilometers every day.
Gosh, y'all, like if you ever are thinkingabout doing something like that, I
highly recommend El Camino de Santiago.
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It is beautiful if you go in the summer.
Not too hot.
The weather was amazing.
Well, there was one day that it rainedon us, but it was still amazing.
And the landscape and just like beingin nature, waking up early every
day, putting on my shoes, packingmy backpack, and just walking.
Like, there was nothing elsethat I needed to worry about.
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Gosh, that was amazing.
Like, I think about those fivedays all the time and I'm always
like, should we do it again?
Should we just like, stop and like, Gowalking again or do this pilgrimage.
So that was amazing for 2023.
We got to hang out with lots of people.
I spent time deepeningfriendships and relationships.
I started working towards my goals andmyself, really, I grew in community.
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I, I feel like I started reallymaking friends or connecting
more with people here in Toledo.
I started grounding myself inreally what I wanted in my vision.
And then of course, A big one was Ihosted family for a month, and having
the flexibility and time and space tojust live my life has been, like, super
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fulfilling, very wholesome, I feel likemy soul needed something like that,
and I mean, the icing on the cake wasjust hosting five family members over
four weeks, so I had my youngest sistercome in December 18th, and my last
family member came My middle sisterleft on January 21st, so it was a lot.
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I've never hosted that manypeople in my house before.
Shout out to my partner Mariofor really putting up with that.
I feel like it's a lot to, like, one, hostfamily or host people in general, but to
host your like parents in law, I guess.
In Spanish it's calledconsuegros, or no, los suegros.
To host your in laws and your likesister in laws, even though we're
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not married, but like basically forthat long, I mean, bless his soul.
But it was amazing, like hostingthem, having quality time, hanging
out, and like really sharing my home.
In season one, episode 11, it's calledWhy Home Isn't a Place, like That feeling
I had, like having my family here andexploring a place that I have turned into
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my home, like my routines, my favoritespots, sharing that with them and having
them feel really welcome, I think, andalso at home in my home was honestly,
I feel like I need to do a whole otherepisode for that because that feeling I
don't even know how to describe it yet.
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It's like fulfilling, wholesome,complete, really, I don't know,
gratitude, something like that.
But yeah, that's kind of what'sbeen happening over here.
Like lots of things happen in 2023.
And now I feel like I've got agood foundation and set up to
be super intentional about 2024.
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So that's kind of what's beenhappening over here in Toledo
in May little area of the world.
And before diving into what I've gotplanned for 2024 and this episode
how to get your shit together as wellas other tips to live your best life
I've been asking all of the gueststhat we've had on the season 2.
What does being lost mean to themand I feel like I need to ask myself
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that question first and share withyou all before we dive into like How
to get to your shit together becausewhat does lost even mean or what
does being lost even mean to me?
Well, lots of things apparently.
I've got my notes in front of me andI'm looking at like the little bullet
point list I've made for myself.
The first thing that I'vewritten down is opportunities.
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So being lost to me is likeequal parts opportunities,
frustration, anxiety and magic.
Like I said in the beginning of thisepisode, two things or many things can
be true at once and I honestly feellike being lost is first like definitely
frustrating, frustrating mainly becauseI think I'm like looking externally
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for I guess like benchmarks of whatI should be doing, where I should be,
when I should be doing stuff and thenbecause I'm looking externally not only
am I feeling like the frustration I'malso feeling the anxiety on top of that
because I feel like I am falling behind.
So I feel like it's that for sure, likethis underlying feeling of frustration and
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anxiety because I am looking externally.
And then when I'm looking internally,it is more like this feeling
of, oh, opportunities, magic.
Like I talked about it, I believe inseason one, where I mentioned about
the twilight zone and how in thetwilight zone, nothing is palpable.
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It's like the, you're onthe precipice of something.
And that's where I feel likeopportunities and magic actually happen.
And that is basically whatbeing lost means to me.
Equal parts opportunities,magic mixed with frustration and
anxiety and how that feels usuallyin my body and everyday life.
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Well, for me, it manifests in mychest and I feel like I, I think
I've talked to my therapist aboutthis and a previous life coach when
I have like feelings of anxiety.
It's definitely in my chest.
I feel like it's constricting andI'm like, and most of the time
it's this like unwarranted feelingthat just kind of overcomes my
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body and I just have to like, Whoa.
Pause for a moment and think, okay, let metake some deep breaths here because this
anxiety is like constricting my breathing.
So that's how it feels in my body.
It also creates lots of mind drama.
So when I am feeling lost and youknow, the frustration, anxiety
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is like really taking over.
It definitely creates lots of mind drama.
And when I am talking about mind drama,it is like me overthinking and really,
I guess like getting too granularin things like it is me thinking.
Oh my gosh I don't know what to say.
I don't know what to do.
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I Start like playing scenarios in my brainof like, okay, if I do this, these are
like the repercussions I start creatinglike stories in my brain In my mind,
really, of, like, what could happen,what could go wrong, and that mind
drama basically leads to me being stuckbecause I am basically stuck in fear.
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And in like freeze mode like I'm tooscared to actually do something because I
have created so many stories in my brainand Like overthought every little thing.
So I just don't take action and whenthat happens usually what I have to
do is kind of like take a moment pauseand then kind of like recalibrate,
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not look so externally and look moreinternally, and then start moving into
like the magic and the opportunitiesthat I was talking about before.
So that is what being lost means to me.
And I would love to know whatdoes being lost mean to you?
We are recording the season finaleof season two of I'm lost, so what?
Podcast, and I would love to includeyou all in the season finale episode
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of what being lost means to you andhow does that feel in your body?
I am going to link a little link inthe show notes where you can send
like a 30 second to one minute clipanswering the question and you'll be
included in the season finale thatcomes out at the end of February.
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Okay, now that we've got that here'show to actually get your shit together
and Live your best life because I knowthis is the meaty stuff and this is
what this episode is about anyways.
So I'm starting with a disclaimer, um,because I feel like whenever I watch
videos about this on YouTube or listento podcasts or I see other people's
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posts, this might be a me thing.
So I am like, Wow, they just likelive such a perfect life and,
you know, I end up accidentallyputting those people on a pedestal.
And I am just going to start witha disclaimer and say, take my
words, really, like this entireepisode with a grain of salt.
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Take what you like.
Leave the rest.
If you don't agree withme, let's talk about it.
You can send me a DM onInstagram @CassandraTLe.
I want to start this episode sharingthat I do come from a background of being
middle class raised in the United States.
I am able bodied, I am neurotypical, andI am from the United States with a US
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passport and a native English speaker.
So, When I'm saying learn, like, let'sget our shit together and live your
best life, like, I'm already startingthere with, like, certain privileges.
Yes, I am also AsianAmerican, Vietnamese American.
Yes, I am an immigrant living in Spain,but I do have a base to start from, so.
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Again, take this with a grain ofsalt, take what you like, leave the
rest, and let's just dive into it.
Okay, so getting your shit together.
Going to, I'm going to sharelike three ways to start.
I am definitely not saying thatI always have my shit together.
Most of the time, I kind of don't.
I'm kind of like, I'm kindof winging it sometimes.
Most of the time I do feellike my shit ebbs and flows.
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Um, that was very.
visual.
Some days are really better than others,but I return to the simple like system
and ritual that I've developed andit has helped me recalibrate when I
feel really like out of sorts or lostlike what I was mentioning before.
So the first thing to do, and this ismy system, so this is what works for
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me and I say take some of whateveryou are interested in and then you
can adapt it to what works for you.
But the thing that I usually do in thebeginning if I'm feeling like lost,
out of sorts, if I feel like oof, Ido not have my shit together today.
I basically take stock and notice things.
I cannot get, personally, I can't getmy shit together if I don't know what
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shit is splattered all over the place.
That was also very visual.
But really, like, I cannot getmy shit together if I don't know.
What my shit is.
So I like to take stock andnotice things in my life.
I usually do this through journaling,reflection activities, and really,
you can do this however feelscomfortable and supportive for you.
One of the examples that I wantto mention is the wheel of life.
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It is an activity, basically a wheel,and then what you do is like you divide
it into I think six categories, and itcould be things like personal, spiritual,
romantic, play, work, and health, maybe?
And then you kind of like rank ineach category, the error, like the
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number that you feel is most adequate.
And usually it's numbers one to10, uh, 10 being like, Oh yeah, you
feel super satisfied and fulfilled.
And then what you do after yourank each section with like little
dots is you connect them and itbasically makes a little web.
So it's super visual.
I just did that activity.
In December or January, and I sawthat, oop, my physical and friendship
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area was like at number three, soI need to work on that this year.
So, some of the things that I liketo review and take note of are how
I feel on a day to day basis, weeklybasis, monthly, quarterly, and yearly.
Any specific milestone moments.
So, When I'm talking milestonemoments, I'm not saying like
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really awesome things all the time.
I am also marking down challengingmilestone moments and also
feel good milestone moments.
And that is, those are like milestonemoments that I've had through the
weeks, months, quarters, and year.
And I kind of Like when I list out thesemilestone moments, I then kind of go in
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and think about, okay, what happened?
Why did it happen?
How did I contribute to it?
How did I feel?
And also a super importantquestion is, do I want to change
it or do I want to keep at it?
So let's say for example, I writedown a milestone moment that's good.
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And I go through like thosequestions that I just mentioned.
And the last one is do I want tochange or do I want to keep it?
And that one would be if it'slike a feel good thing, then
of course I want to keep it.
So now the question goes to,okay, if I want to keep feeling
this or keep experiencing momentslike this, what do I need to do
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to continuously make that happen?
And if it were like a milestonemoment that was a challenge that
I'm like, oh, I do not like that.
I did not like that.
I don't want to ever experiencesomething like that again.
Then I ask myself, okay, yeah,of course I want to change that.
And that takes me to the next questionof, okay, what do I need to do to
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actually change that so that I don'texperience like crippling anxiety again?
So those are just someof the other things.
to consider when you arewriting down milestone moments.
And then another one that I liketo take note of is people I spent
most of my time and energy with.
So this is basically taking stock ofmy relationships that I have, whether
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with my partner, with my family, withmy friends, with colleagues, with
just like random people if I go tolike networking events or something.
And then I ask myself, didthey add to my life, take away?
Was I feeling fulfilled or chaotic?
I will say that like, when I go throughthis, like, activity and I talk about
how I feel or list out milestonemoments, like, those are easy for me
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and they're very fun to do becauseI just, I like reflecting and kind
of, like, taking note of how thingshave happened and what has happened.
It's also a really nice way for me tojust feel gratitude for how far I've come.
I will say when I ask myselfabout relationships and people.
This is like the superuncomfortable section for me
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because I am a huge people pleaser.
Well, I'm like a huge peoplepleaser in, what is that word?
Rehab?
Yeah, I'm in rehab for that.
It's called therapy.
Um, but I, I've hung out with somepeople who, I mean, I, I'm sure you all
have felt it, like where you've hungout with people who re- energized you
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and then people who drain your energy.
It's not like, you know, you don't likethem because they drain your energy,
it's just that, you know, they justdon't, they're not your vibe right now.
So I have to answer that question too,and that question is super uncomfortable
for me because that means that I needto, again, start taking action to kind
of either spend more time or developa deeper relationship with someone or
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I need to be honest with myself andto limit my time with him and this is
not me saying like oh go out and tellsomebody like oh my gosh you like drain
my energy you suck no this is more likeokay I've noticed this what do I need
to do to make sure that I feel good.
So once you've got all of that and allof the answers to this, like taking stock
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and reflection, we are going to moveinto the next step, which is actually
making a plan for you to get yourshit together and live your best life.
This part I think is probably like themost fun for me because this is when
you feel well, I don't know if youall feel it, but I definitely feel it.
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This is when I feel like super jazzed up.
I'm like excited.
I am really feeling expansive andI am thinking about all of the
possibilities that I could get done.
And then I like to make a concreteplan to actually make that happen.
So this is when I get to dream, envisionamazing, dreamy things for myself.
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I like to really just Letmy imagination play here.
I feel like this is the most fun part.
I mean, reflecting is also fun, butlike making a plan, it's just like,
it's like inspiring and motivating.
And it's like, oh my gosh, I'mgonna, it's gonna, I'm gonna
change, it's gonna happen.
So here's how I actually make a plan.
I usually start off with goals.
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So I brain dump all my goals into my, um,Notion hub template and I kind of just
like list whatever goals I feel like Iwant to accomplish Like it could be this
year if we're talking 2024 It could behonestly whenever and then what I do is
I break those goals up into quarters.
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So instead of trying to tackle all ofthe goals all the time during the year.
I like to basically Consider okay, what?
is my life kind of looking atlike, and where does it make
sense to approach these goals?
So let's say for example, this year,I know I will be traveling back
to the United States, maybe twice,because I have weddings to go to.
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And if I am traveling for weddings, andthen potentially seeing family and seeing
friends and maybe staying a little bitlonger in the United States, I'm going to
need goals that are less grand and lessbig or less like energy consuming and
goals that are a little bit easier becauseI know when I'm traveling I just don't
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have like the emotional physical energeticcapacity like I would have if I were
just at home living my normal routine.
So after I bring down my goals, Ibreak them up into quarters And then
after I break them up into quartersfrom those quarters, I decide okay,
which month do I want to tackle them?
if I'm thinking, okay, in January, Iwant to focus on these goals in February,
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these goals in March, these goals.
And then after I do that, that'swhen I finally write out action
steps to make them happen.
I will say that before you likeprobably break up these goals into
quarters or months, maybe think aboutwhat your year kind of looks like.
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So for example, I mentioned traveland I mentioned like, okay, I'm
traveling to the United States.
So those times I know that My bandwidth toactually do something is probably going to
be a little, like, more limited because Ijust don't have, like, the same capacity
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I would have if I were at home doing mything if I know that, for example, in
Spain, in July, August, well, it's reallyhot here, at least in Toledo, where I
live, and nobody really does anything,people kind of just, like, take off for
the summer and they just chill and relax.
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So for me, you know, in July, August,if I have goals that potentially involve
other people, or if I have specificgoals around X, Y, Z, I know in July,
August, it'll be a little bit more chill,so I can do maybe more personal goals.
So I would.
break, like, map out your year first.
If you know, like, what you haveplanned, put that in first, and then
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once you have your brain dumped goals,break them up into quarters, and then
you can break them up into months.
And then once you do that, then we getinto the action steps to make it happen.
I like to assign specific time framesfor when I'll be focusing on specific
goals because it keeps me focusedand I won't actually get distracted.
So an example is this year I'm likespeaking this out into the universe
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because honestly, I've been sayingthis for maybe four years and I haven't
actually taken the action steps to makeit happen And I think I like rushed
into it, but I am getting my Spanishdriver's license if you have like if
you live abroad, then you know whatit's like to potentially get your
driver's license or not But in Spain,this is a little bit more technical.
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I don't know if you all care aboutthis, but in Spain I cannot drive
legally even though I have mylicense back in the United States.
I could have Like whatis the word switched it?
I guess, and gotten my Spanish driver'slicense earlier when I first arrived
to Spain to live here permanentlywithin like the first six months.
But because I didn't know to dothat, um, I got to start from zero.
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So I am learning how to drive stickshift and I have to take my theory test.
So my goal is to have itby the end of the year.
So now retroactively, I needto be studying for it now.
So I am like listing out what myaction steps are and then the months,
quarters that I plan to make it happen.
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So one action step is to take threetests daily and that is something that
I can start where I started in January.
And i'm going to continueuntil I feel confident to
actually take the actual test.
Um, I plan on registering for drivingschool in quarter two and then that
will give me time to practice drivingstick shift and in spanish with like
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a spanish instructor And then gettingmy license by the end of the year
.So, once I have those action plans, then it's about setting up a system to
support these goals and make it a reality.
And we'll talk about that next, butthat is kind of how I make my plan.
And then, actually, make action stepsor set action steps to make that
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plan a reality because I feel likeand this happens with my clients
at The Quirky Pineapple Studio.
This is like a marketing sentence, butit applies I think to everybody else
generally what happens usually with ourclients at The Quirky Pineapple Studio.
They come up with like this grand planfor marketing and they want to do all
of this content marketing and they wantto do launches and sales campaigns.
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And that is awesome.
Totally here for that.
We love supporting our clients doing that.
But what usually happens is theymake the plan, but then they don't
actually set up the action steps.
And the action steps are superimportant because Basically, this is
how you know that you're going to like,you know, carry out your strategy.
And not only are the action stepsimportant, it's really important
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to set up a system to actuallysupport your action steps.
So for example, if our clientswant to do more video content.
Then a system that they probablyneed to set up is one to record
videos and batch record content.
So then they can send it to us and thenwe can edit that content send it back to
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them for revision and then post it andall of that needs to be supported by a
system like Marketing systems and like allof that stuff because if you don't have
that then your action steps just kind ofour action says well Then you don't you
end up not having time to carry out youraction says because you haven't changed
the system to support them That waslike super technical, but let me know if
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that like example made sense to you all.
But yeah, that's like the planning part.
The next part is setting up thesystem to like support these
goals and make it a reality.
This part is, oh, this part I don'tthink is like the fun part because like
when you review and reflect you feelgood and then you kind of like know more
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and you have data to you know, act on.
And then you also can feel likegratitude and feel good about
where you've, like, how far you'vegrown and all of that stuff.
Making the plan is like superexciting because then you feel like
inspired and motivated and you'relike, oh my gosh, this can happen.
I can do this.
And then, uh, setting up the system toactually make the action steps happen.
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Now this part I feel like sucks.
This is the part I call discipline.
And this is where I feel like alot of people, myself included,
fall off that motivation train.
We fall off that motivation andinspiration train and we're just like,
well, this is like a lot harder to cut,like, to get your shit together and
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live your best life than we anticipated.
And this is where change.
is actually required.
This is where action is actuallyneeded, and this is where discipline
is probably the most important thing.
Okay, well, I say discipline, but Ialso want to include, like, I think
discipline and self compassion.
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So, tangibly and logically,I'm just going to walk you all
through, like, my process for this.
Um, I've broken it down tangibly andlogically, and then I've also broken it
down emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
Y'all know.
I love having like the tangiblewith like the spiritual stuff.
So tangibly and logically,this is what I like to do.
I like to time block on my Googlecalendar to actually know, okay,
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when am I going to do stuff?
I know it sounds like really lame to liketime block and just know exactly what
you're going to do every day, especiallyfor the people who are like, Oh, I want
like inspiration to strike and I wantlike spontaneity and all of that stuff.
But honestly, having the systemallows me to even be more
creative because I know every day.
Not every day, but like, I knowon Mondays at 10 o'clock, this
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is when I'm recording content.
I know on Tuesdays at 10 o'clock, thatis when I'm sitting down to script
out podcast episodes, to script outYouTube video outlines, to script
out reels and all of that stuff.
And that actually gives my mindlike, okay, I know Tuesday, I'm
gonna wake up and I'm gonna do this.
That makes it super, super easy.
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So when I time block on mycalendar, I start setting up my
morning and evening routines andthat sets me up for a good day.
And then I get really, reallyintentionable, intentionable, um, what?
I get really intentionable.
intentional, okay, intentional,y'all, about what I want to do
or don't do in my notion hub.
I basically have lots of lists for thisand I kind of just like keep it there
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because it's just like a reminder for me.
So sometimes when I go back into like,when I like fall into the feeling of
being lost, and like that frustration,anxiety comes in, and then I start like,
you know, with the mind drama again, Istart overthinking and overcomplicating
things I kind of can go to my notion huband just look at the list and be like, oh,
yeah, that was like the goal or oh yeah,that was the focus so then after I time
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block and set up my morning and eveningroutines and then get really Intentional
about what I want to do or don't do.
This is when I start bringing in mysupport so this is when I communicate my
goals to my partner to my family, to myfriends, to team Quirky, to my colleagues.
This is where I, I also needsupport to make it happen.
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So I pull in the peoplethat can support me.
And then I also use the systemsthat I have to support me.
That is like the tangible and logical.
I feel like this is easiersaid like explained visually.
So maybe a podcast episode mightnot be the best way to explain
this, but I did record a YouTubevideo on setting up the system.
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So if you want to take a look at whatmy Google calendar looks like and how
I've set it up using like my notion huband all of that, then I will link it in
the show notes and you can watch it andkind of like see a visual representation.
So that is what I like to doto keep myself disciplined.
And then emotionally, mentally,and spiritually, this is
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what I like to do as well.
I also journal.
Uh, a lot.
I am an avid journaler.
I journal every single day in the morning.
I pick an affirmation card to helpme with like a question to explore.
I look up Pinterest journaling prompts.
I have my own journaling promptsthat I like to kind of like reuse.
I've worked through the Artist'sWay, which is an awesome book to
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explore and unlock my creativity.
So I use like lots of differenttools to journal and I set a like.
Slot every day in my in my morningroutine to journal before I start work
something else that I also do is Icontinue with therapy to work on all
the hidden and past things holdingme back from actually moving forward
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and My therapist has really helped menotice roles I have in my relationship
specifically with my family like whatthese rules look like the patterns That
I have in these roles and the cycles thatI perpetuate unconscious habits I have
and also unconscious things that likeI recreate so routines that I fall into
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and then that's therapy work in general.
And then something else that I also do isI set up little celebrations for myself.
So this one's super important because Ijust need celebrations to like recognize
that I have reached specific milestonesand they can be like small milestones.
It doesn't even need to be big ones.
Like a big milestone for me usingthe example of getting my driver's
license that would be like holdingthe physical driver's license.
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That would be awesome.
Uh, that is like a big celebration,but like a little celebration for me
is like, okay, today I actually took.
Three tests online and one thing Ilove doing is like I have a little
habit tracker in my bullet journaland I just cross off the date and that
seems so small but the satisfaction Ihonestly feel crossing that off and then
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looking at it month by month to see.
How many days I actually studied-TheQuirky Pineapple Studiolove that stuff.
I celebrate it.
And I go, who I interviewed inseason two, episode five talks
about this when she talks aboutdeveloping a mindfulness practice.
So just being mindful of like, okay,where you are, what you're doing
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and setting up little, I guess likecelebratory things for yourself.
So then you can also recognizethe work that you've put in.
I mean, honestly, itcould be big or small.
It doesn't need.
To be like justified to be a big thing.
You can celebrate any small thing.
Like for real, I lovecelebrating the smallest thing.
So those, I like the tangible and logical,and then emotional, mental, and spiritual
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things that I like to do when it comesto discipline, and I will not lie to you
all this is like the discipline part isprobably the hardest part because it is
actually taking action to change thingsor you know, actively not changing things
because, you know, when you don't makea choice, that's also making a choice.
Mindfuck there.
Um, but it's really like, it is hard.
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Like, honestly, I'm like talkingto you all about this and talking
about discipline and like thesystems and routines I set up.
But honestly, I could wake up and haveall of these systems set up, have all of
these routines to be disciplined aboutit and like take the action steps I need.
And I could wake up andbe like, eh, not today.
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Or, eh, I don't feel like it.
Or, eh, the bed's too warm,I'm not getting up to do this.
And that, I think, is where, like,the self compassion comes in,
because, like, this stuff is hard.
Changing?
Fucking hard.
Changing things that you don't like?
Also really hard.
Changing things and then acceptingand, like, acknowledging that
something has to change, or that youwant to do something differently?
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Difficult.
Giving up?
it midway because maybe youfell off the wagon one day and
then like restarting, also hard.
Like, discipline, people say it allthe time and I feel like I watch
all of these, like, inspirationalclips on TikTok or Instagram or any
social media, YouTube, whatever.
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When they talk about it, they always saylike, discipline, discipline, discipline.
You need discipline and I get it.
You need discipline.
Like, without discipline, nothing canhappen, but also I feel like you, we
need to couple discipline with selfcompassion, because there are going to
be days where you kind of just don'twant to do it, and instead of, like,
beating yourself up about it, youkind of just say, okay, you know what?
There's tomorrow.
And then you actually start tomorrow.
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But, really, like, y'all, most ofthe time, I, like, don't want to
get my shit together and I justwant to let my shit fly around.
Like, changing?
Not fun.
I say, like, I like change and Ilike spontaneity and I like doing
things and trying different things.
The act of actually doing it and,like, sticking to it, though?
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Fuckin hard.
Not fun.
Kind of like emotionallydraining if I'm being honest.
But then I remember like honestly howbad I, I felt or how bad I feel when
I don't change and then I decide,okay, I'm like tired of my shit now.
Like I'm really tired of my shit.
It fucking reeks.
Then I start working slowly and steadilytowards getting my shit together and I
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fall into like Like I said before, like, Idon't have my shit together all the time.
I fall into these, like, you know, wavesand peaks of, yes, Cassandra's doing it.
And then I drop back down and I'm like,oh, well, this week, not a good week.
But it's just kind of like acceptingthat about myself and then giving myself
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that compassion and not judging myselfabout it, which takes work, like, to be
honest, to give myself that compassion.
I do have my woe is me moments and I letmyself, like, beat myself up about it.
I let myself kind of,like, wallow in my shit.
And then I, I end up being like,okay, well, I'm tired of that.
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Let's go back to trying again andtrying again with like more discipline.
So Here's like I feel like that wasa lot But that is kind of like my
process of getting your shit together.
Now, how do you actuallylive your best life?
Oh, I feel like this is a great question.
I don't know what yourbest life looks like.
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So I don't know fully how totell you to live your best life
because your best life is goingto be different than my best life.
But here is my way of livingyour best life rapid fire style.
Again, starting with a disclaimer,take my words with a grain of salt.
Take what you like, leave the rest.
If you don't agree with me, wecan talk about it on Instagram.
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You can send me a DM @CassandraTLe.
Again, just so you all know, I docome from a background of being middle
class, being able bodied neurotypicaland being from the US with a USA
passport and a native English speaker.
So again, my best life is going tolook different than your best life.
So let's just get intothis rapid fire style.
First one, mind drama.
Eliminating my mind drama,basically being a woe is me person.
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So this doesn't mean I don't letmyself have a moment where I cry and
complain and throw myself a pity party,but it does mean that I let myself
wallow in my shit, like I said before.
And then I actually takeaction and decide, okay.
I'm tired of my shit and move on.
I don't want to get stuck in my minddrama and I don't want to get stuck
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in my pity party or woe is me phase.
Basic when I'm in that, I just likerecreate the loop of being lost
and feeling frustrated and anxious.
Second thing, romanticizing my life.
To be honest, I absolutelylove the life I've created.
I love everything I'm able to do.
I love my routines and schedule.
I love all of it.
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And romanticizing my life is really justhaving those mindful moments where I
just get quiet and kind of look aroundand think what the fuck like I have made
like active decisions and choices toget me where I am today and I love it.
I love it.
I love that I am able to bein my like, you know, really
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colorful, cute office in Toledo.
I am able to record a podcastepisode and share this with you all.
I am able to do thethings that I want to do.
And of course there's things thatI want to change, but I love.
Just like having this mindful moment andsaying yeah, I really fucking did that.
And third thing is taking myself ondates I got this concept from the
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artist way book by Julia Cameron and Iwant to take myself on dates or treat
myself to little things like a reallynice felt pen expensive stickers.
Coffee by myself in the sun.
I want to give younger Cassandraall the extravagance and
indulgences I couldn't have.
And when I take myself on dates, like Iget to live my best life in that moment.
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Like it could be a short moment, itcould be like a full day, whatever it
is, I get to care for myself in that way.
Okay.
Number four, putting effortinto my relationships.
All of my relationships, friends,partner, myself, my family, my clients.
I feel like this is like the livingthe best life part that is actually
uncomfortable and difficult because it'slike this honest, um, how do I say this?
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It's like this honest confession thatI care and I care a lot about the
relationships that I have with you.
And I feel like it's scary, becausewho wants to be that vulnerable a lot?
But I do feel like I, at this point inmy life and at this age, um, I don't
want superficial relationships or justflowy things that don't have substance.
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Like I live far away from my family.
I don't have all of myfriends close to me.
I, I really want realrelationships and to give love now.
Sounds cheesy, right?
Like, who talks like this?
I want to give love now.
Like, platonic love, romantic love,familial love, whatever it is.
Like, I want to give it now, not later.
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And this concept comes from BellHook's book, All About Love, so if you
haven't read it, I highly recommend.
But I just realized that,like, I don't want to not care.
Like, it's really scary to care, butI just, I don't want to not care.
Like, I would rather be known as likethe emotional baby and show you my
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appreciation and care for you thennot so that is number four of what
living my best life rapid fire stylelooks like I'll repeat these again.
And then the last one, forreal, for real, is being delulu.
Honestly, having big audacityenergy towards myself really helps.
It's, to be honest, it's not always there.
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I wish it was a hundred percent ofthe time, but I definitely deal with
imposter syndrome, like the who am Imentality and all of the other things.
But I, I like to remind myself that.
I've got some really awesome experiencesstories and more and that I have
made a reality and I want to make areality and why not give myself that
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big audacious energy to to do it likewhy not give myself the permission to
just fucking go out there and do it.
Did this turn into like amotivational podcast episode?
I don't know, but let merepeat what living my best life
looks like rapid fire style.
To me.
1.
Eliminating mind drama.
2.
Romanticizing my life.
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3.
Taking myself on dates.
4.
Putting effort into myrelationships and 5.
Being Delulu and having bigaudacity energy towards myself.
So, those are what living my bestlife looks and feels like to me.
I would love to know what living yourbest life looks and feels like to you.
I mean, we could sharethings or we could not.
I would love to know.
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Send me a DM on Instagram @cassandraTLeand let is let's chat about it.
So before we wrap up and likeconclude this episode, honestly,
this one, this felt good.
It's really nice.
Let me just take a moment.
It's really nice to be back here solo andchat with you all and share about like.
All of the things that come upthis year and like what's in
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the works and all that stuff.
So again, before we wrap up, just afew reminders that I'm talking about
all of these things to like get yourshit together and live your best life.
But this honestly takes time andrequires equal parts discipline,
again, and self compassion.
Discipline and self compassion andy'all, they need to be together so
that, you know, we give ourselvessoftness and also we keep ourselves
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accountable to our greatness.
If you are tired.
Another reminder, if you'retired of your own shit, then this
could be your time to explore.
Like, I, I, sometimes I lookat myself and I'm like, Mm,
Cassandra, I'm tired of your shit.
And that's when I have to get honestand consider, okay, Well, if I'm
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tired of my shit, my own shit.
Uh, what do I need to do to explore that?
What does that actually look like?
And the last reminder is most ofthe time there can't be someone out
there helping you clean up your shit.
I know, terrible.
Like I used to think like, oh, if thishappens, my shit will be cleaned up.
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Like it could be an accomplishment.
It could be somebody else.
It could be like looking forsomebody else to help me.
But unfortunately, you have toclean up your shit yourself.
I know.
Disgusting.
Asqueroso, as they say in Spanish.
But, yeah.
You gotta clean up your shit yourself.
And, of course, there's like, support.
Like I mentioned before,like, I have support.
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People who kind of like, help me.
But they don't actuallylike, clean up my shit.
I think they kind of just keep meaccountable and cheer me on to clean
up my shit, if that makes sense.
So those are my little reminders.
Before we wrap up and of course,I love ending each episode with
journaling prompts to explore.
So I've got three journalingprompts for you all.
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The first one is what did youlike or didn't like about 2023?
How did you feel in 2023?
And what do you want tochange or keep from 2023?
Those are the journaling prompts.
Honestly, if you want to do itfor 2023, if you're listening
to this episode, it's like 2025.
You honestly could just ask yourselflike what did you like or didn't
like in the last six months?
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How did you feel in the last six months?
And what did you want to changeor keep from the last six months?
All right, y'all.
Thank you for being here.
Thanks for joining this solo episode.
If you want to share what came up foryou, Send me a message on Instagram
@CassandraTLe . The next episode willbe the season finale for season two.
And again, if you want to be includedlike a little audio clip of you in
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season, the season finale, then in theshow notes, I have included a link for
you to send in a little short audio clip.
It could be 30 seconds to aminute answering the question.
What does being lost mean to youand how does that feel in your body?
I would love to include you all, thiscommunity, into the season finale.
Um, I love hearing all of, like,everybody's diverse answers.
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So, if you feel called, I inviteyou to send in a little clip.
Alright, y'all, I will seeyou in the next episode.
I cannot wait to share more.
And until then, stay.
Here's fam.
If you're hearing this message, that meansyou made it to the end of the episode.
Yay.
Thanks for listening.
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like to see covered on the podcast,send me a message on Instagram
@CassandraTLe . with your idea.
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