The Longer Road
For people with multiple marginalized identities who may feel behind because they’ve had to work harder to overcome structural barriers. We‘re providing hope, support, and knowing that you‘re not alone.
Episodes
July 21, 2023 • 16 mins
I'm a naturally growth-oriented person... however, I often find myself changing or "fixing" things that others think are a problem. What happens when I reorient to what's actually important to me? The self-help industry will happily sell us solutions, whether or not the problem was actually bothering us before we heard about it. Many of us feel like we're struggling alone. But not only are most people sile...
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July 14, 2023 • 46 mins
Pasha Marlowe speaks brilliantly about how to navigate trauma in relationships as an AuDHD person.
Making it concrete, we both talk about a recent meltdown with our respective partners, and how we navigated those during and after.
This is a deeply un-shaming episode—we still struggle with relational trauma despite all the "work" we've done. It's okay to have a lot of needs in relationships. And we talk about how hard it can be ...
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July 7, 2023 • 53 mins
Nat Smith is a vulnerability coach, playwright, and connection witch. They're also my sibling, so you'll hear stories about our childhood.
Nat has known they're ADHD for years, and only recently has been exploring the label autistic. One reason it's been a slow realization: they don't experience it as a disorder and don't need a lot of external support day-to-day.
Because of that experience, we also touch on the "levels" of autism ...
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June 29, 2023 • 37 mins
The idea of "potential" has been weaponized against neurodivergent and disabled kids.
Today I dig into why I hate the concept of potential as it's currently used, what I propose we talk about instead, and many personal details of my own journey toward feeling like I'm enough.
Feeling a deep sense of enough-ness has totally changed my life. And while we all reach that in different ways, neurodivergent community has absolutely been a...
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June 23, 2023 • 27 mins
Cross-posted from the AuDHD Flourishing podcast.
What are you proud of?
It doesn't negate any of our challenges, but it was fun to focus on what I love about my brain for a whole episode.
If you'd like to learn more about Love Your Brain, here 'tis!
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June 16, 2023 • 43 mins
Cross-posted from the new AuDHD Flourishing podcast!
AuDHD women are often misdiagnosed, but Kristen's list is ridiculous and includes the word "histrionic" (which I didn't know you could even get in this century)! Her goal was always to build an awesome life instead of just being a compliant patient.
And thank goodness, because now she's out here teaching people how to give fewer fucks, raising a family, and making awesome con...
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June 9, 2023 • 61 mins
Thomas Henley makes amazing autistic content that educates, normalizes, and actively pushes back against stereotypes and stigma. This includes his podcast, Thoughty Auti - The Autism Podcast, on which I was recently a guest talking about AuDHD.
Thomas has made multiple decisions in his life to combat stereotypes, including months of backpacking, and becoming a world-class martial artist, both of which he talks about today.
We als...
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June 2, 2023 • 52 mins
Finally, an autistic therapist on the podcast! Danielle Aubin, LCSW, works with neurodivergent clients and has expertise in trauma.
We talk about why trauma is such a big deal for ND clients. And the title of the episode comes from Danielle's amazing take on why having safe therapy is especially important for ND people, and what that looks like.
If you're neurodivergent and in or thinking about therapy, this episode is for you!
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May 26, 2023 • 17 mins
Bodies often hold subtle tension because our system is checking for cues of safety 3-4 times per second.
"Orienting to safety" is a tiny, easy practice you can modify to your circumstances in order to tell the brain that it's relatively safe right now.
Doing this regularly over time has a cumulative effect. This episode brought to you by two people in two days telling me how helpful this practice has been to them!
(In short, you l...
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May 19, 2023 • 9 mins
Unfortunately, we can't simply put in the "correct" input and get what we want out of our body. Bodies are complex systems.
And if you're disabled, your body may feel more like a slot machine!
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May 12, 2023 • 51 mins
dom chatterjee shares about the paradox between having intersectional identities about which he could talk about for an hour... and also wanting to just show up as themself in new interactions.
This episode is so incredibly relatable for anyone who has both visible and invisible identities that are important to them.
dom founded and runs the org Rest For Resistance, focused on QTPoC mental health.
Connect at:
IG @qtpocmentalheal...
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May 4, 2023 • 21 mins
10 things I've been doing to handle the big feelings moving through me these days. And a bonus 11th one that maybe isn't the most adaptive... but I'm trying to be okay, not perfect ;)
If you need immediate support, you can text HOME to 741741 to talk to a crisis counselor. Or visit the Crisis Text Line website.
And if you'd like to give feedback about content you like in general, and/or this podcast, you can do that here anony...
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April 28, 2023 • 47 mins
Caitlin returns to talk about being an AuDHD (autistic + ADHD, like Mattia) working writer.
They hadn't read their own published book from a few years ago because they were worried about the few points on which they'd changed their mind. Turns out the book is good. That story blows my mind!
I'm so happy that more AuDHD folks are out there talking about their process and doing awesome stuff!
Connect with Caitlin on
Instagram @cait...
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April 21, 2023 • 29 mins
Today we talk about what pleasure and enjoyment look like in a body that's accustomed to discomfort. Deb is an expert in pain and stress relief, and I love how candidly they talk about their own experiences with their own body and aging.
It is rebellious to enjoy pleasure without seeking to "fix" yourself according to society's standards first.
This is part 2 of a 2-part episode.
Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializ...
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April 14, 2023 • 38 mins
Today we talk about what pleasure and enjoyment look like in a body that's accustomed to discomfort. Deb is an expert in pain and stress relief, and I love how candidly they talk about their own experiences with their own body and aging.
It is rebellious to enjoy pleasure without seeking to "fix" yourself according to society's standards first.
This is part 1 of a 2-part episode.
Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializ...
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April 7, 2023 • 50 mins
The day-to-day of living with complex-PTSD can be challenging, especially on our close relationships. Stefanie speaks beautifully about how she navigates her life while recovering from religious trauma. Her helpful details around how she uses her body awareness and communication to improve her relationship helped Mattia, too!
Connect with Stefanie:
Website: https://strengthdiscovered.com/
Instagram @strengthdiscovered
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March 31, 2023 • 54 mins
It's easy to grow up with basically 0% scientifically correct information about what fatness means. And we're trained to look at fat bodies and make a bunch of assumptions.
Sophia Apostol, host of the Fat Joy podcast, is here to share about the TRUTH of both lived experience and some science. And for more science, please go listen to these episodes of the Fat Joy podcast that we mentioned:
Weight Loss Companies are 100% Lying to ...
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March 24, 2023 • 15 mins
You may have internalized the message as a child that there was something wrong or bad about you.
Today's message is simple: You were not a bad child. You deserved love and support in a way that made sense to you.
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March 17, 2023 • 38 mins
Capitalism has convinced us we have a lot of problems that we need to pay to fix. Surface-level problems usually have a product you can buy to "fix" them. Deep problems, such as feeling unworthy, don't have an easy fix.
If you are seeking to change or heal something, some general approaches I've seen work really well are:
Having it reflected back to you that this is totally normal and understandable
Unconditional positive regard
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March 10, 2023 • 28 mins
Why and how you may want to take a mental health day. Some specifics around truly restful rest in a variety of situations from employment to taking care of kids.
Book mentioned:
Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey
Three more days to enroll in Three Keys to Lazy Magic
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