Don't Be The Titanic - Relationship Challenges Are Like Icebergs

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship. In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship. Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink.

00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship”

02:17 Reflections and Realizations

03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship

05:47 The Power of Support Groups

07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing

10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples

20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems

26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships

31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics

33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics

34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding

36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions

39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories

44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward

53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers

01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. 

 

MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. 

 

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

 

COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.

 

COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 

 

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