May 7, 2024 • 33 mins
A huge shift is taking place in my heart y'all. My priorities are shifting. Things that used to keep me up at night just don't anymore. "Making it" by the world's standards and crafting a certain image for myself just feels like a silly waste of time. I'm saying goodbye to being obsessed with my own little world and myself, always trying to be right and justified in my perspective...
When you operate from the ego, peace is not possible. You focus on things you think will ultimately make you happy but actually leave you empty: status, money, titles, self-importance, accolades, recognition, credit, and praise.
I used to think humility was the opposite extreme of this: shrinking yourself, not caring about success at all, and operating from a place of low self-esteem.
But it's not that at all. Humility is actually how we tame our ego and find true peace, wonder in the world, joy, contentment, and purpose. Tune in to hear more <3
Resources Mentioned in this episode:
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:12):
Beautiful people.
I have so much tea to spill today.
It is ridiculous.
So I'm going to need you tobuckle the Frick up and get ready
to talk about some deep shit.
Okay.
Welcome back to thewrestling with life podcast.
If you are brand new here,hello, my name is I'm led.
I'm your wrestling with life host.
And if you are an overthinker, Andyou get in your head a lot, but you
(00:36):
have some big dreams and goals, thenyou're going to want to stick around
because that is the exact type ofperson that this podcast is created for.
I'm also one of those people.
And during wrestling with life, we getout of our heads together and we learn how
to give ourselves grace, how to correctnegative self talk and how to wake up and
grab life by the balls every single day.
(00:59):
So make sure to hit that followbutton and to keep tuning back in for
episodes every single Tuesday, baby.
Boy, oh boy, have I got a crazywild topic to talk about today.
I don't want to sound like I'm tryingto be some spiritual guru when I say
this, but I've kind of been goingthrough what I would consider a spiritual
(01:20):
awakening and just kind of waking up to.
The reality of the world around us andof myself and just outgrowing so many old
patterns of thinking and heart posturesthat I want to share with you today
because I am arriving at a place in mylife where I genuinely feel the most joy
(01:42):
and peace and self acceptance that I thinkI've ever felt, at least in my adult life.
And I feel kind of like a littlekid again in a lot of ways, but
with the maturity and the wisdomof an adult and I'm 26 relax.
I'm not trying to say I'vemastered life or anything.
And no, you guys know that, you know,we're all doing our best out here.
(02:05):
Nobody has it figured out.
I will stand by that till the day I die.
But all of the things that we kind of talkabout on this podcast, like How to set
boundaries, how to stop people pleasing,how to stop chameleoning, how to stop,
like, living your life for other people.
Basically, I have just really beenembodying that in my life in a really
(02:26):
radical way for a while now, and it'sbeen really small, slow changes over time,
but because I have practiced the thingsthat we talk about and really, like,
held myself back, To that standard ofauthenticity and integrity and humility.
I find myself in the positionthat I've always wanted to be in.
(02:47):
And so what I'm saying is likedoing the stuff that we talk about
on this podcast actually works.
And I am experiencing that.
So today I just want to share with you.
what that feels like, what thatlooks like, and how you can kind
of try on some of these mentalitiesand practices to hopefully feel that
same kind of peace for yourself.
(03:07):
So I had this really cool experience theother day when I went to the park to read.
I brought my little blanket with me.
I brought a good book I was reading.
The sunshine was out.
It was like 85 degrees and sunny.
So happy the weather's finally changing.
And as I laid down on my littleblanket and I started reading and I
was basking in the sun, I was just likeso content and I felt so much peace.
(03:33):
I was looking around me and justobserving everyone going about their
lives and interacting with other people,you know, throwing the ball for dogs.
Babies being pushed in strollers.
There was chatter and laughter.
And as I'm sitting there in thepark, I'm just like, Oh my God,
like this is what life is all about.
Life is all about existing and enjoyingGod's creation and being in the
(03:59):
sun and being connected to nature.
Like my feet were in the grass.
And I just felt like so much contentmentand then out of nowhere, this
beautiful butterfly comes and likelands on the book that I'm reading.
Like, no joke.
This beautiful orange,yellow, and black butterfly.
And I'm like, Oh my God,like, what are the odds?
(04:20):
So I'm like, not moving.
Cause I don't want toscare this butterfly away.
Right.
I'm just like a statuestill just like enjoying it.
And I'm like, how cool, like thisbutterfly came to hang out with me.
I shit you not when I tell you thatthis butterfly for the next hour
and a half kept flying away for abrief second and then coming back to
me, landing on my shoes, my bag, myblanket, my book, almost on me at one
(04:42):
point, it would not leave me alone.
It was literally obsessed with me.
And so.
Of course, you know how I am.
I'm deep.
I'm like, what does this mean?
Like, why is this butterflynot leaving me alone?
Like, what is going on?
So I start scouring the internet tofigure out what kind of butterfly this is.
Like, what kind of symbolismcould this butterfly have?
(05:03):
I know that butterflies ingeneral symbolize, you know,
growth, transformation, um,kind of like being born again.
Like you think about the process ofa butterfly's life, like starting
out as a caterpillar, going intoa little chrysalis and becoming a
butterfly transformation, right?
So I knew that much and I had beensuspecting for a while that I was
(05:23):
kind of like turning the corner.
On some of the self growth because Iwas just noticing such a difference
in myself and my mentalities andjust the peace that I've had lately.
I had a suspicion, I guess already, butthen I like was scouring the internet for
this picture of the butterfly to figureout what kind of butterfly this is.
And it took me forever to figure outthat It was a red admiral monarch.
(05:46):
Butterfly.
And this butterfly specifically isa symbol of spiritual awakening.
And I literally almost shit mypants like sitting here at the park
because I'm like, okay, God, like,you're trying to tell me something.
You're trying to tell me thatsomething's happening in my heart.
And that's how I interpreted it becausethat's something that I had been expecting
already, or kind of, I don't know,like suspecting of myself, I guess.
(06:09):
And that felt like confirmation from God.
I, in general, I've just been feelingso much more connected to nature,
to myself, to God, to other people.
And I'm really coming out of a very, like,self obsessed and self focused period
of my life, and I'm really embracinghumility and, like, realizing that I'm
(06:34):
not as special and great as I think I am.
I know that sounds bad, but justreally being woken up to the fact
that life is not all about me.
Life is not all about my individualsuccess, Life is all about, I guess,
getting comfortable with yourself andyour humanity, and just realizing that
the world doesn't revolve around us,the world doesn't revolve around me,
(06:57):
it doesn't revolve around you, and it'sjust so much bigger than that, and We've
talked before on the pod about kind oflike zooming out your lens when things
feel really heavy and your problemsfeel really big, zooming out your lens
and realizing how small that problemactually is in the grand scheme of things.
And it's not to invalidateyour feelings, right?
(07:18):
But it's to put everything intoperspective of I am 1 of 8 billion
people on this planet having aproblem that I will work through.
And it's not the end of the world.
And in the grand scheme of things, it'snot as big as I'm making it in my head.
You know what I mean?
So that's how I've been livingmy life now for about a year, I
(07:39):
would say maybe longer than that.
And over time, like these little mindsetshifts that I've been making, the little
practices that I've been making havejust arrived me to this place where I
just feel so humbled and I feel likeI just realized how human I truly
am and how not special I truly am.
(08:01):
And again, I know that sounds bad, butI'm going to explain what I mean by that.
So like, if you, if you look at ourworld around us, like let's, let's
paint a picture for ourselves aboutwhat the world is telling us constantly.
The world that we live in today isconstantly screaming at us that we
are not enough as individuals, andit puts so much emphasis on self
(08:21):
on one individual person, right?
So in any advertisement that you'regiven they are posing a problem
that you have that they can solve.
So whether it's makeup, like, Oh,look at those bags under your eyes.
We can solve that for you.
We got this great concealer.
We got this great foundationthat's gonna take that away.
Those are ugly.
There's makeup.
There's diets.
(08:42):
There's health products, health trends.
There's procedures.
Like plastic surgery, y'all.
It's becoming normal.
Like, that used to besomething for Hollywood stars.
Only who could afford that.
And now it's becoming more accessibleand more affordable to your average
Joe, your everyday person, lipinjections, boob jobs, but lifts like
(09:04):
everything is getting more common.
And it's been placedin the marketplace as.
You're not good enough.
Have this procedure so thatyou feel better about yourself.
Right?
And the way that society screams tous, like even not on the consumerism
side of things, it's even likethe stories that society in our
(09:24):
world is telling us at all times.
Like for women, a really big one isif you're single in your twenties, you
better start panicking and you betterget married and have a family before 30
because your time, your time sticking.
You got a clock on you.
You got a biological clock.
Your time's ticking.
You can't miss out on that.
And there's been a societalpressure for women for so long
(09:47):
to be a wife and a mother.
And for a long time, that was theonly option of like what you could be
because of how our society is set up.
The dependency on You know, a manto provide for you, a man to work,
women weren't even like allowed inthe workplace for the longest time.
We didn't have equal rights.
Like, and so that's one narrative.
Then there's the other narrativethat's put on all humanity that
(10:09):
our emotions somehow make us weak.
And that's something that I'vebought into for such a long time.
Men especially have that narrative onthem that they have to be hard, that
they can't feel their emotions, thatthey're weak or a pussy if they cry,
and all these different narratives, allof these different products that are
being introduced into our society, it'spainting this huge picture for all of
(10:33):
us that we're not good enough in someway, and that we're not good enough.
Us being humans as we are the imperfect,flawed human beings that we are, everyone
is telling us that there's something wrongwith that and giving us this message that
we can somehow transcend our humanity.
Like, if we get enough procedures done,we buy enough products, we embrace certain
(10:55):
mentalities or stay so disciplined tothe point that we no longer have these
human emotions and these human problems.
Like, that's what.
Is being sold to us at all times.
And the work that I've done on myselfin the last year is just realizing how
fucking stupid that narrative really is.
It doesn't matter if you buyinto all of these products you
(11:19):
cannot Transcend your humanity.
At the end of the day, youare going to have problems.
You are going to have your human emotions.
You're going to have insecurities.
You're going to have things thatyou don't like about yourself.
And if you're playing the comparisongame, there's always going to be
somebody who's more beautiful ormore successful or has more than you.
(11:40):
So I'm kind of arriving at thisplace where I'm like, what's the
point of these societal games?
Like yeah, you can play these societalgames and I guess get somewhere in terms
of society like if you really reallywant a huge home if you really really
want to be the most beautiful personin the room if you really want to be
the most Quote unquote accomplishedperson by the world standards and have
(12:03):
a massive following and have a bunch ofmoney I guess yeah, go ahead play those
societal games But when you do that,you are sacrificing your authenticity
every freaking step of the way You'resacrificing your humanity and your ability
to accept yourself as you are everystep of the way And the question that's
(12:24):
in my brain is, okay, you play thosesocietal games, then you arrive at a place
where you're looking around and you'veneglected the relationships in your life.
You've neglected love.
You've neglected grace for yourself,self compassion for yourself,
self acceptance for yourself.
And then do you even like yourself?
(12:44):
Do you even, are you even able to look inthe mirror and feel okay with yourself?
I don't know.
I, I don't know the answer to thatquestion, but that's the, the main
question that's been on my mindis, I basically feel like I've, I'm
confronted with two different options.
Either I can play into society the way itis, be hard, shame myself for my emotions,
(13:07):
try to transcend my humanity and fit intothe politics of the business world and
society in general, and all these gamesthat people play in even the dating world.
And for what?
To lose myself, to not be trueto who I am to my core, to think
(13:27):
that I'm so special or important.
And that no one could possiblyunderstand what it's like to be me?
No.
Wrestling fam, really quick, I amscreaming, crying, throwing up, y'all.
I'm popping in to let you know thatmy merch is finally here, baby.
I have spent months testing out differentproducts, working with different
(13:49):
manufacturers to make sure that by thetime y'all get this merch in your hands,
that you are absolutely in love with itand it's finally ready for you, baby.
If you want to be one of the veryfirst people on the wrestling squad
to ever get your hands on a piece ofWrestling With Life merch, go click
the link in the show notes right now.
(14:10):
When I tell y'all that I am obsessedwith how this merch has turned out, that
is the understatement of the century.
The hoodies, bro.
Oh my god.
They are embroidered.
They are oversized and comfy.
I'm literally going to be buying oneof every single color for myself.
And then I have trucker caps availablein two different colors that are both
(14:33):
just like so streetwear chic and I feellike such a bad bitch when I wear them.
You guys need to go get yourhands on this right now.
It's a great way to support thepodcast and a great way to support me.
So if you've ever listened toWrestling With Life and you
thought, Oh my God, I just wish Icould give Em Led the fattest hug.
Well, Well, this is the nextbest thing that you can do to
support me besides give me a hug.
(14:54):
So go get your hands on some merch, baby.
Now let's get back to the episode.
I'm just realizing the shared humanitythat we all have, that we all feel
inadequate, and we always will.
There's always going to be partof us because of our humanity that
makes us feel like we're not enough,because technically, we aren't.
(15:16):
We are not enough.
Like, technically, by the world'sstandards, we are not enough.
So instead, like, the mentality thatI've been embracing, instead of measuring
myself by the world standards, and byself importance, and by ego, and how good
I can look in life, I'm instead, like,measuring myself, okay, how could, how
(15:40):
good can I be at accepting my humanity?
How good can I be at giving myself grace?
Of letting go of shame of embracingmy messy and my authenticity.
We talk about this allthe time on the pod, guys.
When you drop this mask that societytells us to wear, when you stop trying to
(16:04):
fit into a mold of what you think you'resupposed to be, and you instead realize,
hey, I'm a flawed, imperfect human being.
Here are my insecurities.
Here are the ways that I struggle,but none of that makes me less.
There is just this huge weightthat's taken off your shoulders.
I know because I used tohold myself to that standard.
(16:27):
I used to want to be thebest at everything and I'm
still competitive y'all.
I'm not gonna front andpretend I'm not competitive.
I still am.
I still want to be the best at things.
I know I'm good at, right?
It's I think that's human nature,but what's not human is this
ego that we allow to drive us.
And it's this ego is a resultof the society that we live in.
(16:49):
It's seeking self importanceand the human state.
is humility.
Like the true human state is thehumility of realizing I'm not that great.
I'm not that special.
I'm not that different.
I'm human.
Yeah.
I have great unique things about me.
I have great strengths.
It's not to say thatmy life doesn't matter.
(17:11):
It's not to say that there's not somuch purpose and joy and contentment
that I can feel by pursuing my dreamsby pursuing my goals, but it's like
also having the humility of wow.
I'm going to mess up.
Wow.
I'm going to handle situations wrong.
Wow.
I'm not going to have all the answers.
(17:31):
Wow.
I'm actually not differentreally from anyone else.
I'm a broken human navigating thisworld just like everyone else's guys.
When you have that mentality, oh myGod, the pressure comes off and the
peace comes in and you're like, okay,I don't have to achieve anything.
I don't have to be anything that I'm not.
(17:52):
I don't have to.
meet a certain level of success by theworld standards to have peace with myself.
It's not to say that like yourmotivation for success goes away.
Cause I still like, for me, I really stillhave so many goals that I want to achieve.
I still have so many thingsthat, you know, I want to do
ways that I want to push myself.
(18:14):
But what's different is I'm not doing thatbecause I feel the need to prove myself.
I'm not doing that because I feel theneed to live up to expectations on me.
I'm not doing that because I thinkthat's what will give me worth.
No, I want to succeed because I havethis belief within me that I'm capable
of doing it, that I have the gifts todo it, and that if I didn't do it, it
(18:38):
would be a waste of God given talent.
It would be a waste of You know,what I feel that I've been put on
this earth and called to do, but it'snot coming from a place of needing
to prove that to anybody else.
It's wanting to, to live up to thestandards that I have for myself.
Does that make sense?
Like there's just such a huge differencefrom wanting to prove it to the world
(18:59):
and like having a chip on your shoulderand wanting everybody to look at
you and wanting to clap for you andwanting to think that you're the best.
And I realized that like,that is kind of the mentality
that I had when I was younger.
I was never really seeking validationwhen I was naturally the best at things.
Like, It was what it was like when Iexcelled at sports when I excelled in my
(19:23):
personal relationships when I excelled inschool I was never doing that because I
wanted people to clap for me I was doingthat because I knew I was capable of it
and I knew not meeting that standard Ihad for myself Would be selling myself
short And then, like, when I stopped beinggood at things, that's kind of what, when
entered this mentality of trying to getother people's validation, trying to get
(19:46):
other people to clap for me, trying toget success, and that was ego driven.
It was trying to find thatself importance again.
And I'm just, I'm waking up lately thispast year and just realizing like, no,
I don't need anyone to clap for me.
I don't need validation.
I don't need everything that Itouch to turn into gold and to be
(20:07):
successful for me to have worth.
So, like, with this heart posture shift,I guess, that I've been experiencing,
so many things that used to matterto me really don't matter anymore.
And I'm just finding myselfapproaching situations and problems
with just a different perspective.
Different approach and perspective.
(20:28):
Like in the past, it was alwaysso important for me to be right.
Like when I would have an argument withsomebody, I would completely lose sight
of what the argument was about andhaving an open mind and genuinely hearing
their perspective because I would getso caught up in wanting them to agree
with me and to validate my perspectiveand to feel like I won the argument.
(20:50):
You know what I mean?
How many of you listeningcan relate to that?
Okay.
I think that's a very human thing.
I've been reading this bookcalled crucial conversations.
I'll link it in the show notes.
If you want to check it out, it has reallymade me think differently about how I
approach conflict and conflict resolution.
And, uh, It talks about how the bestleaders out there are able to put their
(21:12):
ego aside in every conversation thatthey're willing to admit when they make
mistakes, they're willing to see allpoints of view and take into consideration
the flaw that their own point of viewcould have and be open to criticism and
feedback and disagreement because they'refocused on the actual problem at hand.
(21:34):
That they want to solve.
That's what makes a good leader issomebody who takes themselves out of the
equation and focuses on solving the issue.
And that's given me so muchto think about because I think
so often we want to be right.
We want people to look at us andthink that we have all the answers.
We don't want to lose credibility.
We don't want people to thinkless of us because we're wrong.
(21:58):
But.
In any situation where I've seensomeone take accountability for where
they messed up, that honestly causesme to have more respect for them.
So, it's made me just have thisdifferent perspective of being a
good leader, being a good person.
Being someone that I'm proud of, howhonest, how radically honest with myself
(22:21):
can I be about anything at any giventime about my flaws about when I'm
wrong about when I've missed the markand instead of shaming myself for that,
because shame is the reason why we oftendon't take accountability because we feel
embarrassed right when we we're supportinga perspective that we know has flaw in it.
(22:41):
How good can I be at admittingwhen I'm wrong, when I'm incorrect,
like I go into every conversationnow trying to have an open mind
and realizing that my perspective,my point of view could be wrong.
The other person speaking with mecould have valuable insight to share
that could expand my horizons andmake me think differently about
(23:02):
something that I hadn't before.
Okay.
You know what I mean?
And how beautiful and how differentis the energy that I bring to that
conversation when I don't give ashit about being right anymore?
I don't give a shit aboutproving someone wrong.
And I can wear the learner cap and I cancome in thinking, what can I take away?
And what can I learnfrom this conversation?
(23:23):
How can I use the knowledge that thisother person has to test my current
beliefs to test them against how Icurrently function and see things?
And how could that be a reallybeautiful, different perspective, right?
I don't know.
It's just, it's such a differentlens and way to approach things.
And it's very, very humbling.
(23:45):
I want to go back to what Imentioned before about how
feeling our emotions is so human.
One of the biggest ways that I havestruggled it throughout my entire life is
just this overwhelming sense of thinkingthat I'm too sensitive, that I'm too much.
That my emotions and the way that I feelin process is Is different in abnormal
(24:06):
from the average person, and maybe it is,maybe it isn't, but I have met so many
other people, especially throughout thislast year, who, when I talk with them
about my emotions, they've humbled me somuch and been like, Emily, like, you're
not actually special for feeling that way.
You're not actually different.
Like, everybody experiences thefeelings that you're feeling.
(24:29):
Maybe you feel them on a grander scale.
Like, maybe.
You know, like your sensitivitycauses that to strike a deeper chord
within you than the average person.
Maybe, maybe not though.
And either way, this doesn't makeyou less because you're feeling this
way and it doesn't make you better.
It doesn't make you special.
(24:49):
It makes you human.
Like the feelings that you'reexperiencing are universally human.
And so what's so interestingis like I've spent so much time
in my life hiding my emotionsbecause I think they make me weak.
Fronting, pretending to be strong,presenting myself in almost like a
hard ass way all the time, trying tobe this like impenetrable brick wall
(25:13):
when I meet people, and not exposinglike these vulnerable sides of myself
because I believe Since I see myselfas weak, I believe other people
must see that side of me as weak.
Does that make sense?
And what's been so cool is learning toshed that belief and letting go of that.
And I'm honestly getting tothe point now where I see our
(25:37):
society, I see how it functions.
Our society teacheseveryone to be hard asses.
Our society is teaching everyoneto try to transcend our humanity.
Our society is telling everybodythat their emotions make them less
of a man or less of a human whenwe are all capable of that emotion.
(25:57):
It's just we all have differentlevels of emotional suppression
because of our society.
Like one of the biggest epidemicsI believe in our society
is emotional suppression.
It's this idea that You are somehowless because of the feelings that you
have when where the hell did that?
Where did that come from?
(26:18):
Because it's a universal human thing.
All of us know what it'slike to feel insecure.
All of us know what it's like tofeel angry and upset and hurt and
betrayed and Having these negativefeelings does not make you less.
It makes you human.
So shedding that old way of thinkinghas been so liberating and so freeing
(26:39):
for me and so humbling because I'vespent all this time thinking that
I'm unique or special or differentor that I'm the exception somehow.
And no one could possiblyunderstand what it's like to be me
when that mentality is bullshit.
Like so many people can empathizewith what I talk about on this mic.
(26:59):
You guys don't know how many DMSI have gotten from people saying
like, Emily, what you say on thispodcast makes me feel not alone.
It makes me feel human.
It makes me feel validated and bro,like it's what we're all experiencing.
And like, now that I've just gotten socomfortable with my humanity and with
realizing that like these feelings thatI feel are so normal and that it really
(27:23):
is just so normal, like what all ofus are experiencing on any given day.
It just seems so silly thatwe all try to hide it so much.
It seems so silly that we alltry to front and pretend and it's
actually starting to piss me off.
And I'm like, I feel soangry for us as a society.
I feel so angry for us as humans that weare all convinced that there's something
(27:45):
wrong with us because of how we feel.
Like, at what point?
Who decided this?
Like, who created this stupid societywhere everyone is perfecting and
pretending and interacting on a dailybasis with everyone as a sliver of
the human being that you actually are?
It blows my mind, y'all.
(28:08):
And I'm telling you, one of the mostliberating things that you can do for
yourself is when those big emotionscome on to sit with them, to get curious
about them, to allow them to wash overyour body, to let them pass through you.
We talk about it all the time on the pod.
When you bottle up those emotions, whenyou suppress yourself, you deny yourself.
(28:29):
Your humanity.
You deny yourself the ability, theexperience to truly, fully live.
You're selling yourself short.
You're missing out onwhat it is to be a human.
You're not fooling anybody but yourself.
If there's any message that I couldgive anybody in the world, ever, in my
entire life, it's let yourself be human.
(28:53):
Let yourself be messy.
I'm gonna say that until I'm blue in theface on this podcast, because I promise
you, when you stop trying to transcendyour humanity, When you stop trying
to buy into this bullshit message thatthe world is constantly telling us that
we're not enough, you can drop the mask.
You have so much peace with yourself.
(29:15):
You stop caring about so many thingsthat you used to care about, and
you just realize, Oh my God, I'mI'm a messy, flawed, imperfect
human, and that's beautiful.
And I'm here for an incredibly,incredibly short amount of time.
I might as well make the most of it.
I might as well push myself.
I might as well stop playing small.
I might as well stop trying to fitinto a mold that everyone else is
(29:39):
going to be happy with me for andrealize that everyone else is just
projecting their own reality onme at all times and that nothing's
personal and has nothing to do with me.
I might as well, I might aswell just live the life that
I want to live and be myself.
hell, I might as well do it.
Guys, it's the most liberating, freeinggift that you can give yourself.
(30:00):
Somebody that I dated back in Septemberwill forever stay in my mind as such a
unique individual because the way that heprocessed emotion and perceived emotion
radically changed how I see it as well.
And I need to, to shout him out.
You know who you are if you're listening.
The way that he approachedemotion was so impressive.
(30:23):
He realized that negative emotionswere part of the human experience, and
he challenged himself to sit in it.
He talked often about raw emotionand how he didn't want to miss out
on the opportunity to experience it.
So when he was going through heartbreak,when he was going through rejection,
when he was going through any sortof feelings of inadequacy, rather
(30:46):
than Distract himself and numbhimself and run from that and try
to pretend like it wasn't happening.
He sat with it.
He sat with the emotion.
He tried to process it and make sense ofwhat that was telling him about himself.
And I will forever like, just look backat that time and be really grateful
(31:07):
that God put him in my life becausehe taught me such a valuable lesson.
And it was that using your emotionsand getting curious about your emotions
to have a deeper understanding ofyourself and humanity in the world.
It's a gift.
And it's one that we all look atas such a negative, but it's not.
(31:28):
It's a gift.
I just thought that was such a matureperspective, and it's one that I'm
going to think about and come back toand embrace for the rest of my life.
Wrestling fam, I know I rambled a lot,but The biggest takeaway from this episode
is you cannot transcend your humanity.
You can't escape it.
(31:50):
You can try to perfect yourselfand pretend and try to be something
you're not your whole life, but thatcomes at the cost of your peace.
in your authenticity.
Drop the freaking mask.
If you guys liked this episode of awrestling with life, please drop me a five
star rating on Apple podcasts or Spotify.
(32:11):
You already know it helps the pod to grow.
And when we grow, wecan get more guests on.
We can bring more content to thewrestling fans ears to spread the
message of wrestling with life,which is of course the goal.
Thank you guys so much for your support.
And I hope you have awonderful, wonderful week.
Bye y'all.
Beautiful people.
I have so much tea to spill today.
It is ridiculous.
So I'm going to need you tobuckle the Frick up and get ready
to talk about some deep shit.
Okay.
Welcome back to thewrestling with life podcast.
If you are brand new here,hello, my name is I'm led.
I'm your wrestling with life host.
And if you are an overthinker, Andyou get in your head a lot, but you
(00:36):
have some big dreams and goals, thenyou're going to want to stick around
because that is the exact type ofperson that this podcast is created for.
I'm also one of those people.
And during wrestling with life, we getout of our heads together and we learn how
to give ourselves grace, how to correctnegative self talk and how to wake up and
grab life by the balls every single day.
(00:59):
So make sure to hit that followbutton and to keep tuning back in for
episodes every single Tuesday, baby.
Boy, oh boy, have I got a crazywild topic to talk about today.
I don't want to sound like I'm tryingto be some spiritual guru when I say
this, but I've kind of been goingthrough what I would consider a spiritual
(01:20):
awakening and just kind of waking up to.
The reality of the world around us andof myself and just outgrowing so many old
patterns of thinking and heart posturesthat I want to share with you today
because I am arriving at a place in mylife where I genuinely feel the most joy
(01:42):
and peace and self acceptance that I thinkI've ever felt, at least in my adult life.
And I feel kind of like a littlekid again in a lot of ways, but
with the maturity and the wisdomof an adult and I'm 26 relax.
I'm not trying to say I'vemastered life or anything.
And no, you guys know that, you know,we're all doing our best out here.
(02:05):
Nobody has it figured out.
I will stand by that till the day I die.
But all of the things that we kind of talkabout on this podcast, like How to set
boundaries, how to stop people pleasing,how to stop chameleoning, how to stop,
like, living your life for other people.
Basically, I have just really beenembodying that in my life in a really
(02:26):
radical way for a while now, and it'sbeen really small, slow changes over time,
but because I have practiced the thingsthat we talk about and really, like,
held myself back, To that standard ofauthenticity and integrity and humility.
I find myself in the positionthat I've always wanted to be in.
(02:47):
And so what I'm saying is likedoing the stuff that we talk about
on this podcast actually works.
And I am experiencing that.
So today I just want to share with you.
what that feels like, what thatlooks like, and how you can kind
of try on some of these mentalitiesand practices to hopefully feel that
same kind of peace for yourself.
(03:07):
So I had this really cool experience theother day when I went to the park to read.
I brought my little blanket with me.
I brought a good book I was reading.
The sunshine was out.
It was like 85 degrees and sunny.
So happy the weather's finally changing.
And as I laid down on my littleblanket and I started reading and I
was basking in the sun, I was just likeso content and I felt so much peace.
(03:33):
I was looking around me and justobserving everyone going about their
lives and interacting with other people,you know, throwing the ball for dogs.
Babies being pushed in strollers.
There was chatter and laughter.
And as I'm sitting there in thepark, I'm just like, Oh my God,
like this is what life is all about.
Life is all about existing and enjoyingGod's creation and being in the
(03:59):
sun and being connected to nature.
Like my feet were in the grass.
And I just felt like so much contentmentand then out of nowhere, this
beautiful butterfly comes and likelands on the book that I'm reading.
Like, no joke.
This beautiful orange,yellow, and black butterfly.
And I'm like, Oh my God,like, what are the odds?
(04:20):
So I'm like, not moving.
Cause I don't want toscare this butterfly away.
Right.
I'm just like a statuestill just like enjoying it.
And I'm like, how cool, like thisbutterfly came to hang out with me.
I shit you not when I tell you thatthis butterfly for the next hour
and a half kept flying away for abrief second and then coming back to
me, landing on my shoes, my bag, myblanket, my book, almost on me at one
(04:42):
point, it would not leave me alone.
It was literally obsessed with me.
And so.
Of course, you know how I am.
I'm deep.
I'm like, what does this mean?
Like, why is this butterflynot leaving me alone?
Like, what is going on?
So I start scouring the internet tofigure out what kind of butterfly this is.
Like, what kind of symbolismcould this butterfly have?
(05:03):
I know that butterflies ingeneral symbolize, you know,
growth, transformation, um,kind of like being born again.
Like you think about the process ofa butterfly's life, like starting
out as a caterpillar, going intoa little chrysalis and becoming a
butterfly transformation, right?
So I knew that much and I had beensuspecting for a while that I was
(05:23):
kind of like turning the corner.
On some of the self growth because Iwas just noticing such a difference
in myself and my mentalities andjust the peace that I've had lately.
I had a suspicion, I guess already, butthen I like was scouring the internet for
this picture of the butterfly to figureout what kind of butterfly this is.
And it took me forever to figure outthat It was a red admiral monarch.
(05:46):
Butterfly.
And this butterfly specifically isa symbol of spiritual awakening.
And I literally almost shit mypants like sitting here at the park
because I'm like, okay, God, like,you're trying to tell me something.
You're trying to tell me thatsomething's happening in my heart.
And that's how I interpreted it becausethat's something that I had been expecting
already, or kind of, I don't know,like suspecting of myself, I guess.
(06:09):
And that felt like confirmation from God.
I, in general, I've just been feelingso much more connected to nature,
to myself, to God, to other people.
And I'm really coming out of a very, like,self obsessed and self focused period
of my life, and I'm really embracinghumility and, like, realizing that I'm
(06:34):
not as special and great as I think I am.
I know that sounds bad, but justreally being woken up to the fact
that life is not all about me.
Life is not all about my individualsuccess, Life is all about, I guess,
getting comfortable with yourself andyour humanity, and just realizing that
the world doesn't revolve around us,the world doesn't revolve around me,
(06:57):
it doesn't revolve around you, and it'sjust so much bigger than that, and We've
talked before on the pod about kind oflike zooming out your lens when things
feel really heavy and your problemsfeel really big, zooming out your lens
and realizing how small that problemactually is in the grand scheme of things.
And it's not to invalidateyour feelings, right?
(07:18):
But it's to put everything intoperspective of I am 1 of 8 billion
people on this planet having aproblem that I will work through.
And it's not the end of the world.
And in the grand scheme of things, it'snot as big as I'm making it in my head.
You know what I mean?
So that's how I've been livingmy life now for about a year, I
(07:39):
would say maybe longer than that.
And over time, like these little mindsetshifts that I've been making, the little
practices that I've been making havejust arrived me to this place where I
just feel so humbled and I feel likeI just realized how human I truly
am and how not special I truly am.
(08:01):
And again, I know that sounds bad, butI'm going to explain what I mean by that.
So like, if you, if you look at ourworld around us, like let's, let's
paint a picture for ourselves aboutwhat the world is telling us constantly.
The world that we live in today isconstantly screaming at us that we
are not enough as individuals, andit puts so much emphasis on self
(08:21):
on one individual person, right?
So in any advertisement that you'regiven they are posing a problem
that you have that they can solve.
So whether it's makeup, like, Oh,look at those bags under your eyes.
We can solve that for you.
We got this great concealer.
We got this great foundationthat's gonna take that away.
Those are ugly.
There's makeup.
There's diets.
(08:42):
There's health products, health trends.
There's procedures.
Like plastic surgery, y'all.
It's becoming normal.
Like, that used to besomething for Hollywood stars.
Only who could afford that.
And now it's becoming more accessibleand more affordable to your average
Joe, your everyday person, lipinjections, boob jobs, but lifts like
(09:04):
everything is getting more common.
And it's been placedin the marketplace as.
You're not good enough.
Have this procedure so thatyou feel better about yourself.
Right?
And the way that society screams tous, like even not on the consumerism
side of things, it's even likethe stories that society in our
(09:24):
world is telling us at all times.
Like for women, a really big one isif you're single in your twenties, you
better start panicking and you betterget married and have a family before 30
because your time, your time sticking.
You got a clock on you.
You got a biological clock.
Your time's ticking.
You can't miss out on that.
And there's been a societalpressure for women for so long
(09:47):
to be a wife and a mother.
And for a long time, that was theonly option of like what you could be
because of how our society is set up.
The dependency on You know, a manto provide for you, a man to work,
women weren't even like allowed inthe workplace for the longest time.
We didn't have equal rights.
Like, and so that's one narrative.
Then there's the other narrativethat's put on all humanity that
(10:09):
our emotions somehow make us weak.
And that's something that I'vebought into for such a long time.
Men especially have that narrative onthem that they have to be hard, that
they can't feel their emotions, thatthey're weak or a pussy if they cry,
and all these different narratives, allof these different products that are
being introduced into our society, it'spainting this huge picture for all of
(10:33):
us that we're not good enough in someway, and that we're not good enough.
Us being humans as we are the imperfect,flawed human beings that we are, everyone
is telling us that there's something wrongwith that and giving us this message that
we can somehow transcend our humanity.
Like, if we get enough procedures done,we buy enough products, we embrace certain
(10:55):
mentalities or stay so disciplined tothe point that we no longer have these
human emotions and these human problems.
Like, that's what.
Is being sold to us at all times.
And the work that I've done on myselfin the last year is just realizing how
fucking stupid that narrative really is.
It doesn't matter if you buyinto all of these products you
(11:19):
cannot Transcend your humanity.
At the end of the day, youare going to have problems.
You are going to have your human emotions.
You're going to have insecurities.
You're going to have things thatyou don't like about yourself.
And if you're playing the comparisongame, there's always going to be
somebody who's more beautiful ormore successful or has more than you.
(11:40):
So I'm kind of arriving at thisplace where I'm like, what's the
point of these societal games?
Like yeah, you can play these societalgames and I guess get somewhere in terms
of society like if you really reallywant a huge home if you really really
want to be the most beautiful personin the room if you really want to be
the most Quote unquote accomplishedperson by the world standards and have
(12:03):
a massive following and have a bunch ofmoney I guess yeah, go ahead play those
societal games But when you do that,you are sacrificing your authenticity
every freaking step of the way You'resacrificing your humanity and your ability
to accept yourself as you are everystep of the way And the question that's
(12:24):
in my brain is, okay, you play thosesocietal games, then you arrive at a place
where you're looking around and you'veneglected the relationships in your life.
You've neglected love.
You've neglected grace for yourself,self compassion for yourself,
self acceptance for yourself.
And then do you even like yourself?
(12:44):
Do you even, are you even able to look inthe mirror and feel okay with yourself?
I don't know.
I, I don't know the answer to thatquestion, but that's the, the main
question that's been on my mindis, I basically feel like I've, I'm
confronted with two different options.
Either I can play into society the way itis, be hard, shame myself for my emotions,
(13:07):
try to transcend my humanity and fit intothe politics of the business world and
society in general, and all these gamesthat people play in even the dating world.
And for what?
To lose myself, to not be trueto who I am to my core, to think
(13:27):
that I'm so special or important.
And that no one could possiblyunderstand what it's like to be me?
No.
Wrestling fam, really quick, I amscreaming, crying, throwing up, y'all.
I'm popping in to let you know thatmy merch is finally here, baby.
I have spent months testing out differentproducts, working with different
(13:49):
manufacturers to make sure that by thetime y'all get this merch in your hands,
that you are absolutely in love with itand it's finally ready for you, baby.
If you want to be one of the veryfirst people on the wrestling squad
to ever get your hands on a piece ofWrestling With Life merch, go click
the link in the show notes right now.
(14:10):
When I tell y'all that I am obsessedwith how this merch has turned out, that
is the understatement of the century.
The hoodies, bro.
Oh my god.
They are embroidered.
They are oversized and comfy.
I'm literally going to be buying oneof every single color for myself.
And then I have trucker caps availablein two different colors that are both
(14:33):
just like so streetwear chic and I feellike such a bad bitch when I wear them.
You guys need to go get yourhands on this right now.
It's a great way to support thepodcast and a great way to support me.
So if you've ever listened toWrestling With Life and you
thought, Oh my God, I just wish Icould give Em Led the fattest hug.
Well, Well, this is the nextbest thing that you can do to
support me besides give me a hug.
(14:54):
So go get your hands on some merch, baby.
Now let's get back to the episode.
I'm just realizing the shared humanitythat we all have, that we all feel
inadequate, and we always will.
There's always going to be partof us because of our humanity that
makes us feel like we're not enough,because technically, we aren't.
(15:16):
We are not enough.
Like, technically, by the world'sstandards, we are not enough.
So instead, like, the mentality thatI've been embracing, instead of measuring
myself by the world standards, and byself importance, and by ego, and how good
I can look in life, I'm instead, like,measuring myself, okay, how could, how
(15:40):
good can I be at accepting my humanity?
How good can I be at giving myself grace?
Of letting go of shame of embracingmy messy and my authenticity.
We talk about this allthe time on the pod, guys.
When you drop this mask that societytells us to wear, when you stop trying to
(16:04):
fit into a mold of what you think you'resupposed to be, and you instead realize,
hey, I'm a flawed, imperfect human being.
Here are my insecurities.
Here are the ways that I struggle,but none of that makes me less.
There is just this huge weightthat's taken off your shoulders.
I know because I used tohold myself to that standard.
(16:27):
I used to want to be thebest at everything and I'm
still competitive y'all.
I'm not gonna front andpretend I'm not competitive.
I still am.
I still want to be the best at things.
I know I'm good at, right?
It's I think that's human nature,but what's not human is this
ego that we allow to drive us.
And it's this ego is a resultof the society that we live in.
(16:49):
It's seeking self importanceand the human state.
is humility.
Like the true human state is thehumility of realizing I'm not that great.
I'm not that special.
I'm not that different.
I'm human.
Yeah.
I have great unique things about me.
I have great strengths.
It's not to say thatmy life doesn't matter.
(17:11):
It's not to say that there's not somuch purpose and joy and contentment
that I can feel by pursuing my dreamsby pursuing my goals, but it's like
also having the humility of wow.
I'm going to mess up.
Wow.
I'm going to handle situations wrong.
Wow.
I'm not going to have all the answers.
(17:31):
Wow.
I'm actually not differentreally from anyone else.
I'm a broken human navigating thisworld just like everyone else's guys.
When you have that mentality, oh myGod, the pressure comes off and the
peace comes in and you're like, okay,I don't have to achieve anything.
I don't have to be anything that I'm not.
(17:52):
I don't have to.
meet a certain level of success by theworld standards to have peace with myself.
It's not to say that like yourmotivation for success goes away.
Cause I still like, for me, I really stillhave so many goals that I want to achieve.
I still have so many thingsthat, you know, I want to do
ways that I want to push myself.
(18:14):
But what's different is I'm not doing thatbecause I feel the need to prove myself.
I'm not doing that because I feel theneed to live up to expectations on me.
I'm not doing that because I thinkthat's what will give me worth.
No, I want to succeed because I havethis belief within me that I'm capable
of doing it, that I have the gifts todo it, and that if I didn't do it, it
(18:38):
would be a waste of God given talent.
It would be a waste of You know,what I feel that I've been put on
this earth and called to do, but it'snot coming from a place of needing
to prove that to anybody else.
It's wanting to, to live up to thestandards that I have for myself.
Does that make sense?
Like there's just such a huge differencefrom wanting to prove it to the world
(18:59):
and like having a chip on your shoulderand wanting everybody to look at
you and wanting to clap for you andwanting to think that you're the best.
And I realized that like,that is kind of the mentality
that I had when I was younger.
I was never really seeking validationwhen I was naturally the best at things.
Like, It was what it was like when Iexcelled at sports when I excelled in my
(19:23):
personal relationships when I excelled inschool I was never doing that because I
wanted people to clap for me I was doingthat because I knew I was capable of it
and I knew not meeting that standard Ihad for myself Would be selling myself
short And then, like, when I stopped beinggood at things, that's kind of what, when
entered this mentality of trying to getother people's validation, trying to get
(19:46):
other people to clap for me, trying toget success, and that was ego driven.
It was trying to find thatself importance again.
And I'm just, I'm waking up lately thispast year and just realizing like, no,
I don't need anyone to clap for me.
I don't need validation.
I don't need everything that Itouch to turn into gold and to be
(20:07):
successful for me to have worth.
So, like, with this heart posture shift,I guess, that I've been experiencing,
so many things that used to matterto me really don't matter anymore.
And I'm just finding myselfapproaching situations and problems
with just a different perspective.
Different approach and perspective.
(20:28):
Like in the past, it was alwaysso important for me to be right.
Like when I would have an argument withsomebody, I would completely lose sight
of what the argument was about andhaving an open mind and genuinely hearing
their perspective because I would getso caught up in wanting them to agree
with me and to validate my perspectiveand to feel like I won the argument.
(20:50):
You know what I mean?
How many of you listeningcan relate to that?
Okay.
I think that's a very human thing.
I've been reading this bookcalled crucial conversations.
I'll link it in the show notes.
If you want to check it out, it has reallymade me think differently about how I
approach conflict and conflict resolution.
And, uh, It talks about how the bestleaders out there are able to put their
(21:12):
ego aside in every conversation thatthey're willing to admit when they make
mistakes, they're willing to see allpoints of view and take into consideration
the flaw that their own point of viewcould have and be open to criticism and
feedback and disagreement because they'refocused on the actual problem at hand.
(21:34):
That they want to solve.
That's what makes a good leader issomebody who takes themselves out of the
equation and focuses on solving the issue.
And that's given me so muchto think about because I think
so often we want to be right.
We want people to look at us andthink that we have all the answers.
We don't want to lose credibility.
We don't want people to thinkless of us because we're wrong.
(21:58):
But.
In any situation where I've seensomeone take accountability for where
they messed up, that honestly causesme to have more respect for them.
So, it's made me just have thisdifferent perspective of being a
good leader, being a good person.
Being someone that I'm proud of, howhonest, how radically honest with myself
(22:21):
can I be about anything at any giventime about my flaws about when I'm
wrong about when I've missed the markand instead of shaming myself for that,
because shame is the reason why we oftendon't take accountability because we feel
embarrassed right when we we're supportinga perspective that we know has flaw in it.
(22:41):
How good can I be at admittingwhen I'm wrong, when I'm incorrect,
like I go into every conversationnow trying to have an open mind
and realizing that my perspective,my point of view could be wrong.
The other person speaking with mecould have valuable insight to share
that could expand my horizons andmake me think differently about
(23:02):
something that I hadn't before.
Okay.
You know what I mean?
And how beautiful and how differentis the energy that I bring to that
conversation when I don't give ashit about being right anymore?
I don't give a shit aboutproving someone wrong.
And I can wear the learner cap and I cancome in thinking, what can I take away?
And what can I learnfrom this conversation?
(23:23):
How can I use the knowledge that thisother person has to test my current
beliefs to test them against how Icurrently function and see things?
And how could that be a reallybeautiful, different perspective, right?
I don't know.
It's just, it's such a differentlens and way to approach things.
And it's very, very humbling.
(23:45):
I want to go back to what Imentioned before about how
feeling our emotions is so human.
One of the biggest ways that I havestruggled it throughout my entire life is
just this overwhelming sense of thinkingthat I'm too sensitive, that I'm too much.
That my emotions and the way that I feelin process is Is different in abnormal
(24:06):
from the average person, and maybe it is,maybe it isn't, but I have met so many
other people, especially throughout thislast year, who, when I talk with them
about my emotions, they've humbled me somuch and been like, Emily, like, you're
not actually special for feeling that way.
You're not actually different.
Like, everybody experiences thefeelings that you're feeling.
(24:29):
Maybe you feel them on a grander scale.
Like, maybe.
You know, like your sensitivitycauses that to strike a deeper chord
within you than the average person.
Maybe, maybe not though.
And either way, this doesn't makeyou less because you're feeling this
way and it doesn't make you better.
It doesn't make you special.
(24:49):
It makes you human.
Like the feelings that you'reexperiencing are universally human.
And so what's so interestingis like I've spent so much time
in my life hiding my emotionsbecause I think they make me weak.
Fronting, pretending to be strong,presenting myself in almost like a
hard ass way all the time, trying tobe this like impenetrable brick wall
(25:13):
when I meet people, and not exposinglike these vulnerable sides of myself
because I believe Since I see myselfas weak, I believe other people
must see that side of me as weak.
Does that make sense?
And what's been so cool is learning toshed that belief and letting go of that.
And I'm honestly getting tothe point now where I see our
(25:37):
society, I see how it functions.
Our society teacheseveryone to be hard asses.
Our society is teaching everyoneto try to transcend our humanity.
Our society is telling everybodythat their emotions make them less
of a man or less of a human whenwe are all capable of that emotion.
(25:57):
It's just we all have differentlevels of emotional suppression
because of our society.
Like one of the biggest epidemicsI believe in our society
is emotional suppression.
It's this idea that You are somehowless because of the feelings that you
have when where the hell did that?
Where did that come from?
(26:18):
Because it's a universal human thing.
All of us know what it'slike to feel insecure.
All of us know what it's like tofeel angry and upset and hurt and
betrayed and Having these negativefeelings does not make you less.
It makes you human.
So shedding that old way of thinkinghas been so liberating and so freeing
(26:39):
for me and so humbling because I'vespent all this time thinking that
I'm unique or special or differentor that I'm the exception somehow.
And no one could possiblyunderstand what it's like to be me
when that mentality is bullshit.
Like so many people can empathizewith what I talk about on this mic.
(26:59):
You guys don't know how many DMSI have gotten from people saying
like, Emily, what you say on thispodcast makes me feel not alone.
It makes me feel human.
It makes me feel validated and bro,like it's what we're all experiencing.
And like, now that I've just gotten socomfortable with my humanity and with
realizing that like these feelings thatI feel are so normal and that it really
(27:23):
is just so normal, like what all ofus are experiencing on any given day.
It just seems so silly thatwe all try to hide it so much.
It seems so silly that we alltry to front and pretend and it's
actually starting to piss me off.
And I'm like, I feel soangry for us as a society.
I feel so angry for us as humans that weare all convinced that there's something
(27:45):
wrong with us because of how we feel.
Like, at what point?
Who decided this?
Like, who created this stupid societywhere everyone is perfecting and
pretending and interacting on a dailybasis with everyone as a sliver of
the human being that you actually are?
It blows my mind, y'all.
(28:08):
And I'm telling you, one of the mostliberating things that you can do for
yourself is when those big emotionscome on to sit with them, to get curious
about them, to allow them to wash overyour body, to let them pass through you.
We talk about it all the time on the pod.
When you bottle up those emotions, whenyou suppress yourself, you deny yourself.
(28:29):
Your humanity.
You deny yourself the ability, theexperience to truly, fully live.
You're selling yourself short.
You're missing out onwhat it is to be a human.
You're not fooling anybody but yourself.
If there's any message that I couldgive anybody in the world, ever, in my
entire life, it's let yourself be human.
(28:53):
Let yourself be messy.
I'm gonna say that until I'm blue in theface on this podcast, because I promise
you, when you stop trying to transcendyour humanity, When you stop trying
to buy into this bullshit message thatthe world is constantly telling us that
we're not enough, you can drop the mask.
You have so much peace with yourself.
(29:15):
You stop caring about so many thingsthat you used to care about, and
you just realize, Oh my God, I'mI'm a messy, flawed, imperfect
human, and that's beautiful.
And I'm here for an incredibly,incredibly short amount of time.
I might as well make the most of it.
I might as well push myself.
I might as well stop playing small.
I might as well stop trying to fitinto a mold that everyone else is
(29:39):
going to be happy with me for andrealize that everyone else is just
projecting their own reality onme at all times and that nothing's
personal and has nothing to do with me.
I might as well, I might aswell just live the life that
I want to live and be myself.
hell, I might as well do it.
Guys, it's the most liberating, freeinggift that you can give yourself.
(30:00):
Somebody that I dated back in Septemberwill forever stay in my mind as such a
unique individual because the way that heprocessed emotion and perceived emotion
radically changed how I see it as well.
And I need to, to shout him out.
You know who you are if you're listening.
The way that he approachedemotion was so impressive.
(30:23):
He realized that negative emotionswere part of the human experience, and
he challenged himself to sit in it.
He talked often about raw emotionand how he didn't want to miss out
on the opportunity to experience it.
So when he was going through heartbreak,when he was going through rejection,
when he was going through any sortof feelings of inadequacy, rather
(30:46):
than Distract himself and numbhimself and run from that and try
to pretend like it wasn't happening.
He sat with it.
He sat with the emotion.
He tried to process it and make sense ofwhat that was telling him about himself.
And I will forever like, just look backat that time and be really grateful
(31:07):
that God put him in my life becausehe taught me such a valuable lesson.
And it was that using your emotionsand getting curious about your emotions
to have a deeper understanding ofyourself and humanity in the world.
It's a gift.
And it's one that we all look atas such a negative, but it's not.
(31:28):
It's a gift.
I just thought that was such a matureperspective, and it's one that I'm
going to think about and come back toand embrace for the rest of my life.
Wrestling fam, I know I rambled a lot,but The biggest takeaway from this episode
is you cannot transcend your humanity.
You can't escape it.
(31:50):
You can try to perfect yourselfand pretend and try to be something
you're not your whole life, but thatcomes at the cost of your peace.
in your authenticity.
Drop the freaking mask.
If you guys liked this episode of awrestling with life, please drop me a five
star rating on Apple podcasts or Spotify.
(32:11):
You already know it helps the pod to grow.
And when we grow, wecan get more guests on.
We can bring more content to thewrestling fans ears to spread the
message of wrestling with life,which is of course the goal.
Thank you guys so much for your support.
And I hope you have awonderful, wonderful week.
Bye y'all.
Popular Podcasts
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations.
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
The Nikki Glaser Podcast
Every week comedian and infamous roaster Nikki Glaser provides a fun, fast-paced, and brutally honest look into current pop-culture and her own personal life.